TTC after recent MC

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Here we go everyone - a place for the recent MCers to chat and share all our NOT waiting stories!

I apologise If what I said upset you scared, it certainly wasn't ment that way, you just sounded so down with it I was trying to get you to see that nothing has happened yet!
I'm not saying jump up and down and shout it out, we havnt told anyone but my mum this time and certainly not let ourselves talk about the future but in that sence I'm trying not to think about it at all iyswim, I spent the whole of my last mc worrying in and out of the epu and honistly found that the other that just happened when I wasn't expecting it easier to deal with as although shocked and devastated I hadnt been stressed and miserable for weeks before like this last time which was an early loss but had me much more vulnerable and upset. ( in the end I actually wanted it over as I couldn't deal with not knowing what was happening anymore ) I guess I had told myself that this time there is nothing I can do to change the outcome worrying or not so to just see what happens and cross the bridge if and when I need to, it is a personal journey though and you have to do what's right for you x

Hi everyone - hope you are all doing ok. Just been catching up on everything that I've missed. Well I think I am 3/4dpo, although the smiley could have been linked to previous pg? Not sure. Anyway, we've dtd quite a few times so hoping I've caught it. Still using ov sticks just incase I get another smiley. I quite enjoy doing it every morning!

Been to see a nutritionist this week - lots of tips about how I can improve my diet and different things that I can do to help me get pg and then hopefully have a healthy pg. Had another session of acupuncture today - I always come out of them feeling really positive. I just hope it's all helping. I even think if it takes me a while to get pg again, at least I know I'm getting myself and my body really healthy.

posyplum I think that the homeopath, acupuncturist (and now nutritionist as well) think I should give my body time to recover etc and to get myself in as good a position as possible before we ttc again. However, my GP doesn't think I need to wait. I'm not going to wait and the homeopath, acupuncturist and nutritionist know that and respect my decision. I was the same - my mc started the day after the early scan.

bettyflutterbly I know what you mean - I am desperate for a BFP but I think I am going to be so frightened at the same time. I am really sorry to hear about your grandad - I hope that you are getting lots of RL support.

peanut I'm sorry but I can't help you with your cm question either. I hope that it's implantation bleeding! I know what you mean about waiting to ttc - I felt ready a long time before DH did and now I'm desperate for it to happen. Spending time with babies/young children or even friends who are parents makes me acutely aware of how much I want it.

Hi suzy how was your holiday? I hope that you had a good time.

messtins hope you and your DH have a lovely night out.

Babyjames how are you doing?

I really hope that those of you who are testing on Sunday all get BFPs!

almond I think with acupuncture and pg, they just have to make sure that they don't put the needles in certain places but otherwise it's absolutely fine. I hope that it isn't af. Congratulations on the house.

kittykat how are you getting on? I'm glad that you're being so positive.

Thanks woody, I'm good here if not mentally ticking off each day that passes, no more spotting and a scan on tuesday, when you say you had a mc after the early scan last time had you had bleeding first? I presume it was internal? You dont think having one can disrupt a pregnancy do you? Just seems strange 2 of you saying you had a mc a day after scan?
I think you are doing the right thing and I think you body will let it happen when it's ready how's the diet coke going, I miss it soo bad some days, nothing else quite hits the spot especially without alcohol too

So I've just started bleeding!:-( is it ever gonna be my turn

Yes, I'd had a tiny bit of spotting twice (both times after sex) and a bit of brown discharge. I only started bleeding after the scan and it was obvious that it was a miscarriage, the scan didn't cause the bleeding and there is no evidence that they do cause any problems.

I think that's all you can do - just take each day as it comes and try and enjoy being pg.

When will you be 12weeks?

I'm not actually missing diet coke at all! I think maybe I'd got into more of a habit of having it. Nutritionist said I should have 2 glasses of wine a week while I'm ttc so think I'm going to do that. Going out for a meal tomorrow night with DH so might have a nice glass of wine then!

Got another 6 weeks to go till 12 week scan! I spotted on my dd and last two mc's so I know it can go either way but can't help but think the worse!! We just had sex too! And I said I wouldn't till my 12 week scan I feel so bad! :-(

Oh no scared are you ok? How much bleeding are you having?
Woody why two glasses of wine a week? I like your doctor

I'm not sure why 2! Going to really enjoy it tomorrow night though.

Hope everything is ok scared I think it's quite common to spot after sex-something to do with a more sensitive cervix or something like that.

Thanks woody and lol I'm so pissed off just a little but only had a little on my last mc and no pain either so now very encouraging :-( x

scared I have my fingers crossed for you. And everyone else too for bfps and healthy pg. X

Scared I think it is very common to bleed after sex, I had spotting with my dd too and it was the first thing the epu asked me! I think if you've had it with your dd too it's likely you may get it every pregnancy but as you say it will not necessarily be bad, I had it last week for 2 days but it didn't get worse and has stoped ( touch wood)
Woody your gp sounds very sensible, 2 glasses is well under the weekly limit but gives you an option of not being too strict and feeling like you can have a treat, enjoy that night out!!
I should be 6wks now so half way through

Yes that's what she said kitty - she said there was no point cutting it out completely and better to set myself a small limit and relax about it all.

I really hope the next 6 weeks go by quickly. I was thinking this morning that maybe getting a BFP in late Oct/Early Nov would be good as I'm sure with Christmas approaching and there being so much to do, it might make the 12 weeks go by a bit quicker?

I got pg with dd in december and it was the best time as I got to go to all the Xmas party's etc drink and be merry then find out after I was pregnant aswell. I'm sure all the Xmas cheer helped and it's such a distraction as there's so much to do and I love Xmas anyway, fx for you woody, I really hope this is the time for you now xx

Thank you kitty I really hope so too x

Morning all!

Well I've given up on the detox this morning, went to make my smoothie and must not have had the lid on the blender right, now have a mango and yoghurt flavoured kitchen. So having bacon and eggs hahaha! I deserve it, worked until 1am last night!

I'm feeling a lot happier than I have the last couple of days. Not feeling any more positive that I'm going to spontaneously ov any time soon but I've lost 4lb and got over my little wobble after seeing my friend. Looking forward to seeing the acupuncturist - she's given me a bit of hope that she can help get me going again. Woody is it painful?

scared I hope everything is ok. It's incredibly common to bleed after sex when you're pregnant, I was asked that as well at the EPU. Have you called the EPU? They might be able to reassure you or have you in for an early scan. FX that all is ok.

betty sorry to hear about your grandad. Sending hugs.

almond any change? Congrats on the house!

babyjames thinking of you! How are you feeling?

Hi all,
I've not been on here much last few days as found it all a bit much. Bleeding is slowing and my blood levels dropping so Dr happy its not eptopic. Feel like I've been emotionally flattened by a train though. Don't you just love it when some thoughtless medical person makes a stupid comment like "don't worry, 2 Miscarriages is perfectly normal" :( , not really what I want to hear right now.
Feel like I have shut myself away in the house. My best friend told me that she is 5 weeks pregnant so I would have been due around the same time, my other close friend is 20 weeks now too. Feel I just can't face them. I also work with families with under 5's so just no escaping this. Moan over, sorry!

Hope all you pregnant ladies are well and trying to get through each day without too much worry and FX for everyone on the dreaded 2WW.

Woody and Peanut how often do / will you go to your acupuncture session and how much do you pay. I had a few sessions before I got pregnant with DS and I was looking into it again yesterday but the prices vary so much! Did your nutritionist offer any useful advice to share?!
Peanut yum yum at bacon and eggs! Very hungry now!
Betty so sorry about your Grandad :( very sad.

Hi Girls,

Well...I am out for the poas day tomorrow. Cant believe it but AF arrived if FULL force this morning. Looks like it was another WTF cycle as ov on CD17, 9 day luteal phase and AF CD26! I have gone from MC to 44 day cycle to a 25 day cycle. Bit worried now that my luteal phase is messed up and I wont carry now...musnt look at Dr Google! So back to the drawing board and CD1 for me today. DH is on strict instructions that from CD10 we are doing it EOD without fail. And I am not fully stocked on tonnes of pg tests as I took advantage of the Boots 342 offer!

Baby glad to see you back on here and that things are going back to 'normal'. It is crap sometimes what the EPU say isnt it. I got something similar when I went. I think they see it all the time and it is the norm for them but it isnt the norm for us!

Lol hope the stay at the in-laws goes well . What CD are you on now?

Good luck to all the poasers for tomorrow. Hopefully someone gets some good news soon!

Morning all.
Baby glad to see you back. We all need time to lick our wounds. Stick with us!
Almond bugger af. Have a glass of wine with your dinner! I'm on cd 13 today and opk still negative. Don't expect it until thu or fri. Will have a shag tomorrow even though I'm at the in laws!
Peanut I'm back on food today also! And finished the last day with wine, cheese and crackers! But I've lost 6 lbs so very happy! Might do another 5 days soon. In the end I made my own juices and didn't follow the recipes. I also chewed on raw fruit and veg when j felt like it.
Woody agree on 12 wk over Xmas being easier!

Hi
Kitty you did not upset me silly just having a min trying to forget about it all today!

Peanut I'm gonna phone them Monday but crampin and bleeding stopped now so fx

scared hope it has all settled down. I've had bleeding in all my pregnancies, 2 fine and 2 MC, so it can all be ok,but it is the worst feeling when you've had a previous loss.
Good luck to the poas gang tomorrow.

Thanks mess I had bleeding with dd too so I know it can be possitive to like you said when last two times I bled and lost it plays tricks on ya mind lol x

Thanks girls.
Sorry about af Almond. Fx for a bfp in Nov.
Baby I hope you start feeling a bit better soon.
Peanut I am so jealous of you having bacon for brekkie. The bacon in Spain is awful, it's the first thing I eat when I go back to uk to visit! Glad you're on a positive vibe at the moment.
Kitty how are you feeling? Fx for the next 6weeks. Hope it goes quickly.

So, I poas yesterday. After the sad news I just thought I'd try to cheer myself up but I got a bfp. Should I poas again tomorrow or wait til Monday? I'll be 14dpo tomorrow and af due. Aggh I'm going crazy.

Betty you mean a BFN, right? Otherwise you'd be doing a big happy post...

Oops wishful thinking. Yup it was a bfn :'(
Af due sometime this weekend although I am on my wtf cycle.

Oops wishful thinking. Yup it was a bfn :'(
Af due sometime this weekend although I am on my wtf cycle.