BFP in 2012- a thread for winkling-advice and COD-avoidance!

[wishfulthinking1]

So... here we are!
In a positive move to avoid monthly heartache this is the thread where we'll ttc in 2012.

"will there be winkling?" of course!
"will there be tinkling?" too right! you filthy buggers
"will there be time in the COD?" probably- but it'll only be short lived!
"will there be BFPs?" YES YES YES!

A pledge! do you think I'm taking this too seriously?
I, wishfulthinking, promise to ttc with all my might. I accept that ttc is a long, drawn out process and I shant allow myself to become too obsessed with the process in 2012. (if I remain in-duffed at new year, however, I reserve the right to be right royally pissed off with life and everyone in general!)

Who's with me?

Wishfulthinkng1- ttc numero 1- expecting a sticky BFP on July 31st (and at 28 day intervals thereafter!) Days till wedding - 6!

Xxx

Hi storm. So sorry 4 your loss. And fair play 2u getting back on the horse and descending in2 the madness. You're in good company here, despite a crazy episode or 20. We're all here 2 support each other.

Hi ladies good to see you are all in high spirits. I may hold out on putting my name on the list for the time being. I am not really sure on dates as my cycle is between 25 and 28 days. I do tend to wait to POAS until right near AF arriving and only if I have none of the tell tale signs. I guess I am worried about getting excited only for it not to stick.

Hi storm. Welcome to the thread. So sorry to hear about your loss and I am really impressed you are ready to start thinking about ttc so soon.

Wishing you the very best of luck.

mersea I know what you mean about worrying you will test too early and it won't stick. Best of luck.

Welcome storm- what an awful thing to have happened. :-( this is definitely the right place for you- we're going to have bfps a go-go. Fx your cycle rights itself pretty quickly.

Anyway ladies, unusual amounts of cm with me- not egg whitey- just loads of it. Thought perhaps it was a symptom, but then realised that it will just be the epo. I stopped taking it around day 14, assuming I ov-ed somewhere around there. But it definitely works!

Anyway, last message from me for a while- I'm getting married tomorrow and have quite a few bits to do!! See you when I'm a mrs!! Xxx

Yeay wishful!!!
Good luck mrs to be
Hope you have the most fantastic SUNNY wedding day xx

Have a fantastic day tomorrow, wishful...I think the sun may even shine! :-)

Hope you have a wonderful day tomorrow wishful

Hi storm thats a terrible thing to have happened to you. Big hug x

ermm... i'm having a bit of a whinge :( so bear with me.
I have 6 days to go before the evil witch shows up. I am not feeling very positive. Same symptoms as last months pre-AF ones. Also feel pretty shit as last night I had calls from my pregnant friend and SIL both going on about their pregnancies and then asking me abt how ttc was going and telling me to "relax" and "enjoy" the process. I have decided to avoid them for a bit and not take their calls. SIL I thought would have been more understanding as it took her a year to get there. I just feel so down about it.

Have a great day wishful!! Hope it stay nice for you!

Sorry you are feeling crappy red. I know they don't meant it to upset you but it's still hard to hear. You'll get there though, we all will! Just a shame it takes so much time and patience!

It's THE wedding day. Good luck wishful and have the best day.

Just off a the virtual hairdressers 2 get ready. And have the virtual champers on ice. Feel like we're all virtually there. Bloody wish we were I love a good wedding. Wish we could c some pics.

Hope u have the best day and I'm raising my glass 2 wish u a honeymoon baby. X x

wishful it's the wedding!!!!!! Good grief that came round quick. Will anyone judge me if I have a real drink to celebrate wishfuls wedding instead of a virtual one.

red sorry you are feeling down at the moment. Hate people telling me relax. Had one the other day telling me she understood what I was going through (no you don't you have three kids and got pregnant instantly with all three) and being stressed was hurting my chances.
As if you are going to say oh I didn't realise I just had to relax, I'll do that straight away then. Stupid people.

Ooh honeymoon baby would be amazing for you. Fx

Hi everyone - I'm hoping to end up getting pg again in 2012. Very recently had a mc - this will be dc1. Hoping to be able to start ttc again soon.

Morning all....happy Friday :)

wishful HAPPY WEDDING DAY EVE :o how exciting, i hope the sun shines and you have a wonderful day. Fx for a honeymoon baby for you!

red how bloody annoying for you, it's frustrating how some people seem to forget all about how it feels once they have the excitement of their bfp to concentrate on . Chin up - it WILL be you soon!

hi to storm and woody, sorry you've both been having such a hard time of it.

Congrats wishful! Hope you have a lovely day and honeymoon!!

No whenshewas I certainly will not judge! I am a drink til u get a BFP type person, though I don't really drink that much anyway!

Welcome woody - I know how you feel re the mc so just let it all out here if you need to!

Red < hugs> thought the I'm just not going to take their call very funny though!!
Whenshewas I hate that just relax thing I mean like you say as if you can go oh that's what I was doing wrong, relax!!!
I do know there is some truth but unless someone figure a way to brainwash us it's not helpful, when I got pg I was still stressed last time, it was just about something else!

Congratulations wishful have a wonderful day hope you get all you wish for

red I know it can be really frustrating and upsetting one of my closest friends became pg after trying for nearly 5 years. I was so pleased for her but also felt great envy that she had something I really wanted. I avoided most of her phone calls and turned down invites to go and see them as it is hard listening to all the baby talk. We did send birthday and Christmas cards still but no real contact and this went on for all her pregnancy. Then when the baby was born I could not go and see her and I became very ill I started getting panic attacks at the thought of being around people with babies and it was nearly a year after that before I felt I was able to contact her again and now thankfully we do see each other regularly.

thanks for all the hugs everyone, i'm feeling a bit better after having a rant on the August thread about some of the things my SIL said. But I keep telling myself, that one day when I get a BFP I must remember what I felt when ttc and I hope I never say the word relax to people.

Congratulations wishful yes some pics if you can share would love to see you in your bridal glory :)

How can you not feel stressed though? How do I make this crazy want disappear...You only feel this way if you want something so bad. I will pull myself together now and go out for some retail therapy later.

I spoke to a really good friend of mine yesterday whose been trying for years with 4 failed ivf attempts and she said you just have to stop comparing yourself to others as their life or pregnancy doesn't affect yours and it just drives you crazy, I'm afraid I do fall into the when someone else tells me they are pregnant, she also stepped away from fb and doesn't use it very much to avoid the scan pics etc, when I was pg I didn't ever put a picture or update about pregnancy on as I knew what it feels like if your waiting, I dont want to let the envy ruin the life I've got allready or effect my relationship with good friends, especially as my sis has just had a new dd and I couldn't step away from her ( even if she is one of those who just needs to be shown dh's willy to fall pregnant!!!! )

ahhhh kitty I feel the same when I am near a pregnant friend. Luckily most people have the sense not to put their scan pics up on fb, but there are the odd few. I stay away from fb as there are a lot of show offs on my newsfeed. I like the advice your friend gave though. It's true their pregnancy shouldn't affect our life. We will have our own pregnancies and our own babies to go gaga over.

I am really happy for my friend and SIL just don't like it when they ask me how TTC is going knowing that we are trying. I mean what more am I going to say other than yeah its going as usual - we are trying. Just hate the pitying tone of voice they have.

Red- there's a lovely little button on fb that lets you hide ever post said anoying show offs leave without deleting them and facing confrontations, I highly recommend it although I do love a good deleting session too!!!
Just tink when you are pregnant you can smugly rub little bump and say fine thankyou and I feel great and have only put on 3lb all pregnancy with no stretch marks

that's a good point actually red, what are you supposed to say to someone who asks "how's TTC going?".....er yeah fine thanks in fact we had a quick shag before we got here as I think I'm ovulating today?!

I think if it happened often I'd be tempted to say something like that just to see their face!

My family and friends always say "so how are you doing?" But I know what they are really asking, as they always look like they were expecting more when I say "fine thanks".

I have my scan booked next Wednesday cd13 to see if I have any follicles ready I really hope it is good news. I am starting to get worried that at 40 and with no children yet I am destined to never be a mum.

lol I would love to respond with the 'quick shag' kitten haha the look on their faces would be priceless.

Right I have hidden all the annoying people off my newsfeed kitty thanks for the tip.

Fx mersea for your scan next week - hope the follicles are ready.

Absolutely kitten that's exactly what I would say!! But then I always love to do stuff like that just for kicks!