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Just Shagging - no science, just sex, sex and more sex! The lazy way to make a baby, part 9 (we think!)

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babylann · 16/05/2012 21:28

Confused by all the TTC talk? OPKs? Taking your temperature?! Then this is the thread for you! We want babies the good old-fashioned way - through drunken, spontaneous shagging at any time of the month Grin. All you need is a man, Wine, ramekins and a batch of cheapo pregnancy sticks, and you're good to go! (Shag-capes and actual Sex optional)

The group is so successful that you can see the results for yourself in our graduates thread full of mamas who JSed their way to motherhood. Getting a BFP within a few weeks is known as "doing a kitten", and due to the secret and magical powers of the Just Shagging thread, this happens from time to time.

We have our own TTC language - EWCM is now known as "pant snot", AF is now "ERTD" (Evil red tide of DOOM!), OV is ovulation, and of course, JSing is Just Shagging!

Viroids is our name of choice, the reason is long since lost in the annals of time. If you really feel the need to take a test, Gu Ramekins are what all the classy birds are using. And of course, drinking is essential. Sometimes, we even remember to have sex Wink

Old thread is here if you want proof it works!

Come join us!

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Pinkie29 · 18/05/2012 20:27

fraktal I have to conduct a search and rescue mission to locate pant snot Grin

AWomanCalledHorse · 18/05/2012 20:30

Frak...I assume autocorrect got you & you're not going swilling this weekend? Grin Good luck on the shoe hunt!

dysgu hope the DDs remain sick free this weekend!

south, let them text Hmm! Hope you're not made to feel too crap for pulling out.

Piss orf and stay away everyones ERTD.

somethingwittynot · 18/05/2012 20:34

i took ans insterted EPO when pregnant with DS to soften the cervix. did fuck all.

not looking for anything apart from some bandana bibs if there cheap and maybe a BLW recipie book but thats about it really though the handle on my pram is broken Grin

well we are still living in land of the frozen planet.

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babylann · 18/05/2012 21:15

Fraktal, no shoulder pain, at least not that I've noticed. Is that a symptom of ectopic pregnancy?

If the pain isn't gone by the morning, I'll get DP to go and buy me a test. A couple of weeks ago, I had one day of spotting on CD52 of last month (well, wore one pad for about 5 hours and by the time I removed it the spotting had stopped and the pad was only slightly "stained") and decided that was my stupid body's way of ERTD, but pains were mild and irregular for about 5 days, and have gradually increased in frequency for the past week until today when it felt like contractions very close together (like between 10 secs - a few minutes apart) in the left side of my pelvis (milder than the real thing of course). They built up for a few hours earlier, the only way I can describe it was like I had a vertical vein inside me that had the occasional shooting pain running through it.

I said to DP a few days after bleeding that I thought it was weird that I was having cramps a week after ERTD and didn't think anymore of it. My cycle has been all over the place. I'm freaking out Confused

I'm on CD14 now, according to my period tracker. One boob is very sore behind the nipple, faintly similar to when I was breastfeeding, and have been having pains for about two weeks now, getting increasingly worse. Have noticed a couple of other symptoms, I've been very tired and feeling constipated, despite not actually being constipated.

The problem is I have serious anxiety disorder and have developed a phobia of going to the doctors unless it's really necessary (because I'm so quick to think there's something wrong, I wait until I'm sure something is wrong) and I can never distinguish whether it's the anxiety disorder tricking me into thinking I feel worse than I do, or a real physical symptom.

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SunshineandChoccy · 18/05/2012 21:30

I'm really looking forward to the weekend, we have a good friend visiting us and a whole day at twickenham for the Rugby and way too much Wine will be had, me thinks I will have a hangover on sunday

babylann cheers to you for starting the next thread it's my proverbial life line

Hope everyone has a fantabulous weekend

somethingwittynot · 18/05/2012 21:31

meh i hate baby centre, used to go on there til DPs brother GF refuse to call her my SIL started slagging me and DPs family off.

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lollypopsicle · 18/05/2012 22:20

something I found MN useful for BLW. Also, check out you tube- loads of cute vids of it in action. One of the main principles of BLW is that they eat what you eat. We did try some Annabelle Carmel recipes ( mainly toddler ones rather than purée) but tended to just adjust salt / spice levels of what we were eating. Now 17 month old DS eats anything we eat as it comes- curry, chilli, green beans Smile and has done for some time. Enjoy your BLW journey! Great fun Grin

babylann life sounds very stressful for you right now. get yourself to the docs, let them decide if it's something to worry about or not. it will help to have an outside professional viewpoint, if nothing else.

viz I'd be going stir crazy with your confusing symptoms and lack of bfp. I don't want to encourage false hope but I would still not rule out pregnancy.

ChildOfThe1980s · 19/05/2012 08:56

babylann I think that you should go to the doctor. Sometimes worrying about what might be wrong causes a lot more anxiety than finding out what it is. Thinking of you.

I didn't take much folic acid last month, but have decided to take expensive conception vits on day 1, 3, 5 etc and cheap folic acid on days 2, 4 etc from now on.

I have had a stressful week (on CD6) and ERTD is just dying out now. Not sure that stress is the best way to make a baby, so thinking my chances are slim this month. Thankfully, we will be going on holiday over the Jubilee half-term.

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somethingwittynot · 19/05/2012 10:59

cool will check all those out. right im going to be nosy but how did everyone meet there DP? i had a dream last night that reminded me off how i met mine Grin

Dysgu · 19/05/2012 11:20

I met my DP online - although it was not great timing as we met for the first time in the April and then I left the country, in June, to live on another continent for 12 months. That was back in 2003.

We bought a house together in 2005, a year after I got back, and he proposed in 2005 (on one knee on the Ponte Vecchio in Florence).

Gosh, the romance in those days...
2DDs later...

Fraktal · 19/05/2012 11:20

something we BLWd sans book - just chucked finger foods at him and gave him what we were having. You have lots of time to get to grips with it though! Your DS is barely halfway to weaning age. Don't rush and wish time away :)

I met my DH at Uni, I was standing for election and he was in a mate's campaign team, I was in a serious relationship and he'd just come out of one, fell in lust, I ditched my BF, lost the election, planned a short term fling and realised about a month later that it was real and I didn't want to lose him so followed him back to France after graduation! Head shrieked noooooo at the time, and still does occasionally, but it is what it is.

woman no indeed not swilling, swimming! We have haircuts this afternoon. Toddler haircuts are ridiculously priced.

south maybe it was a vivid preg dream?! You don't have to leave - there's a grads thread and a postgrad thread so all the viroids can stay together.

babylann shoulder pain can be a symptom of a burgeoning rupture or ruptured ectopic. Test and if you're still worried honestly go and see a doctor, or if the pain is really bad go to A&E say you suspect you may be pregnant and are having severe shooting abdominal pain. Definitely better safe than sorry.

lollypopsicle · 19/05/2012 11:38

fraktal up until the France bit, your story sounded just like how a good friend of mine met her DH. Thought I knew you for a mo! Realising how easy this could be I'm going to keep quiet about how DP and I met as I would definitely out myself!

Enjoy the weekend js-ers. I'm off to buy a carpet. Rock n roll!

somethingwittynot · 19/05/2012 11:49

my DP was my college tutors assistant thingy he was training to teach the course at the time. i wasnt really keen on him at the time but i got to know him and he really started to attract me Blush anyway he left the college gutted to say and a got a new job. on the day he left he sent me flowers. we both knew there was a mutual attraction. he put a letter through my door god knows how he knew where we lived saying meet me at blah blah at blah time and it aww went from there....

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xTonixxx · 19/05/2012 13:25

Hello Ladies, I love the title of this thread, think this is the one for me Grin Wine

captainmoll · 19/05/2012 14:15

Hello JS'ers. I went away for a bit, being busy. I'm back now because I have hideous Noro virus puke-athon going on, so does DP, and right when we need to be shagging like bunnies. 3 days in bed with each other but all the wrong bodily fluids! (sorry TMI, couldn't resist..) I am SO bored.
Hope you're all well - baby definitely get thee to a docs. I absolutely know how you feel about them; I hate going, always get the feeling they'll laugh at me for wasting their time, but it's the only way you'll get an answer about what's going on.
something I met my DH working on a theatre show. After pretending it was just a fling for ages, I ended up proposing to him over a seaside beer. The romance!
Blurgh, have to scurry to the bathroom now.. Sad

Persuasion · 19/05/2012 14:15

Hi all! Am just back from Rome, you were all right and we had a great time (and lots of JSing Wink )

Am just going to read back to catch up with everyone's news.

Pinkie29 · 19/05/2012 14:48

We met on a very drunken evening in our local although we had previously met when we were 5 Smile

somethingwittynot · 19/05/2012 15:18

well ive just been and ivestigated the jungle that is our gardern for the first time. pretty impressed.

well ERTD has kindly gone so more JSing for us!

Kittenkatzen · 19/05/2012 16:35

Afternoon ladies, and welcome toni :)

I met my DH through work, we were introduced at some drinks one evening and just instantly got on brilliantly, started exchanging about a billion texts/emails a day and it just went from there really. Not the most exciting of stories I'm afraid! We'll have been together for 5 years this summer.

Hope you're all having lovely weekends, the sun ha been shining here which has been lovely.

Happy JSing all :)

babylann · 19/05/2012 18:18

We met online too. We'd been playing an online game together for about 2 years, and then my ex and I broke up and he offered to treat me to a chilled out week with him. I was going through a few bad things IRL so I just hopped on a train and went to meet him, which I probably wouldn't have done at any other time in my life as I'm anxious about that kind of thing! But he was a perfect gentleman, took me out drinking, etc. I'd intended to have a bit of a "rebound fling" with him but he was so amazing and completely unlike ex-from-hell that I just fell in love with him before I even got the train home.

It's lucky I met him when I did, because I probably would have found my way back to dickhead ex-boyfriend otherwise. Not a day since where I've regretted any of our relationship at all, he's the most wonderful, special person I've ever met.

Pains are completely gone today. Must just be extreme ovulation!

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AWomanCalledHorse · 19/05/2012 18:40

Evening everyone! Welcome Toni!

baby, that's a lovely meeting story! And I'm glad your pains are gone!
Interesting to hear how everyone met...going on from my romantic txt proposal, (without too much detail, as it will out me) we met in an alley. At work, needed assistance & DH was that assistance, thought he was a massive wanker until we met again 5 months later!

Glad your back Persuasion! Hope you had a lovely time!!

Moll hope you & DP are better soon.