Just MC and ready to try again? Pregnant after MC and seeking somewhere safe to hide? Come on down to the mosh pit for some serious metalling and cake

[MarthasHarbour]

Continuation of the last thread.

There's cake for scoffing, backs for patting, and screeching death metal for all your metalling moments. All welcome so come on in and get settled into the plush sofas!

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So settle into the mosh pit, we have special VIP area's for those on the 2WW, the new bumps metalling with segregated areas for the first/second/third trimesters and the club class cocktail bar for those who have just got AF and can get-pissed let loose for the first two weeks!

The standard 'form' of the thread is the first one on in the morning brings the brekkie!

And this will be a very special thread, it is the one where our first 'graduate' gives us our first bambino Go on IQ give us a twirl if-you can be arsed in your full term state

evening ladies

i havent read through the past few days i ave been lurking but not properly...redundancy started friday just gone and i have had a few interviews and been spending alot of mummy-DD time otherwise so not much MN time...

hope everyone is doing well

AF is AWOL ATM...due on tuesday...BFN yesterday...i will retest tomorrow if she hasnt made an appearance overnight...

Imagining a penis shaped potato masher now

I shouldn't take DD out of the house. Comments from today include 'Mummy that lady looks like a WIZARD' 'Hi, man, what is your moustache for?' 'I can smell that man's poo'

Oh and she stuffed a teddy up her jumper and pretended to give birth to it at a friends house, loudly directing my friend's DS in his role as Daddy/baby catcher.

Sorry can't namecheck but I have enjoyed two days of no metalling, it's been lovely. Really relaxing. Then I started with a bit of extra leakage today so have made myself extra paranoid again. I feel like it's just a matter of when my waters go....

Also I'm 17+3 today so Little Miss (her new MN name) is now older than Mini-Toe. Feels good but weird.

gpb OUCH hope your ear is better soon!

midget hurrah for graduation, you are funny

martha sounds a good milestone. I love babygros so much

manda you need some lists. It'll be OK, promise, it'll work out....but get some lists and delegate, woman.

tits sounding good, good luck for the scan!

Welcome to those joining the thread xx

x posts. Been coming back to my message for a while.

Martha, your DS would have a soulmate in my DD. Yesterday, in supermarket, she reached out from her seat in the trolley, we were leaving the shop and it was crowded so good audience for this, and unbuttoned my top shouting, 'DD show everyone mummy's boobies'. Oh what larks...

gpb :) at metal penis!

Hey ladies no name check just a quick update from the sunny shores of Barbados I'm now married and have been for 7 days cycle turned out just right due to ic on the wedding day so now on the 2ww but have lots to occupy my time with ... Swimming with turtles catamaran cruise steel band evenings etc etc so trying not to mental too much purposely didn't bring and sticks to pee on and am due af the day we fly home so no risk of testing to early for me this month p

Hope each and all are doing well I promise to catch up when I can properly but it's not easy in an Internet cafe!!!

Good Morning All. I have been visiting family for a while and havent had internet access so have a lot of reading to do to catch up! I am feeling much better about everything than I was a week ago, largely due to reading lots of uplifting stories on hear, and I had a BFN this morning so I guess I am ready to go for it again which is a good thing.

On a sad note though, a friend of my DH was expecting the same week as us and we found out this week that they have also had an mmc. I feel so bad for them and also really guilty as I was soooooooooo jealous that she was still pregnant when I had lost my baby

Anyway, hope everyone has nice plans for the weekend, even if the weather is trying to spoil it! [busmile]

sorry - here rather than hear! Must learn to read before posting!

mumtum congratulations on your wedding :) and in Barbados,you lucky thing - sounds lovely.

GBP glad you've got some anti-b's, hope they start working quickly. And it is an excellent excuse.

tits I can't help metalling, but I agree with b) also. I also had no symptoms at all in my last pregnancy (mmc) whereas this time I feel sick as hell - it's got to be a good sign - right?

nomore fingers crossed for a bfp

cake welcome. Sorry you've had to join us, but there's loads of support on here.

One more sleep til my scan......

Martha it's two weeks today since erpc. The time had flown! I am not sure about ttc , in a way I feel like I wAnt to get more investigations done but in another way I just want to get of asap. I might wAit until I see the consultant at end of month. I probably won't ov until after that anywAy judging by my previous WTF cycle.

I was just thinking, I don't think I tested until about a month after erpc the first time so maybe I am testing too early. Will try again next weekend. I am still bleeding a little bit, wish it would piss off as I am away all weekend on hen do and going to a spa hotel with dh on Sunday.

Morning all

I have been lurking, reading, catching up, though alas not posting very much...sorry!

Just wanted to pop on about the lovely issue of constipation and say that my doc kindly prescribed lactulose which has been fab! Others I know swear by fybogel or even just a healthy diet of all bran and prunes every morning!

pebs so sorry you are still waiting for a bfn...it took my 4.5 weeks after my Erpc if I remember correctly. Plus the chances are you hormone levels were pretty high due to the nature of the pregnancy which means it may take a bit longer...I found watching the lines get faster in the ICs vaguely comforting in a strange sort of way.

manda and breathe...you'll get there and it will be fine. in reality you probably have a lot of what you need already at home, it's just a case of fishing it out. The sleeping thing might be a bit more tricky but even that should probably work itself out when the time comes and if you can stay as calm as possible then that will help! I think it's perfectly normal to have that kind of realisation though...I have 8 weeks to go and have been having minor meltdowns about how close it all seems to have suddenly got!! I was expecting these latter weeks to crawl past but they seem to be flying instead...maybe they'll slow to snail pace once I finish work!

missc congrats on passing your milestone this week and here's to many more metal and water leakage free weeks for you!!

gpb so sorry to hear about your ear....painful stuff! Hope the antibiotics kick in soon!

marthas lol at your DS latest vocabulary...oh the fun and pure embarassment to come yet in the future!!

mumtum HUGE CONGRATS on your wedding! Hope you have a fab time away!!

Right...now to decide whether I can be bothered to go for a swim...I stood on the scales the other day which was a scary thing to do and was a little stunned at the reading, of course I should've been prepared for it given how tight some of my mat clothes are getting but fear I have rather overdone the cake intake so am trying to be good now and even do some gentle exercise to get myself a bit fitter ready for labour...and maybe slow the weight gain down a little...for me that is not the kick boxing bouncing bean in there! [busmile]

Morrrrning!

I am still in bed! DP is at the gym of all places and the boys stayed out last night with family. I don't plan to get up anytime soon, I fear DP will come home and request me todo chores, the shed needs emptying because the garden is getting landscaped tomorrow.
I don't really feel sick today though so I am of course mettaling my pretty little head about it and once again cursing previous mcs for tainting all other pregnancies.

Happy Easter weekend to you all.

Happy Easter weekend to everyone! Still laughing at some of the small child public statements (re which, DS pointed at my, er, fanjo area this morning and loudly announced "WHERE YOUR PENIS? WHY YOU NOT HAVE A PENIS?").

Also OH GOD THE TIRED. I was up quite late for a pregno last night and even though I got a bit of a lie in (ta, Mr L) I am still ABOUT TO FALL OVER. Feel like I was up until 5am drinking pints. Also I have no idea what my digestive system is up to. Though relieved that the worrying cramps the other day were, as it transpired, constipation. Fybogel is my new best friend.

Sorry not to namecheck everyone, but welcome new people and glad GPB got her ear sorted.

And now I am going back to bed for half an hour while Mr L takes DS swimming.

Ugh, I feel awful, shakes, palpitations and my saliva gland gone into overdrive.
Worst thing is I am craving a gooey baked Camembert like crazy! Typical eh?!
Meant to be out for dinner, cannot cancel been promising these friends our company for ages. Hope I can come home earlyish and sleep.

DS2 been a real nightmare since the return from their dad's place as usual, he just had a full blown tantrum in the shower and smashed his face on the rail so now has a large bruise emerging across his cheekbone.

Tits, if you're not succumbing to your craving for baked camembert for pregreasons (as opposed to just, y'know, not having any) - fear not! All cooked cheese is completely free of food poisoning danger! (actually so is uncooked cheese if it's properly handled/stored, but cooked cheese really is totally safe - the heat kills all germs)

Argh on the nightmare child! Mercifully my DS is being quite charming today, which is good as I am still wrecked.

Hi, having a full on metal attack. I have a lot of discomfort in my abdomen and lots of thick white discharge. I have had diahorrea for a few days. There is no bleeding. But I am so scared this is it. Again. It just doesnt feel right. I am so freaked out by my mmc experience. My baby had been dead for weeks and I didnt know. No bleeding then. Tried ringing Epu but they are shut for bank holiday. I don't have another scan booked until sodding May. I can't do this again.

Oh jaffa hang in there! When you say 'discomfort' can you be a bit more specific? If you've got The Trots it could likely be that... thick white discharge sounds thrush-like - another common pregnancy ailment.

Any chance at all you could get yourself somewhere for a private scan as clearly waiting until May is not going to cut it and even waiting until you can speak to epu on tuesday(?) is, in our circles, somewhat of a lifetime and no doubt you'll struggle to enjoy the bank holiday/easter on any level which just sucks major hairy arse.

It is just odd, sort like trapped wind sometimes, sometimes a sort of tugging feeling. But I also have a bit of backache. None of these, apart from thd trapped wind feeling are painful, I am just aware, if you see what I mean. The discharge doesn't smell or itch, so I am not sure if it is thrush. I am going to try and ring epu tomorrow and hope it is not shut- tomorrow is not a bank hol right?

No, tomorrow isn't a bank holiday but, of course, it is a weekend and not epu's are open at the weekend either, eh? See if yours has a website (or a page at the hospital where it is based) to give you an idea.

Ime, when I've gotten a UTI or thrush when pregnant it has presented atypically - so the 'usual' symptoms didn't really fit but I had them none the less!

Ultimately, you're worried and understandably so, but try and be objective if you can, even for a few minutes. If I said I had those kind of symptoms would you instantly think the worst for me? If not, then try and cling to that - a true metaller is irrational with the best of 'em!

Really hope you can get to the epu tomorrow but if not is a private scan a possibility?

Oh argh jaffa, I agree with Manda that it's probably nothing serious but I can understand the metalling.

My digestion has been absolutely banjaxed lately - I was very crampy on Wednesday to the extent that I too got worried, and have been, well, not right in the loo department since, but I do remember my guts were affected in my first, full-term pregnancy as well, and I do think preggy hormones do a number on your digestive system. With my mmc I had ... nothing until the horrendous cramps and the bleed at 12 weeks (when pg stopped developing at 8 weeks), and any discharge I had before it was clear, so I don't see any obvious reason why digestive yuck/abdominal discomfort/white discharge without blood would be a sign of something going wrong. Though I know the places one's head goes to, of course. Agree that if you can get to the EPU tomorrow that'd be great, or a private scan if not if you think it'll de-metal you.

(as a small aside, what treatments for thrush are ok in pregnancy? as I too seem to have a bit of white discharge, and am in possession of Canesten HC cream that was, er, prescribed for DS' nappy rash)

Jaffa try not to worry too much (easier said than done, I know). As leedy says, pregnancy plays havoc on your digestive system, and it's much more likely to be that than anything else.
The EPUs at both hospitals near me are monday- Friday only, but you could phone the labour ward and see what they say - they should be able to give you some advice and you don't even have to wait til tomorrow to ring them.
Also second the suggestion of a private scan - if it puts your mind at rest then it'll be the best £75 you could have spent.

My bowel has been doing that slow, slow, quick quick slow thing for weeks so maybe this is another round if that.

I will ring the epu tomorrow. And I am going to have another scan. To go betweeN 7 + 5 and 12+6 is too much for my sanity.

At least the discharge has gone. And my boobs are so sore tonight.

Thank you for talking me down a bit. I hope it is all random pregnancy symptoms.

Oh Jaffa. Sorry you've been metalling. I didn't post yesterday as I was metalling about my own cramps and didn't want to add to the panic. Even though I am pretty sure mine are digestive, I still metalled a bit so you have good company. Mine have gone this morning, hope yours have too. I am guessing your quickest way of being seen would be a&e who can then refer to emergency EPU but would be a right palaver. Hope they have gone. The white discharge probably not too concerning, think more like the plug when it is something to be worried about and that is fairly chunky and lumpy (I think). God I hate metalling. Wish I could wave a magic wand to make our worries disappear for 9 months.

jaffa and midget so sorry about your digestive crampy metalling...I have really suffered on and off throughout this pregnancy with bad constipation, bad diarrhea and excruciating cramps from trapped wind...sometimes all in the space of 48hours! Just one of those unfortunate side effects of a little bean making space inside you. I have found that taking lactulose when the cramps for wind are kicking in or the constipation is bad helps to get things moving again but at the 'loser' end of the scale it's just been a case of letting it sort itself out so am not sure about any medication that could help with that but just make sure you keep your fluids up. I've also tried to have allbran or bran flakes, tinned prunes or pears and dried fruit for breakfast to help with regularity. Fybogel is also supposed to be good but I can't stand the taste of it so haven't tried that!

Sorry for the long bowel related message but hope that helps a bit and that you're feeling better this morning! I had the lactulose prescribed to me from my doctor when I went in with the trapped wind pain.

We have my DB, SIL and DN to visit today so I need to get on with tidying up but had a terrible night's sleep so am feeling a bit zombie like! Couldn't get comfortable at all due to pelvic pain and then beany decided it would be fun to do some more kick-boxing practice so in the end I've given up and got up!

Mm nice biscuits. I am sure that was what mine was. Had a pooh only to be rudely interrupted by a John Lewis delivery man, does he not realise how precious pooh time is. Had to stop DD from telling him that's what I was doing. Oh the Shame. Thanks for your words of wisdom BC. I am sure that's what mine are. Logic told me the same yesterday but the voice in my head wouldn't let it lie... Bastard voice. X

Morning all :)

I hope everyone is well today. Jaffa how are you doing?

I've just returned from my scan - saw a lovely heartbeat - very relieved :)

HOORAY for heartbeat Kirrin!

For Jaffa and anyone else metalling I had my mc over new year not the best way to see in 2012 but I found it a lot easier to get seen over the bank holiday than I expected. If I remember rightly I called the midwife on the out of hours who told me to call dr's out of hours who made an appointment at a clinic who examined me then called the epu to get me seen as an emergency the next morning. I had a tiny amount of bleeding and very little pain and was really just hoping to get myself first in line when everything opened up again. It didn't turn out well for me but I couldn't fault the nhs for their speed.

I know how easy it is to convince yourself anything abdominal is gynae related but often the shits is just the shits. I got myself in a right state a month or so ago convinced I'd had another ovarian cyst about to burst but turned out I just had a bug (which I then managed to pass on to my entire family.....)