Just MC and ready to try again? Pregnant after MC and seeking somewhere safe to hide? Come on down to the mosh pit for some serious metalling and cake

[MarthasHarbour]

Continuation of the last thread.

There's cake for scoffing, backs for patting, and screeching death metal for all your metalling moments. All welcome so come on in and get settled into the plush sofas!

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So settle into the mosh pit, we have special VIP area's for those on the 2WW, the new bumps metalling with segregated areas for the first/second/third trimesters and the club class cocktail bar for those who have just got AF and can get-pissed let loose for the first two weeks!

The standard 'form' of the thread is the first one on in the morning brings the brekkie!

And this will be a very special thread, it is the one where our first 'graduate' gives us our first bambino Go on IQ give us a twirl if-you can be arsed in your full term state

GBP-your ear sounds so painful, please go to the walk in today! bank holiday weekend coming up, no doc surgeries will be open & everyone will have to head there instead- that place will look like dunkirk by sunday so please go now!

hello - can I please come and join you guys? I'm newly pg again (4+4) after 2 mmc in the last 12 months. I've had a tiny bit of spotting which I know is not necessarily anything to worry about but it's all to similar to my previous pregnancies (no children yet). Does anyone mind if I sit in the corner quietly freaking out?

I know, I know! My colleagues and DH are all saying the same thing. I will go down there after work, I just really don't want to. I'm fed up and want to be well again.

Since this morning my ear has actually been hurting less - I think some of the pressure has been released!

Oooh, sunshinesue, come and join me - you're describing almost exactly my experience except I'm 5+6 now.

We can just sit in the corner rocking, it'll be fun.

I'd love to GPB! The image of me and someone I don't know sat in the corner rocking made me smile for the first time all day!

I agree with getting to the DR's about your ear. Ear infections are bloody miserable and it's a right pain getting seen over the bank hols.

:( GPB - I agree you should get that looked at.

GPB Go. To. The. GP.

sunshine welcome to the mosh pit!

Afternoon ladies

Welcome to the newbies, so sorry to see you here but you're all in good hands.

I hope your ear gets better soon GPB, it's not fun having other ailments on top of regular metalling.

I have my scan on Wednesday, I am bricking it

Ladies

So, last night at around 1am (this morning, then, really?) I started to metal... not our usual type of metalling, mind. Oh no. It very very sudden;y hit me like a ton of bricks that this baby is due in six weeks... SIX!! ANd I've not bought a single thing, haven't washed a single item (much of DS2's stuff is beautifully as new and put away), haven't considered how sleeping arrangements are gonna work when DS2 still co-sleeps (and is BF to sleep - though thank god he now pretty much sleeps through instead of the multiple wakings it was until recently). SIX WEEKS!

I am not ready. I haven't even considered this baby's arrival and the realisation of that isn't making it happen, it's making me go 'Arrrrrrghhhhh!' and want to hide!

I shall have to see how my feelings go in the next few days. Hopefully the shock will wear off a little and I can get into gear to sort some of the practicalities at least.

Manda that is indeed a different kind of metalling but one I can see how easy it is to slip into (ie mustn't assume it will be ok - mustn't make plans in your head, mustn't tempt fate). Not allowing the actual thought that there will be an actual baby at the end of it all. However, some of this anxiety and this metalling can be tackled with a bit of shopping (I can help with that - I am very good at it).

Do you have someone else that can do washing for you? That bit is a drag.

You never know - DS2 may take the transition to his own space well . Ok so that bit sounds a bit tricky when you are ready to pop and don't have the energy for the push needed to change that. Co sleeping with 4 sounds tricky. Mind you newborns will sleep anywhere if you wrap them up well. They used to stick them in drawers in the oldun days (not closing them of course - that is wrong). Hope the shock wears off so you work on some of my practical suggestions - Supernanny eat your heart out. I think this kind of metalling is probably healthy metalling that normos get when upduffed except they probably get it a tad earlier on in the pregnancy. Normal feelings are good - no matter how late we get them. Here sending you Big hugs, gentle licks and some virtual and emotional energy to get stuff done. Or maybe even just think about what stuff needs to be done.

Tits I found the power of a job interview was enough to shift pregnancy constipation but the fear of a scan didn't manage it. (TMI I fear)

Sunshinesue welcome to the VIP area, let the rocking commence.

Welcome sunshine.

Well, had a bit of a wobble today and ended up crying at DH that I just wanted to know if "it is still alive". Then fell asleep at 1pm for a 2 hour "nap". Net result - I am having another early scan on Tuesday next week in the evening (from which I hope to gain a modicum of reassurance for, oh, maybe 24 hours...)

Manda - it will all be fine. Breathe. You have over a month to get sorted and you are a very competent and capable lady.

manda - delegate! everyone loves to help out the heavily pregnant lady, it makes them feel good about themselves!

I am at the walk in centre, you will all be pleased to know Just have to wait for a billion hours to see a dr now...

Manda, you have loads of time! Work out what's going to take the longest, start on that first. Decide what things you want so even if you don't want to buy anything until baby is here, you can send your DH out with a specific list while you're holed up in bed bonding.

tits, I've not found anything good for pregnancy related constipation. Eating family sized packs of prunes made it just about bearable to poo, but nothing made it easy, regular or comfortable!

manda 6 weeks is loads of time, newborns don't need that much anyway...

Good luck GPB hope you don't have to wait too long.

Seems there's a few of us with scans next week, let's see how long we can keep the metalling in check I've failed already

I was seen quite quickly and now have antibiotics for my perforated eardrum :( on the up side, it gives me an excellent excuse as to why I'm not drinking this week - we're on holiday with the in-laws and it's usually quite boozy.

Glad you got some antibiotics GPB

Manda you have time, you need to make a list of essentials and tell DP/DH that you require him to sort them, you do one load of washing for the new arrival a day and voilà your little one will be well sorted by the time he/she arrives.

I haven't done any metalling about the scan. I will be 8+4 weeks, I am really not sure if it's because

a, I have become resigned to the fact that if the worst should happen, there is nothing I can do to control it, I have been a saint so far and all I can do is look after myself and follow doctors orders.

OR

b, I feel different, I know this is is a silly thing to say and I may have just jinxed myself, but I have been feeling so physically rotten that I know there must be hormones there, with all the other mcs I have felt absolutely nothing the whole way until the bleeding started.

I am also aware that come Tuesday night this will all change and I'll be finding every excuse under the sun as to why I can't possibly attend the apt.

So yes, scan on Wed at 10am, then midwife on 12th at 9am.

In the mean time, I have dug the yoghurt maker out and am making some to take my mind off things.

as for the constipation ... can I not take over the counter remedies whilst pregnant? Lactalose (sp?) or similar?

Hi all, can I join? I'm waiting to ttc after a miscarriage 10 days ago. Bleeding finished & pregnancy test showing very faint positive so nearly done. It was fairly quick and physically pretty painless. I think I got off lightly!!! I'm feeling better physically & emotionally and feel to move on fully I need to ttc again. focus on something positive rather than the negative. First step is rejoining conception boards. Hopefully soon I'll feel ready to start ttc again.

I've been told to wait for 1 st af before ttc. From what I've read this is purely for dating purposes. Is it ok to concieve before first af?

Sorry your all on here girls but I've found these miscarriage threads very supportive & a ray of hope xxx

Welcome to the madhouse cake

I got some ic's from amazon today and did one but I am still getting bfp. It will be two weeks since erpc is this normal? I have never seen a bfp after my mcs but I can't remember when I tested last times.

It is really annoying no wonder I am so bloody knackered if I still have pg hormones in me.

welcome cakeplease (with a name like that you will be at home in the mosh pit!) so sorry for your loss but happy to meet you. The GPs tend to tell you to get af out of the way but yes that is for dating purposes, also to let you have an AF to 'mentally' start again. However many women on this thread have got pg again during the WTF cycle (ie the month where you havent got a clue where your OV/AF are)

Pebs i didnt test after my MC so i just dont know. Is it really 2 weeks how do you feel about TTC again now?

A colleague went on Mat Leave today, i was so pleased for her but then i saw the cute babygro's bought from the whip round, it just got me soooo broody. She gave me a reassuring hug, i think she thought i was sad about the MC. Well i was but not in that way. I am resigned that my baby due in October is no longer no more, i now dont want to replace her ('her' - where did that come from ) no i was broody for what i want in the future. That is good right? I think i turned a corner there

shakes manda OK, so you have six weeks. Four at least but then eight at most. Sooo, i was going to suggest weaning DS2 off the bedtime boobie and co sleeping BUT i wonder if that will stress him out too much, like when bambino arrives? OTOH he might just want to have his own bed when LO comes along, i would totally leave it to him. See LO will be in either a moses basket or pram, (never co-slept so dont know when they start sleeping with you) so you have at least another six weeks after LO arrives to metal about it. Could you then have a toddler bed in your room and have LO co-sleeping???

On the subject, DS's current dialogue of choice is:

I got a winky
Daddy's got a big winky (cue pride bursting from DH)
Mamma no got a winky
Coz mammas a girl
Mamma got boobies

I am never taking him out of the house, at least for the next 6 months

Martha - DSS heard his uncle calling his daddy a penis and it was his insult of choice for a long time. He went through a phase of shouting it loudly in public, which was mildly embarrassing - for a 3 year old, his enunciation of that particular word was impressive at one point he also told his uncle he would 'mash him up with my metal penis'. It took a long time to persuade him that a penis was the same thing as a willy and not a weapon of some variety...

GPB

I love the idea of a child threatening to mash someone up with their metal penis. Too funny but don't let social services hear that...

pebs after my first mc ("natural") at 9 weeks it took over a month to get a negative test so when I got a negative 2 weeks after my erpc at 11 weeks I was dead chuffed. The things that make you happy after a mc....

Lays out late night cheese on toast, as a little snack to keep us going.

Hello sunshine, cake and kirrin. Sorry you have had to join us here but just wanted to say hi!

tits, I would give your mw a call about constipation- you might need a prescription. I cannot remember who had constipation a while ago, but someone was having a horrid time and then were given the medicine to huge relief! From my experience, pharmacists can be really wary about giving meds to pregnant or breadtfeeding women, or maybe I am just unlucky enough to have encountered more than my fair share of awkward types

grandpoohbah sorry about you ear. Hope your pain subsides. Get your antibiotics out at the meal table. At least there is one good side effect of all this.

cake, I wanted to, and did conceive straight after mc. The only thing I would say is make sure your body and mind are up to it. I feel knackered, having had 8 weeks of one pregnancy on top of this one. It seems like I have been in the first trimester since the start of time, (actually it has been since Christmas, so long enough). But it was the right thing mentally for me, and I was very lucky indeed to get pregnant straight away.

I am doing better today. I have been eating cheese. Craving it, and also turned ravenous. I think this must be a good thing. Sadly, I have either given myself a cheese- based paunch, or I have started to show. Either are possible. I just don't want people to know yet. I am struggling to find clothes that conceal rather than show off my tummy. I don't want to even think about telling people till after 16 wk scan, if we get that far. By that time I'll be huge!

Manda you are an old hand at this newborn lark. I am convinced that you will have it all sorted. And was thinking of my grandad, father of six, who said 'every child that is born brings room for themselves*.

jaffa that was brill advice to manda It just about sums it up