Just MC and ready to try again? Pregnant after MC and seeking somewhere safe to hide? Come on down to the shiny new baby-friendly MOSH PIT.

[MarthasHarbour]

There's cake for scoffing, backs for patting, and screeching death metal for all your METALLING moments. All welcome!

Our last thread reached 1000 posts so i hope you have all found your way here! I have steaming hot chocolate croissants (or as my colleague said 'chocolate pasties'), blueberry muffins, grapefruit segments and hot buttered toast for brekkie!

Settle into the mosh pit, we have special VIP area's for those on the 2WW, the new bumps metalling with segregated areas for the first/second/third trimesters and the club class cocktail bar for those who have just got AF and can get-pissed let loose for the first two weeks!

I have managed to have 2 naps today - yes you heard me - 2 naps!!!! I was getting pains across the top of my bump and so curled up on the sofa and fell asleep, clearly I'm more tired that I thought I was.......just treated myself to a take away (DH is being good so had steak and salad) I don't really care about being good anymore - I shall worry about that once this giant malteaser is gone!!! Thanks for all your supporting words ladies - my body seems to want to start labour but I think this kid is just too comfortable to make an exit anytime soon!!!

pebs that is bloody shitty luck to be honest - I have no experience of MM as I MC'd naturally and don't have anything to compare it to. Hopefully the other ladies have been able to offer some good advise for you. Sending you big hugs from here though. Xxx

Marthas we totally understand - this is one of those horrible 'anniversary' dates and so you snapping is all par for the course. It is a time of sadness and anger and being upset is something that is all part of it. Hopefully our night out will help you.

far eating every couple of hours is exactly what I had - if I didn't eat every couple of hours I puked. I also had to have fizzy drinks but to not overload myself with sugar I had sparkling water with squash which really helped with the topsy turvy tummy feeling.

tits holding your hand from here - hoping that things are ok and your not given anything else to metal about.

missc so glad things are carrying on well and that you have a consultant to move on to - the fact that they will do their own scans should allow you to ask all the questions you like and get someone very qualified answering them rather than the usual GP 'mmmmmm well it seems ok' crap!!!

one day don't worry about being on top - I'm sure if we go through everyone on the BFP list we will have all manner of conception positions. Fingers crossed it brings positive results.

tiago I had a horrendous cough/cold in the early weeks of my pregnancy and was drinking covonia - straight from the bottle and didn't realise that I was even pg. After getting my BFP I read that decongestants shouldn't be taken in early pg........queue some serious metalling. I think the main thing is to take it easy and take care of yourself - drink plenty, rest and take paracetamol to keep your temperature down. I know you might not want to take any drugs but even if it's one or a half it will help!!

boris so sorry your feeling so down - just glad your hanging around a little. Hopefully we can all be here for you when your ready. Xx

Big wave to pie, poppy, Manda, tas, Jaffa, leedy and midget and anyone else I've missed!!

We did wait six months after last mc as we thought it would be good to have a break. It also gave us chance to go to Australia!

I am not waiting around again though i will wait for first af as last time it took 12 weeks to come back and it would be very stressful to keep thinking I might be pg for all that time if it happened again. After last erpc ad came back within the normal timescale so hopefully I won't have to wait too long to try again.

I feel hopeful about the future. I was really metalling this morning about why I would be mc'ing again. Now I know this is a rare situation I feel much better about my future.

Found out another interesting fact about these twins. Most identical twins split the egg by day two after conception and form their own sacs but these split the egg on day 9 to 11 so they have to share the sac that is already formed, after day 12 an egg that splits will be a conjoined twin. How the bloody hell have I ended up having a pg like this??

Hopefully the hospital will be able to tell me more next week.

Pens I'm so sorry but at least this time with the rarity of the situation this has lessened ur concern over it happening next time . Take care of yourself and get all ur questions ready for your appt next week x

Martha yay for cycle buddies - though I hope that's not too strenuous I hate pedalling

Iq any news - waiting with baited breath here for some wonderful graduation news x

Hi to those I've missed I do read the thread but it moves so fast ANC my phone is pants for updating

Protocol means I get to do breakfast today ?!? So here it is ... Croissants with and without chocolate bacon drained tea and toast costs vanilla latte and of course some maple syrup pancakes

As for me... Sore boobies without the need to prod and feeling nauseous ic this am bfn but am only 12 dpo- guessing the nausea could be nerves and excitement only 8 days till I fly to Barbados to get married!!! So at least if I've not cracked it this month I can have a good drink at the wedding!! Perhaps I can hi jack the virtual night out as my hen do ????

Take care all x

silly phone !! Bacon drained tea!!! Should be bacon sarnies and tea !!!

bacon drained tea sounds interesting, I'll try it!

iq sorry didn't reply to your lovely suggestion of getting something for when I go back to work, I got my hair cut yesterday, hoping that will make me feel like a true professional and not someone who will sob in the loos all day! Though DH didn't notice, even with prodding! sigh.

boris sorry you're feeling down be very kind to yourself, wish I could say something to make you feel better. My aunt sent me a card after the ectopic saying 'acceptance will set you free'. I'm still working on that one, but I can see her point.

pebs still thinking of you

everyone else, have a good weekend! I have the worst head cold I've had in years and feel absolutely rubbish. Just needed to have a brief moan about that. But I'm def up for a night out, I've been eating blue cheese, dying my hair and drinking G &Ts to make up for not being pregnant anymore, a night out sounds just the ticket!

Just briefly hopping on to point out that we need a new thread very shortly! I feel that it's good form for one of our ttc'ers to do it so won't go ahead myself...

Bacon drained tea, eh? Well, I skipped dinner last night so I'll try it...

bumSquash you are in this together. Its a partnership. Don't push him away. Its important to share the good moments and the bad. When you see that heartbeat you will want to share that with him. To deny him of that doesn't seem right to me. But its your relationship so you know best.

Pebs I had 2 ERPCs for 1 MC as they didn't do the first one right. Unfortuntely this wasn't discovered until 3 months down the line. So if you do have an ERPC insist on a scan to check its all gone. The same with medical management. My other 2 MCs happened naturally but again i asked for scans to check all gone.

Update from me. I had dating/Nuchal scan yesterday. Was amazing. I felt more confident than my last 12wk scan which resulted in the MMC, but still there is always that element of doubt. The doc was great she knew how I would be feeling so straight away she turned the sound for the heartbeat on and it came booming out of the speakers. So that was really emotional. That was followed by 40 minutes of checks. I had no idea what they were able to look at. So detailed.

For anyone considering going private for a scan I highly recommend the Fetal Medicine Centre. I had my blood taken for the combination test at 11am then the scan at 11.30, by the end of the scan they had results so I had my Downs risk result there and then. 1 in 6000 for Tricomy 21 and 1 in 10,000 for Tricomy 13/18. So was very pleased.

After 2 years on this journey it was very hard to ever believe that I would ever get to have my very own set of scan shots. Still having to pinch myself.

Morning all! So sorry for my AWOL-ness, realised that with being off work this week doing DIY I just haven't had the same amount of time I seem to have when at work to post and catch up on MN so I spent over an hour catching up on the posts I'd missed last night. I won't try and respond to everything as I'm sure I'll get some of it wrong, but...

pebs so so sorry to hear your news! The limbo time is truly awful, I had that for a week between scans when they found my mmc and the waiting and hoping that somehow, just somehow, it will all be ok is v v tough...thinking of you!

iq hope all is well and that things start to progress more quickly for you and that you're not waiting with on and off start stop situation for too long! The prospect of all that is starting to get rather more real in my head ow as I'll be 30 weeks on Tuesday not sure where the last 10 weeks have gone!

DH and I are away for a nice relaxing weekend in a hotel after all out hard work at home this week, been so nice to chill, read, catch up on MN on the iPad and generally take life very easy with lots of naps!

Promise to keep a better eye on things in the next few days/weeks and not slip off the hothead again!

Hi ya, i have been Awol too so haven't caught up much.

Sorry to hear your news Pebs. I hated waiting around. So far I'm not dealing well with the fact that I don't have any control over my body!

Hi everyone else!

tas I have no idea where I heard the link but guess it must have been via Dr google. The consultant said it wasn't linked though so Dr google could be full of shit.

I've just told my in laws. Wish I Hadn't. The freaky positive lady has been replaced with the realist that knows an 8 week scan means fuck all. Oh well, done it now....gulp. Come back scary positive lady. All is forgiven.

Morning all - well that amazing moment has actually come around - my DUE DATE!!!

Ladies before I forget/get wrapped up in first time motherhood I want to thank you all so much for your help, advice, support, smiles and laughter over the past 40 weeks. Can't believe after everything that's happened this day has arrived......now all we have to do is wait until this LO arrives!!!

Morning ladies

Not much to report here, still exhausted, still terrified about the scan tomorrow. Will they even see anything at all at 5 weeks?!
I had a day on Friday of constant phone calls from midwives, haematologists, consultants, scan apts. Was very overwhelming.

Love to all, I hope everyone is well.

tits they will hopefully be able to see that things are in the right place, though it is a bit early for finding a heartbeat - so don't worry about that. If they can't see anything clearly, they will most likely suggest another scan in a week or so.

I have moved my early scan to be a week tomorrow, as it turned out that dh could not make the one on Thursday. I will be 7+6 then.

So - yesterday, being too ill to do anything, I went on the 4oD website and watched every episode of the current OBEM. It was truly educational.

IQ hurrah for being at the final hurdle. Start shoving down curries and shagging for England and that baby will be out in no time.

Tits likely to just see the yolk sac and take some measurements. Guidelines say rescan in 2 weeks where you will def see a HB if all developing. Like Tiago says, don't worry if you can't see much.

Tiago good luck with your early scan, I have another on Wednesday. My scan was at that this week and it was amazing how much more you can see than at 6+.

Been doing a small amount of mettaling over the weekend. A lot of boob prodding. Took dd swimming and realised both tummy and boobs no longer feeling hard. Presume this was the weightlessness in the water but told DH it was the beginning of the end. I preferred the positive crazy woman she was annoying but easier to live with. Only have to wait till Wednesday till 8+5 scan. I will allow positive woman back in again if all ok then. Have a good day everyone.

Morning all...just checking in from our breakfast table at our hotel whilst DH reads his newspaper

iq great to hear that you've reached edd!! Now the real waiting begins I guess! Let's hope mini iq decides to get a move on!

Hope all those with scans are hanging in there and doing ok...early weeks are so so tough post mc...thinking of you all!

I'm back to work tomorrow and have a huge deadline to get sorted for the end of the month so that could be fun! Hoping my brain doesn't have another mushy week!

Happy due date IQ - get jiggy!

Hope you have a good scan today tits

sorry about the metalling midget I'm right there with you.

thinking of you pebs and hoping you're okay.

hope your cold is getting better tas

I am really metalling. I metal the minute I feel anything wet in my knickers and as you all know that can be aLOT. And then I'm not reassured when it's not blood, it's just as bad if it's clear, as then I think I'm leaking, and I'm spending a stupid amount of time terrified to move in case it make more leak happen, then relieved when I eventually have to move because it doesn't leak or not as bad as I thought it would, but it's a totally stupid way to live life.

I am currently too scared to go running, go swimming, go to the gym, have proper sex (see above about being leak-terrified, can't cope with the sensations) or really do anything that makes for a healthy lifestyle. I'm quite fit and energetic (well I was) so I feel very physically frustrated but I'm using my dodgy hips as an excuse not to do anything at all, when really it's because I'm scared of dislodging the baby. Although to be fair my hips have gotten a lot better for the rest. I'm scared to sneeze and couch and fart and poo in case I strain and break my waters or dislodge the baby

I'm 15 weeks so right in the middle of the two losses, coffee bean at 13+6 and mini-toe at 17+3.Mini-toe'd due date next week is not not helping. To be frank I'm shitting bricks. As gushgate will have shown you I'm losing the plot. I have the consultant appointment at 17 weeks, it's like a beacon where hopefully I can get some kind of reassurance.

This is my new plan and what I really wanted to run past you lot, I was going to ring the MW and make an appt this week (I've still only ever seen her once so this would be the 16 weeks appt) and I was going to ask her if for the next few weeks I could come in every week for a doppler and a feel. So I'd see her at 16 cons at 17 then her at 18 19 20 until anomaly scan. Then see how I feel. Do you think they'd let me do that?

morning everyone

MissC i think that sounds like a very sensible plan, i cannot see why they would refuse, even if they compromise and say every two weeks then it is something to put your mind at rest. But go in high at every week and see how you get on. I completely understand your metalling, but remember every day you are nearing closer to your LO, it may seem like a lifetime away but you are getting there.

waves at midget and has a little snigger at you prodding your boobs and belly in the swimming pool, getting looks like this I shall look forward to welcoming back the positive midget after your 8 week scan

tiago step away from OBEM... the girls on here have bollocked me on many an occasion for watching that - i used to be the one to bollock until i got drawn in!

tits hope the scan goes well today, pop in to the mosh pit on your way home wont you?

IQ i am all goosebumpy! god knows what i am going to be like when i am pacing up and down the virtual labour ward when you go in! i shall send your book today. I can remember my due date with DS, me and my friend were due on the same day and were sitting in my back garden eating ice lollies (June 3rd 2009) it was lovelyand warm. It was like this: any sign B1 - not from me B2, any from you B2 - nope not me B1 ad infinitum! We both went almost 2 weeks over, so it could be a while yet, but then when B2 had her second DD was born bang on due date!

waves at everyone else i shall go on over and start a new thread (unless it has been done )

just to add, i am on full metal throttle. am on CD24 so theoretically i could test, but then i wouldnt be 4+1 until Sunday and i want to try and wait until i am late this time (2xCPs have made me sceptical about early testing). We are at the IL's this weekend so will test on Sunday. However i have had tender boobies, been v tired (bed by 9pm last night), imagining nausea... the usual 2WW shit!

Wow this thread is HUGE! How on earth have i missed it??

Can i join please?
Had 6mcs (every investigation going, all normal btw)
HAd given up trying as it was taking 2 years plus to concieve and to boot, i am 42 this year.

Was going to make an appointment at my GP to bemoam my periods, wondering if i am peri menopause, when lo and behold, no af arrived Its been 6 months since my last mc.

So i am 5 weeks 2 days.
Knicker checking galore, probably every minute.
This time i am not resorting to things like black knickers so i cant see any blood, im risking it with white ones.
Im strangely calm though, keeping it to myself just ebcause we told every one we had stopped trying.
Hopefully if this goes wrong, i can do it without any one knowing.
Wont think beyond today, havent looked at due dates, have thrown + tests away...as if it isnt happening.
Trying my best to ignore but my sore boobs are making it hard.

Dont know about any one else, but strong symptoms mean absolutely feck all to me, i always have strong symtoms, but i always mc, so it means nothing.
I just feel numb really.

NEW THREAD OVER HERE LADIES

mrsnesbit welcome. Congrats on your 'no show of AF' we have a new thread over yonder so please come on over. We shall make sure you remain calm throughout. so sorry about your MCs but you seem to have the right mindset. well done on your PMA

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