TTC for 10+ months, part 5

[MuddyWellyNelly]

Filled up our old one, I'll put our updated list on a separate post so that it's not a huge chunk of text at the top of every page.

Old thread here. Newbies always welcome, much as we'd like to hope nobody ever gets to this stage of TTC!

Saunters in, adjusts my "I'm Impregnable - What's Your Super Power" badge and realises that my superhero cape is tucked into my knickers

nelly Crikey, 6 weeks to get confirmation of an appointment sounds a long time. There can be no harm in phoning and playing the old trout card!

ladygee I'm thinking of you and can't imagine how stressed you must be trying to work out what the heck everything means. Like nelly I don't know much at all about IVF and so don't know what would be normal or how similar a 2ww for you might be to an unassisted 2ww. Do you even have a 2ww as such??? All I can say is my fingers are tightly crossed for you and sending you hugs.

euro Your state of revelation sounds like a nice place to be I wouldn't mind the being placed last in the TTC race (lots of practice at that during the hell that were PE lessons at school!) it's the fear of not being placed at all that does my head in.
Giggling at how wine is your "only vice". Made me think of Larkrise to Candleford.

joycep Glad that the Anusol is working. I was thinking how sad it would be if we were all to get pregnant and lose eachother on MN IFSWIM. Obviously I want us all to get our BFPs soon but would so miss talking to you all. I had a little nosey at our Grads thread and it was sooooooo quiet. Sad to think that. So come on ladies we not only need BFPs but we need to synchronise them too - no pressure there then

wine I am surprised that we have had as many as one BFP a month on this thread. It doesn't feel like as many as that.
Your God dream is so weird. I would the dream as gospel that you will get pregnant. It is a sign for sure, maybe not divine but definitely a sign I sometimes, in my more cuckoo moments, imagine Gandalf God sat up there with a big pointy finger, aka sponge Gladiator fingers, pointing to who will get pregnant each month and then getting to me and booming "not you".

It is great that you and kitty met up! The thought of a general meet up is a lovely idea but whispers that I agree with nelly about feeling a little scared at the thought Not sure why, maybe it is the thought of being a disappointment and exposing how in RL I am even more mousey and boring than I am on MN. Think that TTC has knocked my confidence so much that I am disproportionately terrified of new things.

mrsd I had to laugh at the BSE thing. Mind you my Mum had a friend who got the human form of it, so I guess I shouldn't laugh at the precautions taken where you live.
Your friends e-mail was gobsmacking. Each sentence just got worse and worse. Fancy telling someone, an ex work colleague at that not even a good friend, to basically pull their finger out and get babied up!

minnie how are your period pains today? Better I hope.

Good luck fatima for Friday, will be thinking of you.

Stasi the difficulty with early testing with IVF (or superovulation) is that the trigger shot for ovulation/egg collection contains HCG, the pregnancy hormone. So if you test early, you might be seeing that rather than evidence of a pregnancy. What me and a couple of the other superovers are doing is testing really early and watching the second line fade until we are comfortable that the fake HCG has gone so that any later tests will give a true reading.

It's lovely that you met up with runner. I remember her from the early days of the thread.

I'll have everything crossed for you, ladygee.

I think we are all fairly scattered on this thread, aren't we? I'm London based. Anyone else?

Euro I was thinking just testing every day to check it hadn't gone negative, rather than relying on the positive, IYKWIM. Though, I guess even a negative might not mean much, just like a too early test doesn't on a normal cycle could be a false +ve or -ve.

nelly pout - the two week wait is essentially the same as any month, counting ovulation from when they collect the eggs. Technically, 14 days from then is Monday but my appt is on Tuesday first thing.

As euro says, I can't test too early because of the trigger shot containing HCG. It's supposed to be out of your system after 10 days or so but I don't want to get my hopes up or have them dashed unnecessarily.

stasi - the nurses have said you might get spotting or even bleeding before test day and that doesn't mean it hasn't worked, equally no bleeding doesn't mean it has! Implantation bleeding hasn't been mentioned, I think because it's rare - and maybe not everyone is sold on the idea? - so it's easier to just not mention it. Hope your appointment goes ok tomorrow, sorry you're still in pain.

On the meet up, I'd be a bit nervous too pout. I'm as plain and boring as they come, and fairly shy to boot (selling myself well, aren't I? ). I think you're right euro, we're pretty much spread the length of the country but I'd be happy to travel. I'm in West Yorkshire.

One of the recent pregnancy announcements I received followed IVF which my friend thought had been unsuccessful. She got a normal period at the expected time and so didn't even bother to test. It was only when she went for her next appointment to talk about round 2 that she was tested and found out she was pregnant after all!

Stasi the difficulty for me is that I am on the immune-suppressants too, which I am supposed to take for the shortest time possible, hence early testing is encouraged. But needs to be late enough not to catch the HCG!

Yay that people think a meet up would be nice. We should try and catch you mrsden it would give us a goal to aim to I am more than happy to travel - maybe London would be easiest? I don't believe for a minute that any of you are ordinary or remotely boring! And let's face it, we do have enough in common to sustain conversation! And it would be ace if bumps came along too. When the days get longer I think we should come up with something perhaps with some ideas of where/what a good meet up could be. if it gets weird we could all sit and talk to each other on our Mumsnet apps

I had no idea that you could get false positives with ivf or super ov. What a bummer. It would give me the strength to hold off the daily testing tho. Annoying you have to test euro do you see the hcg fade away? I think I'd be so to see two lines of whatever origination. I really should be marking so I'm going to wander off again for a bit.

It's very springy weather here

Hi ladies. I'm off work poorly sick today - a double whammy of period and migraine. Don't you just love hormones?! Having slept most of the day, I'm starting to feel a bit better. Probably shoulnd't be on the 'puter, but nevermind.

Wine I love the idea of a meet up! I too would be scared you'd all think I was boring, but at least I'm pretty sure you're not all old pervs, pretending to be ttc ladies . I too am London based, although the in laws are in West Yorkshire. One of the nicest things about clinic open days is seeing that other barrens are normal! I feel like I know you all and it would be lovely to see you in RL. Of course, if your dream is true Wine, you'll have given birth to the next Jesus by then!

Mrsd at your "friend's" comments. What an awful, insensitive thing to say. I have friends like that and have had to tell them about our problems, although I don't think that's really helped. Definitely a coven thing - they can't understand how we exist without being part of them and are desperate for us to join.

stasi Hope dr helps with your poorly wrist. Sounds like RSI?!

Joy pleased to hear the anusol might be doing the trick. The things us ladies have to put up with! Although I guess men can get piles too.

mini Lol at the idea of anusol and pee sticks as identifiers! Sounds like my bathroom cabinet.

Fatima Hope all went well with EC today and that you are now having a nice rest and being looked after.

ladyg I think you are totally allowed a bit of a melt down! You have been so calm and collected through out. Hearing about it all, has really made me feel that I will be able to do it too, although I will be much more of a wuss and have lots of crying fits....

Hello to pout, euro, kitty and everyone else. Think I'm going to try to take some migraine tablets now the ibuprofin ones have worn off. Urgh.

ladygee Yes rather bloated. It's quite uncomfortable, especially my right hand side as my right ovary is huge. Feels awkward when I get up and walk. Not long now though so it's all worth it. I've got a few pairs of hockey joggers that i've been living in. Keep having to wash them though as they get saggy bums really easily.
You're doing so well, can't believe you haven't POAS yet :) We don't get a blood test, just get giving a POAS date. I've read that with using the progesterone pessaries AF shouldn't arrive before the test date, but then also read a few people where it has. I think i may have to be grim and using the pessaries up the bum instead of fanjo...lovely

Thanks mrsden there's lots of follicles growing nicely so hopefully lots of eggs too. And what a cow the friend is. You'd think it would be obvious that after that length of time you weren't just waiting and you might actually have problems. I'd never ask something like that in case I upset someone

minipie All injections are done, well I think I have one more hcg injection after ET for luteal phase supposrt but thats it. Just antibiotics and pessaries to look forward to

euro I suffer from IBS as well. But also have a history of recurrent cystitis so not sure which "door" to go for

Gin Wherebouts in West Yorks are the in law? I might know them

Thank you for you "good luck" thoughts kitty, nelly and pout

Oooh i'd be up for a meet up, we can all wear badges with different slogans on. I'm West Yorkshire based, close to South Yorks, Manc and Derbyshire though. I do go to London for odd weekends though, got close friends and a brother down there
Feeling a bit nervous about EC tomorrow. A mixed bag of feelings really. Hoping it'll be fine and i'll be tucked up in bed watching afternoon tv and MNing before I know it

I am chuckling at the idea of us all sitting around a table somewhere in RL, but eyes down on our phones posting on MN instead . This is rather like Mr Nelly and I of an evening, messaging each other on faceboak!

I am fairly confident though that none of you will be shy, boring, plain or mousey, and definitely not a disappointment! What I am expecting though, is that we'll all be squirming on our seats - not from nervousness, but from uncomfortable nether regions - front, back, inside, outside, things stuck up them, things falling out of them . And the loos will be busy with us all running in and out for serious amounts of knicker checking

Ha ha nelly at communal gusset checking!

Oh best luck fatima I hope it all goes well and that you happily sedated.

gin sorry you've had a yukky day. What a horrible combination.

Right, I'm going to go and listen to woo and do home yoga because I'm too lazy to go to my class.

Dammit, I have been tricked into opening a "Yay! I'm pregnant!!" thread. It's called Don't know what to do now, and I thought maybe it was someone feeling a bit low, but alas (for me) it was someone who just got their BFP and it was about their work. They had been trying for 6 months, but by my current standards that is definitely not long enough to register on my Empathy radar!

Still, that's better than earlier. I dipped my toe in Infertility (in Read Only mode) thinking that it might make me feel a bit less deflated. That's terrible isn't it, that I went in purely with the hope of finding others who were suffering even more than me? . Anyway it back-fired, as it made me realise there could be a very long and heartbreaking road ahead for me. And I apologise to those who are on the Infertility threads for treating them, albeit secretly, like a kind of faceless benchmark. again.

Never mind worrying about being boring, now I'm worried you will hate me for being such a bitch!

Oh - had another PG announcement today, albeit not a too bothersome one. A horsey acquaintance popped by to borrow something and told me her daughter was pregnant with her 3rd. "Not planned - she only has to look at a sperm..." at which point I shut my ears and silently swore. The actual announcement would have been ok - I don't know this woman so it's really not an issue. I just could have done without the second piece of information sharing.

There's a free fertility hypnotherapy download (10 mins long) on this site if anyone's interested, another poster recommended it.

www.kristinhayward.com/hypnofertilityhowitworks.htm

carebear i'm loving the CD you sent so thank you again :-)

mrsd I cannot believe the email

Saunters in, adjusts my "I'm Impregnable - What's Your Super Power" badge and realises that my superhero cape is tucked into my knickers
pout you always make me smile

Meeting up is great, I've met up with a couple of women in my area, its nice to put a face to the name, irs a bit like a blind date but way more fun :) I'm certainly keen to meet up

ladyg fingers crossed that its implantation bleeding, its what happened with my first pregnancy, I was so sure it was AF that I didn't test until I was 2 late!!

Waves to everyone else

Just popping in to say ive went mental and tested with an ic. I'm only blooming 10dpo!

Ok i have officially went nuts...IC showed this...

SO i went to asda and bought a twin pack of predictor test and it was as white as a sheet.

Evil evap i think!

Hmm, could be, or could be less sensitive? Try again in a couple of days (or first thing tomorrow) and see. I know everyone thinks the cheapies must be awful, but they might really be as sensitive as they say...

I dont know what to think! I bought two types of test as they had no first response. Its nuts isnt it!

Ok for fear of looking like a crazy woman who has a peeing on sticks obsession if you can be bothered have a look at this

I promise i will stop both peeing and posting!

I can't see the second link izzy but the first one definitely looks like a line. Maybe test with FMU? Fingers crossed it's a line

Morning lovely ladies - I hope you don't mind that I still stalk y'all but I thought I might poke my head in when I saw Izzy's pee stick posts.

I also can't see the second link, it asks me to log in? But the first pic looks like something to me. Did that line come up in the time window that it's supposed to?

Have you tested this morning with FMU?

As far as I'm aware those IC tests are pretty reliable - I got my first positive on one (subsequently backed up by about 1 million other tests because I couldn't believe my eyes!). And at 10dpo you probably would only ever get a faint-ish line on a v sensitive test as it is still pretty early days.

I am keeping everything crossed that this is your time Izzy . I'm intrigued to know though - what was on the second link?

Hi Fatima and biscuits. The second link was another two tests from last night...3 pics in total I have them on photobucket so here is the link http://s617.photobucket.com/albums/tt252/kmacki12/ not sure it'll work cos I am on phone as laptop needs charged and I'm still in bed

s617.photobucket.com/albums/tt252/kmacki12/

Link again!

That looks like a line to me izzy but I should add that I have no experience of what positive tests look like so I don't really have a clue. All I know is that when I've POAS there has been nothing at all to see. If you're only 10dpo then that would explain why it's so faint. I think all you can do is POAS again tomorrow morning with FMU and see if it's there again. Is it just clomid you're on? You haven't had a trigger shot that could distort results?

I can see a line there, izzy - how exciting! And Asda ones are supposed to be pretty good at picking up early results? says the lady who definitely has not been researching which HPT to buy this weekend As mrsd says, it's probably a case of testing again with FMU and seeing if the line gets stronger.

Hi biscuits - how are you doing? Hope all is going well.

gin - what a crappy day you had, sorry. Hope you're feeling better today. I'm also intrigued as to where your in-laws live?

fatima - best of luck today, you'll be fine. And Friday is the best day to have EC as your DH can wait on you hand and foot all weekend! I've read somewhere that you shouldn't get AF whilst on progesterone, but then pretty much all the BFN stories I've read have started with bleeding well before test day... nice to know that whatever stage of this rocky road we're on there is still little consistency.

nelly - Just read back to my explanation of the two week wait and realised I omitted a key piece of info, my luteal phase is usually 10 days and has been known to be six so I never really get a full two week wait.

Izzy - I think I can see a line there too :). Especially on the one that isn't the IC or the Asda one - was that within the time window too? And did the IC line come up within the time frame? I think I can see something on the Asda one - and it's really hard to get the lines to show up on a photo anyway.

As others have said it would be really early to be getting big fat lines at only 10dpo so I think it's just a matter of waiting, crossing fingers and testing with a bit of old fashioned FMU. Still, I think you have every reason to be hopeful there my lovely! I certainly am!

I also wanted to give my best wishes for the IVF'ees at the moment - Fatima I think it is your EC today - best of luck! And Lady is it your test date soon? Will be keeping everything crossed for you.

I'm doing fine thank you for asking. Getting near the end now - I'll be 37 weeks on Tuesday which will officially make me 'at term' so I'm just waiting for it to sort of kick off now! We've had to go for extra growth scans as apparently it's a bit of a whopper, but so was DS so not a huge surprise.

Hope everyone else is doing OK and that the BFPs will be rolling in any day soon.