Mothers of Angel Babies United - wishing for, some of us pg with and some of us holding our Rainbow babies

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Here we go again!
lots of love to all our angel babies! xxx

Omg, am actual horrible mad psycho bitch of a woman to be living with. I'm getting so annoyed at stuff and hate everything! Poor DH! Hopefully a good nights sleep will fix this badness!

Dcb, sorry to hear about your baby, thanks for finding us and telling your story. It's a comfort to hear from someone who has lived through this and found some happiness in their lives. Angel 3 years, life's not fair - I'm so happy you have phoebe to hold now.
Thanks for answering my q about AF - slightly less worried now. Might see the doc if it goes on like this too long, read somewhere you can have progesterone to kick start things, not sure my doc would advocate that though, or if I'd want that. I guess my body needs to heal. X

August, the doctor might just say to wait. Mine said if I hadn't had a period after 6 months then to go back! Luckily it didn't take nearly 6 months, or I would have gone crazy. Yours will probably come soon - were you regular before you got pg?

Angel, hope you get discharged soon and get to take Phoebe home! How lovely it will be to finally be home starting a new life.

Mel, , what have you been doing?

Mel blame it on pregnancy hormones

mel deffo blame it on the pg hormones, I was a bitch the first 4 months last time, I even started to go off my husband for a bit. It was deffo pg hormones, and it settled and stopped in time.
What did you do go on tell.

Hi all. Had a crap night Phoebe wanted feeding all night I got about 30 mins sleep in total.awaiting Drs to discharge me then I m off to mothercare for bottle feeding stuff. I m not sure Phiebs is getting what she needs , my nipples are killing so I want help from mum & ant to help with feeding. The midwives have been crap ( I hate to say ) there so not nurses . They ve never once offered help or showed us how to change a nappy, bathe her or anything. They ll tell u if u ask but no hands on. They ve heard Pheb scream on/ off all night but not offered to help or even knocked on my door. They re really shot and all they ever say is " she's a big girl she needs a lot of feeding!!!" or " she ll be better when her milk comes in" !!!
Shit, shit, shit!!!! Xxx
However, Pheb's is gorgeous!!!

Angel don't worry that's all normal! Seriously, most babies are hungry before your proper milk comes in and you'll know when it does. Your nipples will hurt but that gets better - have you got some ointment? you can also get these great little cooling pads (boots do them - biofem) or cabbage leaves in the freezer do really help - not just an old wife's tale. It gets easier and is worth persevering but ff is fine too if that's what you decide. I found gently pressing down on my lo's chin while latching on helped too - mouth needs to be wide open with nipple towards the roof of their mouth, hurts less like that too. Good luck, hope you manage to catch up on some sleep today [hugs]
Mel yes, tell, what happened?!
Wave to all

Too I was more or less regular but not always to the day, often had quite 26/7 day cycles. Really hope it comes soon. Can imagine my doctor wld say sthg like that too, they're so blasé about everything.

Poor Angel, it sounds exhausting! If you want to keep on with breastfeeding, my MW suggested trying a formula feed if you got to the point of total exhaustion and despair, and (assuming that worked and you got some sleep) trying again with the breast at the next feed. With Thea my milk took 4 or 5 days to come in and then suddenly appeared with a bang - you must be nearly at that point, and then perhaps it will be easier. Maybe some of it is just being in hospital and uncomfy in a strange bed and once you're home you'll feel better. Also, have heard that Lansinoh is great for sore nipples if you're heading to Mothercare.

Angel I hope that you get into a routine with Phoebe that works for both of you. I'm afraid that I'm very much a believer in trying the breastfeeding but if its not working for you or Phoebe then you need to try the bottles. An exhausted Mummy makes things harder for you.
I am feeling much better today - less irritable anyway. I think it all kind of started off at work yesterday when the girl who was due to relieve me from my desk was 10 mins late. DH was out at a meeting last night and so I decided to play a stupid game on my Ipod and just as it started he came home and that annoyed me??? He then tried to be really nice to me, asking if I needed anything, drink etc, and that infuriated me. Poor thing couldn't do right for doing wrong. I need to take a few deep breaths today and calm myself down. Positive note is that I only have to work until Monday at 0500 hrs and then I'm off work until the end of Novemeber. I love annual leave. 3 shifts to go.
Hope everyone else is OK today. [hsmile] - just because its seasonal!!!

Blue - Stunning, am in tears.

Sterre's stone is beautiful blue, I hope it's just what you wanted. It looks very fitting.

mel I remember the irrationality - I pissed myself off with it never mind DH. Hope you feel more yourself soon

August my AF was about 5 weeks after my loss (when I was 20 weeks pg). My normal cycles are only just over 3 weeks, so it was 2 weeks longer than usual - which was how long I bled for post delivery.

Angel hopefully you're discharged and home now. Sounds like a mare of a night. I had no sleep the first couple of nights either, but had opposite problem as Freya just wouldn't feed, and kept throwing up loads of muscousy stuff and I was so scared she would choke so didn;t dare sleep.
My nipples were murder at the start and I would second Too's recommendation of Lansinoh to help them heal. Also to hand express a few drops of milk and rub them into the nipple and let it air dry, the milk apparently will accelerate healing.

Freya's been having the 8 week growth spurt and fed non stop for the last 2 days. Arggh the engorgement this morning!! Ouch! We're trying to introduce her to the bottle so she can take some expressed and I can pop out from time to time, but she's not sure about it and has thrown some absolute screamers, retching, choking etc at the bottle. Looking a bit more promising today though Or else I am a prisoner...

Angel If you still want to try breastfeeding then I'd suggest getting in touch with a proper breastfeeding counsellor, nipples are NOT supposed to hurt when you feed so I'd question whether the latch was right. I started training to be one a while back but had to stop after the first part due to RL. abm.me.uk/ They're who I started training with and I'd recommend them for really hands on advice and also over the phone. They should be able to actually send someone local out to you for practical help if you're interested :)

Will catch up properly after, I'm knackered having just got in. Having a cuppa!

Thanks for that link, Cheese - I have discovered 3 bf support groups within 5 miles of my house! Have bookmarked it for later reference. [hsmile]

Mel, wow, that's heaps of annual leave! Enjoy! Are you going away anywhere?

Spilt, hope Freya takes to the bottle soon! How long does she go between feeds, or is that too variable to count on?

I am glad that you and Angel are telling us how it is. I had had vague ideas of happy baby time in the hospital, wrapped in a lovely bubble of serenity. The concept of no sleep and crying/throwing up/nipple chewing baby to deal with hadn't crossed my mind! This way I shall be better prepared...and will beg and plead with the consultant for a family room where DH can stay with me all night! They may just tell me to piss off, mind, but I am still going to try it on.

Angel, how is it going now?

I have been v extravagant today and bought new Gap mat jeans, booked a haircut, spent £100 in Ikea (how does this happen when you just go in for some £3 fleecy throws and a bathmat?) and...drumroll...ordered an Angel Sounds doppler from Amazon! I am so excited and even paid for first class delivery so it would be here by Monday or Tuesday. It may save my sanity, particularly until Bean is bigger and more easily felt.

Thanks all. Am home now & it's lovely to chill. I ve had a prawn curry, cheese and a glass of rose wine. Was lovely.been to Mothercare bought a load of bottle feeding stuff, Phoebe taken first bottle well.is totally lovely to have her here.our cat getting used to her by avoiding her!!!
Nipples are sore so sticking to the bottles only at the moment. Hope all are well as I ve said it does seem very surreal to finally have Phoebe here but it can be DONE to all of you xxxx

Angel not sure if you remember me from the 20 week loss thread. Just wanted to say congrats on your lovely little girl. I often lurk on this thread and I posted on the old thread but was not sure you would of seen it. Am so glad she has arrived safe and sound and that you are now home.

at the cheese and rose wine! Was it properly bad blue cheese? Or brie? You should have some pate next. Glad to hear Phoebe took to the bottle too! The thought that it can be done is making me well up again.

Hi Lemon, sorry to hear of your loss.

Hey too yes had Brie, pate etc... Was divine. You can do it yes, all that metalling seems another life time away now.
Hi Lemon I do remember you? Thanks very much . Hope u re ok??? Xxx
Morning all: we ce survived the first night. 6 feeds but she's worth everyone of being awake.a million times over.it's lovely being at home. Xxx
Morning all xxx

Hi all,

I should probably introduce myself, I recognise a few of you from the miscarriage board. I lost my little boy in May when I was 20 weeks pregnant. There was no cause found. Been TTC since and got my BFP yesterday. Am completely shocked, since I was getting stressed that I did not conceive in the super fertile time post miscarriage and was starting to doubt it would ever happen for us.

hi lemon sorry to hear of your loss and congrats on the BFP

Too Ikea is always like that, every time we go we end up spending more than we intended.

lemon welcome, sorry for your loss. Congratulations on your BFP, hope all goes smoothly for you.

Feeling quite down today, don't want to do anything really but been getting on with some washing and tidying while dh is at football with ds1. I just feel awful.

We've just come back from the churchyard. Put Sterre's memorial stone on her grave! :)

blue what a lovely day to do it, (I hope its sunny where you are as it is here)

lemon Hi, so sorry for your loss. And congratulations on your BFP.

Im having a real downer today, its 6 months this week, thursday to be exact and I find myself very snappy and easily offended by just about eveyone. Every annoyed with my DH over nothing really, feel very alone and misunderstood. I think some one needs to give me a kick up the jaxey! Any volunteers? Please tell this week is going to be ok?

Not kicking you green because you don't need or deserve it, you have every right to feel the way you do. This week will be ok, you have been through much worse and you will get through this week like you have gotten through the last 6 months. I do feel for you but I want you to know you will be ok, will be thinking about you this week x
blue I bet the stone looks beautiful x
cheese sorry you are having a bad day, hope you feel better soon x
too I spent a fortune the other day in a garden centre on Christmas things! I was only going there to keep my sister company.
angel I am glad you are finally home with your little princess, people keep telling me that it's hard with a newborn and I don't doubt that it is but I think I will always be grateful to hear my baby cry if that makes sense x
lemon welcome and sorry for your loss, we lost our little boy at 24 weeks last october. Congratulations on your bfp, I hope you have a very uneventful pregnancy, there is always someone here to hold your hand when you get worried x

green I agree with ciwi you will be ok, but i tend to fall apart for a bit during Zoe's monthly anniversaries. We are here if you need us xx

cheese

lemon welcome to the thread, I am so sorry for the loss of your baby. My daughter was born asleep at 41 weeks on 28th feb this year. Congratulations on your bfp! I hope you have a boringly healthy pregnancy.