Waiting to try to conceive

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Another thread for those who are waiting to try for a baby. It doesn't matter how long or short the wait; why you are waiting; or how many DC you have. All are welcome.

Old thread here.

hi everyone and welcome.
Ive noticed its been quite quiet recently between people heading of to start TTC and I know I myself have been absent in a while to try and control the overwhelming broodiness with still 3-4 months to go before we can start TTC.
My DH thinks I come on to torture myself but its lovely having people to talk to that understand how Im feeling and dont think Im insane (as DH most definitely does)

How is everyone getting on? Anyone getting near?

Im another one trying to lose weight before starting to TTC, but AF is here and I just want cake!

Jumping in to join the thread if that's OK. I have a 3 yo DS and we had always said we wanted a decent gap if we were going to have another. It would be handy if DS was at school too so only one set of nursery fees, which is quite likely now unless I was to conceive very quickly. I'm 38 so not got ages (have read the stuff about 38 being the age where your fertility really drops). I do have a medical history which means I have to plan very carefully to ttc as it requires changing some of my medications, and I wouldn't want to do that for longer than absolutely necessary. So in my head I'm imagining we would spend 1 year trying and then review the situation if not successful so I can manage the risks.

However, bit of a spanner in the works now. Had just started taking all the vitamins etc in the pre-trying period but now looks as though DH will be made redundant at the end of June. So it is sensible to put ttc on hold, but a bit sad since it will be for an indefinite period.

Anyway, hello all. Hoping people get to the ttc stage as soon as they want.

Hello, I'm still loitering here ... we have booked a week in NY for mid September (the last hurrah!) and I think we'll get cracking on TTC after that. So that gives us only 3 -4 months to go ... scary. We're also planning quite major house renovations for late this year or early next which could be interesting - I really do not want to be heavily pregnant living in a bombsite house or (worse) with my MIL!!

SurreyArmyWife - I am sure you're not the only one feeling like this. I imagine researching is how half the people on this thread got here. It's certainly how I got here!

pinkbuttons - I've got about 9 weeks before I can start trying offically so it is getting close (I just worked that out, it's not engraved in my mind or anything!) I agree with you though, this isn't torture, it's strangely helpful to read everyones stories and know you're not the only one.

Hopefully a few of us will bump into each other in the pregnancy board over the next few months!

Hi ladies, hope you don't mind but I've come for a bit of a whinge! I don't know what the hell is going on with my cycle at the moment and it's doing my head in. We're still waiting to TTC, but 8 months ago I started tracking my cycle and did a few months of OPK's so that I had a rough idea for when we do start.

Firstly, my regular as clockwork 27 day cycle started getting shorter and shorter. Last month it was only 21 days, but the average over the last 8 months has been 24 days. A bit odd and I'd planned to book an appointment with my GP but hadn't got round to it yet.

This month however I'm currently up to day 30. I don't think I've ever had a 30 day cycle in my life. No signs of AF arriving at all, no pmt, no spots, no spotting, no sore boobs, not a thing. I did have what I thought was a cold for a few days from day 25 though and have been stupidly tired.

Of course I started getting a little excited, we did the deed a few times around the time I'd normally ovulate (and DH has started using the withdrawal method recently), an accidental pregnancy would be wonderful IMO! When I ordered the cheapie OPK's they messed up and sent me pregnancy tests instead, so this morning I thought I'd better pee on one. Actually, I used three just to make sure. All BFN.

So where the hell has AF gone? Very confusing.

Well AF turned up on Sunday evening but she only put in a token appearance. She hung around for around 48 hours, wasn't anywhere near as heavy or horrifically painful as usual and promptly disappeared again.

Waiting to TTC is frustrating enough without AF weirdness. I'm sure it's just a blip but it's bloody ridiculous the things that go through your mind. I keep on going from "It's just a blip", through "Maybe I am pregnant" to "Could it be the beginning of early menopause?" (I'm 30, all my female relatives had hysterectomies in their mid 30's for different reasons so no family history to predict when it might occur). I feel like an idiot for thinking half of these things, I'm normally so level headed and logical. Grrr

Lthewife - how annoying for you! Glad AF turned up to put your mind at rest at least. It's hard not to think the worst/best with these things though, don't feel stupid!!

We were waiting until July so getting prettying close but we are starting June now. I'm exciting but really scared now! just another couple weeks to go.

Haven't been on this thread in a while (posted a couple of times, name changed since then).
Mostly because wasn't TTCing then, and not TTCing now!!
so nothing's changed.

Happy Jubilee weekend, all!

Can I lighten the mood with some good news. We got there quickly and DC 2 is due in Feb. hope our luck rubs off when the rest of you start TTC.

Congratulations discowomb !
Disco indeed

Am going down now until we can start TTC. It's finally coming round - although very slowly. Have got another 6 weeks until we can start trying. Conceived with DS within 2 months of stopping my mini pill so DH now believes that we're super fertile and won't let me stop taking the mini pill until the exact time that we start TTC. Am just nervous that we're both older now and that it'll take much longer.
Am super broody. Lots of my friends are either pregnant or have just had their babies and I so want it to be our turn. Also, really want to have only a 2 year age gap between DC.
Aaaargh, it's driving me nuts! Have been ready really to start TTC since the new year!
Good luck girlies!

How old are you crispy if you don't mind my asking?
All the best!

Really want to get on with it now, I'm 30 but OH is 46, so I feel like we are going to have a last-minute rush to have a family. I always wanted to have kids spaced out a bit more than the average (i.e. 4 or 5 years between), but I don't think that's going to happen now. I think if all goes well with #1 I will be trying for a small gap to avoid struggling to conceive #2. It's a scary thought - I think a small gap can work for some people but I'm sure I would struggle!

I'm starting to get paranoid that we might not even have a #1 if we don't get our act together! At the moment we are just working out how to pay the council tax arrears and boring stuff like that :(

Am 33 now but I'd like more than 2 in our brood so want to hurry up and get started for the 2nd so that then we can have another!

WannabeEarthMomma - you've got loads of time, don't worry. Get youself on an even keel with everything and you'll be up the duff before you know it!

I found out I was pregnant with DS 1 a day after I'd been told I might be up for redundancy - not great but hey ho. Luckily wasn't selected but it did put a bit of a dampener on the news. DH was very supportive though which really helped lots and so I wasn't too worried about the money situation as he sorted it all out.

Good luck

Hi all jst wanted to check in.
Have just started my last pack of contraceptive patches, so 3 more months and we are go :) at least feel like Im getting somewhere.
Congratulations Disco thats amazing news!
and Good Luck to those who are nearly/ already TTC. 3 of my close freinds have announced their pregnancies in the past 2 month and another couple have just started TTC there really is no escape! not good for the hormones. Very happy for them all of course and means I will get cuddles from someones baby and of course get to go shopping but obviously not the same as adding to our little family.

Wow PinkButtons that's exciting! I'm off my pills now and taking folic acid, and its only 3 months till we start trying to! So excited, only 12 weeks!!

oh wow thats amazing that already off the pill! My DH doesn't agree with me about coming off the patch early to get my body back to normal he thinks we'll end up with another surprise like DS which would be lovely but bad timing :) so think may take a while from September to actually conceive, may start on the folic acid though, thank you for the reminder.

I'm new here but my OH and I decided two nights ago to start TTC soon. So, I'll finish out this pack of Cerazette, see what happens with my cycle and off we go for #1! I'm 35 so no idea if it'll be quick or long process. My OH is convinced it'll happen immediately and he has a weird thing in his head that he wants a Sept. baby so almost wanted to wait until the end of the year to start. I reckon by the time my body sorts itself out a bit, gets a regular cycle going etc. it'll take a while anyway. Plus, it just isn't that easy! I'm trying to be voice of reason as I know it may not happen right away but can't help hoping it does.

Anyway. Hi!

Aw pinkbuttons hopefully it won;t take to long! Luckly my husband agreeded to getting my hormones back to normal, but mostly because it went hand in hand with coming of my other meds with the Dr's input.

Feels weird to be taking folic acid, because it's actually doing something, one step closer to going for it!

Not long now x

Hi Everyone,

I have been looking at this thread for the past month and wondering if I should post. My OH and I have decided that we are going to start trying in August which I am so excited about! It?s so nice to know that there are other people in my position and are waiting as well.

I have been broody for ages but it has really hit me hard since last weekend. I went down south (I live in Scotland) at the weekend for my best friend?s little boys christening. She already has a son who is 4 and is gorgeous and she now has a 6 month old as well. Both kids are lovely and I just fell in love with the baby. My friend let me feed him, change him, bath him and let me get him to sleep. I left on Monday and was so upset at the thought of leaving them all. When I got home my OH could see how upset I was that he told me to ?make the appointment with the docs to start preparing for August.?

It ?s crazy how broodiness can come on really strong isn?t it?! Since Monday I just can?t stop thinking about babies. It?s got so bad that I was thinking last night of how I will have the nursery laid out ? is that completely mental? I hope some of you have done that haha!!

Anyway, I?m looking forward to hearing from others that are in the same position as me!! x

Kelledin you've just mentioned what I came back to the thread to ask - making a doctor's appointment. Is this something we're supposed to do? And for what - just a general checkup? My friend mentioned that it's good to let your GP know your TTC so that it's on their books and if you have problems they'll know how long you've been trying. She mentioned that someone she knew went to GP after a year of TTC and was told that they'd only start measuring the time from that visit.
I wasn't sure if there was a point to going to GP or do people do that. SUCH a dunce with this stuff! Can't wait for my copy of What To Expect Before You're Expecting to arrive!

Hay Kelledin, I know what you mean about the broodiness just hitting! Mine came on when my little girl moved into her toddler bed, now I'm seeing babies everywhere and looking back through her baby photos!

Your not crazy, I find myself looking at baby furniture and equipment, sometimes just can't help it! Your not as crazy as some of us on here who are planning on being pregnant and studying - for me I'm planning on getting pregnant when I start my final year of uni (september), so the baby will be due just after I graduate!

Good luck with the doctors appointment :) and welcome x

Hi kelledin I agree with sparkly, could be worse, I was daydreaming yesterday about how were going to announce were pregnant, talk about jumping the gun, and were also planning on getting pregnant in final yr of studying. Hormones are a powerful thing and it is crazy how being broody can suddenly hit you.

I was actually going to ask the same as Lorelei what is the TTC drs appt for? My drs can be a bit awkward they dont like giving out appts easily would it be ok to see the nurse?

And yes sparkly how exciting! Told DH last night was going to start taking folic acid after our holiday next week and he actively encouraged it, its a first for someone thats been trying to push back our plans later and later each month. Quite looking forward to this TTC business :)

Aw that's great news pinkbuttons, very exciting! I'm looking forward to all this ttc buisness to, as last time it was a suprise!

I'm not to sure about the doctors appointment, for me I went as I had to discuss my medication, if I can stay on it etc. I'd probably see the nurse just to give them a heads up really.

Just put a countdown on my phone of days till we start ttc lol