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No more Pill!! This is it!! Starting a JULY-AUG 2012 bus...

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PipIsOutNow · 11/10/2011 16:08

Hey guys!! Have taken the big step of coming of the Pill to TTC another DC. This will be DC number 2 - already have DS who is 15 months old and a DSD who is 7 years. We have spoken about another baby for a while now but it has now become more of a reality now that we have decided to stop using any contraception!! I am so so excited but know all too well about this horrible waiting game of patience which seems to get worse even after a BFP as then it's the painful wait for a 12 week scan!! (although this time I may pay for a private scan) I have had a MC before DS was born so am also aware of not getting to ahead of myself...but I'm so excited nonetheless!! I bought my friend a little present for her brand new (with tags on) baby girl and was so so broody. Cant wait for my turn now!!

Sorry for the long warbling post. This is such a hard time, the pre TTC, the waiting for BFP or BFN etc etc...I am the most impatient person in the world as it is...and to not to be able to tell anyone in RL makes it even harder!!

Hope there will be some ladies in the same boat as me!! Look forward to meeting u and sharing journeys!!

Lots of love, Pip xx

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Vinolover · 18/10/2011 09:30

Hi Cherrypie

I know exactly how you feel about cold feet! I desperatly want this but im also very scared about the whole thing. I think it just shows the amount of thought you're putting into this and not just jumping in both feet first.

Good luck to you!
Xx

CupOfBrownJoy · 18/10/2011 12:36

well said, Vino.

My first reaction when DP and I agreed to ttc was fear! DP was just excited and couldn't understand why I was so scared!! I have a feeling this is because he hasn't really comprehended what he's let himself in for (yet!) Smile

Thanks for all the answers to my question, and thanks for the link, Caffeine. I'm quite lazy about jumping straight in the shower (not very romantic!) so now I think that's probably a good thing as it gives the little swimmers more time!

DP can't believe his luck at the moment - I'm due to be at my most fertile from tomorrow to Monday, so I've been insatiably trying to get as much practising done as possible! He's not complaining... Blush

Welcome to MN and onto the bus, Fishpants!

Good luck to everyone for this week...

Tequilamockinbat · 18/10/2011 17:43

I'm pleased somebody mentioned fear, I have that aswell. AF was a couple of days late last month and I was really scared but excited at the same time.

I didn't have this with DD as I was a few months PG before I found out.

It's certainly a strange feeling!

cherrypiew3 · 18/10/2011 20:21

Evening Ladies

Well glad i am not the only one that has cold feet, it is a very strange feeling. I am very excited though and wish you ladies lots of luckSmile

Fishpants · 18/10/2011 21:40

I'm also very scared - especially as I'll be going it alone, as such. I've always been a firm believer of the camp that 1 supportive, loving, stable parent is better than 2 unloving and unstable parents...now that I've finally decided to take the plunge (there were a lot of uhm's and ahh's for over a year) it feels scary.

But I have to just trust that if it was meant to be, it will be, and I know I'll be the best mommy ever of course [hwink]. As my cycle's been irregular I'm supposed to start testing with OPK's on Day 10 but think I'm going to wait til Day 12 as they've been longer rather than shorter lately and don't want to waste the expensive things.

CupOfBrownJoy · 19/10/2011 06:17

ok so, just out of interest, what's the scary bit for everyone?

I think for me it is just the sheer responsibility and long-termness of the decision.

It just feels like the most important decision I'll ever make, but I'm going ahead because I can't imagine NOT having children, and if my little brother (ok he's 32 Blush) can cope, then frankly so can anyone!

Vinolover · 19/10/2011 10:11

I think there are many aspects to be scared of.
For many having their first baby it's the unknown. For me personally I worry about how my children will like having a little brother or sister (especially as the're older), I also worry that because I already have two healthy children im scared im tempting fate ( I had this fear with #2 also). Then I worry about money and what happens if something goes wrong and we have another mouth to feed.
The one thing I I don't fear this time, which I know many women do when expecting #2, is worrying I won't love the next baby as much as the first because I know there is enough love to go round :)
Xx

Goldenbrown1981 · 19/10/2011 12:52

Money. I have no idea how much a baby costs (I'm fairly sure it's a LOT) and I'm so worried about how we will cope, but we will. Belts will be tightened etc. I figure if we wait until we have enough spare cash then we will wait forever

Fishpants · 19/10/2011 13:52

I worry about so many things - stigma attached to single parenting, more so from my family than anyone else. Money, as golden said, I worry about not being able to afford lots of things, but there are so many more important things in this life than money.

I worry about the baby - will he/she be angry that I didn't give him/her 2 parents instead of one? Hopefully as baby grows, they will understand that families are made of many different cohesive elements and some are different than others. But I still worry [hsad]

And, like Cup the sheer LONG-TERM ness. 18+ years of living at home for a start...

Fishpants · 19/10/2011 13:53

Oh, little update - did my first OPK today. The 'test' line was fainter than the 'reference' line which is supposed to indicate a definitive NO but I'm having a little test anxiety [hgrin] ... does the faintness of the line mean it's on its way? GAH!

kirrinIsland · 19/10/2011 16:57

For me it's definitely the long termness - it pretty much the only decision you make in life where there is no going back. I worry about how it will be having 2, but I know I want more than one so I'm just trusting that it'll all work out fine!

fishpants I think it a line doesn't count for anything on an opk unless it is darker than the control line, but don't quote me on that :).

cherrypiew3 · 19/10/2011 21:49

vino You seem to have the same worries i do, i have 3dc and worry about the effect another baby will have on them. How old are you other dc mine are 9,7 and 5. I also think along the lines of i have 3 healthy children and would we be tempting fate i mentioned this to dh the other night and his replied to this with i think you are thinking about all this to much lets just get on with it.

fishpants Like you say there are lots of different family units. Baby will be loved and thats all that mattersSmile Dont want to be nosey so dont answer if you dont want to but have you told your family. I have not mentioned anything to anybody that we are ttc #4. When we told family we were ttc#3 we had lots of issues and people trying to change are minds this time i am keeping quite untill we are pg that way if anyones says anything to us it will be to late to care.

CupOfBrownJoy · 20/10/2011 10:14

Has anyone told people in rl that they are ttc?

I talked to my mum about the possibility before we decided to go ahead, but haven't mentioned anything since. I told my friend but she is now trying to dissuade me, which is really annoying tbh. The issue is that DP and I aren't married and she thinks we are "rushing".

That has rather put me off discussing it with anyone else, and really its only mine and DP's business anyway....

He's buying zinc today

cherrypiew3 · 20/10/2011 20:45

CUP i have told one friend in rl and she was [hshock] that we are ttc again and asked why when we already have 3.

Have any of you started to take folic acid or anything like that yet?

CauldronOfBrownJoy · 20/10/2011 21:13

I'm taking folic acid and zinc and DP is taking zinc. I've not got much of idea what it's meant to do apart from it's "good" and DP seems to think zinc is a bit like Viagra

horseylady · 20/10/2011 21:30

I'll also join in :o) 12 months into trying....currently 2 days late but pretty sure we'll be trying again in a couple of weeks!!!

salt1 · 20/10/2011 22:09

can i also join you ladies, am currently trying for #1 at the age of 37! very worried about being too old ect. any support greatfully received

Fishpants · 20/10/2011 23:10

Cup I have mentioned it to one friend who thinks it's fine but not brilliant, if you see what I mean.

Apart from that nope - no one's business but my own and hopefully if successful then everyone will be positive (ha...)

Took another OPK today with no joy, roll on tomorrow!

kirrinIsland · 21/10/2011 00:07

I'm taking folic acid. Not heard of taking Zinc though - what's the benefit of that?

I've only told one friend we are ttc, and only because she told me she was! I'm pretty sure people will think we're mad due to the potential age gap so I don't want to invite negative comments. Like fishpants says, everyone will be positive once you've actually done it but not necessarily before.

Welcome to all the newcomers. horseylady fingers crossed - you never know!
salt 37 isn't too old, probably about average these days - I'm only a couple of years behind you :)

CauldronOfBrownJoy · 21/10/2011 06:21

Welcome horseylady and salt!

Fingers crossed horseylady, and I'm only a couple of years behind you too Salt (34 in a couple of weeks)

Its funny how people think they can comment on you ttc isn't it? If/when I fall pregnant I'm actually planning on letting my work friends and colleagues think its a surprise. Daft I know but I also know EVERYONE will have an opinion on it...

CauldronOfBrownJoy · 21/10/2011 06:22

oh, I think zinc has a positive effect on your egg formation or something and on sperm quality. I think someone told me that upthread.... can't check now as am late for work!! (Roll on half term....)

CauldronOfBrownJoy · 21/10/2011 15:58

oh and one more question - what is AF?

kirrinIsland · 21/10/2011 19:47

Never worked out what it stands for cup but it means your period

Vinolover · 21/10/2011 21:18

Zinc is meant to help male reproduction and similar benefits for the woman. We were ttc for nearly 6 mths with dd and the month DH started taking zinc I fell pregnant. Could very well be a coinscidence but im trying again with it anyway.

Everybody (apart from inlaws) know we are trying because I was just so excited about it. Also my job can be quite physical so it will help if those close to me at wok know.

Cherry, my other DC are 10 and nearly 7. I almost feel like it's my first again it's been so long!

AF means 'aunt flow', so your period basically :)

Im still waiting for a positive on my OPK :( Seems to be taking forever!
Xx

horseylady · 21/10/2011 23:24

Pretty sure I'm joining you next month!! AF here though very light....will see how long it lasts....also still lots of cramping and vvvv sore boobs had a lecture off the mother saying I now need to speak to the GP about it all....guess she has a point!!

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