No more Pill!! This is it!! Starting a JULY-AUG 2012 bus...

[PipIsOutNow]

Hey guys!! Have taken the big step of coming of the Pill to TTC another DC. This will be DC number 2 - already have DS who is 15 months old and a DSD who is 7 years. We have spoken about another baby for a while now but it has now become more of a reality now that we have decided to stop using any contraception!! I am so so excited but know all too well about this horrible waiting game of patience which seems to get worse even after a BFP as then it's the painful wait for a 12 week scan!! (although this time I may pay for a private scan) I have had a MC before DS was born so am also aware of not getting to ahead of myself...but I'm so excited nonetheless!! I bought my friend a little present for her brand new (with tags on) baby girl and was so so broody. Cant wait for my turn now!!

Sorry for the long warbling post. This is such a hard time, the pre TTC, the waiting for BFP or BFN etc etc...I am the most impatient person in the world as it is...and to not to be able to tell anyone in RL makes it even harder!!

Hope there will be some ladies in the same boat as me!! Look forward to meeting u and sharing journeys!!

Lots of love, Pip xx

we're picking up steam now!

Good luck to everyone this coming week - according to Google (and who doesn't trust Google?) my optimum few days starts on Wednesday, so fingers crossed! [hsmile]

cup yes was on the pill nonstop all that time with no breaks apart from the weeks off... I went on Dianette when I was 17 for acne, then Yasmin since 23 or so. DH not too happy with condoms but it won't be long now :)
Been visiting BIL & his fiancé who are expecting at Christmas, so excited to be an aunty and makes me even more broody! Would love to have cousins close together in age, aww.

thanks cup - I've got all my old famous fives ready and waiting for DD - I'll be gutted a bit disappointed if she doesn't like them.
I can't decide if I am brave or stupid, but I have always wanted close age gaps so we're going for it. I'd love to have them in adjacent years at school - but it'd better happen quick for that to work out....

Seems to be a few people trying for number 3 - that's my optimum number, but I think I may be out-voted by DP who only wants 2. But there are twins in my family so perhaps I'll get my way!?

oh God my brothers are twins and my mum has said she wouldn't wish them on her worst enemy!!

I was also only 20 months when they were born (and a nightmare). My mum was under the GP I think for the first few months with the stress!

Oh, there's a part of me that would LOVE twins. I only want 2 (I think) and I kinda think (perhaps naively) that twins would be easier to handle than a toddler and a baby. But, as there are none in either of our families I guess it's unlikely.

Can I join the July bus please? I havent been on a bus before but stopped taking the pill in January, and still no BFP

So, maybe if I jump on the bus, it'll speed things up

Should probably add - been on the pill for 14 years since DD was born! Now TTC DC2, and yes I am mad for leaving such a huge gap!

goldenbrown there's a part of me that would love twins too, but only a very small part :) I would have loved it first time round, but now I'm not so sure.
My mum definitely thought 2 babies were easier than a baby and toddler - at least while you're feeding one the other is where you left it - and not downstairs putting the kitten in the washing machine

Welcome tequila - I'm sure it's quicker on the bus :)

Yay new people!

Hi Caffeinefiend- Good luck to you. One last baby, is this for a DS perhaps to make DP/DH not feel so left out!?

Hi Moggle- good luck for next month, if you can wait that long! We were supposed to be waiting but got too excited ( in more way's then one ) I get what you mean about your DH not being too interested in the whole period thing, Men just don't link the whole period to being able to conceive! Plus it means no sex for them for a week!

Hi KirrinIsland- Good luck to you too.
I have a 20 month age gap between my two and it's lovely. They are in adjacent school years and my DS looks after my DD who has just started reception, it's so sweet but you need to have eyes in the back of your head, whilst you are busy feeding the baby or cleaning bottles or changing a nappy, little toddlers do have a tendency to get up to all sorts of mischief!
But are also very helpful in their own little way!

Hi Goldenbrown1981- good luck to you also. Fingers crossed for you that this month is your month

Hi Tequilamokinbat- good luck to you too. Hope to hear that this month is your month too, keeping my fingers crossed for you
I think a 14 year age gap sounds lovely, although I haven't experienced that and do like the close age gap I have I could see how a big age gap would be great, you get to do the baby thing all over again, plus the added bonus of a live in babysitter

Good luck to everyone over these next few weeks

hey tequilla

There's 9 year between me and my next brother, 13 between me and middle bro and 16 between me and biggest sis. It was awesome for me growing up as I had so many people spoiling looking after me. My and my big bro's were massively close growing up (sis is a different and long story but nothing to do with the gap!) and I got taken all over by them and their partners. I had plenty of people to talk to and felt so hugely loved my whole life, I hope it works out so well for you. i wouldn't change a thing

Can I hop on? First time on a bus! DS 5 already, started TTC on Tues so still very early days!

I'd like to join too, if I may. trying for our first, we are pretty keen, we have had two misses, but we're going to try again. I have already determined that I need to stop the kaffe, a total bummer, but hey, it will be worth it.

Morning everyone!

The bus is getting full now! Good luck to everyone

Ok I have another thick question; I suffer from repeat uti's and after being advised by my doctor, I always have a quick shower after sex. Now, if I am rinsing away "down there", am I affecting my chances of conceiving? Probably being silly but I just wondered...

Als, does anyone else's DP own their own business? Mine started his just a couple of months ago and I'm beginning to wonder how he is going to make doctor's appointments etc as the business seems to need 24 hour a day care at the moment!

Have a good day ladies x

Thanks for the lovely welcomes , good luck to you all too.

The age gap will definitely have it's positives - free, live-in babysitter being the main one

I'm currently on 2ww and have everything crossed!

cup not sure about the shower thing to be honest - I always stay laying down for a little while as I've heard that can help increase your chances, though that's possibly an old wives' tale??

My DP has his own business, though it is quite established now so doesn't take up every waking minute like it used to. TBH there is no real need for him to come to every appointment unless you'd prefer it of course - they are mostly quite dull! If he's pushed for time I'd just make sure he can get to the scans. Assuming all is well, there should only be 2 of those.

tequila got my fingers crossed

Cup the shower thing same as what Kirrin said I think it shouldn't have any affect. Maybe try a deep penetrating position and then lie down for a bit before getting up to shower.

My DH has is own business but like Kirrin's it is quite established so not completely 24/7 anymore. Also like Kirrin said most appointments you probably won't feel he needs to attend like the midwife appointments. The two scan's you have you normally receive the letter in plenty of time, so the both of you should have significant time to book it off work.

It's so nice to have so many other ladies to bounce off (so to speak).
I've never used an opk before but have got the digital one this time. I had my coil out on fri 7th Oct which was the weekend period was due and I had, from the sunday, the most awful bleed which seems to have gone now after a week (although still get the odd pain and spot of blood). Im hoping my cycles will return to normal strait away!
I have just purchased, for nearly £20(!!!!!), a pot of manuka honey. Lets hope all this does the trick otherwise we will have no money left for an actual baby!
OPK is still showing no surge but it's still early. Best just get the practise in ;)
Hope everybody had a good weekend. Xx

Sarah5656 Would like DS but wouldn't be upset to have another DD..suspect DH feels overwhelmed with pink and dollies though! :)
Question for anyone with experience coming off mirena:
Been off mirena for nearly 4 weeks but confused. Sorry if TMI but had massive period straight away, now feel constant nausea. Someone told me that first period after mirena is "not real period" and nausea is due to hormones adjusting, has anyone experienced this? Don't know whether to do test as it seems a bit early...

Vinolover I've been told that your cycles return pretty fast after it's removed. That's why they ask if you've had sex recently when they remove it because theres a small chance you could get pregnant straight away :) Good luck

Cup apparently it doesn't affect your chances. www.webmd.com/sex-relationships/guide/birth-control-contraceptive-myths

Hi there!

I'd like to join if I could (brand new to mumsnet also btw!) - I am not on the pill but will have some hit-and-miss months I assume coming up, as I am TTC as a single mother by choice with a known donor friend. So only have 2-3 shots a month at this! Up until about 3 months ago I had super regular cycles, 30 days exact. But here lately have been 34-37 (?!) so hoping this works.

Has anyone ever used the OPK's? I bought some Clearblue (not the digitals) yesterday but not totally sure when to start testing since my cycle's been irregular. Have lined up BD for the 20, 24, and 28 so hopefully something works!

Hi Fishpants and welcome to MN

I haven't ventured into the world of OPK's yet but might do after Christmas if still no BFP! Keep us updated

I will be using opks. I also don't know the length of my cycle so will start on day 11 but keep going a bit longer to cover all possibilities.

Hi can i join you Ladies please.
Today is the last day of AF i think and the pill went into the bin yesterday morning. I am 30 and will be ttc #4 for the moment i am just going to take a relaxed approach to things. I have 32/33 day cycle but last time i came off the pill my cycles went all over the place so who knows.

Although i am very very happy about ttc #4 i thought dh would never want anymore but after a 3 month scare last christmas we also realised are little family was not really done. But i do have moments where i get cold feet does anybody else feel like this?