Freak Out Room For Those Newly Diffed Up After MC Part IX

[LAF77]

Just found out you are pregnant after a previous miscarriage and too nervous to move over the to pregnancy boards? Freaking out about spotting, cramping, symptoms (or lack there of) and nervously awaiting your first scan? Here is a lovely place for lot's of support, hand holding and problem sharing.

Courtesy of owlbooty here are the Ten Commandments of the Freak Out Room.

1. Thou shalt check thy knickers to the point of insanity until the baby actually arrives.
2. Thou shalt also check the loo roll post-wipeage (sorry, gross, I know)
3. Thou shalt bore thy physician and midwife to tears with the mentalling.
4. And thy husband/boyfriend/family/neighbour's cat.
5. Thou shalt obsess over the absence of symptoms.
6. And the presence of symptoms.
7. And the fluctuation of symptoms.
8. Thou shalt pee on a vast number of sticks and keep ClearBlue and First Response in business.
9. The day before any scan extreme mentalling is permitted without recourse to the Haddock.

10. Self-diagnosis with Dr Google is Forbidden.

The Haddock will be applied liberally to all transgressors.

See here for the previous thread

Congrats knitter and bluecrane...I remember you bluecrane from what must have been the thread I was one after the MMC it is great to see you here

Well done stitch on joining the grads, was thinking of waiting till post 20 week scan, will see if I get brave before then! Thanks for the info on the pillow too - am currently sleeping with an ordinary pillow between my legs which is helping so may stick with that until I get bigger?

Ooh! knitter :) nice to see you here :)

Glad to see you back knitter and welcome blue crane you are in the right place for freaking out! The early weeks are the scariest for sure.

Well done for making it into double figures lady and 12 weeks digi they are such important psychological milestones.

I have to admit that I have made a couple of comments on FB to announce my pg. I have a lot of family overseas and I wanted them to know of my news. If the worst were to happen again, I wouldn't want to keep it quiet and pretend like nothing happened in my world, like I did with the previous losses. I wouldn't do anything crazy like put my scan photo up there as my profile picture. I tagged my belly as a person in the photo. I clearly look pg in the photo (or seriously chubby). I have been more open about it at work and a lot of people talk to me about it now which is scary. I'm trying to be positive.

It's hard to believe I'm 16 weeks tomorrow. I'm not ready to join the grads thread yet velvet and stitch. Like you shell I probably won't be ready until my 20 week scan in 4 weeks from Friday. Surprisingly, I'm quite calm about not having a scan between 12 and 20 weeks. Having several scans in early pregnancy made me realise that the day after the scan, I was fretting about the next one and I had to find a way to be calm. I'm under treatment now, so things should be better. I did get a tiny glimpse last week, so I suppose I was lucky.

I wish I could feel the baby move. I'm not sure if I am or not as some of the movments could just be trapped wine

Thinking of you ladies who are still in the early weeks and have been lurking. Hope all is well.

Glad to see you both here Knitter and Bluecrane - congratulations

Well done on the stats too - it's a big step! We'll be here all the way though for you 1 keep ticking the days off xx

Hi to everyone else. Like a few others I'm thinking I'll 'graduate' after the 20 week scan - but save a cushion for me :)

Maybe I'll begin a phased handover and pop a toe in to the grads every now and again?

Congratulations and welcome, Knitter and Bluecrane, hope everything goes well for you.

So far, no more sickness in the Moomin household, DD went back to school today. 3 days now til S-Day, terrified but trying not to think about it too much! Still spotting everyday.

Hello?

I'm scared!!

BFP 4 days ago.... AF only due today....fluctuating symptoms....

2 mc + many, many complications, psycho boss from hell (demoted due to time off work...)

Er...going demented already but secretly thrilled to have gained access to the freak out room after so long in the sixth form waiting room!

Hello and congrats on the BFP mouse

LAF it may be the baby you can feel it is frustrating though as it is very sporadic still for me and I have been feeling it since 15+6 and it is still not everyday, so of course the worry starts! I'm doppling more often since then which I don't know is a good or bad thing?!

I've finally got round to adding my scan photo to my profile page LAF and anyone else who is interested in nub theory...I've added the lines which you are supposed to be measuring against, it's just I'm not sure which part of the spine to use as those two websites I previously posted seem to differ? If you take the lower spine it is suggesting a girl, but the curved upper spine a boy? Any comments very welcome!!

Aw mouse I had very strong symptoms the day of my bfp. The next day they disappeared and remained that way till about 6-7 weeks when I would occasionally feel a bit dizzy. It's so difficult not to compare symptoms between pregnancies - but the best reassurance that everything is going well so far is that scan at 7/8 weeks when you see a strong heartbeat. Then if you can get one two weeks later to tie you over till the 12 week scan so much the better. In between you just have to take it for granted that your body knows what it's doing - and let it. (wise advice another mn'er gave me)

Thanks for letting us know about your Angelsounds LAF ! I am now thinkin of getting a stethoscope off ebay, as i'm past 19 weeks so should be able to hear it with that by now ;0 I'll let ye know if i get one.

Welcome and congrats to Blue and Knitter :)

Hi Mousebacon congrats on your bfp and welcome to the freak out room :)

Hello to everyone else! Hope yous are all doin well.

Ladies, its been a while since i been on here. And i'm freakin out in this aptly named thread. I got a phone call from the hospital today, they want me to come back in on Thursday to discuss my blood test results...... I am so worried, what could possibly be wrong? Seriously, the least it could be would be an iron deficiency, worst case ... what?

This is typical, i've been really feeling pretty good the past week, feeling baba kickin and squirmin and got my energy back, still have some joint pain, but dealin with it as it means i'm still pregnant. And now i'm freakin over these blood results... If any of you can help me out, plesae let me know what is the worst i could expect of this... thanks ladies.

Livin I know you will worry till you go in, but this happened to me (though the call was from GP surgery) and it was re my iron count, hth.

Thank you digi

I wish I could just hibernate for a few months... xx

livin I agree the most likely thing is going to be iron. Maybe if they did a random glucose could have been high and they want to screen further, or it could be that you've lost rubella immunity, but I think they prob wouldn't call about that as not much can be done until after birth. One other suggestion, have you had your flu shot? Could be inviting you for that while they've got stocks in.

mouse et al - I've been having weekly scans from about 7 weeks. Sounds great but it's still a mindf&£k - the cycle of reassurance, calm, worry, full-on mentalling just goes by on a weekly basis. I dread them every time, but I'm doing it for these reasons:

1. I read that Lesley regan found 60% live birth rate in recurrent mc cases simply by having the scans - no other treatment. This is higher that the rate of livebirth for those rmc who were offered but didn't

attend.

1. Last mc we weren't able to do karyotyping because it was discovered several weeks after baby had stopped developing. If it goes wrong this time I want that analysis done.
2. I'm injecting heparin daily and would prefer to stop if it goes wrong.

If I wasn't under the care of the clinic though, I think I'd leave a scan til 8 weeks, then make decisions from there. It's a hard 4 weeks though, just take it a day at a time. And go to bed early.

So can I just say WAAAAAH!!!
Big whinge coming up.
I feel sick. And I'm soooooo sick of feeling sick. And now I think I'm getting ds's cold so feel grotty as well as sick. And I'm scared of tomorrow's scan and DH is coming for the first time and I'm terrified it will have gone wrong and he'll have to sit there and see another bad scan, and to make it worse we have to take DS (3.5) and he's already had to see me crying after 2 bad scans too and I really don't want him to see that again. And I'm a bit hungry and have been wanting cake (lovely chocolate cake with several layers of cream Mmm) for ages but I did a GTT test and the results were a little borderline and they're going to make me do it again and I'll probably have to see the diabetes clinic and them I'll never be allowed to eat cake again! Waaaaaaah.

And I can hear DS getting out of bed the monkey and cba going to check and be stern. sigh.
Oh and DH is superstressed at work and doesn't come home til midnight. By which time I'll be asleep and wouldnt be able to eat the cake even if he did bring some home. Hmmmph.

congrats to those with recent bfps :)

ladym sorry you feel so rubbish, it IS worth it even though on the very rare occasion I've had a wave of nausea I wonder 'really, is it?' so god knows how you are coping. Have you asked about anti-emetics or do you think you can soldier on. Good luck with the scan tomorrow.

Well I am at my local hospital scoffing breakfast after having a gtt. I hadn't realised till dh dropped me off that I haven't been here since my erpc. I had to sit in a waiting room with other pregnant women (surely I don't qualify for that yet?) listening to a bloody infomercial about baby massage (way too presumptuous). Felt v uncomfortable and definitely like a massive fraud. I had to walk past the waiting area for day treatment and I remembered the numbness of just sitting there waiting to have my poor baby removed from me . Sorry for the downer, just can't really tell anyone at the moment. Have to pull myself together and go to work now. I am still pregnant, I am incredibly thankful for that.

Morning all...thank you for the warm welcome suddnely feeling v nauseous and faint/light headed - guessing this is normal...I'm 6+1? Didn't have this last time but think it'd all gone pear shaped by now and I was just unawares! Trying to eat some toast and marmite to see if that helps... lady I feel your pain!

Thanks Shell and Lady

Gosh,Lady,you poor thing.Have a big (((hug))).Good luck for the scan,it will be fine.Must be

Baby brain:spoke to my DP on skype earlier on,I was moaning that I couldn't hear him and asked him to speak up.Finally he asked me "darling what about turning the volume up a bit on your side".It worked.

Hi! Scan was totally fine, DS didn't notice a thing (because we gave him an iPhone to play with), dh wept when he saw the space-prawn and heard heartbeat. I think I'm a bit in love with the dr and nurse, they're so lovely and reassuring and sympathetic.
I've been extra brave and said I'll wait till two weeks - that will be dating and nuchal - but they said if I start to panic just to call. So LAF I meant to ask, did you find a way to keep calm between scans? Any tips?!
Oh and it probably is the baby you're starting to feel, I was sure I felt DS at 17 weeks and in the lead-up there were lots of 'is that...?' feelings. Like a fish's tail flipping over inside you I think.
Will try to come back on pc, have just finished first freelance project so won't feel guilty sitting at it not working. Lots to catch up on!

Oh - and I had cake after the scan!

And then had indigestion. But it was worth it.

lady so pleased about lovely scan and seeing the space-prawn! And you totally deserve the cake.

fab fab fab ladym this is looking really good for you now! Cake was well and truly deserved.

lime well done for getting through that milestone - are you feeling a bit more hopeful now?

moomin good luck with your scan tomorrow

Welcome mouse we are here to listen. The first three months are so hard!

shell your photo is a tough one to call, for sure! I'd say team blue, but I'm not sure. What do you think that you are having?

livin have you had your hospital appointment yet to confirm the results? Hopefully, it is "just" an iron deficiecy.

lime Hope you are on the mend soon. Don't feel bad about me, me, me! I do it for sure! I think it helps getting your feelings out there, so we can all know that we aren't alone in freaking out. I think that crossing those psychological boundaries are so important. We can never just relax in pregnancy. I'm prone to thinking the worst about everything that's for sure.

I decided (foolishly) to look for the baby's heartbeat before I went to bed on Tuesday night and couldn't find it. Cue up a night of tossing and turning, up at 03:30 couldn't go back to sleep, and busted out the doppler at 04:30 and found the heartbeat. What a relief! So be warned, anyone who is thinking of getting a doppler, you may not always find the heartbeat, which will freak you out. Don't try and do it right before bed! I think that I did feel the baby move yesterday. I drank some really cold water and I think that I felt something after that.

digi I burst into tears before the 12 week scan because it was my first time walking past the EPU since the mcs. It is inevitable that there are such strong physical memories with such a traumatic past event. This time it is different though for you and me.

lady So, pleased for you today. I'm glad to hear that your DH could be there with you. My DH couldn't make any of my early scans, so it is so great to have someone there confirming with you that it is really happening. I'm glad you could have your cake and eat it too :-) FWIW, I succumbed to the temptation of chocolate cake at lunch time yesterday too.

I don't think I was calm and relaxed at all in between scans. I think between 10 and 12 I was lucky. I only had 1 weekend in between them. I was scanned on Wednesdays at St. Mary's and managed to have my 12 week scan the following Friday as the baby was bigger than actual dates. Could your 12 week scan come forward too as your baby is growing ahead of plan or are you using the hospital dates now instead of the LMP dates?

I think that we all have to remind ourselves that this time it is different. We have different treatment this time, so things are going in the right way. The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result. We are pro-active with our treatment, so it is reasonable to expect a different outcome. I posted a statistic on the last thread that once they see a heartbeat, the chance of miscarriage drops dramatically. You have a treatment plan, so that is much better than being left on your own. Bore yourself with statistics, that might help pass the time!