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Freak Out Room For Those Newly Diffed Up After MC Part IX

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LAF77 · 27/09/2011 08:52

Just found out you are pregnant after a previous miscarriage and too nervous to move over the to pregnancy boards? Freaking out about spotting, cramping, symptoms (or lack there of) and nervously awaiting your first scan? Here is a lovely place for lot's of support, hand holding and problem sharing.

Courtesy of owlbooty here are the Ten Commandments of the Freak Out Room.

  1. Thou shalt check thy knickers to the point of insanity until the baby actually arrives.
  2. Thou shalt also check the loo roll post-wipeage (sorry, gross, I know)
  3. Thou shalt bore thy physician and midwife to tears with the mentalling.
  4. And thy husband/boyfriend/family/neighbour's cat.
  5. Thou shalt obsess over the absence of symptoms.
  6. And the presence of symptoms.
  7. And the fluctuation of symptoms.
  8. Thou shalt pee on a vast number of sticks and keep ClearBlue and First Response in business.
  9. The day before any scan extreme mentalling is permitted without recourse to the Haddock.
10. Self-diagnosis with Dr Google is Forbidden.

The Haddock will be applied liberally to all transgressors.

See here for the previous thread

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LivinInTheMoment · 28/09/2011 10:57

Oooh new shiny thread Grin

Notnow I hope that doc apologised for her incompetence. Thats crazy. x

Good news on your twins scan Pointy! i was calling you stickthem but i guess thats wrong, pointy from now on ;)

Biscuits your next scan date is a very lucky date! 6 1's in a row :)

Hi Velvet Hope you are keeping well.

Good luck with angelsounds laf cant wait to hear how you get on with it. Ive resisted gettin a doppler so far, but really really want one...

LivinInTheMoment · 28/09/2011 11:00

Ohh cross posted with you lime im sure all is ok, friend of mine had no sore boobs at all til 3rd tri. xx

shellshock7 · 28/09/2011 13:41

Great scan news LAF even though it sounds like you were put through it first.

Quick question, although I'm sure it's fine as the baby has moved up a bit over the last few days but.... I've had this pain really low down in my pelvis for the last couple of days, when I move or walk, or the bumps of the car...its woke me up at night too when I try and move over - it's really quite painful! I'm thinking it might be something to do with constipation due to the iron tablets Blush but things are kinda moving down there! Does this sound familiar / normal to anyone?

scarletfingernail · 28/09/2011 14:42

Good news from my 10 week scan this morning.

Everything's looking good. Measuring exactly as it should and now has arms and legs waving about. 2 weeks today until I go for my 12 week scan.

shell not sure what that could be. There's so much going on in that area I guess it could be anything. Is it bad enough to book an appointment with your GP and see what they think? Or do you think it might just be growing pains?

digitalgirl · 28/09/2011 15:24

that's great scarlet we'll be having our dating scans around the same time then!

shell It could be the beginnings of SPD. I started getting groin ache around 19 weeks with DS. The Obs refused to believe it was SPD because it wasn't painful at the very tip of the centre of my pelvis (the official condition of SPD). But it was a form of Pelvic Girdle Pain and it steadily got worse as I didn't realise I had to stop doing things like walking for miles and pelvic stretches in yoga. Mention it to your MW and she can refer you for physio.

lime my boob ache has definitely fluctuated over the last few weeks. Am sure it's the same for you.

stitchinline · 28/09/2011 17:38

LAF and scarlet, great news on the scans

shellshock i have had some pains like you described but have put them down to ligaments stretching?

used the doppler today and found the hb right away so very pleased - bladder was full so think that helped, is just below belly button now :)

still feeling rubbish here, have started to take the antibiotics the gp prescribed so hoping that will start to clear things up. on the max dose of panadol and had poor dh googling cough syrup in the middle of the night to see if I could take any. plus my parents have now left so that always leaves me feeling sad and lonely

its pants being poorly when the weather is so nice, on the other hand if I wasn't stuck in bed i'd be stuck at work so wouldn't see much of it anyway.

trying to resist the urge to book another private scan, i know I don't need it but waiting an extra 2 weeks for the nhs anomaly scan is driving me bananas. my sensible half is telling me to save the money for a later scan but my impatient need to know now that all is still ok self is saying just book it. have gone from being a POAS addict to a scan addict Blush

shellshock7 · 28/09/2011 19:52

Thanks for the replies...I'll keep an eye on it then and if it continues or worsens I'll ask MW about SPD. Stitch I had pains for a while a few weeks ago now that I put down to ligaments stretching, but that seemed to have passed and this is more painful...but you are right it could be that.

So pleased you had a successful dopple stitch, mine is just around belly button now too Smile. I am trying to not think about another scan- the doppler is helping (and is cheaper!!) Sorry you are so ill and feeling a bit lonely - when will you get to see them again? I fill up for no reason and feel really sad about nothing so if you have a reason to it could be magnified up by your hormones? Hope you get better soon Smile

shellshock7 · 28/09/2011 20:06

Sorry for the repeat posting today, but...

I've become obsessed with nub theory tonight! Has anyone else looked into this? I've (sadly) traced out the lower spine and nub from my 12 week scan and and both appear at the same angle, which would suggest girl according to this link

www.baby2see.com/gender/study_ultrasound.html

But boy according to this one??

www.goodtoknow.co.uk/family/474180/Nub-theory--Predict-your-baby-s-sex-at-12-weeks

Confusing, but totally fascinating and addictive! I can't stop googling Blush

LimeFlower · 28/09/2011 20:16

livin,digi thanks for reassurance.Sorry if i'm too needy but I haven't got anybody in RL to talk to about my fears(2 people whom I told said that they aren't getting their hopes up "just in case")

stitch had cold last week-asked at the pharmacy,they recommended lemon and honey glycerine cough med.The doc said that the inhalations are also good.

scarletgood news on the scan

shell,will keep the links for later

Another day has gone!

StickThemWithThePointyEnd · 29/09/2011 09:34
LadyMaybe · 29/09/2011 10:03

Hi, I'm updating the list in celebration of a good scan - and apparently dating a week ahead Shock again. I've decided to go with it in wild optimism I have a booking in appt with the high risk pregnancy unit on Tuesday next week and a GTT tomorrow (eek!), will go back for another scan next week.

Limeflower or anyone else not on the list, if you'd like to join do say so...it can be helpful seeing the days go past.

Thursday 29th September

Bump 25+0 EDD 14/01/12
Hairylights 24+4
Mamarara 24+0
Pigletmania 23+6
ladybird33 23+6 EDD 22/1/12
purpletoes 21+3 EDD 08/02/12 next scan 04/10/11
angela85 baby #2 20+3 EDD 13/2/12 next scan 30/9/11
MrsSteph 18+6 Next scan 20/07/11
LivinInTheMoment 18+2 EDD 28/02/12
Stitchinline 18+1 EDD 29/02/12 next scan 24/10/11
Shellshock7 17+3 EDD 4/3/12 next scan 17/10/11
LAF77 15+1, next scan 4/11/11
Biscuitsandtea 14+2 EDD 27/3/12, next scan 11/11/11
Kat2504 12+0 EDD 12/04/12, next scan 3/10/11
Digitalgirl 11+4 EDD 15/04/12, next scan 11/10/11
Moomin 11+4 EDD 15/04/12
LadyMaybe 9+2, Next scan 6/10/11
Boodleboot 8+0 EDD 14/5/12
StickThemWithThePointyEnd 7+0
Googie 6+4

And on the grads thread too:

Emoo - baby#2 38+5 weeks EDD 7 October
IreneHeron - DS no 2, 36+4 weeks, EDD 23rd Oct.
Tunnocksteacake - baby#2 36+3 weeks EDD 24th October
Hotnspicyonions - baby#2 36+3 weeks EDD 24th October
Velvetcu - baby#1 36+2 wks EDD 25th October
MummyAbroad baby #2 34+6 wks EDD 4th November
CEP baby #2 34+5 wks EDD 5th Nov
Katherine2008 baby#2 35+0 EDD 10 November
Collieandpup baby #1 32+4 wks EDD 20th Nov
Wombatinwaiting - baby # 1 32+0 wks EDD 24th November
LaraMi baby #1 31+6 weeks EDD 25th November
Izzy - baby #3 31+5 wks EDD 26th November
Bigmacandhappymeal - baby#1 31+2 weeks EDD 29th November
Blackkat - baby #1 30+3 wks EDD 5th December
Minnie74 -baby1 30+0 wks EDD 12th December
Harassedandherbug - baby #4 28+0 wks EDD 22 December
Dooscooby - baby #1 28+0 wks EDD 22 December
Youremindmeofthebabe Baby#2 26+1 wks EDD 5th Jan
Sunchild77 Baby #3 25+6 wks EDD 6th Jan - Elcs at 39 wks
Freezingmyarseoff baby#2 25+5 wks EDD 7th Jan
Milkyways baby #2 25+4 wks EDD 8th January
Laylasmummy 23+5 weeks EDD 21 Jan

In our thoughts and prayers
Dachs whose beautiful little babies Alexander & Felicia left this world sleeping

Thinking of.... MumTum; Knitter, Mistress P, willitbe, twittwooo, Lily06, doitnicely, freelance, Notnowimreading

kat2504 · 29/09/2011 10:19

12 weeks today! 12 weeks today!!!! I had so better have a good scan after getting all this way. I keep prodding my tummy to see if any bump is appearing but it does not seem to. It just hurts where all my clexane bruises are!

ladyM congrats on a brilliant scan. A weeks ahead is fantastic, you can tick off 7 extra days all at once.

lime I am horrified at that reaction. how insensitive of the people you told. They should have said congratulations, I hope this one goes well for you.

Velvetcu · 29/09/2011 10:24

Congrats on the scan ladym and yay for 12 weeks kat Grin

Biscuitsandtea · 29/09/2011 11:41

Yay LadyM and YayKat Grin

stitchinline · 29/09/2011 13:11

yay for ladym :o

brilliant on getting to 12 weeks kat it does feel amazing counting off the weeks and still being pregnant. i've been injecting in my outer thigh the last couple of weeks and it is nice to be able to prod my tummy without avoiding all the bruises and lumps!

thanks shellshock, the pregnancy hormones don't help emotional situations, will next see them after the baby arrives. they are in oz and the consultant has strongly advised that it would be an unnecessary risk for me to fly long haul at any stage until after the baby arrives so no sneaky trips home for a while

have been starting to feel a bit better, still off work as don't think anyone wants to hear me coughing and spluttering - coughed so hard last night i brought up dinner which was not fun, don't think that would go down well in my very posh office

just had lemon gelato for lunch which was lush, leaves bowls and spoons out for everyone to share

bigmacandhappymeal · 29/09/2011 14:00

Hi all - excellent scan news and happy news on reaching 12 weeks kat

stitch hope you feel better very soon...

came on to lurk for dachs. If you're reading dachs here is a (hug) for you.

Take care all
xx

digitalgirl · 29/09/2011 16:29

More Yaaays for ladym - my consultant thinks once you get past 9 weeks the risk of mc reduces dramatically.

And hooray to Kat for 12 weeks!

hope you feel better soon stitch

hairylights · 29/09/2011 19:00

Great news laf :)

hairylights · 29/09/2011 19:05

"Re: list tidying - I know hairy posts in grads from time to time - do you think we should move her to the grads list and maybe some of the others post 20 weeks?"

:(. Please can I stay here? I am not brave enough to move to grads.

stitchinline · 29/09/2011 19:47

You can stay as long as you want hairy - I love your little pop ins with happy news Smile

LivinInTheMoment · 29/09/2011 20:11

Hope your doing good today Lime Thats a shame your 2 friends said they aren't getting their hopes up "just in case", I'd be so upset if someone said that to me after my mc :( :( You stay positive about this pg, i know its easier said than done, but we are all being positive for you too xx

hi to everyone else hope yous are all doin well.

LAF77 · 29/09/2011 21:41

hello ladies, thanks for all your supportive messages! I'm glad for the sun and warmth these days, but it does seem to take it out of me. I fell asleep for an hour after I got home from work today. I thought my energy levels were better now. I guess getting up at 05:30 and 45 mins on the elliptical can wear me out, even though it didn't before. I've noticed that my "resting heart rate" seems higher than before pg. A guy at the gym who I know asked me how I was and said that he thought I was pg, as my belly is up too high just to be flab (thanks!). I had someone pat my stomach yesterday. I don't like the idea of people feeling it is open season to touch me cos I'm pg!

notnow if you are reading, I'm so sorry to read about the phone call you had. It is mind boggling how insensitive the medical profession can be. I suppose to them, it is a job, and they can forget that it is your life. You spend all day thinking about the phone calls that might come or the letters that might arrive and when they aren't handled with care, it is devastating. Big hug.

livin My angel sounds arrived yesterday and I had a go with it. I think I found the baby's heartbeat. I can see why the consultant couldn't find the heartbeat. She was looking more along the hairline and I found it nearer to my belly button. My bladder was fairly full, which was a bit agonising whilst I was trying to put it together. The battery comes plastic wrapped and was a bit fiddly. I feel more relaxed now that I have the doppler. It is a good investment, you can pick one up for £25 where as a private scan will set you back £100. I haven't used it today. I'm trying not to mental. I may have felt the baby flutter around tonight or it could have just been wind, it's hard to tell. I hope I can avoid becoming a scan addict too stitch If I could see my baby every day, I would. DH would kill me for running up several grand in scan charges though!

limeflower I don't want to give out empty platitudes to you, but my boobs went through phases of soreness. Sometimes I'd prod them quite hard just to see if I could still feel anything. Just because they don't always hurt doesn't mean that something bad will happen. I'm disgusted at your friends for saying such negative things to you. We always fear the worst, but it is nice to have RL people be a bit more positive for you. A friend of mine told me that maybe I just wasn't meant to have children after my third mc, when I was about 6 weeks pg this time around. It was so hurtful.

shell I can't help you on the pains in the pelvis. I've felt some twinges in my lower back recently and I've never had back issues. When is your next MW appt? Can you call her to ask about it? I've been looking into starting pg yoga to help me through some of the changes my body is going through, but there aren't enough ladies to start a class yet. I hear you on the obsession with the gender from the scan. I've tried to put my scan photo up, but can't do it. I'll keep trying. It looks like I can see a willy, but it could just be the other leg that is only partially shown. My friend said that there was something that they printed on the ultrasound, like a code, that gave an indication of the sex. She cant remember what it is though.

scarlett great news on the 10 week scan and lady for another good result. I say don't worry about being ahead. We are in the same club! Well done kat for getting to 12 weeks. I'm sure that the weekend is going to feel so slow for you. What time is your scan on Monday?

hairy you can stay with us for as long as you want. It's OK to start believing that you are a graduate now though! :-)]

Thinking of you dachs pointy and ivy

Ok, got to stop, I'm sure I've overstayed my welcome with my ramblings!

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LAF77 · 29/09/2011 21:45

Ok, I put my scan photo up, so if you want to have a look and see if you agree with me that it is a boy or not! I was giggling like mad last night when I decided that I'd be referring to the baby from now on as "bob". DH thought I was crazy!

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scarletfingernail · 29/09/2011 22:04

LAF that really is an excellent scan photo, such a clear picture.

I'm going to guess that it's the other leg you can see rather than a willy. Disregarding that though, I still think it looks like a boy Smile

Biscuitsandtea · 30/09/2011 02:29

That is a great scan photo LAF - So clear! Smile we couldn't even attempt to look for a willy on ours, it is more like 'see, this bit is the head....' more like Rachel off Friends when she couldn't see all the bits on her scan photo (if anyone remembers that Blush)

I'm only looking on iPad so can't see it too well, but looks as though he is reclining with feet up and arms behind head - with a pose like that it must be a boy? Wink

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