Freak Out Room For Those Newly Diffed Up After MC Part IX

[LAF77]

Just found out you are pregnant after a previous miscarriage and too nervous to move over the to pregnancy boards? Freaking out about spotting, cramping, symptoms (or lack there of) and nervously awaiting your first scan? Here is a lovely place for lot's of support, hand holding and problem sharing.

Courtesy of owlbooty here are the Ten Commandments of the Freak Out Room.

1. Thou shalt check thy knickers to the point of insanity until the baby actually arrives.
2. Thou shalt also check the loo roll post-wipeage (sorry, gross, I know)
3. Thou shalt bore thy physician and midwife to tears with the mentalling.
4. And thy husband/boyfriend/family/neighbour's cat.
5. Thou shalt obsess over the absence of symptoms.
6. And the presence of symptoms.
7. And the fluctuation of symptoms.
8. Thou shalt pee on a vast number of sticks and keep ClearBlue and First Response in business.
9. The day before any scan extreme mentalling is permitted without recourse to the Haddock.

10. Self-diagnosis with Dr Google is Forbidden.

The Haddock will be applied liberally to all transgressors.

See here for the previous thread

Been awake since 5.20 :-(

Sorry LAF am on phone, on a conference for a coupla days so not got laptop so can't look properly, but....looks like a boy to me if the smaller part is the nub??!

I'll look again and post mine up for analysis too when I get back

Also LAF are you using upper (curved) or lower (straight) section of spine to judge whether nub is parallel?

Hi biscuits I do remember that scene from Friends. The last photo that she took was the clearest. She bounced the instrument on my stomach because the baby wasn't lying at a good angle to get the proper CRL. Once she did that, the baby moved into that position.

I agree scarlett that the little bit that potentially looks like a willy could be the leg. It seems like it could be too high up to be the nub.

shell I suppose I'm considering the lower part of the body to determine the position of the nub.

I've thought from very early on that I'm having a boy, so I'd like to think that my woman's intuition is right! However, I love the baby so much already, that it doesn't matter if I'm right or not.

In that case LAF I'm team pink :-) Scan is two weeks on Monday so (hopefully) will know for sure then

Have you nub theory people tried the baking soda test? Something like you wee on it and it fizzes for a boy and doesn't for a girl. Or the other way round (I appreciate that difference might be crucial.....)?

I suspect it doesn't have quite the science background of the nub theory but would be interesting to see how the results compare to the nub theory stuff / scan results / actual output!

12 weeks today! (in a three day old echo of kat's post)

Does anyone know if GP's have dopplers? Or if they can hear the baby's hb at 12 weeks with a stethoscope? I have an appt tomorrow morning and was hoping for some reassurance. I suppose I could just call my mw.

12 Weeks today too, lol! Kat and Digi, do you feel as though you've got to a major milestone? I thought that I would feel that way, but I think because scan is still 5 days away, I'm still mentalling about that. I've had a lot of spotting and some cramping over the last week,don't know how I'm going to sleep Thursday night!!

Has anyone who's a bit further on caught any nasty tummy bugs this pregnancy? The reason I ask is that poor DD spend all last night throwing up and so I spent the night clearing up after her. She's got a raging temperature. I don't know what's caused it, don't know if it's something she ate (she's had different food at her dad's and grandma's and we were out yesterday and she ate different sandwiches to everyone else), or a bug. I'm just a bit worried as if it's contagious, I'm likely to catch it, and I'm worried about the implications for little bean. I know I sound mega-paranoid, but any advice would be useful!!

Hi Moomin poor DD. How old is she? The reason I ask is that I was wondering if she might have an ear or throat infection that caused her to throw up rather than a sickness bug? If she's too little to tell you that her ear or throat is hurting it might be a good idea to get it checked out.

If she's got a raging temperature (above 38) it doesn't sound like a normal sickness bug. DS usually only gets a raging temp when he's got tonsillitis and it can be the high temperature that makes them sick. It might be worth giving your out of hours GP a call and speaking to a nurse. Tell them what her temp is and that you're pregnant and see what they say.

If it is just a sickness bug you will be fine. It's the fever that causes concern so it's best to get to the bottom of what's causing that. If you do end up getting it and also get the fever you will need to do whatever possible to keep your temp down. Loose clothing, cold flannels and paracetamol.

Thanks Scarlet. She's eight, so can normally specify where she's in pain. She's asleep at the moment, so might take her temp again when she wakes up and take it from there. It's a strange one, as you said, usually when they have sickness bugs they don't have such high temperatures. I think calling the out of hours gp might be a good idea.

Oh no Moomin poor DD - hope she feels better soon and it is nothing contagious. Hope the on call doctor can help too xx

Thinking of you today Kat when is your scan?

Oooh yes, good luck Kat

Hope the Moomin house is less sicky today too.

Hi - new list for October!!

Monday 3rd October

Bump 25+4 EDD 14/01/12
Hairylights 25+1
Mamarara 24+4
Pigletmania 24+3
ladybird33 24+3 EDD 22/1/12
purpletoes 22+0 EDD 08/02/12 next scan 04/10/11
angela85 baby #2 21+0 EDD 13/2/12 next scan 30/9/11
MrsSteph 19+3 Next scan 20/07/11
LivinInTheMoment 18+6 EDD 28/02/12
Stitchinline 18+5 EDD 29/02/12 next scan 24/10/11
Shellshock7 18+0 EDD 4/3/12 next scan 17/10/11
LAF77 15+5, next scan 4/11/11
Biscuitsandtea 14+6 EDD 27/3/12, next scan 11/11/11
Kat2504 12+4 EDD 12/04/12, next scan 3/10/11
Digitalgirl 12+1 EDD 15/04/12, next scan 11/10/11
Moomin 12+1 EDD 15/04/12
LadyMaybe 9+6, Next scan 6/10/11
Boodleboot 8+4 EDD 14/5/12
StickThemWithThePointyEnd 7+4
Googie 7+1

And on the grads thread too:

Emoo - baby#2 39+2 weeks EDD 7 October
IreneHeron - DS no 2, 37+1 weeks, EDD 23rd Oct.
Tunnocksteacake - baby#2 37+0 weeks EDD 24th October
Hotnspicyonions - baby#2 37+0 weeks EDD 24th October
Velvetcu - baby#1 36+6 wks EDD 25th October
MummyAbroad baby #2 35+3 wks EDD 4th November
CEP baby #2 35+2 wks EDD 5th Nov
Katherine2008 baby#2 35+4 EDD 10 November
Collieandpup baby #1 33+3 wks EDD 20th Nov
Wombatinwaiting - baby # 1 32+4 wks EDD 24th November
LaraMi baby #1 32+3 weeks EDD 25th November
Izzy - baby #3 32+2 wks EDD 26th November
Bigmacandhappymeal - baby#1 31+6 weeks EDD 29th November
Blackkat - baby #1 31+0 wks EDD 5th December
Minnie74 -baby1 30+4 wks EDD 12th December
Harassedandherbug - baby #4 28+4 wks EDD 22 December
Dooscooby - baby #1 28+4 wks EDD 22 December
Youremindmeofthebabe Baby#2 26+5 wks EDD 5th Jan
Sunchild77 Baby #3 26+3 wks EDD 6th Jan - Elcs at 39 wks
Freezingmyarseoff baby#2 26+2 wks EDD 7th Jan
Milkyways baby #2 26+1 wks EDD 8th January
Laylasmummy 24+2 weeks EDD 21 Jan

In our thoughts and prayers
Dachs whose beautiful little babies Alexander & Felicia left this world sleeping

Thinking of.... MumTum; Knitter, Mistress P, willitbe, twittwooo, Lily06, doitnicely, freelance, Notnowimreading

Think I may have screwed up the grads dates, +4 is no good for my puny brain.

Moomin and Digi well done for 12 weeks and Googie! you're up to 7! see? the time is passing, you're racking up the days.

Moomin I hope your DD recovers quickly from the bug. My DS had a big temp spike a few weeks ago, went up to 39.7 deg, and he had complained of a sore stomach but hadn't been sick. The temp came down gradually overnight and he was fine the next day. My theory was he was possibly exposed to something that his body had to work very hard to counter - there's a lot of measles going around here for example - DS is immunised but would still have had the signs of an immune response if exposed. Anyway, I hope you don't pick up whatever it is. Lots of handwashing and extra careful food hygiene.

Kat hope you are ok for the scan today and that it's a pleasant experience. Not too long a wait etc.

Ivy/Stick how are you doing? Are the twins giving you extra symptoms to contend with?

I've got what I expect will be a 'booking in' at the High Risk Pregnancy unit at the national women's hospital tomorrow - which is a different clinic to the recurrent pg loss clinic that has been caring for me so far. I think RPL clinic will discharge me if I get to 12 weeks or so, but not sure. God, that reminds me, I was going to post a thread asking about care protocols for clexane users. Kat do you know what your plan will be in terms of growth scans, when you'll come of it etc? I was expecting to come of it at 34 weeks and have regular scans to check growth/placenta function but not sure of exact plan. Feel like I should go to the appt with some expectations...hmmm

Still randomly throwing up some mornings - did this morning after waking up thinking 'oh I feel a lot a better', shower and brushing teeth are the danger times, it's horrible.

I've also just realised that it's our wedding anniversary in a few days - have no clue what to do about it. Big meals don't work for me, and DH is super-stressed with work at the moment. Any ideas? It's no.2 or maybe 3 . Hmmm, no must be 2 because DS was walking at it and he's 3.5.

Lady the stats are hard! I?m on fragmin and I?ll be on until 6 weeks post birth. I have as high risk of DVT and apparently the biggest danger zone for that is 6 weeks post birth. I might have to ask my MW about the growth scans etc at my next appointment but if they don?t offer will probably get a couple of private ones done as no way am I waiting from 22 weeks to arrival to see what is going on.

I?m still randomly throwing up, when in the shower having just lathered the shampoo is the usual stage for me , avoiding washing my hair these days

Kat sending good wishes for you scan today

Finally seem to have got rid of my bug ? was so hideous glad I took the antibiotics as they do seem to have done the trick. Had a very quiet weekend and am much better for it today, actually functioning at work for a change from the last couple of weeks. Went to a wine tasting night last night, DH loved it as he got double serves. For me not so much fun although I did have a sip of couple that smelt interesting, then had fish and chips ? perfect finish to a summer day.

Bought a dream genii yesterday, def think it helped with the sleeping but silly me was so eager to use it that I didn?t wash the cover first ? now have a hideous rash on my legs. Oh the joys of sensitive skin. It has now been washed.

Waves to everyone else, love seeing all the numbers going up as the weeks go by :o

Thanks for the good wishes! The scan was fine, everything seems to be in order at the moment. I've gained a day but I'm not changing my date as I know my date was right. Next scan 28th November! I can't wait that long!! MiniKit was not interested in getting the NT measurement done at all. Cheeky cow of a sonographer wrote "difficult scan due to maternal tissue and fetal movement". Is she trying to say I is too chubby? I've lost half a stone in the last three weeks!

lady I'm seeing my consultant this afternoon to discuss the management plan, or at least the temporary version of it. The original plan only involved making it out of the first trimester! I have been prescribed clexane until 6 weeks after the birth and I presume that plan will still stand.

Yay Kat - that is absolutely awesome news!

So pleased for you - are you going to tell people now or have you already?

Family know already, told some at 6 weeks and some others and a few friends at 9 weeks. I think people will just find out bit by bit really. I'm not planning on putting my scan pictures on facebook just now or anything.

No - I hear that! Have made no mention of it whatsoever on facebook! I think when you've had trouble getting to this stage you are suddenly so much more worried in case someone else is going through something awful. Plus somehow I just didn't feel I wanted all that big fuss. I just have told people in (what I hope is) quite a no frills kind of way.

I think when you're so worried about it yourself you just kind of almost want to play it down?

Anyway, either way I'm delighted for you to have got to 12 weeks and had a good scan too. Just need to keep ticking those weeks off now.

May I ask what the clexane does? How come you have to take it until after the birth? Apologies if that is too nosey - feel free to ignore if so

Clexane is an anticoagulant, it prevents blood clots. People who have had blood clots are often on warfarin, but you can't take that in pregnancy.
I have been diagnosed with lupus anticoagulant, which is a blood clotting disorder. They think it might cause miscarriages by creating blood clots in the placenta, thereby starving the baby of oxygen. So I am on a low preventative dose of clexane to keep the blood flowing nicely to the baby.
After the birth quite a few women are given clexane as there is a higher risk of thrombosis, especially post c-section.

Ah ok - thank you for explaining that for me. Ad hope it continues to do its job and keep everything moving nicely. I presume you'll have lots of scans etc then to check placenta function etc as the weeks go on?

Yay Kat, great news! So happy for you!

No more scans until 20 weeks apparently and then I think they will do growth scans in the third trimester. I can't wait until 20 weeks. Waiting from 9 to 12 and a half weeks has been torture!

Yes I know - it's awful isn't it. It is not even 3 weeks since my twelve week scan and it is still over a month until my 20 week one. Wish I had something like a holiday or something to distract me for a few weeks....

Not done any other gender tests biscuits, I've only got so focussed on the nub theory one as it has been subject to proper testing and was proven to be 80% (I think) effective at my scan date.

Great news kat

Stitch that is on my shopping list too, wake up everytime I move now as bump is sore - so you would recommend so far, once washed of course!

Had a great day yesterday meeting friends new born identical twin boys and a new born baby girl - DH and I were full of it last night on such a high at the thought that this could be us soon. Really can't wait for the next scan now (2 weeks today) and hoping that it is good news

Ive lost a day on the stats - has everyone? If so, we can just change the date to Sunday 2 October instead of going thru and updating everyone!