Just MC and ready to try again? Pack your leathers, black nail polish, air guitar and jump in the mosh pit for some serious metalling. All welcome! (Part 17)

[MarathonMama]

Hello! Just miscarried and ready to start again, come and join us...

woo hoo baby yay for AF (for a change!) YY that is such good news, both times this year i have been so relieved to get AF so i could get cracking.

eve blimey your DSs teacher is a bit quick on the uptake eh? you are not a bad parent, coz i say so! also i know it is hard it is when DH is away - here have a

missg and manda i am obsessing about prawns now i do looove a prawn satay, DH also makes a lovely chili prawn starter. he is off to squash tonight and is going to make a lamb and spinach curry when he gets in - then hopefully a spot of SWI afterwards (well i should hope so - it is on my spreadsheet!)

Since my last update there has been 2 (yes 2 new pages - chatter boxes), one BFP (big congrats again to manda), our first positive 12 week scan from marathon (keeping everything crossed this continues) and I now have a pair of crutches courtesy of the physio!!!! Been having problems with my back and hips and the physio has given me crutches to use so that I can take the weight off my hips and help support my spine.....at least I won't be rushing around at work anymore....he he he!!!! My 12 week scan is on saturday at 9am so I will be rushing home to share all news (hopefully good) with you ladies!!

baby sorry to hear about your prescription drama but glad you've found your PMA and hope that this is the corner that you needed to turn!!!

summer you weren't bullying just gently nudging me in the right direction....really I needed it and it was all for the best - well so far anyway!! Keep up the good work with the SWI - hopefully your on the way for a june baby!!! Also loving the idea of your spreadsheet....I have a thing about excel and have created many a life managing spreadsheet....it didn't occur to me to do one for ttc but I suppose I couldn't think of everything!!!

pie how is acupuncture treating you? Defo feel getting sloshed at your best mates wedding is the right way to go....my best mate was drunk at mine and I loved every second of it!!! Also loving the carpet poo story and looking forward to these wonderful yucky moments of motherhood!!!

Pebs - any news dr wise? Holiday sounds fab....can't wait for my DH to come home then we will be having a nice break away - not sure where yet as he refuses to let me fly!!!

eve try not to stress too much about your little one and school - teachers tend to take you aside early on if they see good potential in the child but worry that its not being focused.....he will get to grips with the whole "school" thing and it will be fine!!! And you don't go on....have you seen the length of my usual posts!!! Xxx

manda keep thinking sticky thoughts....when I had all the early on stretching and pulling I imagined that the bean was making a space to burrow down in to....strange yes but it did help!! My friend was expecting to be offered a reassurance scan but has been told that hospitals in our area no longer offer this service as they are unable to keep up with current demands - bloody disappointed for her as she can't go private and even with her history (3 mmc) they still won't do anything - hope you have better luck your end!!

zebra how are you feeling now? Hopefully a bit better! Did you go for the lunchtime wine or were you really disciplined??

missg welcome to the puke face club.... your story was super sad but I'm keeping my PMA face on with this one and hoping all is well inside there for you!!

Right now who have I missed....hello to poppy, marathon, blue, shimmery .....right I think that's everyone....me and the ever growing bump are off to bed!!! Love to all xxx

Morning all, PMA outlook here is good! Hehe, IQ, I have just about managed to resist the lunchtime , although now Summer is my partner in irish coffee crime, this may not last ;-). Anyone else wishing to join the "medicinal beverages" crew, today's is hot chocolate and grand marnier (sounds gross but it's great, had forgotten about that one!).

Also have just heard that my job is shipping me off to do some work in New York then Japan! Result! Slight spanner in the ttc works as will only see DH at weekends, but hey, it's only for a couple of months, and this sounds like a good jolly very important project. Quite imminent it seems (might leave this weekend), so just in case I'm not back here for a while:

MissG, Marathon, Manda and IQ, really hope you guys continue to make good progress, and loads of luck with it! IQ, poor you with the crutches, make sure you take it easy and look after yourself.

SUmmer, Eve, Baby, Pie, Pebs, Poppy, Blue and Shimmery, and everyone (v sorry if I've missed you), loads of PMA and good wishes for all the results you want (without too much metalling, hopefully). Respeck to the June Squad Massif .

Ta ta for now! Z x

New york AND Japan? That's just greedy, zeb! Konichiwaaaaaa! I've always wanted to go to Japan and test out my two words of Japanese. Domo Arigato! See? I'm virtually fluent Seriously, I've wanted to go for years but I think I've missed my window of opportunity for some time as it's not a trip Id want to do with little ones in tow - my older two were bad enough in Egypt (which was a stunning trip, going to temples, pyramids (into one too), the unfinished obelisk, the Egyptian Museum, valley of kings, cruising the Nile etc etc) so I wouldn't be in a rush to go on another cultural visit with kids. Maybe when I'm decrepit retired.

I had salt and pepper prawns, and prawns in garlic last night. It didn't scratch the itch, either... I want satay prawns made by some man I don't even know! How was the lasagne missg?

Oh, I have EVERYTHING crossed for you, for tomorrow morning, IQ

Was it af, baby? I hope so (as weird as that sounds) and if you're anything like me, pms makes me very negative/volatile for a couple of days before af so here's hoping your PMA returns with bells on!

Just realised - not felt the need to metal at all. I'm totally in denial, aren't I?

I know, how odd that we're all rooting for Af to arrive for you Baby! I know you don't want to count your prawns chickens too soon, but this sounds promising. AF arrival = back on the SWI mission!

Manda I am majorly that you had prawns twice last night! The lasagne was fabulous right enough, BUT IT WASN'T PRAWNS! Lol at your comment. Said strange man is a very good cook (and he looks like Eddie Vedder from Pearl Jam, so it quite easy on the eye too). Which is great, because the male competive streaks means that he and my DH try to out do each other every time we have folk over for dinner. This makes for some amazing culinary delights!

Well, Summer, the spreadsheet has spoken And, as he makes such a great prawn starter, he deserves some shagging!

Hey IQ (and bump). Sorry to hear you're having back problems and hips . Is it something that is likely to sort itself with physio, or are you likely to be with crutches for your pg? And, most importantly, have you been signed off doing housework??? All the best for tomorrow, will be thinking about you. x

Eve we only have super-fabulous Mums/mums-to-be/future Mummies-in-the-making on here . I say tell her to get to bed earlier so she has more energy and patience at work. He's 5, she's a grown up. He'll settle into school life at his own pace.

Wow Zebra sounds like an amazing opportunity! And it doesn't need to mean TTC is completely out, but you (and DH) will have your work cut out at the weekends!

Happy birthday for Sunday Poppy. Just saying it just now as I am out at a friends tonight, and am getting nephew tomorrow at 11am, so might not be on MN tomorrow.

Hi to everyone else Marathon, Shimmery (we haven't head from you in a while, Hope you're doing ok) Pie Pebs Blue (you have your work cut out when you try to catch up on here! Hope you had a fab holiday!)

I am feeling very full of PMA at the mo. Marathon was it your DH who said that worrying was just a waste of energy? I am in agreement (for now). The only think bringing down my PMA is THE FREAKIN' LACK OF PRAWNS!!!!!!!!

Oh and Zebra, coffee made with amaretto liqueur is lovely too. Nice for after prawn dinner.

baby to channel my inner amy childs - i am well jel of your af!! it's 10 weeks for me now without even a sniff of af.

zebra sounds like new york and japan will be amazing - not sure if i could be bothered with all that flying though.

insonmia i am going to the doctors on monday to help find my missing af! i have been researching and it looks like they may give me progesterone tablets called provera. hopefully i will take them for 10 days and af will appear as if by magic! just hope it resets my cycles and i start ov'ing and af gets back to normal. i am hoping to start ttc in october after seeing the consultants for my results of the mc tests.

i am going to tenerife next weekend so would prefer not to have af. might hold off taking the tablets until i get back. sod's law af will come anyway when i am on holiday!

Hi all, just a quick one - thanks MissG for birthday wishes, I am on Saturday and its Baby on Sunday I think. Its my 30th, which by rights I should be celebrating with something very grown up and boozy sophisticated but in actual fact I shall be going to the zoo with DH and DS (in the rain probably). It is amazing how priorities change, now that I have DS the most important thing to me on my birthday is that he has a good day (that way I will be happy too ).

Don't worry folks, I am not completely lost to mummy-hood DH and I are sneaking out for dinner tonight whilst my lovely friend babysits

Wishing you so much good luck for tomorrow IQ

Baby hoping AF is here for you so you can get back at it

Oh and I am of those eating/planning to eat prawns. I am allergic to them, but they're so delicious. Not a great combination....

Happy Friday everyone!

Poppy I bet you'll have a great time - even if it rains. I love the zoo. We took my nephew in May when he had just turned 1. I think I was far more excited than him though! It's been a long time since DD wanted to go anywhere like that! Bad luck being allergic to prawns .

Happy birthday for tomorrow (thanks for clearing that up) and enjoy your dinner. And to you to for Sunday Baby

pebs I do think the GP can give you something to kick start AF into action again, but they might want to do HcG tests first. Good luck with it anyway. 10 weeks is a long time to be waiting. I hope zippng about in your new wheels is helping you to take your mind off it a little.

I can't keep up! so apologies in advance if I've missed replying!

Anybody have any holiday suggestions for a week at the end of October? Preferably not further south than Yorkshire/Peak District (we are in Scotland so don't want to drive more than say, 7 hours). Needs to be toddler friendly. I was thinking of Centre Parcs but the price puts me off, and the fact it's mostly Mon-Fri only rather than a full week?

I'm getting my bridesmaid's dress altered next week as it's too long. The last time I had it on was when I was 6 weeks pg

poppy happy 30th birthday for tomorrow! I can remember my 30th well (just!) me and my girlfriends all went to Dublin for a weekend and wore 70s clothes. It was absolutely hilarious and very very drunken indeed! It was 9 years ago though

baby happy birthday for sunday!! What do you have planned?

pebs I didn't get AF for 8 weeks by which point I was also thinking of going to ask for something to kick start the witch. Your tenerife holiday sounds like it has come at a good time! A break in the sun sounds just the ticket right now :)

summer My DS is 20 months. We aren't potty training yet, he just has some nappy off time after his bath which sometimes results in accidents on the floor! My FF chart is acting as my SWI spreadsheet at the moment but we aren't doing that well so far (CD8 and CD12 but I don't ov normally until between CD17 - CD19 so will hopefully have a busy week ahead!) :)

manda good work on being chilled! and scoffing the prawns! How are you feeling today?

IQ Will be thinking of you tomorrow, is this your 12 week scan? Hope you manage to get a decent night's sleep tonight.

missg Go gal with the PMA!! I'm not with you on the whole prawns thing though!

zebra wow happy travels! You lucky gal! NY is on my destination list for my 40th (next year!)

baby did AF make her appearance known yet?

eve awwww bet the first day of school photos of DS were very cute!!

sorry if there was anything else said I but can't go back a page for some reason!!

Gosh it's been chatastic here since I was last on! Sorry for not coming back after the blood test on Weds, I've been having probs with wireless connection.

Well, as I said, the scan seemed to go ok. I was sobbing so much when they found the hb that the sonographer had to stop for five mins. It was a long scan as we opted for the nuchal test but she couldn't get baby into position so she was prodding and poking for a good 20 mins. My measurements were large so she's put my due date forward by a week (to the 10th of March) but, as we were using opks, I think this is wrong. She said to talk to my midwife, apparently if you've been pg within 3 months of the scan they will only date you based on the scan, not on your LMP or OV date. I'm hoping to persuade my midwife to change it as I do NOT want to be induced because my dates were wrong.

We've only told a few close family. I don't feel the excitement I had after the 12 week scan with dd, I'm very conscious that things could still go wrong. Haven't posted anything on facebook as I vowed I wouldn't after my friend posted her scan pic the day of my erpc.

Still have my head in the sand even though our odds are so much better. I guess that's how it's going to be now, the worry will never go (yes MissG it was my DH who said it was wasted energy!). You don't think it'll happen to you but when it has, you start to think that everything could happen to you, iyswim? Now I'm worrying about the nuchal results (as I know someone who aborted a downs baby) and the 20 week scan (I also know someone who was induced after the 20 week scan as the baby had defects that meant it wouldn't live outside the womb, it was so sad).

Anyway, we're one step further on and I feel much more positive and less metal than I have for a long time

MissG and Manda the prawnaholics, you two need to eat prawns until you're (literally) sick of them, that'll sort you both out. I have a confession, I went to the chinese restaurant opposite the gym for lunch. Chili beef and rice, yum. Rather excessive, not going to tell DH. Especially given they weighed me at the hospital and I've put on nearly a stone already, this isn't boding well...

MissG hadn't heard your ectopic story before. It was very sad, you've been through so much, really hoping that things are on the up now. Sorry the lasagne was disappointing, you should have sneaked a few prawns in your handbag. Important to remember to take the ones you haven't eaten out again... urrrggh !

Manda fab news! Do you still think it's a girl? I pretty sure this one's a boy and the mc one was a girl. Funny how we have these instincts. Were you right before?

Baby glad AF seems to be appearing and you're feeling better. For me, AF made me feel more positive as I felt like we could start to do something proactive to get things back on track. It must be hard for you in some ways because we're all a bit further on (i.e our mcs happened months before yours) so it may seem that we've moved on from the grief. We've all been there though and the grief never truly abates, so we totally understand where you're coming from and are here to support as best we can

Oh and Happy Birthday for the weekend!!!

IQ oh dear, crutches, that doesn't sound good. Do you know what's causing it? Can it be sorted? Is your sis there to help? Will be lurking tomorrow to hear your news, all the very best of luck, will be thinking of you.

Zebra very jel of your trip. Never been to Japan but I'd love to go (I bloody love good sushi but can't get it since I moved out of London; that's not the only reason I'd like to go though, seem to have food on my mind all the time at the moment!). I love NY, have been a few times. Will you have time for shopping? Before we had dd, DH and I saved and went away for a week to Chicago (our fav US city), we explored, shopped, ate at amazing restaurants, stayed in a gorgeous hotel, it was brilliant. Now that we have dd I always think of that trip as something we won't do again until we retire. Not that I'd swap dd for anything, obviously

Summer dd is 25 months, a great age IMO. Lots of talking (ish), knows her own mind, a real little person and definitely not a baby anymore. So cute!

Poppy Happy Birthday for tomorrow! The big 3-0 eh, that deserves some celebrating. Enjoy it! My b'day is next week, the big 3-5, eeek! All these September birthdays eh? We know what our parents were up to at Christmas

Peps hope you get something from the doctor that doesn't interfere with your trip. Let us know how it goes.

Pie I loved your poo story, I hate taking dd's nappy off, she wee'd up the side of the washing basket last night. It's the way she looks down in an innocent "well look at that! there seems to be something coming out" sort of way. Bless 'em!

So, who've I missed? I'm bound to have missed someone. Hello to whoever I've missed! It's Friday so time for chocolate passes round prawn-flavoured Dairy Milk

This is going to be a super fast post as DH due back any second (well, he initially said 1pm but is always far later than he claims he will be.)

Marathon that's fab news. I can understand your reservations though, I think I'd be the same despite crossing the 12 week hurdle. However, it does seem like all systems go and so far so good and I am really glad you're feeling positive too.

IQ I have everything crossed we have similarly good news from you tomorrow.

Well, as I am sure you are all desperate to know, yes it is AF! Also, it was precisely 28 days ago (I checked!) that I had the heavy spotting etc which I wasn't sure if it was AF or not. I am very pleased indeed that things seem to be getting back to normal. Pebs I hope yours comes soon too so we can all get on with SWI!

Right, know I've missed loads but must rush. Wil check when I can over the weekend (yes, it is 37th birthday on Sunday, and happy 30th Poppy!)

x

baby Hoorah for AF! Good news.

Very quick one:
Well, I think I pulled off an oscar-winning performance last night. My friend was having a huge party - I mean huge. Covered dancefloor area out in garden, DJ set (my DH DJs) etc. So, when I first arrived, I opened a bottle of corona and took a couple of little sips whilst catching up with some friends in the kitchen. Then, I went through to where DH was setting up the decks and gave him my beer. Of course, no-one through in the party room knew I wasn't just giving my DH a beer, and no-one in the kitchen where I first got the beer knew I had ditched it. Came back 10 mins later and poured a 'vodka' and coke, and had 'vodka' and coke all night.

Around 1.30, I said I was going to bed - and left! The good thing is, they live on a massive farm, the house is mahoosove (I can stand inside one of the fireplaces) so you can quite easily say you're going to bed and no-one would know any different. And, my car was parked way up the drive near the stables so no-one would even see or hear me leave.

MY DH and BF planned to tell everyone this monrnng that I had got up early and left to pick up nephew.

I seem to be good at this lying malarkey!

Happy weekend everyone! (am really away to pick up nephew now )
ps. Marathon prawn flavoured dairy milk is soooooooooo wrong

LOL missg I was just coming on to say: marathon that's it, you've cured me by concocting dairy milk prawns!' Talk about ! (that said, I'm really not a fan of dairy milk, or any chocolate. I know, I'm terribly odd)

A super quick one to say happy birthday to poppy and that all is well with mini IQ - the little one seemed to be waving and stretching loads and have a couple of good face pictures......they definitely have my sisters cheeks!!!!

Right will catch up properly later but must dash as I'm already late to me my friend!!! Xxxx

Hola

Marathon and IQ - so glad your scans went well :), and another :) to *Baby for things getting back on track.

I've only skimmed all the more recent posts and will go back and look properly later (intrigued by the idea of dairy milk prawns). Unfortunately I have to do about 3 hours work first. Couldn't start without checking in though - it's my first opportunity for ages.

Work is manic - between 5:30 on Tuesday morning and 10:30pm last night (Friday), I had a grand total of 8 hours sleep - 4 hours Tuesday night, 1 hour on the train on Wednesday morning, and another 3 hours on Wednesday night. Didn't get to go to bed on Thursday night at all, as I finished all my work at 3:30am and was unfortunately WIDE AWAKE and would have had to get up at 5:30 anyway, so I just kept going through Friday.

To make it even more fun - I got a positive OPK on Thursday morning, and DH and I have been DTDing. Despite everything we managed Monday and Wednesday mornings, Thursday evening and Friday evening, so we're in with a fair chance . Last night had to be a quickie though - otherwise I would seriously have dozed off during the act!

Oh, YES! IQ Fab, fab news, so pleased!

I'm going to a wedding reception tonight but only going to stay an hour because I'll have DS2 in tow and can't drink anyway - nothing worse than being somewhere where everyone is getting smashed and you're...not. Plus, I'm struggling with tiredness, falling asleep almost come 9pm.

At least I won't have to tell big fat lies about why I'm not drinking as I'm still breastfeeding anyway and everyone knows.

Hope you're having a happy birthday, poppy - weather grim here so do hope you've got a little sunshine?

Likewise, for tomorrow, baby

Am I crazy? I just went out and bought four more FRER's so I can carry on testing for the next, uh, four days. (even more bargainous for me - I have over £150 of points so I used some to pay for the tests, so they were FREEEEE!)

Just taken me an hour to catch up with all the posts since we went away last weekend!! We had a lovely time on the Isle of Wight despite the rain, fog and howling winds!! Still managed to have a couple of lovely walks, great blackberry picking, trip to the cinema to see One Day (v good though made me cry) and when it was sunny some nice ice-cream! Oh, and lots of SWI have managed days 11, 12, 14, 15, 16 and 18 so far hoping that's not too much!! Feeling quite PMA about this cycle (read, will be gutted if I get AF in a couple of weeks time!) will try for another couple of days of SWI in case I've ov'd late and then off we go into the loooong 2 week wait! (I used to Ov on CD25 with 35-37day cycle but last cycle was 31 days which could suggest a CD17-18 ov date, though I did spot some clear CM on CD16 this cycle which was also our 4th wedding anniversary so would be if we conceived then!!)

Anyway...hoorah for manda and good scan news from marathon and IQ great news!

baby so sorry to hear things have been tough for you but glad AF has arrived!

Happy Birthday to the birthday girls this weekend!

I'm afraid that I lost the ability to note take so that I could do a full name check after all my looong reading so will just for the moment and catch up as the next few days go on!!

Right...now, with all these fresh blackberries and some nice stewed apple I've made some blackberry and apple crumbles and pies

Morning all...just a quick post before I head into work to say that I'm thinking of you today manda hope you're doing ok? Such good news about the bfp but I'm sure today will still be tough...take care...

shimmery sorry to hear your work so crazy at the moment but at you still fitting SWI in last week....go girl!!

Hope everyone has had a good weekend, and good birthday celebrations too! I'm not really looking forward to going back to work this morning - another week off would be most welcome! Plus now trying to decide whether I'm in the 2ww or whether a bit more SWI is needed

Must dash...catch up later!

Morning ladies.

Blue and Shimmery impressed by your dedication to the cause! Get those June hoodies on!

Manda I'm with you on the tiredness. I have been exhausted this weekend. Nephew slept right through the night, which was great, but I have felt like a burst sofa all weekend.

I have been metalling slightly over the weekend. Had some very lightpink-tinged CM on Saturday, just twice when I wiped after the loo (sorry TMI). Cue excessive googling. Then, last night, after my dinner, I had bad stomach pains. Not like crampy pains, just a general sore stomach. Felt so bloated too. Wasn't sure if I just ate too much (as I made a fabulous dinner of lasagne and creamy garlic sweet potato bake (and garlic bread obviously, I LOVE garlic) and ate quite a lot) but it didn't go away during the night and I still feel really yuk today. Have felt bloated in early pg before, but not to the extent that it makes me feel ill. Trying not to read anything into it, it could be a bug working on me I suppose. I feel like a bit of a fraud, but I am actually taking today off , as I am so tired and have basically felt sick and boaky since 7pm last night .

Hope everyone has a good week.

And IQ! Fab news about the scan. So funny you're making comparisons with your sister already! Did they date you then?

Morning All,

manda be good to yourself today, am thinking of you x And i'd be exactly the same in constantly doing tests!

blue wow!! you have been good with the SWI this month! You & DH must be knackered!"

shimmery another one on the money with the SWI! Sorry to hear work has been so crap - can I ask what field you are in (understand if you don't want to say!)

Am pretty sure we are out this month already. Just haven't done enough SWI! Managed a few days ago and again last night when i'd had a +OPK but, we've just been too knackered! I guess it only takes one little wriggler but am sure we've just not done it enough, hey ho! So, so far only on 8, 12, 15 but hopefully again tonight :)

IQ fab news about the scan gal! Go girl! :)

Found out yesterday somebody I know is pg and it 'wasn't planned'. They already have one DC and they said it's a shock but c'mon surely you know by know that unprotected sex could lead to pg!!! They are only 4 weeks but have told a few people already. Ah the innocence of never having experienced a miscarriage!!

poppy how was your birthday celebrations?

missg wow excellent sneaking off skills!

baby how was your birthday?

Waves to marathon, summer, eve, zebra and anybody else i've missed!!

Sorry crossed posts with missg! Try not to worry too much and stay away from Dr Google (okay so I know I would be doing the same if it were me but ....) am sure very light pink tinged CM is nothing to worry about, but you are doing the right thing in taking today off - stay in bed, watch DVDs, read and relax! :) I am sure the the bloatedness, sick, boaky feeling is a good sign. Am sure there were lots of things on google that said it's common/normal etc xx

(sorry for my rambled post missg I wanted to get something down before my morning meeting at work). xx

missg surely that's what holidays are for we certainly wouldn't manage that much SWI in a 'normal' week but a cottage on the Isle of Wight in the rain and the wind, well, another matter entirely Hope you're resting up and trying not to stress too much today...as pie said I'm sure some pink CM isn't uncommon and nothing to stress about...stay calm if you can.

pie hope you're doing ok? V difficult hearing about friends announcing pregnancies and especially sooo early and with a 'not planned' aspect too! DC's 8, 12, 15 could still be enough - as you say it only takes one swimmer!!

Having a bit of post holiday blues...DH not back to work until tomorrow and I quite fancy a day at home today too...instead I am at my desk trying to look busy whilst on MN working hard!