Just MC and ready to try again? Pack your leathers, black nail polish, air guitar and jump in the mosh pit for some serious metalling. All welcome! (Part 17)

[MarathonMama]

Hello! Just miscarried and ready to start again, come and join us...

Ok I?m back!

blue yippee for NYC! I went there in November 2006 with my friend and it was awesome, we couldn?t find a show we wanted to see so went to Radio City Music Hall Christmas spectacular and it was wonderful and congrats on completing your assignment, I know that feeling when you can sit back and relax with a

baby how creative of you! I like making cards and I know how satisfying it is when your ?creation? is complete.

manda my first two counselling sessions have gone really well, the hardest thing is getting yourself there, once I am on that couch I am talking for England, it is so therapeutic (incidentally I haven?t spoken much about the significant life events so far ? it has mainly been about my relationship with my family but that is all me!). I know what you mean about your body reminding you about why you are messed up

missg loving your calm before the storm!!

shimmery thank you for your words, I have come to realise (through my counsellor) that the root is that my mum just doesn?t get it and never has done, I just have to accept it and not expect too much. Well done for getting through the funeral, I know how hard it is at the moment to deal with other life events as well as your own as each thing can trigger deeper emotions. On a lighter note you made me PMSL at work at your ?climax? story!!!!!!! You go girl!

pie nice to know us oldies are not alone thanks to your acupuncturist! Good luck with that ? he does sound lovely. And yes be cautious about the Chinese herbs, I used to prosecute for the MHRA and Chinese Herbalists were our bread and butter PM me if you want more info

Well some of the shops around my work had smashed windows (Manchester) but generally it wasn?t too bad, unlike the poor people of Croydon and around London

I saw one of my neighbours go off to hospital with her labour bag yesterday I shed a little tear but am refusing to get down over it. I also heard that a colleague of mine is off sick as she has had a MC and is not dealing very well with it. I am sending her a card with my email address if she wants to chat..

Waves to eve boobeez IQ and everyone else, and apologies for my leave of absence!

hello all......feeling brilliant today as have heard about two more pregnancies today (one a lady i used to work with and the other a really nice work mate) - so happy for them both as they have had lots to over come (one was a resistant DH which can be pesky when your super broody and the other has hit the magic 40 and had a few MC's and a MMC and unexplained infertility so was worrying she had missed the boat) can't believe it.....sat here with a huge on my face.....soooooo happy for them especially my magic 40 year old she absolutely deserves it!!!!

So im sending a special message to everyone on this thread waiting to become updiffed (bring your eggs closer to the screen) LADY EGGS ARE FOR MAKING BABIES SO GET ON WITH YOUR JOB AND START MAKING BABIES......right hopefully that has done the trick - now im going to sit back with my lucozade and tap my sickness bands to stave off my current sickly feeling!!!!

Love to all!!! xxxxx

Hello all, I have been super metalling this week as keep bleeding (TMI) including clots and cramps. Had a third scan yesterday, and they can now see bleeding on the uterine wall, next to, but not part of the pregnancy sac. They told me they can see echos, which mean clots, so I'm likely to have quite a bit more bleeding. There's a slim chance that the bleeding may pull the pregnancy sac out with it, but EPAC said it really is rare.

So I'm feeling a bit calmer today, and now I know where it's coming from, I may actually be able to stay sane, ignore the bleeding, and make it to my 12 week scan. I'm now 8+4 and to me that 8 week heartbeat was a massive milestone.

Sorry I haven't caught up with all the posts, but I'm going to take some of the cake that's been offered and go curl up on one of the sofas....

Hi!! Still here. Also been mega busy recently. This is a particularly busy time of year in my field of work, so extra hours and evening work are the norm - have even missed body pump for almost 2 weeks! I do not like the fact that work is getting in the way of my MN chat but also do not wish to be unemployed

Blue oooooh, NYC!! Jealous , I am dying to go. DD wants to go Xmas shopping there but with the TTC, it's so hard planning anything. Wish I had unlimited funds and could just say to her one weekend "hey, lets book flights to NY for next week"..... aaaah, I can dream. Wonder how Whatso's getting on in Ibiza! The weather here is so grim. Heard on the radio that Glasgow had it's wettest day since records began. Well, it sure felt like it when I was sailing skiting driving down the road last night!

Cuttle although it must be a bit of a nightmare going through that bleeding, it's very exciting that you have seen your wee pip again, and reached that milestone. Fab news. Keeping everything (well, not everything) crossed for you. You get the Thursday 'PMA Queen' badge, which of course comes with a massive muffin of your choice

Hehe IQ Will get working on it straight away, boss! (Too scared not too) My DD's dad called to ask if he could take her to Ireland until Monday. I was like "hell, yeah" (think of all the SWI DH and I could get in - kept that bit to myself ) but then he called back later saying it was all off again . I mean, I love my DD, but 4 nights on cd 10-14 would have been put to very good use. Not only that, but he can't take her tomorrow night as per usual as he's going somewhere else now Buggerlugs!

Summer your poor colleague . I've been to Beanscene today, so have a muffin on me.

Hi to Marathon (how are you doing??), Manda Eve Pie Baby* Shimmery Boobeez Shorty Jambo Farfall (have a horrible feeling I've missed someone but my eyes are going skewwiff scrolling back through previous pages! Sorry if I have!)

Iam and Late Sorry!!! Hope you are well.

Huge congrats cuttle on 8 week heartbeat - fantastic news!! And good that you now know the reason for the bleeding, I'm sure that is comforting even if there is still a small risk associated with it.

IQ great about your friends too...are they people you see often who you can 'share the PG/new baby journey' with a bit? Nice to have people in RL due at the same time as well as on here! Also I will need to re-read your post to my ovaries later as didn't think reading it aloud was really appropriate in the office!! Reminded me that DH gave his swimmers and my eggs a talking to at the weekend and said they really needed to get it together and be friends cheered me up and made me when i was feeling a bit down!!

Waves to summer good to hear from you and help yourself to cakes...still lots left I think and I might bake more varieties to tempt the rest of our thread-buddies back! Sorry to hear about your colleague at work.

wondering what else I might acheive other than MN before I go home in 15mins...ought to do some more work really I guess!!

x-post missg help yourself to cake! NYC looking a little up in the air as the costs are mounting up...turns out the wedding is the same weekend as the NY marathon which has mahoosively increased hotel prices which is rather irritating! DH going to chat to the Groom to see if there's any family/friends we might be able to stay with for a few nights as it's getting a bit too pricey which is a shame.

Sorry to hear about your missed SWI opportunities too...I seem to finally be getting somewhere on the EWCM front but need it to wait 48hours as can't get down to anything until the weekend due to DH's shifts...grrrr...Now CD19 so looks as though I'm in for a long cycle again!

BIG WAVE!

Sorry I am still here, and STILL AT WORK! Grrrrrr, just not good enough. Am most peeved. Have been on an intensive course for 2 days (P6 software if anybody else uses it) so huge backlog of work to get through before I go home as am off tomorrow!!! Whoop, we are going to Aviemore for a long weekend to celebrate my 39th 21st Birthday

(PS Summer am not taking the herbs he has given me, just sticking with the acupuncture, i'm too paranoid to take something where I can't read what's on the box .)

Fingers crossed I ov this weekend so am planning lots of birthday SWI!

Sorry for me post, my brain is utterly fried so will stay till 7pm then that's absolutely enough, I don't get paid near enough for this malarky!

Have a fab weekend all xx

Hey everyone. In a bit of a funny situation.. Did a lloyds pharmacy test early this morning with bleary eyes cos I'd been experiencing a funny 'burning' feeling in my boob, so though that was odd. Did the test this morning and didn't wait much time at all and it was neg. Then later saw it in the bin and realised that I hadn't waited the full 10 minutes and hadn't waited til the control lone appeared. And the test has a positive result now.. Instructions say not to take any notice of readings after 10 mins. Wot do you reckon? Should I retest or just let it go? Xxx

Boobeez - Retest, retest, retest, RETEST. But, of course, you'll do that anyway!

Hello all. Have been quite busy and when not busy, I have been glued to the news hence the lack of posting. I have been dipping in and out though. Am feeling a bit guilty at the moment as I am off to a wedding next weekend (20th) and have bought things for it which really I cannot afford. I feel like a blow out though, as does DH, so am now trying to justify spending money on things that are not strictly neccessary (like entire outfits to feel like the bee's knee's in) due to this. Its not working very well though but not enough to make me want to take them back!

Bluecrane I can empathise with the NY wedding situation. The one we are going to is a mere 4 hours drive away but it still costs too much for us at the moment really, if we are being sensible (which we are not - see above paragraph for details.)

boobeez definitely worth a re-test in the morning...and patiently waiting for control line and the requisite amount of time for the result to appear...then you can hurry along to tell us all what it says!!!

baby wedding's are tricky like that...in thinking about the NY one I've also been thinking 'will I need a whole new outfit?' 'How posh will it be?' 'What if I'm pg by then...will anything I have now fit!?' and so on, on top of the actual cost of getting there, hotels etc!

Had a lovely time trying out my new electric hand whisk making raspberries and cream cupcakes from my new hummingbird bakery book this evening which has been fun! Though DH has just rung to say he's stuck at work so no idea what time he'll be home looks as though I might be asleep and not see him tonight

Pie have a fantastic birthday here's hoping for lots of birthday SWI with ovulation!!! Hope you weren't stuck at work too late.

Glad to see things getting a bit busier on here...IQ and I were feeling a bit lonely!

Weddings are indeed 'tricky like that.' I wish they weren't though! Also, re clothes, nobody would give a toss what I turned up in but it is SO nice walking into somewhere feeling fab, don't you think?

Totally agree baby especially when life's been as tough as it has for all on here...having a splurge on a great outfit and feeling fab for the day can make a huge difference to how you're feeling! How are the fimo models going?

Fimo is going really well, thanks. Unfortunately though, there is an unfortunate side effect which is that the amount of concentration it takes makes a glass of almost irresistable! So, the 'no booze during the week' rule went out the window after two days. Ooops! A wedding is a good excuse to get dressed up, see old friends and, er, get pissed is it not...? And, my god, I need that at the moment!

TMI alert - I went to the loo earlier and it was a bit red again (the dark red / brown stringy bits.) Not had this for a week. Does this mean AF or is it still MC bleeding? Confused and don't like it!

Morning baby weddings definitely have all those excuses and you definitely deserve those things even without the wedding excuse! Afraid the bleed sounds like old stuff so likely still leftover bits from MC I'm afraid...though could I guess be an eartly warning of AF nothing ztraightforward after MC I'm afraid! How's it all this morning?

boobeez any news?

Off to work so will catch up in a bit!

Morning all

Cuttle - hope you are resting up I have everything crossed for you and jnr.

Hope everyone else is ok. Just a quick hi as I am meant to be getting on with stuff!!

Baby know how you feel about wedding outfit. My step sister is getting married in 3 weeks. A very posh affair. I am dreading it to be honest. Got my dress in the sales half price from monsoon. Although expect everyone else to be dressed in coast as minimum. Hay ho.

Well hope everyone has a good weekend of swinging to look forward too then we can spend the next 2 weeks wondering what if :-)

Hi girls. No news yet cos my Mum is here, but may go and grab a test to pee on later today. Probably getting my hopes up for nothing though because there was no sign of a line yesterday initially, but I didn't wait for the control line... DH says retest next week... It will be 5 weeks since mc tomorrow and af can arrive up to 6 weeks late, so maybe I should wait until a week tomorrow... Bleugh! Xxx

Hi all

IQ - I was option (c), but after today will be back online as it'll be the 2WW for me (I got a positive OPK on Wednesday morning, so today is effectively the last chance saloon). I'm glad you're surrounded by people with good news.

Cuttle - Sorry you're having bleeding, but I'm so glad for you that your baby is hanging on in there. Sounds like your baby is tenacious, which bodes well.

Blue - Glad to have provided some amusement - it truly was hilarious. I kept chortling to myself throughout the rest of the day every time I thought about it. Also - mmm cupcakes. I keep thinking I might get the HUmmingbird Bakery book and try making whoopies, but I suspect that would quickly undo my recent shredding. I don't have much in the way of self control.

Boobeez - Retest! You know you want to. :)

I'm off to visit my grandparents this weekend, so need to get on and make a crumble (we take food with us so they don't have to cook). Dad's coming too and is making lasagne.

To all others - I won't namecheck due to my fear of missing people off - see you soon!

Ladies,

Will catch up properly later but thought i would share this with you as it has gotten me through a day of feeling particularly rough and horrible.....almost pee'd my pants!!!

Enjoy!!! xxxx

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/1274048-To-never-leave-my-house-again-never-ever-ever?pg=1

Hello lovely ladies! Sorry for being AWOL last week. I took a last minute trip to visit some friends and there was no wireless and only a little phone signal Had a lovely time but am totally out of touch with the goings on here.

cuttle so pleased that you know what the bleeding is. That must be a big relief, hope you don't get too many more clots.

boob I love your name! You must test again pdq! Have you had a bfn since your mc?

baby I had bleeding like that all through my two post mc cycles.

No news here, had some symptoms last week! Nothing major, I didn't puke, but I was tired, hungry and a bit queasy Seems to have gone today and yesterday but keeping the mantra in my head and trying to avoid donning my black leather jacket...

waves to everyone and passes round double deckers (I've never been a Crunchie fan)

Oh IQ that link is fantastic just sat at my desk trying so hard not to giggle as load as I really want to...one of the funniest things I've read in ages! Thank you! Hope you're feeling a bit better!

Welcome back marathon glad to hear about the symptoms!

shimmery hope you have a lovely weekend...enjoy the crumble!

Right...back to work...

:( bfn again. Different brand this time nd not as sensitive, but there it is. Might step off the tour bus for a while cos I think I'm thinking about all of this too much. Thanks for all your support guys. You've been lovely. Good luck with the baby making everyone. Over and out. Xxxx

I'll take a double decker marathon but hanker after a Star Bar - they're still around but I never seem to see them very often.

boob I can't recall - did you get a bfn following your mc? It took many of us here quite some time to get a negative so if you didn't it's something to bear in mind. THis really is such a very difficult time - if you need to step away, of course you must; but it's also invaluable to speak to others who really know what you're going through so please don't hesitate to 'come back' if you need to - we're here for you x

cuttle It's good you have an explanation for the bleeding and that's its not directly connected to the pregnancy - fingers crossed for a great outcome for you

Annnnd... mind has gone blank again.

Morning all - I promise to catch up properly tomorrow but at the moment just need some ears to vent to - it may be that I'm pregnant and therefore a little bit insane but had a fall out with the MIL last night........I'm African and my DH is English. I tried to explain to her that children from mixed ethnic backgrounds tend to identify with one more than the other - not that either is better or worse - but they just do. Now I can say this from experience as I have many mixed race cousins, friends, nieces and nephews ect who all tell me this is true. I made a statement not a judgement.

Now when I said that she said "it's your job to make sure that doesn't happen".......which was difficult for me to understand when her son (my DH) was sat next to her and really she should have told him that. Maybe I've missed something but I thought parenting was a joint responsibility!!

I tried to explain that I wasn't able to teach my child about being 'english' because I'm not - I can teach them that they are half English and that they should be proud of and have respect for that side but would expect their dad to go through things with them. It isn't really possible for me to teach them about something that I don't really have much idea about - whereas my own culture I know about that and so can bring that to the table. Again this isnt good enough - was really angry last night and went for a walk with my sister at like midnight (thank god she was here) so that I could wind down and actually go to sleep.

It is fully possible that I'm being ridiculous and in the case that I am please tell me but the way she was speaking to me yesterday I just feel like if this baby is ok I should hand it over to them because obviously the way that I plan to raise them isn't good enough and they will obviously do a much better job of it than I will!!!!!

IQ v sorry to hear about your MIL situation...you're not being ridiculous...whenever there are different cultures involved there will be clashes at times. I'm a bit the opposite in that I'm the English one and DH's family at West Indian but I feel equally illqualified to teach a child about his culture in detail and would see that partly as his responsibility and his parents/family. I will obviously do my best but it will always have an English slant/bias. Can't write more just now but didn't want to leave your post without responding. Have you chatted to your DH about it all?
PS No handing over the child to them!!!