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Cavemum TTC#1 - Currently undergoing fertility tests.

Evening ladies, we obviously I mean DH have decided to go for a car that isn't your traditional family vehicle 2 doors, no back seats, tinted windows OMG what are we thinking Obviously by fate I will now be preggers and just have to cope with struggling to fit a baby seat in the back!
I am now cd17 so just counting down to AF arriving 28th or 29th. Am not doing anything different just carrying on as normal and trying to put things to the back of my mind, we have done all we can now this month. This is the first real month of trying at the right times so fingers crossed.

Hi and welcome to all the newbies

Feel free to ask any questions that come to mind: some of us gave been knocking around on here for rather a long time

How are you feeling Secret? When was AF due? You just never know, I have read loads of threads on here, some quite recently, from ladies seeking AF only to be already updiffed!!!

Fingers and toes crossed it could be a slow developing BFP

Are those ovulation kit things worth getting? The pee on a stick ones.. they're very expensive in boots etc so I wanted to check how useful they are. I assume you can get them cheaper online but are those ones reliable?

I was advised not to use ovulation sticks unless you have a very regular cycle - otherwise you can end up spending a fortune.

Secret when was AF due? Do you know for sure that you ovulated? Have you recently come off the Pill? That can play havoc with your cycle.

Ah yes, mine always fluxuates a day or two each month so probably not the best idea! thanks.

I have just bought some more ov sticks for CBFM snuff and my cycles can be between 29-35 days so tis a little expensive and I've also just bought a thermometer so going to start temping. Perhaps temping/charting might be a better option for you to try?

Yes I think I'll start with the temperature thing, and then consider buying the CBFM if we're having no joy.. my cycles are between 29-33 days more or less.

Hello

I'm brand spanking new here and ttc #1.

DH and I have been "planning" on when we would get pregnant for ages... I mean how stupid was that?

Currently in cycle #2, period due on Sunday, took test this morning BFN and I can feel twinges which signify she is on her way...

I wasn't expecting to feel so blue about ttc and I'm only on my 2nd cycle.

Hi cupcake and welcome! Sorry to hear you are feeling blue but hopefully
You will get pg soon. Best thing to do is take a proactive approach, get a good diet going, take folic acid, have sex three/four times a week and you then know you've given it the best chance every month. It does take some of us longer than others but we'll all get there in the end. All the ladies here are very supportive when you need a bit of a hand hold/shoulder to cry on :)

Thanks raspberrytipple. Next month I will be positive! It is Christmas after all [simle]

My DH is quite enjoying all the demands for sex, makes him feel like we're teenagers again... I'm sure it'll soon wear off

I guess like most first timers you soon get a reality check. I think this place is great for advice and support, after all everyone is going through the same thing. God imagine if i told MIL what we were trying to do OMG pressure

Afternoon everyone, been a while since I posted on this thread. Since then I've planned the wedding, got married, and been on my honeymoon. Now back to work and bored of the daily grind, so posting on MN again :)

I saw we had a run of BFP's on here recently - congrats to all concerned!

Welcome to the new starters, hope your time here is short, and your BFPs well on their way.

Raspberry I sometimes wonder what would happen if Mother Nature took a bit more of an active role in her fertility selection. If everyone had to give up caffeine and booze, eat well and exercise before it was possible to get pg, I think the world would be a better place. At least, the developed world. . A little bit of education and self denial would help prepare a lot of people who become parents for life with a child.

Sweetie congrats on the new car, and your upcoming ironic BFP. :)

Snuffle I think OPKs are worth doing if your cycle is irregular - sorry to disagree CaveMum - as it can help with planning and timing of SWI. However, I'm sure it could get very expensive very fast. I personally decided against using them - my cycle isn't particularly regular (ov anywhere between CD14 and 18), however, my cycles are close enough that I don't find it hard to book in my DH for SWI every 2 days for about a week. To make sure I cover ov day. I also chart my temperature, so I know ov day, and know we can both relax a bit.

Cupcake when I started TTC I thought it would be almost instant - although we didn't start based on a plan for when we wanted the baby born, we did at first consider if a May baby was ok timing. I think if our first month had correlated with a December baby we'd have held off till the next month. Alas, a year later and I'd not say no to a BFP any month!

Remember though Cupcake all the symptoms of a BFP are the same as symptoms of AF - so don't give up hope just yet. Testing on Wed for a Sunday AF was a little early imo.

Thanks for the advice Stasi, I've just got married and returned from honeymoon too so congrats and I know what you mean about getting back to reality!

I'll take heed of what you say about the sticks, I think I'll try temping for a month or two to see how I get on, I have NO idea when I ovulate (apart from knowing which days I get cm etc)

Hi,

Been talking about it for a while but bitten the bullet and come off the pill, ttc baby #1.

Scary thought but also exciting that we soon could be parents. :o The finger is still bald though but that's a small thing.

Welcome Magenta, hope you're not here long (in the nicest possible way). When did you come off the pill, and which were you on?

It's generally a very good idea to let your body settle into a natural routine after the pill - most take about 3 months.

I've heard that doctors can get quite annoyed if you get pg on your first month of coming off the pill, without having at least one period. They time day 1 of your pg as the first day of your last period - so not having one causes them problems!

completely agree Stasi some people who I know got pregnant very quickly just genuinely don't understand how difficult it is, like I must be doing it wrong as it's sooooo simple...... insert willy......remove willy......sneeze..... hey presto! yeah whatever :/ It's not that I begrudge them their baby as I wouldn't wish my tears on anyone else ever but that's what is so nice about MN and being around people who are going through it, we all know how stressful and heartbreaking it can be and I never felt anything like I do now at the 6 month or even 9 month mark. Completely horrendous is how I'm starting to feel, especially as we are now married.

welcome magenta - I found unprotected sex VERY exciting for the first few months. Coming off the pill had a very odd affect on me and I didn't realise what an impact it was having on my body, I lost weight and my sex drive WENT THROUGH THE ROOF. Sorry to shout but seriously, every day for the first month. Poor DP as he was back then was genuinely mortified and very sore bless him. Might have accounted for the weight loss too :) Enjoy it though, it felt very naughty and very fun!

secret gutted for you on the false alarm front. I thought I could see a line once, I'm sure it was there. I went do DH and he said no so I tested the next day and nope, no line. that was 6 months or so ago so it definitely wasn't a pg, just a dodge internet cheapy. I've given up buying expensive test. Actually, Ill pee on anything when I get the urge to pee, I know its not going to be positive so I may as well pee on lolly pop sticks!! lol.

cupcake I've told my mum and my friends who I know are baby oriented. My mum has gone from being excited to being supportive as time has gone on. It is nice to have people to talk to. I decided to only tell people who I 'knew' would be trying for babies soon. Unfortunately all six of the buggers started trying just after me and have now had their babies. As I just said above I LOVED the first few months of sex was great but we've been through phases of doing it loads to being to knackered to DH sometimes feeling like a sperm donor and one phase where DH was having 'problems'. I confided on here and quite a few ladies had seen their DH have the same thing and said to back off completely and let him take the lead. three weeks later we were back on track .

Waves to snuff Cautious sweetie and cavey

In my news just quickly I went to see a nutritionist this evening. £60 for a two hr consultation and some MAJOR changes to be made to my diet the most devastating being cutting out booze and caffeine :( We specifically talked about infertility and I basically have a lot to do to get my body up to scratch so that if I come back from the docs tests and all is well down there, at least I am giving myself the best chance. She also said, interestingly that they whoever they are, are starting to see patterns between the contractions of the fallopian tubes which move the egg down and women who drink a lot of caffeine i.e. women who drink more caffeine have less contractions meaning that the egg takes longer to get to the sperm by which time they may have diet. She was also saying that it can have an affect on the crust of the egg ie the outside shell, making it tougher for the sperm to get through to fertilse. She was it was just initial research though but was interesting to hear anyway. Anything to enthuse me into changing my quite honestly abysmal diet!

wow - mammoth post!

Hi ladies, I've been off the radar recently so I promise I will try and catch up with everyone.

Basically, I am off work sick again because my best friend got pg within 3 months of TTCing while we were on month 15 and the hurt was horrendous. My blood tests showed that my ovaries were working harder than they should be to ovulate, but the clinic thinks I am ovulating. The dr said I didn't have very many follicles and reckons my ovaries are more suited to someone ten years older than me. Had to have yet another blood test to check my egg reserves (third blood test now, I'm a pro at them), a swab for chlamydia and an internal ultrasound so I'm feeling pretty violated and embarrassed right about now. DHs sperm is fine so it's all me, so naturally I feel like a complete failure and like I've let DH down. Gotta have an HSG too, which I'm terrified of having, and terrified of getting the results. Dr says if my tubes are blocked she will be recommending IVF sooner rather than later. Great for someone who's terrified of needles, hospitals and operations. So my general outlook is terrified!! I'm having counselling again, which is helpingme and I do feel slightly more positive than I have done preiously, probably because something is being done, and maybe because I had the horrible embarrassing tests done and no-one is looking at me differently . I'm terrified that DH won't love me anymore because I don't work, and I'm worried he'll be grossed out by the tests and won't love me anymore if he sees me in that position, but he assures me he won't be grossed out and will love me no matter what (I have some extreme self-esteem issues). I'm considering asking him to be in the room for the HSG but I'm not sure if I'll be too embarrassed. I think he won't look at me in the same way when he's seen that being done. Anyway, the ball is rolling.

Hope you are all ok xx

Aww Josie big hugs.

I also have big self esteem issues, but you have to trust your DH. He loves you, and nothing a doctor does with a camera is going to change that!

Though you maybe don't want to hear this, being pg includes lots and lots of needles and doctors and nurses looking at your bits. My sister was terrified of needles, but by the time she had my nephew she no longer batted an eyelid at nurses taking loads of blood.

If I were you I'd ask your DH to come in with you for the HSG. If you feel uncomfortable having him there, then you can ask him to leave, however if they start without him there, you won't be able to ask for him to be allowed in.

I hope the counselling helps you feel better, have you thought about other options? I've been looking at acupuncture today (which obviously wouldn't work for you with your needle-phobia) but they also had hypnosis and yoga as ways to help your fertility and general wellbeing and stress levels.

Hey Josie,
Good to see you back but sorry to hear you are having a difficult time still, it's a long old process this getting pregnant malarky for some of us but it sounds like some positive steps forward are being identified. DH will love you whatever, that's what his vows were for at the end of the day :) Glad your back x

Aw Josie not sure what to say but I am sending you many many hugs. I really hope things go your way for the tests you will be having. Hang in there. I am sure DH will be really supportive and worried that you are ok. Ask him if he wants to be there with you, if you need him to be. Talk to him about how you are feeling so he can understand too.

I do hope this all goes well for you xxx

Hi Josie nice to see you again, though I wish the circumstances were happier.
I know exactly what you mean about feeling like a disappointment or a failure, I felt exactly the same when we found out about my PCOS. I took it quite hard, but as someone said to me you wouldn't call yourself a failure for breaking your leg or developing diabetes, so why think that way about this.

I'll be honest, the HSG was not the most comfortable experience of my life, but it didn't hurt. It was more like a longer than normal smear test. I will warn you that I was told that I had a blocked tube following my HSG so had to have a Laporoscopy to get a better look at it. During the operation (my first ever general anaesthetic) they discovered that I didn't have a blocked tube and that my tube must have gone into spasm during the HSG and clamped itself shut. This is apparently pretty common, so don't assume the worst if they say you have a blocked tube.

I'm now waiting on ovulation, which should be pretty imminent if the Clomid has worked its magic!

Any sign of that ovulation yet Cave ?? !!!

Very quiet in here over the weekend, must all be having a nice time. I debated whether to do some christmas shopping as we are only buying bits and bobs this year so I reckon I can get it all from sainsbury's then get lots of points so I can then buy myself treats :) I'm also hoping to get to DTD tonight, not for fertility reasons but having been so poorly and now we are feeling better I am in need! It's funny isn't it, we gear up massively for those few days then breathe a sigh of relief, it's surprising how quickly we forget the other reasons we use to DTD before we wanted to breed!