The First Time Frolickers - Home to Ladies TTC their first child!

[CaveMum]

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Cavemum TTC#1 - Currently undergoing fertility tests.

Congratulations bradders! Great news!
Im pleased to say that I can also join the BFP group - got two lines this morning! Im thrilled and terrified in equal measure given my ectopic in the summer. So scared that this one will be too. Been to the docs this morning to try and arrange an early scan. Cant bear to actually say the words out loud to anyone till Ive had it.

Congrats for the recent BFPs. I was so happy to see my old partner in crime Flick had got a surprise BFP this morning that I cried a little

I've started hanging out on the BESH thread (ladies over 30 having problems ttc) so might not be around a great deal on here, but suffice to say I'm thinking of you all and wishing you all lots of pink lines

Congratulations LucyLucy. I will be joining you too as very shocked to get a BFP this morning :o :o
Have had no symptoms other than the usual pre AF ones, although I have been feeling a bit more tired in the evening & have had a bit of an upset tummy for the past few days. Anyway my temp was still high this morning & it usually always drops the day of or day before AF so I did a cheap HPT & the second line came up almost straight away!! I was on my 9th cycle so had just started to worry that I was not fertile or something so am of course over the moon, although I still can't quite believe it.

Wow another BFP!

Congrats Readynow, how exciting! I hope all you lucky ladies are heading over to the First Time Frolickers thread in Ante-Natal - just because you've got your BFP doesn't mean we don't continue to support one another! Sadly I've been here so long that most of the ladies who were FTF when I joined have now had/are about to have their babies.

On my front AF showed up over night so it's Clomid Time!

Thanks CaveMum Will go & check it out. Good luck with starting clomid. Hope to see you on the other thread very soon. :)

That brilliant Ready! You must be over the moon! I had no symptoms either and wasnt building my hopes up at all. The only thing that made me suspect were my temps too which were unusually high at the end of the month then stayed that way. I didnt dare hope to start and just assumed that it was because I was on holiday in a hot climate! So pleased for you.

Im going for a scan very soon to check baby is in the right place this time. Very nervous about this indeed. Im hoping its soon!

Thanks for the tip about the thread cavemum. I hope the clomid works well and fast for you.

Congrats to the newly up-diffed! You're very welcome to join us on the FTF grads thread - a lot of wise & straight-talking ladies to help support you through the first hairy weeks after the BFP!

Cave hope you won't be far behind now you've started on that Clomid

ok, apologies in advance for the me me me me me and I know it's my own fault, Facebook is the work of the devil but............ a cousin (one of five in their family and we not close, barely see eachother from one year to next if that) posted a picture today of a new born. Now, the oldest of the siblings had her first at 16, second at 19 and third at 20 and her brother had his first at 19 with his 15 year old girlfriend and this new baby is his. The last time my mum spoke to my aunty (her sister in law) neither of these people could afford to feed or clothe the babies they have, they had been on the scrounge, my aunty gives them money for gas, food, at one point going to tesco to buy milk and nappies as one of babies was wrapped in a fucking towel and had 'eaten' nothing but orange juice and a mcdonalds mcflurry all day when she got there (this was a 6 month old). WTF! How is it that they can just breed like fuck? They eat shit, drink and smoke every day, are fat and filthy (literally) and they just sneeze and are up the duff. What is it? I just feel like throwing myself on the floor and screaming or headbutting the wall.

Bravo Raspberry - I think you have just voiced what a lot of us have felt at some stage!!!

Really delighted to hear so much BFP good news from our comrades this month - I'm feeling much more positive after reading all the success stories xx

Blimey, I really was an angry bunny yesterday! I felt much better for my outburst but I still meant it lol. I was clearly angry as I don't really swear that much in RL, my punctuation and my spelling is usually better too. I still it's mad though.

Anyway, I am about to become fertile I believe, been horny as hell all day and had a lot of TMI EWCM when I wiped at lunch time so text DH and told him to get his shag pants on :) Early night for us.

Congrats Readynow and bradders I see Flick got a BFP too which is fab, I remember her when I first joined Mumsnet however long ago so there is hope for us all

Hope the shagathon went well raspberry

Don't worry about the blow out, we've all done it in some form I'm sure! Personally, I don't get angry I get very very sad - lots of tears, snot, and "Sob, why, sob, am, sob, I, sob, not, sob, pregnant?! Wail!"
It's not pretty

Shaggathon did not go well, wouldn't do it Monday nor last night and I've just tried to get a quickie before work and been told to stop going on. Ended up having a go at him. I'm not sure whether he doesn't want a baby or whether he just doesn't fancy me anymore. He genuinely doesnt have a clue about making babies and thinks that eggs get hatched at the beginning of the month then stay there waiting for sperm until the end of the month so once should be enough. This is driving me completely crazy and I just have no idea how to sort it. Not much good 10'weeks into a marriage is it. I'm afraid I'm a bit sob sob snot snot now too :(

It's been two weeks since he took his sperm same in and we've heard nothing do you think it is worth chasing?

Poor raspberry my heart goes out to you. I think men are clueless about the whole baby making process. That said I too wouldn't have much idea myself without MN and all the advice I have had on here.

My DH also thinks it can happen at any point through the month with minimal effort. I have sat him down and explained how it all works, what is involved from him and most importantly about timings etc. I think he has grasped it and this month has been more willing.

I would ask DH to call to check on the SA results, if he is a bit more open to it.

Big hugs

I had to sit DH down and explain the timing issues. The problem is that, when we get sex-ed at school the boys don't really get to hear about periods do they have very little idea of what is involved.

Have you tried not telling him when you are fertile and just pounce on him every other day?

Definitely chase the SA results.

Thanks girls, feeling a bit better now. I did take a break from MN but to be honest have missed the support! Going to ring the doctors tomorrow to chase up SA results. DH is too engrossed in his stupid x-box games at the moment to talk any sense too but I fear it would be useless trying! It's not always like this but when it is it gets me down.

I've tried the gentle persuasion and just dragging him to bed at the necessary times without mentioning why but he's sussed it now. I think the problem is that he just doesn't believe I 'want' sex, he just assumes its just that I want the sperm when actually 90% of the time that's just not true.

anyway, I really need to stop moaning!

Can I ask a bit of a dumb question of the lovely FTF ladies.

Do you find yourself putting normal things on hold "just in case". What I mean is booking holidays too far in advance, buying a new car with 5 doors instead of 3 doors, decorating rooms in none baby stuff.
We are just doing all of these at the moment and having major dilemmas over all of them.

We have bitten the bullet and booked to go on a cruise in May, but in the small print if we are over 23 weeks preggers we can not travel. We are looking at cars this weekend for DH, he wants something small and sporty, 3 doors is pretty standard for the types of cars he wants but should we really be looking for 5 door cars? Finally we are currently decorating the spare bedroom nursery and doing it only plain in case we need to change it in the near future, I know not the biggest job but it feels a bit of a waste of effort.

I know we have to continue as normal and not put our lives on hold but it just seems all these things seem to have come at once. Sorry for then long post but I just need to let it all out.

Well ladies, the mystery of the missing sex drive has been solved. After three glasses of wine he's in the bath an slyly says 'hunnnnnn' (in his best whiney voice) my knobs all spotty I think I've got thrush'. And bless he really does, it's fairly spotty so he's being packed off to the doc Tomo. I probably gave it to him because I've felt it coming on today oddly enough. Ah well, wasted tears but what is it with men and pride!

sweetie yep have put lots off but 2 yrs in and have given up on that, in hondsight we should've carried on as normal but we didn't and regret that now. There is nothing that can't be sorted out if it turns out you are pg, just carry on as normal, in fact it seems to work that way for some people. Book something stupidly expensive that you can't possible do if you get duffed and you will get pg. That reminds me, I really must book that jump from a dirt bike with a parachute off the grandcanyon travis pastrana stylee for January :)

raspberry sorry to hear abut DH, but as yuo say at least you know the reason behind his odd behaviour!

sweetie I have to admit that I have put things off whilst ttc, but to be honest as raspberry says, I'm 18 months in and still nothing doing!!

well, DH's results were 'normal' and nothing to worry about with him according to the doctor. Which is good I know but I now I feel a load load of pressure on me. It doesn't help that I have the whole day off on annual leave today and feel beyond ill, have hardly moved off the sofa, sore throat, thrush and I've vomited twice first thing this morning, probably from the bottle of wine last night and the sore throat, and the weather is shit. lol, I really am a happy bunny this week :) I promise I will be less grumpy next week. When do we get the Christmas emoticons out?

Poor raspberry it is very bad timing to be proper poorly sick when on annual leave. I do hope you feel better soon. It is good news the DH results are normal, at least there is no excuse to be had now.

My DH got his SA results today and he is all ok. So according to all the GP tests we are both good to go and just need to get on with it!!!

Thanks Cave and raspberry on the decisions while TTC lark, I think it was all getting a bit much yesterday. We have to decided to continue as we were and as you rightly and wisely say we can makes changes as and when we need to. So we are off car hunting tomorrow oh deep joy, where is my Kindle??? bet we end up with the least practical car but hey ho.

Chin up raspberry hot toddy and early night for you

How did the car hunting go Sweetie? Quite envy you getting a new car. We got a second hand one last month which is 5 door with a big boot so sensible in that respect but it's also a bit sporty so nice and fast :)

I'm still full of cold but seem to be going through a process. Friday was sore throat/sicky day, yesterday was bunged up/couldn't breathe day and today is can't stop sneezing and runny nose day so hopefully tomorrow will be 'feeling much better day'.

I am also now going to try to be much more proactive, my diet is going to get an overhaul, Im going to stop drinking alcohol, caffeine etc and really get my arse into gear. I am also going to try and have a chat with DH this afternoon to get the message through about how you actually conceive a baby :) Wish me luck!

HELLO! Can I join in please?

I'm 31 and we're going to start trying to conceive on my next cycle (due on in a couple of days so in theory will be trying shagging lots in a couple of weeks).

I'm a complete novice, I didn't even know there was only a couple of days a month where you could get pregnant for god's sake.. dimwit I mean, I knew about ovulation but had never really thought about it all! All this taking temperatures and the like is going to be new to me!

Anyway.. I have "borderline pcos" in one ovary (it's "bulky" apparantly..ehem) but hopefully that won't affect our chances..

Hello and good luck to all!

Hi all,
Another newbie here, to the boards but sadly not to ttc - just starting my second cycle of trying again after a mmc in July. A very common tale it turns out, though until I started reading about ttc I had no idea. How naiive I was.

Anyway, you sound like a friendly bunch - do you mind if I join you?

Good luck to all. We'll get there.