Feisty Fabulous Forty somethings - part 3

[Curlylox]

As you were ladies

Just popped by to say - Great news hippy about the house, fingers crossed for jolls and waves hello to everyone else x x x x

Hello lovely forty somethings. I have just got another bfp. That's four in a year. I sure hope this one sticks.

And oh jolls please, please it works out for us both!!!!!

Yeh Hippy massive congrats on the house....Know what you mean....we re planning on moving to the West Mids from Yorkshire as soon as GBOS is here ,we can get jobs and sell the house.I ve been at my job 10 yrs now but sometimes you just got to go for it haven t you???????

Jolls did i read right???????????????You re waiting to Monday to re test????? Are you trying to drive me in to frenzy woman???? XXX
Hi Curly XXX

Hippy good luck with it all.

Baby dust to you all.

We won;t change holiday but will work around it, basically nothing is fixed yet, I was just getting stressed!

We don't have a date yet or even a donor yet but we should be matched in the next couple of weeks.

My AF has gone awol so I did a pregnancy test, BFN again. I can't even be bothered to do a sad face as I knew it would be negative.

Hugs to all.

Italian I'm so excited for you and I'm looking forward to detailed posts of how, when, where, if, etc etc
Lou you're making my head spin, so you're thinking of moving too...........makes me smile when I read your posts as you're in a good place now.
BB it'll all come together and work out, you'll see. Congratulations hippy. Apologies for not name checking you all, am soooooo tired,
hoping for an early night......and have to squeeze in a swi as dh is up and out very early tomorrow morning. Night night x x x x

Paella, please if the Bistro is open?

There's so much going on. Congratulations Hippy. Wow, that didn't take long. The market is really slow here in comparison. How exciting. You know there's that old saying, "New house, new baby"? Perhaps that will work for you and Beattie. I had two new pregnancies with two new houses. Not planning on a move any time soon though.

Italian, isn't it wonderful that you'll start your treatment soon? It's really exciting and gives you a great chance at getting pregnant.

Hairy!!!!A BFP. I really hope this is a sticky one.

Jolls, can't wait to hear on Monday. My goodness you have amazing strength to wait. Old Mrs PeeOnAnything that resembles a test, every 40 minutes (me) could definitely not wait that long!

My LO is being so naughty lately - he's baffled both me and DH with his antics. He has a stubborn streak. I can practically read my DH's mind every time he has a tantrum:"You want to do this again.Are you mad?!" I don't think Charlie realizes he's jeopardizing his chances at having a little playmate. Managed to get a SWI in last night, so that's good(of course Dh didn't stop at any point to ask if I was fertile.He just trusts that I'll say something. Does that make me a manipulative bitch? Probably.)
I got another Peak on the monitor yesterday, so maybe....

Deige - you have used a monitor haven't you? I just wonder why some months the monitor asks for a test stick the day after a peak day (this month) when other months it doesn't ask for a stick, but gives a 2nd peak day anyway?So this month I had two peak days - both after using a test stick.Then today the monitor said "High" but I didn't have to use a test stick.So I think that the fertile period has definitely passed. I tried a few opk's but didn't get a positive at all.I got some close ones the day before yesterday, and I guess I just missed the surge because I didn't test at the right time. Yesterday's opk was much lighter. What do you think?

We are really behind with a lot of the UK tv shows here in Australia - but the other day I saw an episode of Peep Show where Sophie is in labour. It's really funny isn't it? Also only just got series two of Gavin and Stacey - it's the episode where Smithy is told he's going to be a dad. Can't wait for the next episode. Then there's Being Human, and Nina is pregnant (there's a common theme here...)Sadly on last night's episode she was stabbed by that evil nasty vampire, Eric.

We just don't have nearly as many good shows in Australia, thought there are some great Dramas. I doubt you get them over there?

Well, I have my SIL coming to stay today, so I'm going to have to spruce up the "guest" room (Charlie's bedroom!). And then off to the grower's market.I haven't been for a while.

I guess I'm in the 2ww, and I suppose there's a slight chance for me, but I'll try not to be too hopeful.I think I'll try doing "Project garden" again to keep the 2ww busy. And try not to think about how my boobs feel either...bah humbug.

Morning! Paella on its way Italian; sorry chef was late in yesterday so orders somewhat delayed. You just can't get the staff can you?
Gum no have never used a clearblue monitor I'm afraid, just cheapy opks and temping. I have to say that I always took (on the opks) a def line as a positive (ie. fainter than the control one) as I'd never get better than that. It did seem to fit with when I ovulated too - I know the opks can be very hit and miss darkness-wise, esp the cheapie ones.
OH and as you know I am a massive peep show fan - I love the labour one when Sophie has to drive herself to hospital. As a non-driver myself I can sympathise with Mark (and with Sophie too of course!).
Meant to say yesterday Hairy congrats on the BFP! Fingers crossed for you x
Jolls any more testing? YOu know we could be on a roll in the next few weeks!
Dh away on a work thing, but not too bad here as older dds at a sleepover so just have to get youngest two to a party later on. Have woken with a stinking headache, and been sick too but am refusing the tablets as feeling generally better from the hyperemesis and I do have a tendency to use meds when I don't strictly need to
Hope everyone is well and has a good weekend

hairy You soooooooooo deserve a good one this time - keep us informed, lovie.

curly hope you squeezed your DH in last night

italian as you say, they don't know exactly who the doner is yet so there is no way of second guessing when the final moment will take place. Try to relax and just see how it all turned out with regard to the holiday. You have an excellent chance of a BFP - we are all gonna follow the process with you so you wont be alone (I know you have a DH and a DD anyway but you know what I mean ).

jolls I really hope the line was not an evap and was indeed a very early BFP - I know you are busy this week-end so i will just sit tight and await news (Hippy drums fingers on the table).........

gum I think we are still in sync. I got a positive on an OPK today so assume that I haven't actually ov'd yet. I did a bit of SWI today and will do as many more as I can muster up over the next couple of days too. Sorry to hear Charlie is being a bit difficult. I LOVE LOVE LOVE Being Human. You are at a very exciting part of it. I also really liked Gavin and Stacey - keep watching it gets even better

lol how are you doing today?

panache when do we get a peek at the dress???

shandy all ok?

Sorry if I've missed someone off.

italian do you actually like eating paella for breakfast I would complain if I were you cos you clearly ordered it as a midnight feast!!!

Thanks all. I do so wish it was about deserving it . my place in the queue has been taken by three or four rl friends over the last few months

(((hairy)))))

Hippy I can eat Paella anytime!

Hairy WOW, fab, all the very best.

Jolls I really hope it will be a bold, strong line next time and a bold, strong baby.

I know (some/any of) you may not believe in the power of prayer and I can?t promise anything but I am praying for us all on this lovely thread and on the assisted conception thread. And, of course, if I have any baby dust, I am liberally sprinkling it around too!

Isaboo how?s the dog, not shouting at him anymore! How goes it?

Panshe and Lol how goes it with you two as well? Panshe there was a fab thread about the royal wedding on here and lots of great dress ideas!

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/style_and_beauty/1193440-Kates-wedding-dress
here

Curly how goes it?

Hopefulgum no you are not manipulative. Just going for it! Gum when I was in Oz there was a show called Chances on the TV and it was all about people who had won the lottery. It was very racy! Promising a bum or bottom every few minutes! No I did not watch it!

I hate Peep Show but I do watch it a bit! Tonight was the one where Jeremy accidently runs over the dog. It is both ludicrous, annoying, cringey and slightly funny all at once. Actually it is Mark I think is fab, not Jeremy!

Busy watching wife swap, I do love it, it is quite sad though. So many of the families seem pretty dysfunctional!

By the way, Race for Life - is anyone interested?
join me!
www.raceforlife.org/choose-your-event.aspx
here

Today is my friends due date and we are due to look after her son, our God son, while she has another. My DD is SOOOOO excited about this. They have others who can step in and my DH is not looking forward to it but I really hope we get the kids for the whole night and can experience a houseful for a change! After all, can give back afterwards so it is not such a big deal!

Was telling someone on another thread that I had IVF with donor eggs last year. They mentioned the photo you get of the embies going in! I know it sounds mad but I called my embies Emerald Jake and Laurel Daisy and I have a photo of them as tiny two-celled embies and another of them being 'squirted in'. Because they did not make it I kept the photos and they are quite precious. We have an electronic photo frame (which displays the photos at about 20 second intervals) and my hubby put all our photos on the frame - so every once in while - once in a blue moon - up pops the photo of the embies being squirted into me! (To clarify this is a photo my insides not me on the bed!) Still, so weird. We also had a third embie, which I grandly called Tyler Willow, that one did not continue to grow, so effectively 'died'. When I heard I cried, it seemed very sad. So in a funny way those photos of the other two are very precious because there is no photo of Tyler Willow!

Just as an aside - my Rosemary Conley 'before' photos of me looking fat in a sundress are also on our electronic photo frame! So they also pop up from time to time!

My treatment is looking like it may start next month, or possibly the month after, later than I had hoped! But nothing we can do. It would be nice if it could all be over by August. We started trying August 2005 for number two so this August will be six years!

Actually Hippy you and the others on the thread will be infinitely more interested than my DH in the whole process of our treatment! I have never told DD before and I think I won?t this time, just too disappointing if it does not work. When she is older we will tell. If it works I would tell her straight away but warn her it may ?go away? and that we will not be able to try again! But I am getting ahead of myself!

Hugs to all.

Morning, another early sunday as dp has gone to work. How is everyone ?

Congratulations to hairy

How are you Lol and Isaboo, any symptoms ?? I wanted beans on toast for my tea last night....never ever on a Saturday evening have I wanted beans on toast !!!

Went prom dress shopping yesterday for dd, and going back again today. It was lovely yesterday, had both dd and my mum, we had such fun looking at all the spangly dresses. As for me, ttc and planning a wedding don't really go hand in hand, and of course because of my age tcc is taking priority and want to give it rest of this year. I know I know everyone says don't put your life on hold but I'm happy and not in a rush to take my vows, and don't want big elaborate wedding...

Italian I don't think its mad giving your embies names, and the photo you can treasure, because in years to come it's a reminder. Sometimes if you don't have a solid reminder then it can almost feel like it never happened. I bought myself a ring after my mc which is a symbol for me, might seem stupid to others but its what helps. You all might think it very weird but my nickname is what we were going to call our baby.

Also Italian thank you for the prayers x

panashe that's lovely about the nickname. Blessings.

Italian to be as lovely and calm as you are after 6 years of ttc you really deserve this to work and I don't think naming embryos is strange who doesn't think about names almost as soon as they think they are preg and there is no embryo at that stage just a big ball of cells !

Hairy and Shandy good luck too you both keeping fingers and toes crossed for you both

panashe nope not a single symptom too much going on at home to imagine any I think ...... beans on toast is a new one I don't ever really get notice food cravings must pay more attention rather than eating rubbish whilst driving kids from A to B and then usually back to A again iykwim

Hippy nice work with the house all you have to do is move now ...have you found a house you want to buy yet ?

I did lol at the beans on toast symptom. Oh blimey my 11 year old son is always fancying them

jolls hope you are keeping busy and will test again soon.

italian the names are lovely, here's hoping you get a baby very soon.

panashe I understand you wanting to do the ttc before the weding. But the wedding planning could take your mind off ttc and it could happen by surprise.

isaboo we plan to rent when we first arrive so can't look for rental just yet but soon, very soon

Thanks to everyone for being so excited about my house move - i am really pleased about it all.
XXX

Hairy yeeee haaa. Well done on the BFP! Your good news is everyone's good news. Sticky bean juice to you.

Hippy wow, I am so pleased about your house! Fantastic news. Sounds like it's meant to be. Was it the same people who offered before? Stick a cork in if you're worried. You don't want to stain the carpet .

Feeling a bit crappy today. The cramps have been so strong I can only assume it's a cyst rather than implantation. Four days of strong cramps CD16-20 isn't good, is it? No spotting, no big boobs, only tiny tingling occasionally.

Told dp the situation and forced him to talk. He says he wants to be able to say that he'll stay together long term if we can't have children, but he's still not sure. I'm so upset. He says he just can't give up his dream of having more than one child. We can all understand what he's feeling - but it's gutting to hear it when you are incapable of doing anything about it. I've told him he'll have to find someone much younger than 38 if he wants to be sure to have children - and even then, is he going to make them take a fertility test? I know he hasn't thought it through - he's just upset about his dream dying - but it's really upsetting when this happens every few months.

Enough - I'm going to make a brew. Thinking of starting on the ginseng tea to balance my hormones - just in case. Yep, I'm going bonkers. It's official

Hi all
lol that is awful about your dp's thoughts. I can't imagine how he can be so mean even though of course it is so very frustrating and disappointing when it's all you can think about is a baby.
You sound very gracious about it all I would be in bits and blaspheming.

All is still well with me. It's 6 wks now and hoping to see doc tomorrow. The tiredness has really hit me these last few days and am beginning to wonder if me dh and dcs will survive if all keeps going well with the pgnancy.

Hi to diege and Lou well done at getting to 14 wks and fx for hairy progressing.
Baby dust to all you others.

Lol sorry to hear about these problems with DP. Can I ask who is 38, you or him? Or both of you? Or am I being dense!? I think it is good to talk about your relationship and see what options you do have. Would you consider fertility treatment, adoption etc? I really wish you all the best as you work your way through all this. Any news on your son?

Hairy how is it going?

Hippy Congrats on impending move. How are those boobs, hope those boobs lead you somewhere!

I am so cross Orio cookies are advertising with people racing to eat their bloody biscuit first! How crap is that. And those fruit drink ads where the guys keep trying to say it fast is so annoying and the hexbug on CITV with the tune to the monster song! I must stop watching bloomin' TV!

Hugs to Panshe, Lou, Tank, Curley, brinjal, Diege, Alba, Jolly, HopefulGum, BB, Isaboo, Nicole, Mitzimaybe and all.

Today we went to a house for lunch with some friends. The kind lady who cooked an amazing meal had also put out crafts stuff for my daughter and the other two girls. My daughter picked up a small pompom; it was covered with little glittery strands

Something like this

www.alibaba.com/product-gs/248103037/glitter_Pom_poms.html
here
My dd took a tiny pair of scissors and cut the gold strands off a couple of pompoms. The stands drifted off in the breeze. I thought of baby dust and wish it for each one of you!

I've worked out I have an eating disorder. I went to a Christian group tonight about eating disorders and found it amazingly helpful. It is called New ID.

www.newid.info/
here

I've only been to the first one but it was really helpful.

I feel so relieved that I have actually identified some of the problems and can see the patterns of behaviour. I know not everyone who eats too much has an eating disorder but I know for me that this holds the answer; still I am at the start of the process. A long way to go but now I know I can get there! I feel very excited and energised.

All the best.

italian thanks for the babydust image - beautiful.

Knowledge is power and so knowing why you over eat will be a big help - I hope.

shandy keep going girl, so glad all is still ok.

lol I too think that you are being very understanding. I agree that he may not have thought it through. he could meet a 25 year old woman who is infertile or has MC's - there is no way of knowing for sure. I think he is just sad that he wanted more kids and may not get to have them with you - but then there are many people trying to adapt to the news of no more kids (it can make one a bit loopy).

I hope that he comes to realise that you are important to him and that he wants to be with you come what may (if that is what you want, of course). Thinking of you and sending love. Not sure what the cramps mean i'm afraid, could you get a scan to check for cysts??

ps. lol I think you are very funny and he'd be mad to not hang around with you. I still laugh at you pooing in a carrier bag

Hi all
I m fine lovely chilling weekend reading and watching tv.A .l today then Al again Friday.......LOVE 3 day weeks,though are at our Dews clinic boo.....[Long story but a big fat troble making troll who works there!!!]
Hi Shandy,Italian,Gum,Curly,LOL,Diege,Panashe and Hippy.XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
Jolls you tested yet?????
Heard GBOS yesterday on the doppler yeh!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! All else quiet here.