Just MC and ready to try again? Pack your cake, wine and tightie whities and join us for more ranting, weeping and most of all laughing! All welcome! (Part 14)

[Collie2]

If you are TTC after Miscarriage (or waiting to start trying again), this is the place to be. This thread is full of lots of lovely ladies on the post MC rollercoster and is full of support and advice from people who have been through it, and know what you are going through.
Jump on board and join in the for some laughter, crying or even the odd ranting (whatever you need). There?s lots of , (caffeine free of course ) and chocolate, and more importantly, friendly ?ears?.

The thread moves fast so bob in and out as you please. Don?t be afraid to ask anything ? nothing is ever TMI!!!

If you want to join the stats, just add yourself to the list:

WTTC = waiting to TTC
UCL = usual cycle length
WFT cycle = what the f*uck cycle (cycle after mc but before first AF)
For more accronyms see here

Good luck to all ? The last one was a lucky thread for lots of people so here's hoping for lots more healthy, sticky BFPs by the end of the thread

This is the previous thread

Stats to follow.

Cep- hope you get some answers soon. The doctor said it wasn't a problem so I asked at what point it becomes a problem and she said it doesn't. I asked to be referred but she said she couldn't without a bfn. Am really down now, thought I would get some answers today x

shorty it clearly is a problem, she really should be taking you seriously :( , your epu sound most unhelpful too. Sorry you are finding it hard to get answers x

WHAT!!! that's crap shorty so in a years time if af still not here then that's still not a problem??? i don't understand i thought you were getting bfn's why did she say she couldn't refer you without a bfn.

Sorry cep meant bfp, so used to writing bfn. Think I will try epu again and if get no where will look at changing to a different doctors surgery. X

ah. i still don't understand the not a problem. There has got to be a stage where they say ok this is a bit too long now. i did a google search on it and came across a thread kind of like mn, a woman on there said it took 9 weeks for her af to come back. and there was someone on here who it took 9 weeks. it's an awful thought. Maybe leave it a few weeks and then ask for tests again. i don't want to start mentioning possible problems when it's probably too early to tell that anyway.

shorty is this your WTF cycle? I had to wait nearly 9 weeks after my ERPC for my first AF. It's a shitty wait. Apologies if your situation is different. Hugs. Your gp sounds like a right PITA too.

Waves at all.

cep hows it going?

shorty It has taken variable amounts to time for me to get AF after ERPC. The main thing is that you are now testing negative on your pregnancy test. Of course there are other reasons but as cep said, its still early days. Fingers crossed AF turns up soon.

Hi everyone, I'm back. Lots of lovely chatter tonight.

oils glad to hear af arrive (this once) and you can get back on track.

shorty I'm lost for words with your sh*t gp and epu.

lily for your af.

@ mels dtd on a towel

waves back to yrmotb

yes I have LOTS more tests, some cheapies and some first response. Might test in morning as don't know if I'll be able to hold out till fri now.

Off up for another early night, had a restless night last night.

Well I have waited 8 weeks so i'm sure another few won't hurt.

Cycle came back straight away after last mc. Not a patient person so its driving me mad.

Think its bothered me more because everyone I have been to see just fob me off with its normal and no one will look further into it. Thanks for all your replies x

shorty book another app with gp for at long as they're let you (mine it's 3 weeks) or 2 if you can't wait longer then go and demand tests, i know it's easier to say than do, but insist as much as you can.

yrmotb not too bad, trying not to stress, getting pink/watery blood after fmu, hoping may be a uti so on antibiotics and hopefully they'll help.

battery about to die so will see you all in the morning, hope you all have a good night.

Olis I'm glad you finally know WTF is going on and that your WTF cycle is officially over. I hope next month is your lucky month (if you decide you want to try).

Shorty Fx AF is round the corner for you too.

Collie keep us updated first thing tomorrow!!!! I need someone to join me on the BFP list, I don't like being at the bottom xxx

Well, a bit about me. Things seem ok so far. I'm having a few wobbles when I don't feel sick for a while, or my boobs stop aching...but I'm quickly reminded when symptoms return.

I've decided not to go to the walk-in EPU this week for my dating scan. I'm escaping for a weekend-break tomorrow night till Monday nite and won't have a chance to go tomorrow morning. I'll try and go on Tues or Wed morning (I figure they'll be able to see more if I'm 5+ weeks).

I'm not doing too well at trying to take it easy at work. Got home after 8pm again today...was about to leave work at 6:30pm when one of the sales people pounced on me and said they needed a presentation straight away! I felt like telling them to f*ck off...but knew I'd pay for it later if I did (this person is very senior, and would make my life hell if I didn't help.

Ok, poa-cheapy-s this morn and got a v v faint shadow of a line. So stuck a first resp in my pee pot and got a faint line!!!!! Keep having to check it's still there!!!! Totally bricking it, it's only a faint line. AF due Sunday (was wrong when I said Sunday) [freak out emoticon]

ooh where are you going for your weekend ninu anywhere nice? Sorry about work, this person sounds like a right pain in the arse, how could they not know they'd need a presentation until last minute? Glad you're doing well. Enjoy you're weekend away.

On my news front, i've had no blood with my fmu this morning. nor the one after. not sure if it's just a break, somehow i don't think 2 a-b tablets will have solved the problem already.

Had a really disturbed night with ds he woke at 2 put him back to bed he woke up again at 3:45 said he was scared and i caved and let him into bed with us i don't know what to do with him at that time of morning. am i going to have to sit with him again??? i don't want him to get used to that as well as at bed time. I used to be so proud that he'd go to bed with 1 story and then light off with door closed. Now i'm clueless as to what to do. I'm going to try and speak to the hv today, partycrash the baby weight thing.

Wrong when I said Saturday I mean .... doh

oooh xpost collie getting all excited here, as they say a line is a line. congratulations

Good morning

Have you tested yet collie?

A weekend away sounds lovely ninu, enjoy!

We're going to a wedding this weekend, I'm not really in the right frame of mind for it if I'm honest. It's dh's best man getting married, they lived together at uni. In fact he introduced us, he's friends with my ex (I'm not a hussy, we weren't together when I met dh!) who is now seeing my oldest friend (my life is like eastenders sometimes!) so that'll be weird because I haven't seen them together yet. To be honest they haven't really bothered with us since I had dd. Plus although the best man knows about the mc because dh missed the stag night I don't know who else does (my oldest friends mum is friends with mine and I'm not sure if she's mentioned it) so it might be awkward. We cant afford a hotel either (its in a very expensive area) so we'll be driving back to my parents house to sleep (about an hour away).

Phew, that was long, sorry!

Yay collie!!!! a line is a line and you've now had 3!!!! Promise you'll still hang around here though to hold our hands! I am very excited for you xxx

Cep to be honest and I'll probably sound like a horrible mother but we go in once to dd if she wakes before her lamp comes on at 7, tuck her in and then if she does it again we ignore her. She's normally really good at settling herself because we've always been quite strict about bedtime.

collie woo hoo! Congratulations.

cep I had to start leaving the landing light on when DS was going to sleep around that age, and a nightlight in his room for if he woke up. We got a clock like this which acts like a night light and also helps tell him when to get up. (ds is an early riser)
Then just a settle and leave with nightlight on.

He used to sleep in the pitch black before that.

cep Don't feel guilty, when DD cries at night she just comes in with us. She is nearly 2.5 and seems to go through phases of waking in the night and coming in with us, then suddenly stops. We have tried ignoring (used to work), but she will be sick now if we don't get her, which I'd rather not deal with!

collie YAY!!!! A line is a line :)

9 DPO and another BFN (WHY do I keep testing knowing its too early????). I had a dream last night I had a baby and a positive pregnancy test and now I just want both!!!

banana that sounds like a nice dream. In my dream nightmare last night I had another mc, which was horrible because the night before my actual mc I dreamt I would have one, I really really hope I don't havd some sort of ability to predict awful things.

mel just try to relax and enjoy the evening out. we used to have friends like that, saw all the time until i got pregnant 1 haven't seen them since. It's a shame were dh's friends, he sees the bloke around work but not very often now.

We were strict when he was still in the cot, only went in once to settle him down, when we first tookt he side off he was fine, but hte last few months has got himself into the habit of coming in every now and then.

yrmotb he used to go down in pitch black, then started asking for his main light on (is on a dimmer switch) but this last week has become very scared of going to bed or staying in his room for too long on his own. I assume he had a bad dream or something, he just won't stay in bed unless i'm in there with him. He seems to be scared of the shadows his light is casting curtains etc, but he won't sleep without the light on, it's a no win situationa t the moment. I've been looking for a clock like that saw one once then couldn't find it again. that's great thank you.

banana thankfully he isn't sick, he just seems to panic at the moment. But when he comes into bed like this morning he starts being sill, like he kept pushing on my face. PUT THE TESTS DOWN!

collie am still grinning for you here. so so pleased for you.

Yaaay Collie!!! My faint line is 4.5yrs old now .

Cross your fingers for me please, cd31, bfn on Sunday, testing tomorrow unless something happens in the mean time.........

fx hihp