Just MC and ready to try again? Pack your cake, wine and tightie whities and join us for more ranting, weeping and most of all laughing! All welcome! (Part 14)

[Collie2]

If you are TTC after Miscarriage (or waiting to start trying again), this is the place to be. This thread is full of lots of lovely ladies on the post MC rollercoster and is full of support and advice from people who have been through it, and know what you are going through.
Jump on board and join in the for some laughter, crying or even the odd ranting (whatever you need). There?s lots of , (caffeine free of course ) and chocolate, and more importantly, friendly ?ears?.

The thread moves fast so bob in and out as you please. Don?t be afraid to ask anything ? nothing is ever TMI!!!

If you want to join the stats, just add yourself to the list:

WTTC = waiting to TTC
UCL = usual cycle length
WFT cycle = what the f*uck cycle (cycle after mc but before first AF)
For more accronyms see here

Good luck to all ? The last one was a lucky thread for lots of people so here's hoping for lots more healthy, sticky BFPs by the end of the thread

This is the previous thread

Stats to follow.

Thanks Collie - I'll paste myself in! I'm OK, I think. I'm still in the 'up and down' phase of things, but today is an 'up' day, so that is nice! I had the ERPC 10 days ago and have been off work ever since. I am starting to feel better physically, but have just contacted work to arrange another week off. I feel bad for taking so much time (it'll be 3 weeks in total), but I have been really poorly (lowered immune system with the pregnancy led to me getting a chest infection as well), so want to be in tip-top shape before going back into the office. My job can be pretty high-stress, so I have decided to give myself a bit of a break. I am going to wait for my first AF before TTC, so might be lurking with intent on this thread for a while!

Cep - I am so sorry to hear that they won't scan you yet. How are you feeling? Good idea to take time off and put your feet up. Could you afford a private scan - I know they are really expensive, but it might help put your mind at rest. I suppose, though, that it might not help much. When I had a private scan the NHS asked me to wait a week anyway, so that they could compare results. I am keeping my fingers crossed for you!

I usually get a positive opk between day 12 and 14 Cep. I went to a & e when I bled with dd on a sat and they made me wait till Monday, they only do early scans on weekday mornings, so the gp/midwife books you in for the next morning, that wait is horrible, I hope the week goes quickly for you.

sg don't worry about work, you need to look after yourself, a mc is a huge trauma x

Monday's List

Shorty ttc#2 cycle 1, ucl 30 cd55
Collie TTC#1 MC#1 Cycle 1 UCL 40 CD36
LILI80 TTC #2 Cycle 1 UCL 34 CD36
BackOnceAgain TTC#3, Cycle 7 UCL28-32 CD33
oli TTC#2 M/C#1 FEB 2011 UCL 30-31 CD31
lily06 TTC#1 EP Jan 10, MC May 10, UCL 25-? CD29
Banana87, TTC#2, MC#3, UCL35-37 CD29
harassedinherpants TTC#4, MC#2, UCL 28 or 31, CD29
Hadrian TTC#1, MC#1 Dec 2010, cycle 1, UCL35-40,CD28
IfAtFirstUDontSucceed: TTC no1, MC no2, Jan 2011, UCL 28/29 cd28
IzzyWizzyletsgetbusy TTC#3 cycle 8 UCL 24-30 CD26
Loola2shu TTC#3 Cycle 6 UCL35-38,CD22
ZamMummyInGabs TTC#3 cycle 3 postMC#2 UCL26-32, CD21
Iggly TTC#2, UCL 29-31 CD 21
Youremindmeofthebabe TTC#2, Cycle 7 UCL33 CD 17
Blackkat TTC#1, MC#1 Jan 2011, UCLrandom CD15
wellieboots cycle 2, UCL 29 or 30, CD13
meliesmummy ttc#2 cycle 1 UCL28 CD11
HidingInTheUndergrowth TTC#1, cycle 5 UCL 28 CD11
MumTumWanted TTC#2, cycle 2, UCL29 CD6
laylasmummy09 ttc#2 mc#2 28/28days cycle 1 cd5
Chloe55 TTC #2, cycle 6 post MC#2 UCLrandom CD4
Skitoo TTC#1, WTF CD?

WTTC
Choccybick TTC#1 (post mc1) cycle 6 UCL 27
Mousebacon TTC#2 MC#2
MaybeBaby TTC#1 MC#1
babypops
tokyotwist TTC#2 MC#1 Feb2011 WTF
WildSheepChase TTC#2 MC#6 Jan 2011, UCL 33-36
vegasmum ttc#1 wttc ucl? cd? WTF
LadyBee TTC#2, UCL27
Brooke ttc#1? wttc ucl? WTF
Milkyway2007 ttc#? wttc ucl? WTF
jkklpu wtc ucl? WTF
securegal, TTC#1 MC#1 March 2011, WTF, UCL 28

MIA
BrownB TTC#1 cycle 1 (post MC2) UCL 24-26
Getawiggleon TTC#2, Cycle7 UCL28-32 (Lurking)

RECENT BFP's
Digitalgirl TTC#2, MC#3 Oct 2010
Emoo TTC#2, Cycle 1 (post MC1) UCL 26-30, 30/1/11
DachshundsRule TTC#1 cycle 5 UCL28 CD31 BFP 25 Jan 2011
Hairytriangle TTC#1 cycle 1 (post MC2) UCL ?28 BFP Jan 2011
Tigger15 TTC#2 cycle 22 UCL24-9 CD29 BFP 16 Jan 2011
Pinkfondantfancy TTC#1, cycle 5, UCL 28-35 CD29 BFP!!
Lemonsherbert BFP 18 Jan 2011
HongKongBaby#2, cycle 5 (post mc1), UCL 37, CD30 BFP 18 Jan 2011
MamaPower TTC#1, cycle 5 (post MC#2) UCL 25- 27 CD28
Wombat33 TTC#1 Cycle 3 (post MC) UCL 31
PrettyQuichey TTC#1, (round 7) UCL 28-30
Lovebeingadaddysgirl TTC#? WTC cycle
GetDownYouWillFall TTC#2
KnitterNotTwitter TTC#2, MC#2, cycle 6 UCL 25-30 CD28 BFP 7/2/2011
AandRmum TTC3 cycle 4 UCL29 BFP 18/2/11
Velvetcu TTC #1 Cycle 6 UCL 30-33, 18/2/11
MummyAbroad TTC #2, cycle 2 (Post AS Op)) BFP 23/02/11
Cep TTC#2 Cycle 2 UCL24-28 BFP 24/2/11
Hils74 TTC#1 MC#1 Jan 2011 BFP 28/2/11
Ochaye TTC#3 cycle 1 UCL 31 bfp 02/3/11
Ninunina TTC#1, MC#1, WTF cycle, bfp 09/03/11

RECENT GRADUATES

VivClicquot BFP 25 August
Loopymumsy BFP 29 August
CaribouMoo BFP 7 September
StarflowerGirl BFP 24 Sep
Appleblossoms BFP 9 Oct
Littlemiss72
Urbanlolly BFP 1 Nov
Inbetweener BFP 10 Nov
Owlbooty BFP
Nickstermum BFP

I just poas - line not quite as dark as control line bit definately there so stuff the trauma - early night tonight! ;) I was so happy to see that line and know (well assume) that things are as they should be. I might pop to boots for some preconceive bcos it's on offer (surely a sign?!) but it'll be a rush because dd normally wakes up at 3:30 and she's got swimming in the opposite direction to boots at 5:30, so we'll see.

Cep did they check your cervix at the drs?

YAY to the line mels go get busy tonight!!

I totally get what you mean about being relieved at knowing that things are back to normal. Thats been my biggest fear, it all being c*cked up!!

mel no i completely forgot to mention it i've made another app on the 28th to see my normal dr, and will mention it to her (well will try to remember) it was all just matter of fact, with my normal gp i feel i can sit and chat which i probably why i'm always late going in.

enjoy your busy night.

sg i can't afford it, i've just been reading that you might still not be able to see h/b at 6 weeks so although i'm going to hate this wait, at least it may be a more positive outcome. (i hope)

cep just reading some of the replies you've had on the other thread and think what owl said was very true. Better to be able to see more at 7 weeks than struggling to see anything at all at 6 weeks as could leave you wondering and worrying still. That bean better hang on tight! The only reason I want to see you on this thread is to hand hold us lot! xx

collie it was, also helped google was saying still might not see hb at 6 weeks. Oh but i've lost any small amount of positivity i had, i'm so scared i'm going to have to go through it all again. i'm going to be a mess by monday.

Think it must be a week for us all feeling stressed and hormonal, well apart from melie who should be having lots of fun tonight.

cep You will not find yourself back in that horrible position, it's not allowed - I have every faith your little bean is super sticky.

Oh cep I'm so so sorry you're going through this worry. How bad is the bleed/spotting? Any pain/cramps? How about other Pg symptoms? I know nothing I can say will stop you from worrying but it really could be ok. A bit of blood doesn't neccessarily mean it's all over. It's very easy for me to say this and I know I'd be just as worried as you are, but please try to take some comfort in our reassuring words.

I think teacakes (is that her name?) story Is one to take strength from as when I checked in a few weeks back it sounded so gloomy for her, but she saw a bursting hb!! I know a hb is not a certainty either, none if it is until the bean comes out, but one step at a time. You'll get there.

I understand your fear of not wanting to go through it again, I don't know how people get through it. But try and stay positive. Every ounce of me is willing your little bean to be sticky!! Xx

it's weird until this morning i'd only had spotting after no2's. but this morning was a darker pink/light red on a few wipes (1 loo trip) don't seem to have had anything since. I know that sounds hardly anything but it's more than i had in the last pg. I really am hoping that everything is ok. I know you are and all the other fabulous ladies on here are and i really appreciate it. I know i'm being illogical.

I'm here! MIA for a bit, but poas on Monday and got a BFN. CD29 now and have some cramps but then I've had those for ages..... Would love to know what's going on!

cep I'm so very sorry that you're having to go through all this worry.

Going to have a proper catch up now.

collie - No, i only bled for 3 days and didnt even pass any large clots, the only one i did pass looked like a bit of string? (tmi!)scared its still all up there, but ihad another -ve this morning so thats a good sign i guess..

cep i hope everything turns out good for you, keeping all my fingers and toes crossed but i agree with collie, it doesnt mean its all over. blood after no2s is really common!

have fun tonight melies ;)

I think it is a week for everyone to be stressed too chloe i've had an awful day! had to go into the bank where i work today (not the branch i work in but one on the otherside of town) cause i didnt want to see anyone and my area manager was stood there and said infront of EVERYONE why arnt you at work? i replied ive been signed off sick atm due to personal problems and he said "yet your well enough to come out here...you dont look ill? can i have a word?" then took me in a office, and i just completly broke down! so embarassing and i cant believe he had the cheak to question why i was off sick infront of other member of staff!How insensative and unprofessional! My dp had to come and pick me up and i was sick, i know it sounds silly but the last thing i wanted to do was sit in an office and tell someone that id miscarried, i have hardly left our house in 2 weeks because im so nervous of bumping into someone i know and having to tell them....

Sorry for the rant just so atm feel like hes knocked me right back to square one with trying to deal with all this!

Anyway, im off to take some frustration out in my netball training, lets hope i dont get another black eye to top my day off lol!

xx

Wow this thread moves fast. Have been a bit self absorbed for the last few days worrying about my lack of AF. I finally got to see a specialist at the hospital yesterday who after an extensive examination (don't you just love the dildocam!) confirmed that I don't have Ashermans or any adhesions caused by the ERPC - hoorah! I just have an incredibly thin womb lining that they hope to be able to manage. So today is being classed as day 1 and I will be back on the clomid tonight

Cep I have everything crossed for you xx

Waves to everyone else - will catch up later.

OMG brooke!! That's unbelievable - what did he say when you told him about the MC? I hope he felt positively guilty Do you know, there have been a few ladies on here having problems with their line management, it actually makes me very glad that I don't have a paid job at the moment!!

However, I do have my first full day of work with a vet nurse temp agency at a little branch on Thursday. I am so so nervous, haven't vet nursed for about 3 years! Eeek.

Brooke your manager sounds like an arse! How insensitive! I hope that he apologised.

skit glad you've got answers at last.

I went to boots, I've never used anything like that before so should be interesting! Dd insisted on carrying it to the till, hope no one saw! And why is it that I cant go within 50m of the early learning centre without buying anything?! We ended up with more playmobil, a guinea pig for the (toy) farm, a days/months/weather calendar and one of those kits with pictures and laces to thread through. Im hopeless!

I'm really sorry Cep that you are going through this. You are probably right though, it is often too early to hear a hb and the last thing you want is to spend the week even more worried than you are (likely for no reason). So stressful - I really hope that everything is OK!

Brooke - what an awful thing for your line manager to do. I hope that he was suitably ashamed when you told him what had happened. What on earth is wrong with these people. Just because you don't "look" ill to him doesn't mean that there isn't something really significant happening. What a cretin. I was so worried about the way my boss would behave, but they have been absolutely amazing. I couldn't have asked for more. I have to say, though, I am dreading going back and trying to explain to the rest of the team (who don't know what has happened) why I have been away for so long. I hope that you feel better - give that netball a battering!!

meliesmummy - what is preconceive? Sorry for the dumb questions (there may well be more, just to warn you!) - I am still getting the hang of all this!

Hi girls i really need advice i am having extreme pains in my lower left back gradual short sharp stabbing pains. Did anyone else get pains like this before there first AF after m/c?

I am very concerned but i know hospital wont do much especially on CD31 when my AF is due.

Any help appreciated.

olis if it helps when I had pains when I was 5 weeks pg I was told ectopics don't show up until later so its unlikely to be that but you should prob still get it checked.

sg it's a lubricant that is meant to keep sperm alive for longer, im going to use it for the first time bcos of my recent problems. Not sure how it'll go!

Hi everyone! DH and I have decided to start "trying" again when we're on holiday next month! Ofcourse, I am terrified because of the 4 previous mc's but I need to give it one last try, this time using aspirin to see if it makes a difference. Will definitely defer from the course if I get past the 12 week milestone. Feeling more positive in life on the whole!

olismum23 After my last mc, I had very bad stabbing pains in my lower right abdomen about a week or two before my first AF. I put it down to ovulation. I know its not in the back - but could you be ovulating? I know that ectopics are accompanied with a pain in the left arm. I hope the pain goes away for you.

cep not illogical just scared! Totally understandable, everyone here would be the same. Think sticky thoughts!

Brooke what an arsehole boss you have!! for you! Did you tell him about the mc? I hope he was ashamed! Poor you. You should make it known how inappropriate he was.

Whooo chloe first day back to it in 3 years!! How exciting and nerve wracking at the same time. Just the one day? What made you do that?

waves to harassed for your bfn. How are you doing? Glad you're still here.

mels hope you had lots of fun with the preconcieve!
hugs to blackkat hope your dad is ok.

In bed as type. Early night for me. Got big presentation to give to my board tomorrow. All the GPs that will 'take control' when the pct is abolished will be there so need to make a good impression!

No poas for me tomorrow, need to be focused! Feels like I'm going for a bloody interview!

Nighty night campers!

:( still getting pains i will call NHS 24 if they are as bad tomorrow.