Just MC and ready to try again? Pack your cake, wine and tightie whities and join us for more ranting, weeping and most of all laughing! All welcome! (Part 14)

[Collie2]

If you are TTC after Miscarriage (or waiting to start trying again), this is the place to be. This thread is full of lots of lovely ladies on the post MC rollercoster and is full of support and advice from people who have been through it, and know what you are going through.
Jump on board and join in the for some laughter, crying or even the odd ranting (whatever you need). There?s lots of , (caffeine free of course ) and chocolate, and more importantly, friendly ?ears?.

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Chloe your periods sound horrendous, can your gp give you anything to help?

hi babies, I would second what Cep said, I waited about 2 weeks but I had bled for most of that.

Hadrian 6 months off sounds lovely, what will you do with it?

I've been to the gp, I saw a dr I hadn't seen before, she seemed quite indecisive, I think I made all the decisions in the end (she asked me 3 times when I'd last had a smear...) but she had a look and said she can see a large patch of erosion. She said she can refer me to gynae if I want but I asked to wait bcos if I get pg the last thing I want is someone poking around up there! So she said to come back after af if it carries on. I'm going to stop taking epo too bcos I wonder if that's not helping bcos it affects oestrogen levels and that can cause the erosion. I'm also a bit miffed bcos the hospital told the gp I'd had a scan 2 weeks ago but nothing about the mc so my notes are all confused!

Arrrgggghhh I need to rant

Ok, so you know I mentioned my pg friend would be coming over on Sat? Well she did, with her dh, and also another couple who have had a bad year with medical issues and things (it was originally just meant to be us 4, the pg couple invited themselves) Anyways, I mentioned in an email a few days before that I would either be on the decaf coffee or oodles of wines depending on what a pg test showed me. When said pg friend arrived she could see I was drinking wine but never said anything, not that I expected her too. I managed to ask how she was feeling, how the pg was going etc but then changed the subject as I was finding it hard to listen to. Her and he dh left about 11pm after not saying much all night and looking a bit glum tbh. My other friend who was there has emailed her this morning to ask if she was ok after being quiet on sat and she has gone off on one saying that she wasn't expecting the night to be a 'session' and that she didn't expect me and friend to be drinking given our cicumstances and if she had known she would have stayed at home as she felt left out Firstly, I am absolutely that she would have the audacity to question whether I should have a drink or not, secondly she invited herself so what gives her the right to dictate how the evening is spent, thirdly not once did she ask how I was feeling or even question why I might be enjoying wine and not the decaf which I had so hoped to be. Oh my God, I am furious. Even more so that she can be so bloody selfish in her pregnancy oh woe is me fucking attitude!!!

So sorry for the rant, just can't speak to anyone else about it really and can't even have it out with her - which I would def do as the email was sent to my friend and not to me so she would know we had been talking.

Chloe that sounds awful! She could have been a bit more sensitive, and why shouldn't you enjoy a drink?! You deserve it! How close are you? Could you phone her and just subtly ask her how she is because she seemed quiet and then have it out with her? She sounds quite precious, is she normally?

I'm off for a pre work sleep, after tonight I'm using up holiday I should have had when I was off sick so not in until next weds, yippee!

chloe don't blame you i'd be furious as well. "given your circumstances" i can't think of a better reason to drink than your af arriving. How bloody rude. Send her an e-mail saying it was nice seeing her (blahblah)you hoped she had a nice evening and appologising for not having bought a nice non-alcoholic drink for her but as you were unaware she was coming you didn't have chance, but that next time you arrange something with her you'll get some schloer in or something. am for you.

mel have a lovely time off (after work tonight)

chloe your friend is a total moron and I am at her on your behalf. Please tell me this is not the same f*uckwit friend who shoved her scan at you over dinner that time? I think what she has said is totally insensitive and unreasonable and I'd be livid. She clearly is so wrapped up in herself she hasn't got a clue. As melies and cep have said it's insenstive and none of her god damn business. I expected you to say she felt uncomfortable bcs she was pg and didn't want to upset you. How wrong could I have been! You have the right to drink when and what you bleeding well like and the onset of AF is the best reason ever. Silly cow probably didn't even register that you'd just started. God, I am sooooo mad for you! ...... hmmmm I hope this is my pg rage monster and not pms

Wow Chloe, your friend sounds barking. I don't even understand why she's so upset. How old is she that she cannot have a good time with friends if they're drinking and she is not. She sounds very self absorbed and I'm surprised her DH agreed to leave and didn't just tell her to grow up.

I'm sorry this has upset you when you would already be feeling down about the arrival of AF. I think you should just put it down to her being a prat and ignore, ignore, ignore. Easier said than done, I know .

Thank you ladies, I was beginning to wonder if I might just be being sensitive and overeacting. And yes collie, tis said friend It really is a shame though as she is not normally such a selfish, self-absorbed person. She has always liked to be in control of things when it comes to organising social events and giving friends little jobs to do etc and I wonder if she feels a little out of the loop or something, oh I don't know. I can't say or do anything about it anyway as the email wasn't to me, and to be honest I doubt very much she would even have been as blunt to me as she knows I wouldn't take her shit am just a bit about it now really. Thanks again for listening to my rant ladies, felt much better to get it off my chest.

On a brighter note I sent dh in search of Feminax (wonderful painkiller) last night but he couldn't find it anywhere so came home with his hands behind his back, saying, 'I searched every shop in the villages but to no avail so therefore I have bought these all because the lady loves....' and produced a box of Milk Tray from behind his back He is very good to me sometimes.

ahh bless. i can't get over how many of your oh's go out to get the odd thing for you at night mine would tell me just to take paracetamol and be done with that he wouldn't go get anything for me unless he was already going out for something.

for you at your friend chloe how rude!!

Mines the same Cep. I am quite of all these OHs .

Oh don't get me wrong, sometimes my dh is a total arse! Ok, maybe tmi coming up but I think I might be having my heaviest af yet. I am currently sporting 2 large pads and everytime I go to the toilet I can physically feel myself passing lots of clots. None of them are bigger than a penny though which is when it's an issue I think. I have been feeling lightheaded all day but put it down to the Clomid but am now wondering whether it might be blood loss? Do you reckon iron tablets would help?

awww &chloe* :( that made me mad reading it cant believe how unsensative she was!Id give her a call if your feeling :( and just say look you were a bit quiet was everything ok? and then see what she says...

blackat hope everything is ok with your dad!

babies hello and sorry for your loss, everyone is really lovely here and has helped me so much, so hope it helps for you.

ladies, i have got a very wierd situation...remember the other day i said i did a POAS and it was negative which was good because i thought my levels were back to normal. well this morning i did one (just for the sake of it because my ebay ones came in the post ha! ) and it was positive? i did another and it was negative? do you think it was just a dodgy test? I know i cant be pregnant because i only miscarried at the start of the month??? or could i be???

[waves] to everyone :)

xx

brook that's very odd about your tests - it's very rare to get a false positive however I doubt very much, I'm afraid, that even if you did happen to conceive again this month then it would be showing on a test at the moment. I would take another test tomorrow morning just to make sure that your levels are reading negative so that you don't get any false hope if you are swi.

chloe i think you should take some if you have some, see how it goes. That does seem really heavy, might be worth speaking to gp about it, or your specialist, if you can actually get through.

brooke that is weird. agree with chloe test again tomorrow.

hope all is ok. More pink tonight again after bowel movement still hanging in till monday.

Evening ladies

chloe cannot believe your 'friend' how insensitive!

melis glad you got some sort of answer at gps, although unbelieveable about the lack of notes on your m/c!

Well my AF hasn't arrived yet so that makes me a day late. Didn't test yesterday or today as didn't want disappointment of another BFN. Might do 1 more tomorrow and if it's BFN then I won't test until 23 March which would be my next test day based on the second bleed I had. What a pain in the ass this is all turning into! I actually got to the point today where I wanted AF to arrive so I knew where I was!!

Anyway I'm off to bed early tonight as I've just finished 12 hours at work and I'm absolutely knackered!

Night night to all

Yeah, it is strange isnt it, i'll have to wait till the morning now, worried cause if my levels are still there could is hint towards eptopic?

hope everythings ok cep and you too lili xxx

Chloe that sounds awful, have you tried spatone? I used it when I was pg, more gentle than tablets. Did you discuss your periods with your consultant? Have they ever investigated you for endometriosis? (sorry if you've mentioned that before and ive forgotten!)

Brooke that's odd, I'd do another test tomorrow to make sure. It might be that there's a tiny bit left, it doesn't necessarily mean ectopic.

Fingers crossed then LILI!

Keep strong till Monday then Cep x

chloe you have every right to rant. You're friend is being insensitive and self absorbed. Life doesn't stop when your pregnant. She needs to understand that you have every right to still have fun.

Could it be that her pregnancy hormones are getting the better of her. Or perhaps it's only dawning on her that these nights out will soon be a thing of the past once baby arrives and is feeling a bit sorry for herself. Either way, she's totally out of order.

Pmsl at my own rage in my last post to chloe maybe a little too angry on your behalf. Sorry if just totally slated an actual friend, although now I know she IS the friend with the scan I def do think she is a eejit! If you don't feel you can say anything about this I would wait for the next time and then bring it up, as by the sounds of her, there will be another incident. Maybe it she was a good friend before she just doesn't realise what she's doing. I am sure to some 'outsiders' (aka those lucky sods that just sail through pg) our reactions would seem overly sensitive which might make them oblivious.

LILI still no AF! Am v impressed by your lack of poas over past 2 days, I think I'd have been peeing on several a day by now fx for you in the morning. I'll be checking in for an update.

mels glad gp thinks it's nothing to worry about. The sheer lack of communication across services does astonish me!

cep sorry your still getting a bit of bleed. How's ds tonight?

chloe your dh is the milk tray man he's sooooo lovely! And he got the cheese and choc last week too, bless him.

My dh can be v sweet too [sickening emoticon] but I do get a tad fed up of everyone telling me how blooming lovely he is and do I know how lucky I am. Errrrm excuse me, but he's lucky too you know, I am an absolute angle and not a stress head and rage bursting moster....

Monster I mean.

Your....not you're!!! My spelling is bad enough- my phone doesn't help with predictive text.

Lili fx that you'll have some good POAS news tomorrow. Are you still feeling symptoms?

Cep hope you're not too worried. If it's still pink and only a bit when you wipe, I'm sure it's nothing to worry about.

I'm a bit undecided about when to get my dating scan. I know it needs to be soon if I want to book myself in at Kingston Hospital, but I think I'll feel so deflated if I go this week and they will see nothing.

Although, in saying that, I'm sure there is something there...I'm certainly getting the symptoms. Feeling really super tired, mega sore boobs, sick (but haven't actually puked) and also have a strong sense of smell. I didn't have such strong symptoms last time round. I think it was probably doomed to start with...looking back, it took a long time for the HPT to get stronger, whilst this time it got strong even before AF was due.

Please note, I'm not complaining....I'm enjoying the fact that I'm experiencing symptoms. It's comforting.

What else have I got to catch up on? I'm on my phone so it's hard work checking back. Not heard from mumtum for a while???

chloe your AF sounds truely awful I don't know how you manage. You can get adult 'nappies' / pants, in the towel section have you seen them? I considered getting them during mc as didn't know what to expect.

lily how's you? Still no AF either? I stalked Looked at your chart the other day and thought it odd that ff didn't put your ov after your big dip but then again I'm very much a ff novice.

Brooke the positive test is v strange. I would have thought that if you've had 2 -ive tests that should rule out ectopic... Are you still bleeding?

Ok, symptom spotting update. Still got cramps (although don't actually feel
Like cramps, just a dull pain) Bern mainly on left but today on right. Been on Dr google and have been Reading all about horrid things that pain could be Such as ectopic and molar, all of which I am have

Felt a bit nauseous again in car on way to work, with dry wretching (sorry tmi) but i swear you can think yourself I'll if you want to)

Not sure if should poas tomorrow -11dpo or wait longer???? Do I need fish flapping?

Just sitting here will dh watching treme which we've recorded off sky. I can't get into it. When does desperate housewives cone back

Ha collie your post made me lol. My DH is very sweet too and I feel like a horrible ogre in comparison sometimes. Although saying that we are lying on the sofa and he is watching some depressing programme about terrorism and won't let me watch my show about music festivals which I have been saving up all day.

chloe at your so-called friend, about your nasty period but at the milk tray!

Go nina, your symptoms sound fantastic!

Ok sorry for all the typos in the last post! On phone and didn't spell check hope somone could make sense of some of it.

at Hadrian I'm the one who usually wants to watch depressing terrorism or politics shows so shouldn't complain. I even recorded dispatches to watch the depressing news of public sector cuts getting fat cats rich. Why why why???? Maybe i'll save that till cd1, just to top it off!

Ha back at you collie. I might start a diet on CD1 just to maximise the misery. I was at the zoo today and when I went on the 'compare your weight to a giant tortoise' machine I found out that I have put on 4 kgs since MC. The indignity of it all!

I work in the public sector too and my organisation has to make 50% cuts in the next four years. I don't even know if we can still exist after a cut that size. Although tbh I wouldn't mind the redundancy pay out.