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Waiting to try for a baby

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AmandaCooper · 25/01/2011 15:16

A continuation of so many threads spent waiting to ttc that I've completely forgotten what number thread we're on.

If you're waiting to ttc, stop by and say hello! Smile

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AmandaCooper · 18/09/2011 08:17

Towards the end of my period for a day or two I often feel a bit depressed and find it more difficult than normal to cope with little problems, particularly at work. I keep track of my cycle because there seems to be a link and if I remind myself that it might be that causing it, and not my job or my DH, it helps. Not saying this is definitely the case for you of course, but it's worth ruling out.

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AmandaCooper · 19/09/2011 07:45

Tostaky any news? Did AF get you yet?

LW how was the golden wedding? Did you and your DP get a chance to talk?

Clandy how many days to go to TTC?

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littlewater · 19/09/2011 16:18

amanda well there was NO alcohol at the golden wedding anniversary. It was held in a church and they said prayers( I think that was it). Food and squash was brought out at 8 ish. A very good spread. We sat opposite each other on our table and didn't talk much but we both laughed at the line dancing.
When we got home he went upstairs and I drank some mead, and another bottle. We got into bed and because of the drink I told him I had been feeling and we sorted it out. He even called me his wife!
No ring.

Lw

notthehippopotamus · 19/09/2011 18:40

Lw I'm glad things are a bit better :) Hope you are feeling a bit more positive.

AF arrived today for me. We haven't been being particularly careful, even though not supposed to be TTC yet, so a quite sizeable tiny part of me is disappointed even though I know it's probably just as well at the moment what with my job situation and DH being a bit wobbly about it.

Clandy · 19/09/2011 20:08

It is a respectable 40 days til ttc resumes. I am being a very big girl and waiting very patiently Smile

littlewater · 19/09/2011 20:45

not the sorry to hear AF is back.
I'm feeling loads positive.

What men must think of us, one week we are tearful, next just after sex, then complaining we are overweight, then we are on a murderous rampage.
In an endless cycle.

Lw

ViviPru · 19/09/2011 21:49

Thischarmingmum(35) WTTC#3, DH happy with 2, Cheshire.
Ratata(27) WTTC#1, waiting until married, Edinburgh
AmandaCooper (33) WTTC#1, DH not ready, Bradford
notthehippopotamus (28) WTTC#1, DH not ready, Essex
Tostaky (34) WTTC#3, need to find new home near good school, London
Monal(31) WTTC#1, waiting to come off the drugs, Paris
HeavensNetIsWide(27) WTTC#1, saving/DH career, Northants
Snowy27 (27) WTTC#1, waiting till after the wedding (Only 50 days to go!), Manchester
halterskalter (33) WTTC#1, need to do a year in new job, London
Truckdriver (32) WTTC#2, not ready yet for #2 just yet, but still broody!
WaitingForMe (28) WTTC #1, TTC as of wedding night (December)
GattoRosso (27) WTTC #1, waiting for the new year (for some reason)
Legallyblond (29) WTTC #2, need to accrue another year for mat leave #2, DH taking a year off, planning a sept baby!, London/Essex
pjani (29) WTTC#1, boyfriend not ready
Little water (27)WTTC#1, DP not ready,also wanting a march baby.
AlexEliza (34) WTTC#1, agreed with DH to wait until end Dec (holiday), London
Buddhagirl (26) WTTC #1, Waiting to get married, Hants
ViviPru (32) WTTC #1, DP not ready, not even sure I'm ready, E'Mids

Hi everyone :) I'm making myself comfortable, as I'm pretty sure its going to be a while yet...

Ratata · 19/09/2011 22:31

Hello again all, sorry it's been a while! It was my hen night at the weekend and I had a fantastic time. Still a bit tired today. Definitely the best night out I've had in ages. The Maid of Honour did a fab job. We also went on holiday abroad together recently, just me and her. I really haven't been thinking about TTC at all lately... I'm feeling a bit overwhelmed that all this jet setting and partying will need to come to an end. Very scary thought... I was fine til the awesome girly holiday and great night out!

alexeliza · 20/09/2011 19:14

Hi everyone, just thought I'd pop in to catch up.
It's been really busy work wise, and just trying to tie up all my loose ends before DH and I go away on holiday next week. Hoping for a nice relaxing break - don't even mind if it rains (although hoping for some sunshine or dry weather) as I can just bury myself in loads of books or DVDs. It will just be nice to get away and have a break!

Squirrel77 · 21/09/2011 21:36

May I join? 34, WTTC #1, one year into a three year postgraduate course and waiting to see a doctor about my endometriosis. If the doc tells me (next week!) that I'd better get started with the TTC-ing, that will be scary and exciting! Otherwise will put off until later in the course....

Take care, everyone!

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AmandaCooper · 21/09/2011 23:23

Hello Squirrel welcome to the club!

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Buddhagirl · 21/09/2011 23:52

We are engaged! :) :) He had it planned for ages! We went for a picnic in the woods, he chose a lovely spot then went down on one knee. Then we had champagne and i cried for like 5min. Omg my ring is gorgeous, quite suprised he did so well aactually! Only had it on for an hour and we sent it to be re sized sobs, but il get it back on saturday. Wedding venues for summer 2012 are going fast so im in the middle of planning my bum off, stressful this wedding lark, but much fun. Like you said amanda we will be ttc before we know it :)

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AmandaCooper · 22/09/2011 06:20

Wooo hooooo! FANTASTIC news! And what a lovely romantic proposal, fancy him being planning it all along!

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tostaky · 22/09/2011 10:31

Well? Im on the May 2012 bus now!!! Really happey!!
DP wasn?t too impressed at first but I let him think about it on his own and he came round with the idea pretty quickly.
We knew we wanted a third and final baby but it is just a year or so too early! Nevermind, DP has already sent me a list of names this morning!!
Good luck to everybody!

pjani · 22/09/2011 15:40

Ah we have a graduate! Congratulations tostaky am not jealous at all :)

Now ttc!
Tostaky (34) TTC#3

Waiting waiting waiting
Thischarmingmum(35) WTTC#3, DH happy with 2, Cheshire.
Ratata(27) WTTC#1, waiting until married, Edinburgh
AmandaCooper (33) WTTC#1, DH not ready, Bradford
notthehippopotamus (28) WTTC#1, DH not ready, Essex
Monal(31) WTTC#1, waiting to come off the drugs, Paris
HeavensNetIsWide(27) WTTC#1, saving/DH career, Northants
Snowy27 (27) WTTC#1, waiting till after the wedding (Only 50 days to go!), Manchester
halterskalter (33) WTTC#1, need to do a year in new job, London
Truckdriver (32) WTTC#2, not ready yet for #2 just yet, but still broody!
WaitingForMe (28) WTTC #1, TTC as of wedding night (December)
GattoRosso (27) WTTC #1, waiting for the new year (for some reason)
Legallyblond (29) WTTC #2, need to accrue another year for mat leave #2, DH taking a year off, planning a sept baby!, London/Essex
pjani (29) WTTC#1, boyfriend not ready
Little water (27)WTTC#1, DP not ready,also wanting a march baby.
AlexEliza (34) WTTC#1, agreed with DH to wait until end Dec (holiday), London
Buddhagirl (26) WTTC #1, Waiting to get married, Hants
ViviPru (32) WTTC #1, DP not ready, not even sure I'm ready, E'Mids

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AmandaCooper · 22/09/2011 18:38

Ooh that means this thread now has at least a couple of graduates! Tostaky that's very exciting, did you like any of the names on the list?! Don't suppose you can influence my DH?

Legallyblonde do come back and wait with us. I'm sorry about my little outburst of anguish up thread, it was directed at the world in general, not at you. I remembered you from the original thread because I'm a lawyer too.

Alexeliza are you off anywhere nice? I'm trying to get DH to book some time off work so we can go on the Big Trip to the States he insisted he wanted to do before we TTC. You'd think he'd be more keen. Oh well!

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AmandaCooper · 22/09/2011 18:44

Ratata don't you know the rules? Thou shalt not have doubts about TTC! Yeah it's bloody daunting isn't it, I can't really imagine what it would be like to have my life turned upside down to that extent irreversibly. I'm so used to doing whatever I want whenever I want... which usually involves a lot of self indulgent lazing about!

Glad to hear your hen do went well. When's the Big Day?

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alexeliza · 22/09/2011 20:58

Hi Buddhagirl, congratulations!! What wonderful news!!
Tostaky, best of luck with ttc. Very envious - am hoping Xmas rolls round really quickly so DH and I can get started as well.
Amanda, we're off to Norfolk next week - something low key but looking forward to just getting away. I love your idea of going on the Big Trip to the States - I'll keep my fingers crossed that you can get the dates all arranged as hopefully that will bring you closer to ttc!!

MsWeatherwax · 23/09/2011 10:22

Waiting. Been waiting ages! I was thinking I'd only have to wait another year, but last night asked DP how long he was thinking and he said two years or so :( I am nearly 30, we have talked about having lots of babies and not had any yet. Can anyone reassure me or think what I could tell DP to make him understand time is limited? I'm surprised how much this got me down - I chart my cycles and I don't know whether it's to do with knowing that it's way past fertile time this month.

wannabemum24 · 23/09/2011 13:36

Hey everyone! Never saw this thread before, wasn't looking properly though! I am married with 0 children yet, but waiting about 6 months until we start trying, but considering coming off pill to let cycle get back on track, then seriously try in 6 months...does that sound normal?! P.s...v v new here! E x

pjani · 23/09/2011 14:59

Hi MsWeather and wannabe, welcome.

MsWeather I do think it's worth talking about/mentioning how fertility drops off (and chances of things going wrong increase) at 35. I was going to give my boyfriend all the stats but in the end I just told him the basics and I think he understood and potentially it helped my case.

The other big things you might think about saying is i) how you feel - you say you asked him how long he wants to wait and he said 2 years - did you tell him when you want to start ttc? How can he consider your position if you haven't told him? and ii) the usual about there never being a perfect time. There just isn't.

Why you should listen to me I have no idea though, I haven't had any success with the above approach with my boyfriend yet :)

And wannabe that sounds totally normal, and welcome!

wannabemum24 · 23/09/2011 15:27

Grin Thanks! Hoping to talk my DH round a bit tonight. Last time I suggested coming of the pill, he suggested buying another dog!! Erm...no! E x

wannabemum24 · 23/09/2011 15:51

Oh, pjani, what are those things that get posted every now and then with people's names etc? I see you did one a bit further down...Like I said, v new! E x

mrspear · 23/09/2011 15:56

Hi can i join?!

I have been married 4 years next month and one ds who will be 2 next month too! I have no idea why, i freely admit that i am finding being a SAHM tough, but i really want another baby! DH says no. Sad

pjani · 23/09/2011 16:33

Mrspear of course you can join :) but you must clarify, are you Mr Spear or Mrs Pear? Just for visual clarity ;) Welcome.

Wannabe feel free to add yourself, you just copy the whole thing (the last version of it), paste it in a message and add your details to the bottom. Good luck for tonight! I wish you the best in the explanation that wanting a baby might be different to wanting a dog!