The First Time Frolickers leave The Three Follicles to go home and "Do their homework!" The one where all our minutes come at once.

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Ok ladies, here's the new thread, let's hope it's a lucky one!

Oh, and Tomboy - update please!!

Updated list, FingersCrossed am keeping my fingers crossed ERTD stays away for you, but just in case the witch arrives, let me know your cycle so I can update you properly on the list.

Garden lovely to hear from you and such great news that things are happening at your end. Am secretly hoping for an ironic pre-IVF BFP for you but either way, it's moving along!

Imps I wonder about the drinking thing too, although I really don't think I could get my DH to give it up completely. We're not big drinkers in the regular sense and we do go a few weeks without having a drink at all. At times though, we might drink every Saturday for a month or (liek last weekend) Friday and Saturday in a binge-drinking kind of way (it was a stag do though so I'll let him off!) I've managed to get DH on wellman conception supplements so am hoping this has some effect. I know I am ovulating regularly and I know we are SWIing enough and at the right times, so am hoping the boost for his swimmers might make the difference!

Come on TomBoy give us something to get excited about

Wednesday's List
Weimy TTC#1, Cycle3, UCL28, CD45
FingersCrossed TTC#1, cycle?, UCL29, CD30
TomboyWife TTC#1, Cycle 15, UCL 28, CD31
Tigerseyemum TTC1,Cycle 7, UCL 30, CD23
Truffkin TTC#1, Cycle 9, UCL 28, CD11
LateToTheTTCParty TTC#1, Cycle 3, UCL 26-ish, CD9
evilgiraffe TTC#1, Cycle 7, UCL 28, CD6
LizzyMathsWhizzy TTC #1 Cycle 3 UCL 30 days CD5
Impers TTC#1 Cycle 3, UCL 35, CD5
CookieMoo TTC#1, cycle26, UCL26, CD3

MI SWI A
TanteAC TTC#1
Yumstepmum TTC#
Ilovemarmite79 TTC1
Pinklady76 TTC#1
Puppygirl TTC#1
RaspberryTipple TTC#1
JosieSmith1 TTC#1
Kaloki TTC#1

Not Counting Days
CaveMum
Miffles
Chalky3
DessieLou
Zippys
Calyx
Ariesgirl
Goldmaple
MissFlick
Womanlytales
Gobolino
GardenPixie
Karstan TTC#1, Cycle 9

2010 Graduates
Superpenguin BFP 1 July
Haloflo BFP 22 July
Saor Alba BFP 7 August
MrsWajs BFP 13 August
stegasaurus BFP 27 August
Roamfree BFP 1st September
Kurlyvoice BFP 1st September
Crazybutterflylady 1st September
Cherrycobbler 3rd September
Crazydays 4th September
Bellaby 11th September
Highheelsandequations 30th October
IfAtFirstYouDon'tSuceed 25th November

Recent Graduates
Slowshow 3rd January
Roundtable 14th January
CrazyAlien 29th January
Toriajayne 16th February

Ok, I'm driving myself mad. I thought ERTD was going to arrive in full flow today as first thing this morning there was the faintest bit of blood.

I'm on CD 29 and usually I get a show on CD28 and by CD 29 ERTD's here for sure. However...there is still only the slightest trace of redness when I go to the toilet ano no cramps or anything so I have CONVINCED myself that this is implantation bleeding. I've been reading up on the internet and really i think that if it was implantation bleeding it would have happened sooner? So I'll wait and see what The rest of the day and then if ERTD still hasn?t arrived properly I?ll poas in the morning in the VAIN hope that it?s good news.

It?s an emotional rollercoaster this TTC business and I for one am going nuts already!

Keeping my fingers crossed for you

[snort] @ Truffkin's joke!

Good luck Fingerscrossed and Tomboy

Hello all

Fingers, I really have no idea about when implantation can occur, but given that some people don't get BFPs until well after ERTD is due, that would indicate that implantation can take longer than the 7-10 days I usually read about. Spotting could well be implantation bleeding - I hope so!! Can't wait to hear outcome of POAS.

Truff - my god, well done on the Wellman Conception! My OH would run a complete mile!!

I'm feeling very odd today - my uterus is feeling very tight and quite tender. Not something I've had before. Also feeling a bit queasy on and off and boobs continue to feel tingly, although not tender. Wondering if this is just an extension of VERTD. I've POAS (well, actually, I've dunked a stick in a cup of wee - DASIACOW if you will) just in case and of course it was a BFN. Tomboy did your excrutiating ERTD have post-ERTD effects? Am wondering if I should it checked out just to make sure everything's okay down there as it really is unusual and sore.

Anyway, back to Masterchef!

Oooh I'm watching Masterchef too, still a little about the new format but then, I fear change!

I did think I might come up against a little resistance on the vitamins but he was most obliging! I had a bit of a moment last month when he was 'too tired' leading up to ovulation so he is is being good this week

I don't mind the new format now they've got the finalists! ALthough John Torode needs lessons in how to comfort crying people!

My OH owes me big time next month - I usually OV on CD 20 and he's away from CD 16 to CD 22 with his bloody work! So taking this month off, but if he's away over OV next month I am going to KILL HIM!!!

Imps if I remember correctly my unusually awful ERTD settled after a day or so and finished off as normal. If you're still feeling bad even post-ERTD, that does sound a little bit .

DH was meant to buy a pg test today, but he didn't, so even if I was tempted to POAS tonight, I can't. I'm still cramping in a slightly weird way, and as of today I'm getting a faint metallic taste in my mouth from time to time. But I've had stronger symptoms than this several times before and needless to say those symptoms have come to nothing, so...

Oh em gee Tomboy you're really teasing us now! I'm so hoping we get some more BFPs soon on this thread. If one of those could be me, I would be bloody delighted

Yes Imps it was the X Factor style auditions that annoyed me. If it aint broke etc. We're also a little about not having the amusing intro sequence with 'cooking doesn't get tougher than this' type statements!

This thread will be full up before the next BFP at this rate!

Tomboy do you have a toad to hand??!!!

They appear to be pretty reliable !

ERTD still not 'arrived', just only tiny trace of red when I wipe sorry TMI... so I poas this morning and BFFN

This is driving me mad but I am going to cling to what you said Imps and pretend that this is implantation bleeding, ok?

Hi again

I know I'm not supposed to be on here but I really need to talk and I get the best support on here, no-one else understands. Now that my colleagues know what's going on I'm finding it really hard to keep up the facade and keep it together. I keep welling up and can hardly talk to anyone. And now, as the girl at work had an early scan, the picture is sitting staring at me and everyone keeps wanting to have a look at it. I don't think I can do it any more. It hurts so much I feel like I can't breathe. Any tips on getting over it/dealing with these feelings? I'm cycling through everything - anger, sadness, desperation. I feel like I just want to kick and scream and smash things.

Crap for BFN Fingers but hopefully it's just too early

Best of luck Tomboy too

Hi

Sorry for the absence, you dropped off my 'threads you are on' list and I forgot to keep checking.

I am about to go to a conference till Sun so will go through the thread properly then to see how you all are.

I am due on today but there is no sign of AF and I got a BFN.

Toria Congrats!!!!
good luck fingers and tomboy

josie I'm sorry things are so rough, have you looked at holistic treatments at all? I am going to try Bowen. ((((weimy pack hugs))))

Thanks Weimy, I might look into that. I've never heard of it so I'm afraid I haven't got a clue what you're talking about but I will research it Hopefully your BFN was just too early

Hiya, I am still lurking but just popped in to to say hello to josie. I know how feel, I really do. Some days I can't even look at a pregnant person/baby or talk about it, other days it's all I want to talk about. Try to have a think about a way of coping. Mine is now to just go with the flow, I'm not hiding the fact I'd love a baby so chat to anyone and everyone about it, I'm not yelling from the rooftops 'hey I'm trying to get upduffed but am clearly a barren karen' but by being casual about it I don't feel so pressurised to produce a baybee.

If it was me I'd accept that work will be shit tomorrow then go in next week an just throw them the 'it's my hormones' line and try to enjoy being around a pregnant lady as you will be learning lots for when you get updiffed!! I keep telling myself that yes it will happen, it just hasn't quite happened yet.

Not sure if that helps but I hope you feel better soon, pm me if you like xx

Just tested. BFN.

I wanted to leave it another day or two, but DH was eager enough to make a special trip to the shops for the test, so...

In fact, he wanted me to pee in a jam jar this morning and then run out and get a test after I'd left for work. I don't think he was really serious, but I don't think I could cope with being told I was pg by my DH's Facebook status.

On the plus side, it's looking like being a fairly boozy weekend and now I don't have to make up any excuses.

Sorry about your BFN Fingers, and that you're still having such a tough time of things Josie.

Sorry to Tomboy and Fingers for your BFNs. However, it ain't over till ERTD shows up so don't give up hope yet. I think it was highheels who had several BFNs before her BFP when she was more than a week late - do correct me if I'm wrong.

Josie sorry you are having a rough time. I understand exactly how you feel. When a lady in our office announced she was pregnant just over a year ago I had to take myself off to the loo to compose myself and then blubbed like a baby when I got home - we weren't even officially TTC at that stage!
I've also has mini meltdowns at several stages over the last few months, particularly when watching One Born Every Minute but also when watching How I Met Your Mother . Thankfully HIMYM is being a tad more realistic than other shows and Lily and Marshall have not instantly conceived!

I think the key is to be kind to yourself. Let yourself have a good cry and a mope, but try not to let it take control of your life. I know it is easier said than done, but you will drive yourself insane if you allow it to consume you. Have you thought about talking to the pregnant lady and explaining how you feel? Perhaps just say "X I'm really pleased for you and hope that everything goes well. Please don't think that I'm not happy for you but at times I get a bit down about not being pregnant myself."
If she's a decent person she will understand.

(((Hugs))) to you, be kind to yourself and eat lots of chocolate!

Eek! Mammoth post! Sorry!

Josie I don't want to speak out of turn here, but have you considered visiting your GP to discuss your feelings? I'm in no way medically qualified, but the strength of your feelings with regards to your colleague sound quite serious and beyond the normal jealousy and upset that we all feel from time to time. Something that's affecting you so seriously should be checked out.

Sorry to hear about BFN Tomboy - still no ERTD? How frustrating! Also sorry to hear about your BFN Fingers - hang in there!

Welcome back Weimy!

Cavemum - can you bulk by the toads off Ebay or Amazon do you know?!

*buy

Aw Tomboy sorry to hear that. Could it be too early perhaps?

Thanks CaveMum, it?s good to know I?m not the only one who has to go off and compose myself! I didn?t do a very good job obviously if they all noticed Or it may have been the fact that I couldn?t say anything to anyone all day without breaking down! I have pretty much said that to her (by email though ) and she said she?s there for me if I need to talk. She is trying not to rub it in my face though

Not out of turn at all Imps I realise it?s not normal to feel that strongly this early on in the journey and if it continues I think I will go to GP but right now I?m feeling a little stronger. I?ve been sneaking peeks at her scan when no-one is looking. Preparing myself I think. And I?ve decided I?m nowhere near out yet. It?s only been 8 months for god?s sake, some of you are going through a much worse struggle than me (sorry if my whingeing has offended anyone) and even if we do pass the year mark it doesn?t mean we?ll definitely never get pg.

I have pulled myself together for now (until the next scan probably). I think I may have been depressed and I couldn?t have come through these past few days without the support of all you lovely ladies on here so thank you all so much, I promise I will post something happy at some point!

That's it, hang in ther Josie You're absolutely right, it will happen.

Well after my bizazrre week wondering whether I was upduffed or not, ERTD from hell arrived this morning. To be honest it's just a relief to know one way or another. At least now I can move and concentrate on trying again.

Does anyone know whether I should count my cycle from Wednesday (when I got the first trace of red) or from today which can officially be classed as full on ERTD?

Think it is supposed to be the first full day of bleeding I believe fingerscrossed

God - look at me creeping back in! Sorry to all those who have had BFN's and ERTD

Well, although I'm not taking masses of notice I am on my most fertile day today but I've lady itch all week :( We have managed a SWI on Wednesday and Tuesday night so there may be a few up there but I was just way to sore last night and it's kinda killed the mood!

tomboy sorry bout BFN but lol at DP - I can just imagine the Facebook post. "tomboy is having a baby but doesn't know it yet ". You could 'like' it!!! Nice that he is excited though.

Sorry Fingers but glad you seem to be taking it well. It's always a relief to know for definite. I agree it's the first full day of bleeding.

I'm creeping back in too Raspberry so I'm going to take my leave from today and say a huge thanks to everyone for helping me through a difficult period. I will of course keep checking in. Baby dust to all...