Feisty, Fabulous Forty somethings

[galwaygal]

This is a continuation of the "More ongoing and continuing conceptions and follicling ahead of Feisty, Fabulous Forty somethings"

I thought I would keep the title short as there are so many long ones out there.

I thought I would start the new thread so that you don't forget me

Oh noooo Spotty ....oh dear will keep hopeful for you and fingers crossed ....

Wanted to add yesterday but forgot Hippy I get sore boobs right after OV now and stays that way all the 2WW well maybe tapering off at about 10dpo (usually when I have done a test and its -tive) so its either high levels of Progesterone ?? Or Im more sensitive to my body now or just plain old 'Age' ......I also notice that my symptoms (made up or real ) reach a peak at 7/8 dpo and Im totally convinced that Im PG for them 2 days .... only to come a crashing down after the -tive tests ....... So note to self 'MUST not symptomspot this month because it is probably just my mind going into overdrive........

LOUISE Wish you better sweety hope your lunch is nice

Thanks for the info DIEGE

Forgot to welcome PORTH aswell 'Hey Porth and welcome to the club/snug and hopefully bench

Great stories TANK cheers

xx

What's all this vest/pants malarky? Translation pls! (New girl emoticon)

My DS is such a bloody cutie pie; I hope I CAN get another one....
I'll give myself two more years then I'll get a dog if not.

just a quick one.

rtd arrived for me too hippy over the weekend. Felt pretty gutted - it was a very short cycle. and now dh has said he doesn't want to try anymore. So I am trying to deal with that.

spotty v sorry for you too, this happened to me recently.

gum sounds v promising - fingers crossed you carry on feeling crap.

everyone else, hello. And goodbye, I'm going to stay away for a while now. need to think about what is happening and try and get on with my life.

BB sorry your Dh has said this. Is it a knee jerk reaction do you think? Just realised you said you were going to stay away so may not answer that. Well... if you are reading i'm thinking of you and hope you can sort something out between you.

spotty so sorry to hear things arn't looking very positive. I wont say the whole it aint over til it's over thing because you know your body best. Keep us informed and we'll keep our fingers crossed for you.

All very odd for me here. As I said i got a BFN on saturday and had a bit of spotting. This got a bit heavier yesterday so i counted it as day 1. But it all stopped at lunchtime and it was only really brown (with a hint of red) sounds like I'm describing material or somehting. Now my AF is absent and has been for 24 hours . i'm really confused as this has never happened to me before. I thought at first oooh goodie perhaps i'm preg after all and that was the infamous inplantation bleed. Then i thought - "did i leave a tampon in???" No - definitely not. Now i'm thinking it's an ectopic or something worrying cos I have a vague feeling that you get spotting with those. Any ideas? anyone?? Should i worry??? (yes jolls i know that is a daft question.)

Love to all.

ps. louise sorry if i confused you. the little girl is catherine who is tanks daughter. i wasn't sure how much to say as it wasn't my personal story, that's why i said she used to be on here. It seems tank is ok with me mentioning her though. Phew . tank i love the idea of her changing georgie's clothes all the time - hours of fun for both of them. XXX

Oh bloody hell BB I have been dealing with the same sh*te the last cupla cycles too - it was beginning to put a strain on our relationship/marriage and so I think I can understand where your at..... I hope you can get your head round things and see a way forward x

Err HIPPY have you tested again yet ???????? because that's the only way to find out..... I had a cycle that I spotted for a coupla days then no AF and then found out I was PG !! Actually thinking back to that one I didnt have a single symptom until I was due AF then got sore bbs really thought I was out for that month.... see the old mind again.

Well well well I had a feeling it was u TANK but wasn't sure.... aahh a little bubba sent by your girl.... am absolutely thrilled for you - can you please stay on this side with us so we can check your progress (am grinning from ear to ear) .............

xx

BB sorry to hear about dh - as Hippy says might it be a knee-jerk thing, and could he come round in a few days/weeks time? I've had the same on and off a little too ( I think we all have!) but really hope you can (both) reach a place that feels ok. Thinking of you and please let us know how things go x

diege omg Gillian needs shooting... What is she not scared of ????

tank your darling catherine is taking good care of Georgie. She's changed her outfit a millions times which is a good job as georgics got loads of clothes!!!!

Hope you re well and it's comfy on your bench ???

Had a lovely lunch and nice day out .trying to source some ab for an infection from work.
tank glad you ll being positive and your story is lovely.positive stories are what we all need . Xx

Fingers crossed for you hippy it ain t over till the fat lady sings !!! Xx ( smile )

Hippy So? Did you test?

AF has arrived proper now. She had no note or explanation for her absense - what a bitch.

Ahh well. I was getting a bit freaked out and thinking the worst anyway. Sorry to have troubled you all - it was just so darn weird the way it completely disappeared (even when I wiped ). Still it's bright red and defintely there now.

It is gonna be weird next month cos I got my first positive HPT on december 18th last year and had a weird christmas and new year hardly daring to believe it was true. I am gonna try again this month and will hope for a BFP of course BUT it will be very de-ja-vue if I do get a BFP.

Would it help if I said "poo poo poo" again?

(hugs hippy )

Also - have just read back, and gives BB a sneaky hug too.

Actually - to heck with it - group hug all round. xx xx

Thanks tank I ll participate in that group hug please ? Xxx

So sorry hippy onwards and upwards. Well that's what I keep telling myself. Xx

Hi Ladies
I'm kind of hoping to join in secret as hubby to be would be a bit shocked...

I already have 2 lovely small people conceived at 39 (delivered just after my 40th) and conceived/delivered at 41, so yes am very lucky and possibly greedy and stupid to want any more...at 43 (just 43 :) )
BUT I so so do want another baby before the chance runs away - I know I would regret it forever if I dont try and I get over emotional about it all especially given my blessings already. So I hope I can bob in and out and see how you are all getting on - I hope my later in life conceptions provide you all with some good vibes!
Fingers crossed for everyone and hope to chat again soon xxx

{{{{ all the snug ladies, esp you Louise }}}}

(Tank Girl stocks the fridge with Maltesers, toblerone, gin (bombay sapphire) and tonic, and pre-mixed virgin cocktails for the ladies on the bench, before creeping quitely out - sprinkling magic baby dust as she leaves)

Ommmph... ouch! I think I must have walked into Detsy coming in as I was leaving for the night...

Welcome detsy - I think you're treading in my magic baby dust by the way

baggy pants:
Hippy aged 44 cd2
BB age 40 cd3
40someMum age43 cd 8 (post m/c)
Diege age 40 cd 9 (post m/c)

vest and shorts phase:
Louisesh age 39 cd 17,ttc#1 1mmc ,2mcs and Georgie (stillborn 10/10/10 at 41 weeks,2days).ttc 2years,10 months.
muchlove Age 43 cd CD 13 and approaching Slanket stage
Curlylox 43 cd18
Jolls age 42 cd16 (ttc#2 for 17 months (3 MMC))

Slanket phase:
tel1 aged 41 cd 20 10dpo

On the bench
Gum Aged 43 PG (ttc for 6 months)
Tank aged 40 7weeks

Waiting or MIA:
italiangreyhound age 45 - cd ? waiting .....
Rowing: age? cd??
10000ff age? cd?
HairyTriangle age 42 (recent MMC )
Porth age 43 TTC2
Spottysox: Age43 bench being kept warm
Desty ? age 43 ? ttc#3

Up-duffed!:
Alba age42 baby boy ? 33 weeks pg
Spiral queen
Lunaticfringe
Lia66 age 44 baby girl - 22 weeks pg

Holding babe in arms!
TFLS age 41 baby boy Charlie 30/9/10
ILGH age 40 baby girl Genevieve 4/10/10
Kiwikat age 44 baby girl Georgia 5/11/10

Porth ? you need to forgive all the slang/jargon used here! The terms used are to reflect what point of the cycle folks are on. So baggy pants ? during af, vest and shorts ? time to seduce dh?s!, slanket phase ? when in the horrible 2ww post ovulation. On the bench our new term for those who have a BFP but not yet comfortable or far enough along to say they are definitely up-duffed and hoping for a baby at the end of the pregnancy. At our ages, we take nothing for granted. I think many of us have been on the bench a few times now, and are keen to emphasise those who have finally made it to the end goal of babe in arms. I hope this explains our bizarre jargon!

BB ? do you think your dh will change his mind on ttc again? I am so sorry to see you leaving, perhaps you could join me in the cheering squad for the others here. so sorry for you.

Desty ? hi and welcome!

Tank ? I have to admit to being thick about things. I was worried that someone so brazen as yourself was coming into our cosy snug when we were sad about losing a friend. Then I loved your style, and was enjoying having a new friend here. But now I realise that our friend is back, good job we kept putting the logs on the fire!!!! I just went duh!!!! when I finally worked it out. Sorry I was so slow, I really am happy to have you here again, now you have no permission to go MIA again!

Spotty hope you are still there keeping Tank and Gum warm! Really thinking of you and sending up an arrow prayer.

detsy welcome.

louise hope you are feeling OK, you are educating me and I think listening to you has made me much more aware so I know it is no consolation but I do feel I am so much better aware about some of the tragedies of motherhood and I can be a better friend to those who need me.

Tank thanks for the group hug, all the best and thanks for the food, drinks and babydust.

Gum hope your bum is not going numb on that bench.

Hippy hang on in there.

Jolls and Diege thinking of you ladies. Diege ration, chocs, what are you talking about (said in an Al Murray voice)!

BB sorry your dh said that, sounds like a knee jerk reaction. Maybe he will calm down.

GG are you still around. How are you feeling?

Muchlove and Fortysomemum. Love to you both, love and hugs to all and winks and smiles to any lurkers.

I'm OK but just feeling a bit fed up with work etc and just feeling like I am a bit in limbo!

Love to all.

Well i'm off the bench for certain now. This makes me Hippys cycle buddy so that's nice.
Back later
Spotty

spotty Really sad and sorry to hear that. Time to treat yourself to a really long hot bath with bubbles and a big glass of good red wine. xx

GG I assumed you would recognise me from my menstrual cycle as you were always better at counting it than me. Moi? Brazen?

Lunatic has mentioned else where on here that she's having a little boy by the way. She's 25 weeks tomorrow. She's actually having a bit of a tough time, and I know she's been discussing an early delivery, so suspect baby will be here sooner rather than later. Know we will all be thinking of her xx

Ah bugger it Spotty Definitely tyime to chill and indulge yourself. Thinking of you x
Welcome Detsy! I'm sure you will fit in very wekll here
I'm going to have to go as at my desk and students are traipsing past, but love to all and will be back later x

Thanks tank I ll put an order in for a large glass of wine please in the snug!! ( don t do gin) .your hug was just the ticket!!!

Hi Italian glad georgies story helps to enlighten people it's certainly taught me a few massive lessions, mainly, don t take anything or anyone for granted and just how much I love her and it grows daily. Didn t think 1 little person could have such a huge effect on soo many people dh and me , as fully grown adults living for nearly 40 years haven t created this much effect on people we know in our lifetime but our little Georgie has.

spotty sorry you re out this cycle.hope you re stocked up on chocolate and nice treats.

Welcome detsy I love your story as it gives me hope to ttc and that a few years are still on my side for georgies brother or sister to be confirmed.mmm....don t know how you tackle the oh about wanting to try again. Good luck with that. That used to be half the battle i had with dh but since Georgie he is determined to have another child and he now makes a lot of the effort which is excellent as once again we ve now got a regular sex life again. ( didn t much when I was pg with Georgie as dh got all funny about it )

Galway hi . How u doing?

Hi to jolls, alba, muchlove, hippy, diege and gum

Hi to anyone I ve forgotten. Been to gps re ? Infection ... Surprise surprise couldn t help me !!!! Soo , nurse, treat thyself ( which is what I was going to do anyway !) . Just submitted a water sample but really doesn t feel like an uti. However , not had any more pains Soo will take a week of ab , that the infection identified on the pacental swabs , is sensitive to and fx that ll be the end of that. Know it's not a pelvic infection , as I treat and Pershing for those at work , and I m not getting any pain linked to sex.

Sad today . I seem to have 1 good day 1 bad day but I reckon it's better than having all bad days. Bloody babies everywhere.... Do you reckon these people know how lucky they are ? I certainly will in the future and I will treasure every minute of georgies brother or sister. But just miss Georgie so very much .
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spotty so sorry honey. How sweet that even in the middle of an MC you can look on the bright side and say that you are now my cycle buddie - bless you. However, i do ovulate early so you might struggle to keep up with me. Take it one day at a time and hang in there.

louise I guess, as you say one good day followed by one bad is better than all bad. It's still early days and you are FULLY entitled to have days when you feel utterly shite mrs. Yes, detsy's story does sound encouraging for you - you still have time,my dear.

jolls Hello there, how are you??

diege EWCM yet???

italian sorry you feel in limbo. If it's any consolation - I think the bloody months are flying by and you'll soon be at the top of the list.

Someone at work was showing her scan the other day and saying - i quote - "At least the nose looks better, the baby had a huge nose at the last scan and i was dead worried!" Arrghhh - just be grateful for a feckin' heartbeat .

AF is well and truelly here and i was pleased to see her. i felt I'd rather deal with a period than a maybe yuo are or maybe it's not right. At least i know that within a week I'll be back into it all.

Love to all.

Sorry if i missed you off, it's hard to do this at work cos I have to be discrete. Ha Ha. XXX

well miserable, stomach cramps, restless night, and eating chocolate here, so AF no-doubt on its way... day 21 at present so not due till friday... but showing all the same depressing signs... awaiting answer from BUPA, but think I'll make an appointment with Dr Lower at the princess grace hospital, london for an internal scan - and see if he can diagnose the problem (he's meant to be the best)... otherwise I'm just in limbo.....

hippy these people really do need a slap don t they ??? It's like get real !!!! wait to you have a miscarriage, stillbirth or problem with your baby then you ll know what it's like to have a real problem !!! Stupid cow !!!!

tel1 sorry to hear that you think the wicked witch is on her way. Re: doctor - If he/she is the best then go for it - all us fabulous ladies deserve the best!!

louise Yes, I did want to slap her but instead I kept the same fixed smile on my face and said something like "Oh how funny!"

If she had said it directly to me I probably would have said - I've had 2 main scans this year one told me my foetus had no heartbeat and one said there was only a sac and probably no foetus at all, so I can see how a big nose would be a major worry!!! But fortunately she didn't address me directly.