Just MC and ready to try again? Pack your cake wine and tightie whities and join us for more ranting weeping and most of all laughing! All welcome! (Part 8)

[MummyAbroad]

A safe haven for those just off the mc rollercoaster and thinking about getting back on or are already on the TTC rollercoaster. Be warned these lovely ladies chat, and the thread moves lightening fast, but all are welcome to join in any time

For those who have just mc'd, there is great info about your first cycle here

If you want to add yourself into the stats, just copy and paste the lot, change everyones CD (cycle day) if necessary and add yourself in.
WTF = first cycle after mc
WTTC = waiting to TTC
CD = cycle day
UCL = usual cycle length

Hooray!!!!!!!!!!!

Now I don't feel so bad at stalking sneaking a peek at your chart from the other day. Fantastic news!

Izz I really hope you're next.

Pink well done at taking a step toward counselling. You do sound v down at the moment, I hope this helps you to find some way to cope with what happened and all the emotional pain of ttc.

Its v snowy isn't it.

Oohhh tentative but happy yay for mousebacon too!

Well done nix.

Sorry to ask this in the same message, how long should I expect to bleed for?

Goodness me! Turn away for a moment and miss all the exciting news

Congratulations mouse and nix fx for you both that it all goes well! Hurrah!

Nix YESSSSSSSSSSSSS so delighted for you mega WOOOOOOOOPPPPPPSSSSSSSSSS

off to catch up now XXXXXXX

Wooooohooooooooo!

NIX I had a feeling this was your month!!! Fanfookingtastic!!!
I am so so unbelievably happy for you!

and IZZY for the record I also have a feeling about you this month too! when will you be POAS??

pink chin up my lovely xx

Love if you go to the first page of thread there are some useful links to give you 'normals' iykwim

Well girlies, I don't know where the hell I am in cycle! I am cd38 but spotted since cd18, I thought that af started on cd34 but didn't really amount to much. I didn't really have red blood but had all the af symtoms. GP thinks that perhas did not ov this month and thats why spotted for allof luteal phase? but tbh not convinced!

I think I may start cycle again from cd34 and see what happens, was considering progesterone cream to counteract spotting if happens again this cycle. Its just really weird that I spotted for 14days then had af symtoms, which is in line with my 'normal'luteal phase, I am always 14 days from ov to af...

Any thoughts?

Yay well done nix, fab news. :)

Went and sobbed heart out at dr, can have counselling in jan. Now I've started crying I can't stop-am on way to work but look like complete shit so should be interesting day....

Am going to give MN a miss for a while, you've all been lovely and of course im pleased for everyone that gets one but I can't cope with the news of new BFPs everytime I come on here, esp as it seems to happen within a couple of months of MC for everyone else and 5 months on, nothing's happening for me and I'm struggling to keep the faith that anything ever will. Thanks for all your support, will be back when I've got my head straight. Xx

Ooops sorry mouse missed your news! Well done!

(((((PINK)))))

I hope you feel better soon, its crap isn't it. I hope the counselling makes it all a little bit easier xxx

Take care cxx

Helloooo.... lovelies xxx

Oh i feel all nervous and silly..... terrified actually. delighted and scared stiff.... and i dont want to leave this thread,ever you are all so ACE!!

sunny you loon!!

bee it was the lesson last night that did it! Meant i got an accurate read this morning Feel free to stalk!!

baublebabe thankyou so much, i so wish it had been for you too x This has meaning for me (well of course it does doh) what i mean is the EDD is DH birthday if it sticks, if it doesnt it will be doubly painful. MC was around the same date last year.

orange am worried about the level of stress and anger yesterday..... today have abandoned snow am currently sat on bed feet up and tapping away! Great you had EWCM, get SWI'ing!! Are you feverish lovely?

mummybells you are a nutjob with your tinsel dance! and for all those with tinsel suzzies on - keep them on lets hope you can entice some more SWI' action with them!!

pretty long time no chat, how are you lovely lady....? How are the handies and the WTTC are you still abstaining? Hope you wont need to TTC soon, and you will get caught out whilst abstaining

love i thikn i bled for about 2 weeks like a light period, then 7 hours very heavy loss, then a light period again. Is it coming out on its own? I think it may depend how far along you are as to the volume that comes out, in terms of debris etc but in terms of bleed i am not certain.

Well i am still in mega ultra shock! After the lizard temp drops i thought AF would rock up within a day or two, so i didnt think about it and had a bit of a tear as it was my last chance before christmas if you like... so for them to rocket back up again is bonkers! The week my last pg was burrowing i had the same sleepless hot nights in bed but other than that very few symptoms. Still nothing really. Stripes maybe a bit more enhanced but not really, bit of an ache down below. I do feel like i am going low on blood sugar though and need carbs iykwim!

OMFG its just bonkers... i so hope it sticks..... only 8 weeks to go til the first hurdle, but one week at a time i suppose. mega knicker watch now and firing extra supplements down my neck :)

Pineapple juice and brazils!!! and what it also means is that all 3 pgs have been conceived shagging on day 18....bonkers.

emoo glad the epu are scanning you again. EPU had me in for about 6 blood tests after MC to ensure we got a neg. Its better to make sure everything is clear and you get the BFN before you can move on iyswim?

mummye gawd no, don't put on suspenders for me, I'm only 11dpo!!! Also there was a slight dip in temps today so not holding my breath...will have to see how it goes...

lovebeingadaddysgirl I think bleeding varies quite a lot, I had an ERPC at 17 weeks and bleeding was over in about 1week-10 days, but everyone's different x

Sending HUGS & LOVE in a&r and pinks direction really sorry you guys are having a hard time (((((())))))

waves to everyone xxx

Crossed posts Pink.

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im so sorry you arent getting what you need from this thread. I hope you get what you need from the bereavement counselling. It does make you envious when someone gets a bfp (i have been there also) but keep trying lovely, your turn will come i just know it.

You have been a massive support to me on here pink i dont think i could have stayed as positive without it so, thankyou for that.

Hope your test results go ok and that you get some answers and that you are back really soon xxx cos we will all miss you loads xxxxx :(

Everything crossed for you babes xxx

Aww Pink I know just how you feel. Im 5 months on as well. I totally totally thought I would be pg by now. But yes hope the counselling helps you my dear. I think talking therapy is great. I hope we will see you popping in occasionally though.

Nix Im a complete emotional wreck most of the time, but I do feel like I know you now (a bit, if you see what I mean) So yes am still thrilled for you. I want to be joining you soooooooooo much. Sigh. Im no good at waiting and seeing... Take is easy Mrs :)

Mouse sorry I didnt congratulate you earlier! Thrilled for you too of course. I just must have missed out on reading a couple of pages back.... LOL hope you are feeling good and not too stressed with it all...

Ahh this is the most Ive written in ages! :)

Big (((hugs))) Pink. I really hope the counselling works for you. We will miss you here so please come back and say hello if you are able.

X-posts pink (((((hugs))))) sorry you're having such a tough time...I'm 5 months on now too, it's rubbish isn't it?
I hope the counselling helps; please keep in touch if you can because you will be missed...fx we'll see you back to announce some good news before long xxx

daddysgirl sorry somehow missedbyour first post, welcome to the thread I am very sorry for your loss, those first few days are very hard while everything is all numb and raw, hope you are being looked after in real life (ask people who offer help to bring you a small pressie to cheer you up ) if you are like me and want info about what's going on with your body / head / hormones then check out the link in the first post at the top of the page, the one that says " info about your first cycle here " the site is great for all sorts if info. Hit " home" and browse through the questions. Xxx

pink although it feels awful to be crying all the time, it really is " better out than in". I had a big meltdown about 5 months after my mc, it wasn't until I let myself fell bad that I started to feel better iyswim. Knopf this is the start of the healing process for you. I can totally understand the need from a mn break too, have done it a few times myself. Remember we are all here for you if you need us anytime xxx

izzy suspenders still on but now respectfully covered up I am taking no notice of your tiny dip as it is no where near the cover line.

Morning!

Izzy - congrats on still being in LP... you never know... fx... I agree, today's dip is tiny and insignificant.

Pink - hope you manage to get some good counselling to help you move on. But don't feel bad for feeling sad, as I'm sure you're not alone. I hope you feel stronger and more able to be back with us before long. It's a very fine line isn't it between feeling delighted at the someone else's BFP because it gives you hope, or feeling very flat because it's not one's own.

Nix - whooooppeeedoooo!!!!!!!! May it be healthy and sticky. I bet that has cheered up your shitty week! Your chart looks like the Himalayas...

Izzy, Pink, Nix - that's really good advice to see the scan as a positive sign of being looked after... as you can tell, I was seeing it rather negatively as this flippin' MC still dragging on and not letting me move on. The scan is Thursday. Hopefully the uterus will be empty, and that will draw a line under things.

Orange - hope you get your eggie soon. Please enlighten me on the pineapple juice??

Urban - hope the rollercoaster is not making you too nauseous! Did you get your BFP in the WTF cycle?

A&R - so sorry you are feeling like a failure, you are really not alone. I can be a bit of a control freak in general, and it frustrates me no end that I have no control over succeeding at this TTC lark. And what is it about dads saying the most stupid things?? Mine asked if it was even worth me trying again given my "poor" reproductive history. I love him to bits, but that was most unhelpful.

MummyB - thanks for the stats, don't worry, you couldn't possibly freak me out more than I am already freaked out!

DaddysGirl - I am a novice at this, but I think it really varies. I bled for a total of 3 weeks, that includes 2 weeks of gradually increasing spotting before the bad-news-scan, then 3 days of really heavy losses including the miscarriage itself, then 4 days of period-level bleeding.

Loola - sorry, my only thoughts on your cycle are that I'm clueless.

TMI alert... I thought for a moment this morning that I had some eeewwwCM, but then wondered if it was remnants of "manjuice" from the weekend?? I seem to remember that somewhere it TCOYF it tells you how/when to try to expel it, or how to tell the difference, but unfortunately I lent my copy to someone about 5 years ago, and am now too embarrassed to ask for it back! Can anyone with a copy look it up for me, pretty please? Chart still all over the place, so am assuming still under the influence of hcg and progesterone.
my chart

Thanks guys will check the link out

on my iPhone mostly so will look later, still working through the list of things to do following my dad passing awY last week so luckily am off work already.

Wow so much has happened on here since I last dropped by.

Dachs - really sorry did not work out for you this time. Its so tough and unfair. You will get there though. Hopefully next shot of IVF they will be able to fine tune things for you.

Mouse and Nix - yay! Made up for you

Pink sorry to hear how you are feeling. I'm 5 months on from mc now too and still trying. We'll get our turn.

Hello to everyone else!

((((PINK))))
Sorry you're feeling so down. I'm 6 months tomorrow, totally understand how you feel. But, we are all here for you if you need to rant/cry/shout.

izzy that chart's looking pretty good, hey? How exciting!

emoo I haven't got a copy, but I think nix has, am sure she will oblige!

Hello Loving. Sorry it gets a bit crazy, and I haven't said hi yet!

pretty where've you been? Up to much? we missed you.

emoo tcoyf says to do kegals 30 mins after sex to expel the man juice ( love the vocab ) but I have never done this, as it goes totally against the grain. I saw a thread a while ago by a woman who swears by using a moon cup after sex to keep the swimmers IN there as long as poss. Not a very scientific study but she said she got pregnant twice this way...

emoo how come your chart has green lines??

Hello all. I had 12 pages or something to catch up - such a lot going on!!

First HUGE congrats to Nix and Mouse!!!!!

Really sorry to hear your news Dachs big hugs xxx Big hugs also to Pink I totally know how you feel.

Hi to Daddysgirl, so sorry you have found yourself here.

Hello to everyone else!!! I've been away for the weekend and (don't want to give away too many details) but ended up seeing my friend's new baby at 4am at only about 20mins old Sooo adorable. Lots and lots of fun but makes the ache to have my own even worse stronger. POAS this morning and BFN. No Christmas bean for mme either :(

emoo I actually put my legs up against the wall post sex (very romantic) (yes an hour) reading a book for an hour, doing pelvic floors afterwards whilst pelvic was propped up.

I did them for a day or two afterwards also.. dont know if it helped or not...but to me its worth trying anything