TTC a 2011 baby

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Hi all
I didn't want to hop on a bus because i'm not really aiming for a specific month to have a baby in so i thought i'd start a general "trying to conceive a 2011 baby" and see if anyone wants to join me :D

Thanks notreally we will keep our fingers crossed that I tested 2 early, I'll keep a bit of hope lol.
You havnt got long to waIt and tired and hungry could be good so fingers crossed for you 2 :)

Oh no catmad cramps are rubbish but if it makes you feel at all better I get cramps 10 days before af then on the days of af so you might not be out yet. Hoping it's just implantation for you :) yeh we do have the short straw, af and the pain of birth but I definitely would rather carry my baby than letting the men do it, can't wait.

Well up to now still no af, cramps still fading away and boobs still a bit sore. How very strange. Dp is a bit confused, he was saying so if you got bfn where's af?? Bless him he's gutted yet confused - makes 2 of us now.
And on a nice note the snow looks so pretty!

Thanks iwish :) Apparently implantation bleeding occurs 7-10 days after ov, and about one week before AF, and I think that my mysterious symptoms were actually me ovulating, which was 8-9 days ago. My cramps have gone and no more blood....am trying not to get excited but it's hard not to! Keep day dreaming of saying on Christmas Day, guess what I'm 4 weeks pg....however, if it's not the case then I'll come crashing back down again! The merry rollercoaster of TTC begins again!

I agree though that I'd rather be the woman and get the chance to carry the baby - it's a real honour really I think, if you know what I mean without sounding too cheesy :)

Hmmm, your symptoms are strange too. I take it that you are normally spot on time with your AF? Maybe you did test too early then! Fingers crossed! :)

Yes the snow looks pretty - been for a walk, and now admiring it from my sofa :)

Thanks notreally :) (for some reason I only saw your post after I wrote the one above? Am clearly going mental) I'll let you know how I get on!

Oh, and just a quick question (sorry for thread domination!!!!!! ) - it's my Christmas party tomorrow at work, if you were me and you thought you were implanting would you drink alchohol?!!?

Hey catmad well my last cycles have been 27,25 and 26 so I presumed that this cycle would be the same, probably not best to presume since I'm now on cd29. Nevermind I'll see what happens for the next few days. Oooh I'm excited for you too! That would be such a nice piece of news to give on Christmas day :). Are you going to do a test before af is due or be patient?

I had a really cheesy thought that I'd write my parents a Christmas card to 'nana and grandad' and give it to them. Sounded sweet in my head lol.

Hmm that's a tough one.. I've heard that one glass of wine is ok when pregnant but I'm a total freak and havnt had a drink for about 6 months. Maybe you could either a. Do the I'm on antibiotics trick, b. Drink coke and pretend it's vodka and coke lol or c. Just have the one glass?
I went out to a friends at weekend and because wasn't sure I just drove and let dp have a drink, said it was my turn to drive.

catmad I would avoid alcohol, not because I really think 1 glass would do harm, but if you do get a BFP you won't be able to stop thinking about it for 12 weeks.

And to anyone who has gotten a BFN recently, don't give up yet. I had on on Friday and Monday I got a BFP!! Still in shock and still have to make it through the next few weeks to make sure all is well, but over all very excited. I know the same is in store for you all. I plan to keep watching to see who is next.

Hi magen congrats on your BFP!! How exciting. Did you have any symptoms or just the usual pms stuff? I really hope I get a BFP this week, got BFN yesterday but af hasn't shown it's face yet.

Thanks for the advice iwish and Magen, think I'll stick to "vodka" and lemonade as my excuse (husband's driving a few of us due to various reasons so can't use car excuse)...cramps gone, but then thought they were back....ARGH

But, MUCH more importantly than my waffly symptom spotting - Congratulations Magen on your BFP! How exciting!!! You get to break the news on Christmas Day if you wanted to too (I liked your card idea iwish!). Lovely news :)

Thanks everyone I appreciate the kind words. The only reason I tested is because I started to see ferns on my saliva scope again. I really didn't expect it to show even if I was preg, but I am a testing junkie so did it anyway. The only other symptom I had were mild cramps, I get those before AF and in early pregnancy. Cramps can be a good sign catmad

Bet you're still excited today Magen! I had cramps last night and brown spotting today....doesn't look too good really :( Never mind, means I can drink my commiserations at my Xmas do in the company of good friends so it's not all bad. I suppose.

Hi All,

We're TTC #1, very excited and nervous. We have just started trying this month, and whilst I know it can take a while to conceive, it doesn't stop me longingly looking at the calendar for when my period may be due.

My irritating point with DH is that I am not allowed to talk about it, WITH HIM! I've tried saying about fact that there is this window in the month which is my most fertile time, but he told me to stop talking, that he doesn't want to know, and wants it to be mysterious.

I understand that he wants me to suddenly announce as if by magic that I am pregnant, but it is a little difficult to get pregnant when he doesn't get it when I am trying to jump him! I never thought i'd have to try to convince my DH to have sex with me!

Rant over, now I feel better

hi ill join not too good on all the technical terms but ill try my best!! were ttc no 3, i have dd5 from previous marriage and ds2 with my dp, this is only the 2nd month of trying but because we got pg 1st month of trying with ds im being a bit of a stress head about it all and its doing my head on!!! my cycle is 32-34days, i do get the pains when im ovulating and ive been testing with a ovulation kit this week with a positive today, we have been SWI nearly every day since fri, which is becoming a bit hard to do for both of us to be honest!!! but i darent miss a day becuase then ill feel dissappointed if it doesnt work!!! can you try and calm me down a bit!! fingers crossed it will happen soon then we can just go back to normal!!!

Awww catmad sorry you have spotting :(. Like you said you can drink comiserations at your Christmas do. Still no af for me today and BFN so I have no idea what's going on with my flipping body.
Hi strumpet welcome to this thread! Ttc is an exciting time, good luck :). And I know what you mean about convincing dh to have sex with you, I have to do the same with my dp!! And exactly the same as you my dp didn't really want to know the details of ttc, ovulation etc but as the months have gone on he has become a bit more interested. And even now is wishing it to happen faster! (not sure if that's so he can get out of having lord of sex haha)
How are you tracking it all? Opks or bbt or just going with the flow for now?

Hi never welcome to the thread! You are a little stressed out aren't you! It's good that you got a positive on the opks today, keep up the SWI for a few more days and your in with a good chance. Unfortunately it can take a few months to get pg, I'm the most impatient person ever and I'm on month #4 now and every time af arrived I have a bit of a cry and a sulk then pick myself up. My af was due about 3 days ago but I have POAS twice and BFN . We are a lovely bunch here so feel free to come for a rant or a chat :)

Hi all ! Welcome never and strumpet (my computer is faulty so can't do bold type)! Strumpet I am the same with DH - I nag and nag and get stroppy when I know I'm ov and think he doesn't want sex, I get very frustrated! The first month we did it very mechanically and ended up falling about laughing (every time I giggled I pushed him out hahaha) as it felt just ridiculous to be having sex on demand. So ever since that day it's got much more fun and it felt like having a laugh at it all broke the ice, so to speak. My DH also like iwishes DP has got more interested in things the longer it is taking so I am sure you will be fine!

I agree with Iwish never, keep on with the SWI for a few more days - you've got a good chance! I too am on month 4.

I have just had a very green envy cry , then felt guilty, as my one of my closest friends has announced this morning that she's pg. Delighted for her obviously but it's hard. Still not sure if I'm implanting or beginning AF ARGH!!!!! And Xmas do cancelled due to snow bah!

Iwish you never know - take comfort from Magen's -ve to +ve over the space of a few days! It's not over til it's over! :)

Hi iwish and catmad2010,

I'm not actually tracking anything yet. This is our first month of trying, and i've pretty much gone on a rough idea of ovulating around day 14 (I have a fairly steady cycle of 28 days), so in the week leading up to day 14 we had sex every other day. By the end of the week, he had nothing left (poor thing) so i've given him a break.

In regards to his lack of wanting to talk, at first I went with it, tried a few intro's to convo's (he wasn't biting). By the time I got up to day 14, I said to him that i'm supposed to be ovulaating around today. He asked what ovulation was, I explained that it was boom time, and he seemed a little more interested.

Sometimes I just can't bite my tongue. If he wants me pregnant, he has gotta work for it with me!

Here, here catmad2010, Magen is keeping the fires going for all of us.

Big congrats Magen!

strumpet82

Hi Catmad don't worry about the envy cry, I would have done exactly the same thing. I seem to be going through every emotion these last few days, upset at bfn and worry at where the hell af is, being happy thinking I could still be pg but my cycle is longer this time therefore tested 2 early and upset thinking I'm not pg and it'll never happen! I really need 2 start taking my own bits of advice but some days (or hours in my case lol) are just rubbish! I'm still keeping my fingers crossed that it's imp for you. :)

strumpet I think sex every other day from before ov to a few days after ov should make sure there's enough little swimmers up there.
At first my dp didn't really want to know the ins and outs but after month 2 of failure he started trying a little harder to understand and has got v broody. My ttc buddy started trying at the same time as us and is 9 weeks pg now - that made my dp jealous.

After ovualtion there's only a very short time for the egg in which the egg can be fertilised.

About 2 days before is apparently a good time :)

The Fertile Window

Good evening chaps, hope you are all well.

Just been having a wee laugh away to myself reading about the DPs and them wanting to keep things 'mysterious'! Totally bizarre, but my boyfriend is exactly the same (though interestingly enough, ever so keen to be reading over my shoulder here on mumsnet... ) - however, because all this human biology stuff is so new to me, I just have to share all my new found knowledge with him! Eyes glaze over somewhat, but I'm sure it's good for him to learn more about what's what

Having just finished my first period since implant was taken out, I have decided to operate on the basis of the next one being due as if it were a 28 day cycle. So theoretically would be due on the 22nd. My method is going to be much sex and looking out for this mystical EWCM!

Haha ElJeugo that made me laugh!! How are you?
I didn't know anything about EWCM until I came off the pill tmi but even dp said what's that?! Basing it on 28 day I think is quite a good idea but make sure you SWI in case it is shorter or longer. I based it on 28 but made sure we SWI every other day from cd 10 to about cd 20 just in case, good job as ive had 27 then 25 then 26 and this one is 30 and still counting!! :o)

Hey Iwish, I'm ok thanks - have actually managed to stop obsessing over this ttc malarky (well, obsessing less anyway ). And yes, have already started on the SWI (cd5 and cd7 - hope we don't peak too soon!).

Hmm, so still no sign of your af then??? did you notice when you ovulated this month?

also, a general question - why is it you're not meant to say to people that you're pregnant when you first find out?? Is it just in case anything goes amiss?

Morning everyone! Well the dream is over for me today booo :( AF arrived with a vengeance - was up all night with really severe pains (never ever had pain that like in the middle of the night before! Got a bit worried!) and now she has arrived. Hey ho, boozy Christmas is back on!

El - I think most people don't tell people that they're pg when they first find out in something happens (like you say), then you have to go round telling everyone - if you mc early on I'd imagine you'd only want close friends to know. I also think some people think that it's tempting fate, and also you can get false +ves with a chemical pg (not sure what that is TBH!). With my job I'd have to tell work very early on, way before the first scan which is a bit of a bummer.

My DH announced last night he might be taking a job abroad, working 9 weeks away with 3 weeks at home :O So how the bloody fecking hell are we meant to concieve?! What do you people think about going on clomid to increase chances when he's home? We're skint so can't afford to turn the job down....

It's not in the acronyms section...what does AF mean?!

strumpet82