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Having difficulties ttc#2?

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Lychees · 13/09/2010 15:00

After chatting on another thread, I've discovered that quite a few of us are having trouble ttc#2.

It's difficult to find much support in RL; people tell you that you should be happy as you already have a DC [I really am!] and unless they've been there, they don't really understand why it's so upsetting not to be able to get pregnant again so I've created this thread so we can share and we have a place that we can rant/vent/moan/support each other......

Sorry for the unimaginitive title ... marketing is not my area of expertise Smile!

FYI, I'm 36, DH is 38, we have DS who is just over two and a half and we have been ttc#2 for 13 months.

We have had bloods and SA on the NHS and an internal scan and AMH privately and so far, our status is unexplained sub-fertility. If I don't get my BFP this time, next month we'll be having another SA and HSG privately.

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pointsmakeprizes · 06/06/2011 12:38

Congratulations Louja, thanks for telling us the news, I can't believe you've had your baby already!

Haven't been on this thread for a while as was seriously pissed off with it. Anyway got AF (again) today but for once not having a down in the dumps day, I think I am beginning to accept that I may never get DC2 and trying to focus on the good things that I have already.

Lychees how are you - have you started down the IVF line yet?

pointsmakeprizes · 06/06/2011 12:42

piglet congrats to you, hope it all works out this time.

katturner sorry to hear about the PID, it's really terrible that no one has bothered to speak to you about your op and tell you what happened.

Hi Luce good to hear from you again, sounds like you are staying positive and still enjoying life despite all the difficulties.

Katturnerchildcare · 07/06/2011 13:09

Thank you pointsmake I spoke to the doctor today ( I chased it) and he has referred me to a different hospital gynae as I blame the previous hospital for my PID after botching my LETZ! Thank you for replying.

HalleLouja · 07/06/2011 20:47

Waves to Luce I hope all is well with you. Long time no hear. Fingers crossed the drugs do the trick and you can be back on the TTC soon. I had a fab 30th - it seems so long ago now..... [looks back wistfully]

Luce2006 · 11/06/2011 19:59

Hi Points and HalleLouja :) I know, I've been missing on this thread in a long time!!! We are fine, busy with everyday life. We've just got an allotment so for the past 6 weeks we've been busy doing some hard work :) hopefuly we'll have some nice veggies to eat this summer!!!!
The drugs are working,my prolactine levels have dropped to around 200 from over 1400 so I"m happy about it. Ovulation is still hit and miss tho...I've been temp for the past 3 cycles and while the first 2 I ovulated ,I didn't the 3rd... we'll be booking an appointment with the Dr soon to get the hormones checked again cause my lutheal phase is still quite short ( around 9-10 days) so I think my progesterone levels are still low. I've still got the Clomid in the house so at least I won't need to argue again with the Dr to get it this time!
lots of babydust to everyone!

pigletmania · 12/06/2011 19:09

Thanks pointsmake keeping everything x good luck with you too Smile, Never say never. There is a lady on the recently updiffed thread after a mc who is pg after various mc and I think she is in her 40's and this will be her first.

Luce2006 · 15/06/2011 17:04

Hallelouja: congratulations!!!!I hope everything is going ok with you! Nice to read that some of us do manage to have a second baby in the end Smile

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Lychees · 22/06/2011 17:37

Points sorry to hear that you were getting p&^%$ off with it all. We have not started IVF yet. We are having immunes testing to see if they can establish a reason for our unexplained secondary infertility. I can't quite believe we're heading for the two year mark now. We're thinking of giving IVF a shot if we get to the two year mark without a BFP. DH says he'd love more but ultimately doesn't want to pressurise me to go down that route. I'm taking it a step at a time as I can't quite accept that it has come to this. Like you Points I am coming around to accepting that we might just have the one child.

Congrats on the birth of your DD, Hallelouja!

Wishing you all lots of luck.

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Choccie75 · 09/07/2011 17:38

Hi everyone, i haven't been on for a while so i hope you don't feel bad in me posting but after 15 months of trying we have eventually gotten our BFP!!

I feel really nervous posting as i'm terrified that any little thing will jinx it even though i am now 15 weeks and the scans have looked good so far!!

We were just about to go back to the fertility clinic and get the IVF ball rolling when it happened, i think i've been in shock ever since as i really thought we would need intervention or that we were destined to having just one.

I think one of the reasons i stopped reading this thread was that there wasn't any good news and it was making me feel worse so i hope my good news might keep some of you going :)

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Lychees · 13/07/2011 09:38

Big congrats, Choccie! That's wonderful news. Wishing you a healthy and happy remainder of your pregnancy.

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HalleLouja · 25/07/2011 20:40

Bumping.

Hope you all are doing well.

Luce2006 · 07/08/2011 17:16

Hi girls!!! I hope you are alright!!
well, I've got some news : I've done a digi and I got 'pregnant 2-3 weeks' Grin I'm soo happy!!after all this waiting and blood tests and arguments with the incompetent GP,MRI scan and drugs, I finally got a BFP
Sending lots of love to you all!
Luce

Luce2006 · 07/08/2011 17:17

Chocchie sorry, I missed your post!!! So happy for you hun!

HalleLouja · 07/08/2011 20:01

Whoop luce and choccie. My line is asleep on my chest now.

munki · 11/08/2011 11:05

Hi all, I haven't posted in here before but have been reading your stories and I must say the recent BFPs give me hope - we've been trying for 12 months now for our second and I've had my first blood test, DH has had sperm test, which has made it all very real and I guess we are now on a journey into various more invasive tests and treatments. It feels like it's all out of my hands now.

I realise I need some support from others who understand what I'm going through - no one in 'real life' does. Sadly we can't afford IVF so that's not an option but would appreciate some hand holding through whatever we do get.

M x

Luce2006 · 30/08/2011 10:03

Hi girls! I hope you are all ok
well, sadly our happiness was stopped at 6 weeks when I had a miscarriage Sad I was on holiday at the time but I must say that the care I received was fantastic! while away I felt fine,but once back home the reality of what happened hit me like a big rock. I feel cheated big time!!! Yesterday I finally cried for the first time and I feel it helped a bit with the healing process.

milk · 30/08/2011 20:06

I am so sorry Luce2006 :(

HalleLouja · 08/09/2011 20:32

So sorry luce.

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Lychees · 10/09/2011 16:43

I'm so so sorry, Luce! Sending you big hugs.

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Lychees · 10/09/2011 16:55

Welcome Munki. This thread has quietened down a lot.

I think much of that is because it was scaring and making people anxious. I didn't start it for that purpose. I started it because, like you I needed some support.

I'm sorry if it made people worry unnecessarily. But I hope if there are any ladies out there trying for #2 and that if it's taking a bit longer than you had hoped that you can feel free to rant and support each other on here.

There are happy stories out there and we should heart from them but the reality of it is that there will always be those that struggle.

For my part, I come on here occasionally but I have found much needed support elsewhere and still haven't given up hope of holding baby #2 in my arms.

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HalleLouja · 10/09/2011 21:56

See I managed to get my happy ending. DD is 15 weeks and I spent 16 months and about 18 cycles (lost count in the end) trying.

That is why I keep posting as I have been there done that and cried so many tears over it.

Today I went to the out of hours clinic with DS. It was the same room as I saw the fertility sister nearly a year ago. It was probably the point at which DD was being conceived that we were there... It was weird to be back.

Lychees - glad you are getting some support. Fingers crossed you realise your dream sooner rather than later.

Luce2006 · 15/09/2011 09:24

Morning!!Not sure how many people still come on here but did a test last night and it gave me : pregnant 2-3 weeks
I'm in a panic mode now!!! I'm jst praying this one is going to be a sticky!

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Lychees · 16/09/2011 16:55

Yay, Luce. That's great news. I hope this one is super-sticky.

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mumtosammy · 30/07/2013 13:13

hi, can i join this thread? first time posting!

I?ve been ttc #2 for 14 months, my little one is 2 years, 7 months. I have just been to the dr to ask about checking that everything?s ok (I?m 35) and she?s said we should do a blood test to check I?m ovulating. She said I should book a blood test for day 21 but I explained I?m not that regular ? varies usually between 28-37 days. So she said I should make my best guess? but it could go on for months, trying to guess the timing . Does anyone have experience of trying to do this? Or any better advice from a dr on how to investigate ovulation with slightly irregular periods?

Also, does anyone know what comes next after the blood test , if it shows no ovulation?

I've done the clearblue fertility monitor for 2 months and got no positive result.

I know stress is not good for conceiving but I know I?m starting to get stressed about it now?

Any advice gratefully received!

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