So near, yet so far! Holiday villa for those waiting TTC#1 having suffered mc

[MamaPower]

Hi all,

I need to take a holiday with some lovely peeps in the same position; I'm TTC#1 but had 2 mc's this year and now discovered my luteal phase is only 9 days (anything under 10 considered a defect) and probably the reason that I cannot retain a pregnancy.

If you have yet to be blessed with motherhood because mc has cruelly taken away your chance so far, then this is the place to retreat for some R & R whilst your body recovers.

Pull up a sun lounger, and lie back for some lighthearted banter and support whilst monitoring cycles or undergoing investigation and wash down the Vit B6, Agnus Castus, Progesterone and Clomid with a lovely vodka glass of sparkling spring water!!

Hi MrsB, sorry for your loss and that you are here but we're a lovely bunch come rain or shine!

There is a mother thread here to this one that is equally as supportive but be warned they chat fast and hard over there, we're a little slower paced here

MamaP - even the thought of an angel on a tree is making me cry so dont think I could actually have one!

Thank you all for understanding xxxxxxxx

Hello ladies, sorry haven't been around here much, has been taking all my energy trying to keep up with the chattermonsters on the other thread!!!

HUGE hugs for womby, velvet, mamap, dachs and everyone else that's feeling down. Fingers crossed Christmas will be much better than we're expecting it to be. I'm thinking about going skiing over chrimbo or new year to get away from things a bit and also find some silver lining from the non-updiffedness but haven't looked at prices and think they might scare me quite a lot!!!!!

mamap we're almost due-date twins - mine was 14th Jan I think. I think it must be some kind of traumatic stress memory loss because I can't exactly remember and can't bring myself to work it out.

Did any of you have a feeling when you first got preg that it just wasn't going to happen? I can't explain it, but I had this nagging feeling in the back of my mind that I shouldn't get my hopes up - I can't explain why. I never put the due date in my calendar, and I remember thinking to myself when I booked my 12 week booking in appointment at the midwife (that's right, you only get a booking-in at 12 weeks round my way) that if it had gone wrong by then I could just cancel it. I wonder how much of it is intuition, and how much of it is that I found out about my friend's MMC on the day I got my BFP.

Hello mrsB33 sorry you find yourself here, I hope you find these lovely ladies of some comfort though. They've all really helped me through some pretty tough times these last few months. xx

pink I felt the same people kept asking if I was excited but just felt awful fear of 12 week scan. I read what was happening inside growth-wise but couldn't imagine it, now I wonder if that was why

Cough cough, ahem, Happy Birthday to you, Happy Birthday to you, Happy Birthday dear Dach's, Happy Birthday to you!!

Pissed off! Spent day surrounded by people planning their paternity leave for their expected second kids and then a pregnant Facebook 'friend' was complaining that she can't have winter pimms and how shite that is. Aghgh just want to tell them all t f**k off!!! Settled for telling her I'd swap places if she wants, that should do the job...

Sorry for moan, just need to vent!!! Off to find booze! Hood news is consultant says couple of glasses of wine and cake as part of balanced diet are fine!! Party on!! Xx

Awwww Pink I know it's hard not to tell people like that they're being selfish twats! DH surprised me recently when he told a pal of his that was bitching because his wife is expecting twins and how much hard work it would be and they would need a nanny and a cleaner to count themselves lucky and grow up... go Mrmamap!!
Anyway good to vent hun Now go enjoy cake and vino x

Aghgh turns out she had a drink anyway. Charming. In such a freaking bad mood-clearly her baby came very easily to her if the only thing currently worrying her is how much mulled wine she can get away with.... I had recently been thinking that maybe my mc was sent to me to make me appreciate my baby more when it does arrive but clearly the logic doesn't work that way given the number of people that totally take it for granted. SO F*ING UNFAIR.

(de-lurks to say.......)

Im not feeling very christmassy either, and i LOVE christmas.... and i didnt think little bean would go to term either... everyone i have spoken to said i was very stressed about it and couldnt relax and on many occasions saying i wasnt sure it was going to stick, cos of my cycle length etc. You arent alone in that.

Sorry peeps are feeling rubbish :( (((((((((BIGSNUGGLES)))))))))) for everyone to feel better xxxx

Thanks vampirenix xx

Well that sucks Pink, but you just gotta feel sad for them for taking it for granted instead of treasuring every single second, but you know the heart ache and struggle and because of that won't take it for granted when you get your baby and your baby will be loved all the more and all the better for it. We'll get there chick... xx

mamap you are such a lovely, wise, zen lady :) Tell me - have you always been this zen-ful, or is it something you've had to work at? xx

Pink I have my moments of ultimate calm and reasoning and then I have my very uncalm moments where I'd like to tell the world to go... hee hee!

I think it just depends on the time of the month as to my response, if you had posted a day before my af I'd have probably told you to tell her what a selfish, thoughtless cow she was!! lol!

Hello peeps. Thought I'd come and pop into to this little thread for some sanctuary. How is everyone today? I'm struggling to get motivated for work today after spending yesterday cuddling a tiny newborn. I've never seen a baby that young before. Please please please doon't let is be too long before I see another (my own). My DH was sooo cute with the little one. Made me fall in love with him all over agin :)

Maybe I should focuss my attention on acheiving some "moments of ultimate calm". They sound good :)

Its just so hard isnt it. At least the others on the mother thread know they can carry a baby to term!

I have had to hide a former colleague on FB before I get angry and post something! She is due around the same time I should be (2 weeks) and she hasnt stopped fucking moaning about the whole pregnancy - shes too sick, too tired, too fat, too uncomfortable, too hot etc etc. Well I have endured all this because as DH says other peoples lives are nothing to do with us but I can take it no longer after this mornings comment - "it's not fair - everyone has a snow day except me because I'm on maternity leave". FFS!!!!!!!

I find it doesnt help when people say "it will be your turn soon". It's already been my turn! I can't do anymore than I am without getting proper obsessive. I have taken a big step back from it all coz it's far too stressful.

I know you ladies understand but still I'm sorry for the meme rant!

I'm trying to do xmas shopping too and I have no idea what to get people. Anyone got suggestions for perfume for people of the following age ranges
20-25
45-50
60+

Fingers crossed for another snow day tomorrow - tis far too dangerous for the little shits lovely teenagers to come to school

Argh Velvet - that FB friend would drive me nuts too. I have also blocked some pg friends on FB but then I torture myself by going to their pages tosee any news. I am so obsessed that I can't leave it alone even if baby news will make me feel sad. I've even started struggling to maintain my morale when people on the mother thread get their bfps and that makes me even more gloomy becasue I don't like and don't want to be that person who is so self-obessed she can't be happy for others :(

Hmmm perfume. I wear Chanel Allure which I love! I don't fit into any of your categories but I guess it would work for the 20-25 or the 45-50. Would the 60+ like No.5? So timeless and classy I always think. Or I also have D&G Light Blue which is a younger scent. I'm not a big perfume person so I'm probably not best person to advise!

Do you know anything about Kindles or Sat Navs? Two things my DH has mentioned he'd like for Christmas (other than a bean...).

Me too, in fact I have today, blocked 3 friends from their updates appearing in my news feed as they are all due the week I was and one of them had a status update today saying she couldn't enjoy the snow as she had no maternity wear to cope with the cold!!! I didn't feel angry just sad!

I'm so glad that at least everyone on this thread understands how the others are feeling and I would dearly love some bfps and a bit of positive news for anyone on this thread, even though I fear the green eyed monster would strike!

On the perfume front...

ps Sat Nav's, what are they?? Sorry wombat I still use an old fashion map!!

Me too MamaC hence needing advice!! Am vv impressed with your purfume knowledge. Perhaps I should just give up and get D?H so Jo Malone (whatever that is!)

D'oh - typos! did not mean to question whether H is D!! I meant "get DH some Jo Malone" obviously!!

wombat does dh have an iphone or anything? if so, a kindle is probably not worth it as there is a kindle app for the iphone

also, iphones can be used as sat nav devices as they have inbuilt gps

so i'd get him an iphone if he doesn't have one! two birds with one stone!

ooooh yes, I got DH some Jo Malone last year as a stocking filler... www.jomalone.co.uk/ from recollection 154 or Grapefruit for men is very nice... but perhaps Mrwombat will not thank me for steering (no pun intended) you in the wrong direction if he was expecting sat nav accessories