So near, yet so far! Holiday villa for those waiting TTC#1 having suffered mc

[MamaPower]

Hi all,

I need to take a holiday with some lovely peeps in the same position; I'm TTC#1 but had 2 mc's this year and now discovered my luteal phase is only 9 days (anything under 10 considered a defect) and probably the reason that I cannot retain a pregnancy.

If you have yet to be blessed with motherhood because mc has cruelly taken away your chance so far, then this is the place to retreat for some R & R whilst your body recovers.

Pull up a sun lounger, and lie back for some lighthearted banter and support whilst monitoring cycles or undergoing investigation and wash down the Vit B6, Agnus Castus, Progesterone and Clomid with a lovely vodka glass of sparkling spring water!!

Thanks lemon

X Factor result ridiculous! VEry cold here too. Had to go out and buy some gloves and a scarf earlier. Hope tomorrow is a little warmer.

Greetings from the other thread

we have just zoomed through another 1000 messages and moved to new digs here.

The list has now reached 60 and become a bit unwieldy!

Are any of these ladies in here? and If so are you still interested in staying on the list?

sillyness
backonceagain
and ?KT which i think is a typo not a name
Lottiecrump
Loola2shu
cheepz
pippaandpolly
Honeywitch TTC#1
Curlylox TTC#3
delilahbelle TTC#1
Pinkie08 TTC#3 UCL 30

Also, is Littlemiss in here? She's been on the list with a BFP for a long time.

Hope we dont manage to chop anyone off who wants to stay on like last time, so if you see yourself missing please pop over and pop yourself back on.

best wishes xxxx

Early Christmas letter:

Dear Santa

We've been good this year. Very good. All of us. Please can we have BFPs for Christmas? All we need is a little BFP each. We won't ask for anything else. (Well, Dachshunds might ask for some jewellery from her DH, but she won't be asking for anything else from you, so that counts, right?)

If your elves need anything else to back up our stories about being good, we have lots of witnesses.

It's not much to ask. We haven't written letters to you for years. You'd make us very happy.

We won't even stay up on Christmas night to try to see you or the reindeer, and if you let us know what you would like us to leave out for you in terms of drinks and snacks of choice I'm sure we could easily arrange for you to have whatever it is that you would like.

Yours hopefully

The mumsnet MC TTC1 ladies
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Anyone got any suggestions for improvements?

I'm not sure I have witnesses. Do you think I could bribe people with chocolate to tell santa I've been good?

bfp and jewellery now that would be just the best!

Oh a Christmas BFP would be FAB!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I'd even happily forego the double cream with Bailey's that I otherwise planned to have with my booze-laden Christmas pud

Hello, long time no typey.
Slight cross overs on few freds as I've been all neglecty to everyone.
I can't keep up, must try harder.

Hope all is well, nowt much has changed with me, starting faaaabulous noo job on Mon, well same company but more pennies and a promotion.
Bought our house, with this wind, starting to wish we hadn't.
Nothing has flown off to Oz yet but one of the big trees looks a little wobbly.
It's only over the shed and pergola, but it would be nice to get a few insurance payments in, before we have to claim. Eeek.

I don't want a propercrimbo baby, had one last year
Even though I've also been an awful good girl!
Want to relax and it will be the first Christmas ever DP and I are alone on Christmas day.
(We're doing the faaahmilly thang Boxing Day.)
With new promotion I'm thinking of putting it off for a few months but as it's taken me most of the year unofficially trying ,it's sods law I'll be diffed pronto the moment I stop counting the days.

I hope Santa brings you all one though.

Dachs is it todat you are being harvested?
Best a British to you!
Fingers crossed. xx

Hey ladies how are we all

Just thought I would puck your brains for Xmas pressies for DH. He is a software engineer so I can't get him anything he would actually like since I would only get the wrong spec/memory or something and he would get it cheaper elsewhere.

I have no idea what to get him every year so usually end up with something naff. I want to make an effort this year tho coz it's our 10yr wedding anniversary next week and he has been really great with the mmc and everything so any ideas would be greatly appreciated!

hmmm... what sort of stuff does he like? does he like music and have an iphone or ipod? you could get him a really nice speaker dock for it if so. Other than that not really got any suggestions - I find it really hard to buy stuff for DH. Does he like cooking? You could buy him a nice set of chef's knives.

I got my DH a chef's knife and a knife skills [cookery] course last year, would he like that? If he likes food but not cooking it then how about a lovey meal out somewhere special? Depending on your budget, some of the london restuarants do a 'chef's table' option where you can eat at a table in the kitchen watching the chefs at work. Or is he into film? You could get a suround sound speaker system for the TV. If he likes driving, how about a track day in either a really fab sports car or a vintage car (depending on his preference). Or tickets to an event? Silverstone GP next year or some other sporting event? Tickets to see his fav football or rugby team? An outdoor concert? Last Night of the Proms? Theatre - a trip to stratford to see the RSC? Or there's all sorts of stuff on at the Royal Opera House in London (opera, ballet etc), you can even have dinner with a course served in each interval...

Any of these hitting the right note?

hi gorgeous girls, I thought of you all whilst by the pool in KL ordering a G&T from the lovely swim up bar . Just caught up with the mother fred and will catch up with this one tomorrow. Hope you're all well, hugs xx

Ohhhh Christmas talk, I love it! I haven't even thought about pressie's yet! I do know I am getting DH a wallet, amongst other things though, as his has finally come to an end, perfect timing!

Dach's your letter to Santa made me cry, my Due date was Jan 17th and I am thinking if I am not upduffed this cycle I only have one more shot before that date arrives and I already know it's going to be the mother of all nightmares, so am hoping so badly for a Christmas bean for us all. Also, lady how is the mutt? (I know he got ill 3 weeks ago so apol's if I missed an update). Finally, I am sending the bean fairy to do a little dance over you with lots of sticky bean dust, fingers crossed :)

Beware, Big Fat rant alert! I am sick of hearing, always, from those lucky enough to already have kids, that I should ''chill out and if it's meant to happen it will''!! Well it's ok for them to say that because they have their dream!! Grrrrrrr! Sorry!

Seems, there has been a need for some hugs and plenty of cocktails whilst I been away! Sorry some of you have been having a rough ride, hugs all round xx

mamap re: mutt - he's doing much better thanks. He was on antibiotics for nearly 3 weeks and the lump went down so much that the vet changed her mind about it being cancer and decided it was just a bad infection. So he's going in for a proper check up in about a month and if it still seems ok then he's probably fine.

sorry my letter made you cry :( I'm going to find Xmas really hard if I'm not updiffed by then, although my due date wasn't until March.

I like the rant - my sil keeps really annoyign me by saying things like 'well maybe you should have got yourself checked out sooner, you'd have been younger then and more likely to get pregnant. Still, at least you've got a niece and a nephew'. Makes me want to strangle her. Or something worse...

Hi Guys! I'm not buying any prezzies this year! Instead am muttering things about the environment and consummerism and waste and such like even though really it is because I am just to bloody lazy. Bah Humbug!

While we are on the 'annoying things people say', my sister is pregnant with her 3rd which was an accident, their 1st was concieved within 2 weeks of her coming off the pill and the 2nd within a year of the 1st.

Admittedly they don't know that me and dp have been trying for almost a year now or about the mc but I still got rather annoyed last time I saw them when, after the usual lecture about how they are so bloody fertile and how annoying it was that they kept popping out sprogs without a break, her DP asked me when I was going to 'get around to having kids'! I pointed out that not everyone is lucky enough to get pregnant from just looking at each other over a crowded room, thank you very much...which rather killed that conversation. [sticking out tongue and blowing rasberries emoticon]

Girls am v v v sad, AF arrived, am feeling so shit, I need drugs (legal...just to clarify for period pains!!), alcohol to dampen the wtf can't I get p/g again feeling of sadness and a hug because will it ever be me???!!!

Sorry all about me!

(((((((HUG)))))))))) MamaP It willhappen for you. I'm sorry it wasn't this month though.

Thanks Wombat , sorry for the self pity party!! I think the fact I only have one more shot before my due date is causing me extra anxiety...silly really!

I can understand that. These dates are totally arbitrary really in the whole ttc process but some how they seem soooo important. I'm trying myself in knots thinking what stage I should be at now, at Christmas, at a friend's hen in the new year etc etc. I'm keeping everything crossed for a pre-Christmas and pre-due date BFP for you next month x

Hey MamaP

I have been MIA coz I feel exactly the same. I missed my pregnant before due date shot so I'm miserable too. I also have the "it's never gonna be me again" attitude. I also know that with my cycles being so random I have to leave it all to luck coz I have no idea when I'm going to ov. I sobbed my heart out in the bath last week on my first day of AF so you arent alone.

I can't take another BFP announcement right now so while I'm lurking I'm trying not to pay too much attention. It is soooo hard hearing the others talk about their kids too. It is really unfair.

I dont even think Im gonna be arsed with the xmas tree this year. It was supposed to be babys first xmas for me but instead i have to watch everyone else with their bundles of joy and pretend im not interested in having kids yet :(

Oh Velvet. Hugs. I'm also struggling with the BFP announcements (here and in RL). I feel so bad getting upset at others' good news. It's not because I don't want them to be happy, it's just that it reminds me so clearly what I desperately want and don't [yet!] have. Makes me feel like a horrid person to resent others but there you go. I really really want to swoop into your house with mamap in tow and make it fabulously festive with lots of yummy food and drink and have a good old knees up. Won't make us conceive I know but after so long of being so 'good' I fear I'm in danger of a bit of excessive partying

feeling really anti-christmas myself at the moment. was SO hoping that the IVF would work. not sure how I'm going to get through it. mamap can I join your self pity party please? I love my dachshunds dearly and I'm glad they are there to snuggle up on me but i desperately want a baby and I just know deep down now that it's never going to happen. All the people I know who have had IVF have had a BFP when they tested at two weeks, even if they lost it later. And I'm currently having very negative BFNs. I just know it hasn't worked. And it's SO unfair.

Oh Dachs. Hugs for you too. I'm still hoping for you. You're officially meant to test on Monday aren't you? So testing now is a bit like testing at 5 days post ov if you have a 10 day LP..? Maybe just too soon..?

I wish none of us were here but since we are, I'm glad I'm here with you all, wonderful girls, thanks for picking me up.

I'm with Wombat I can feel some Christmas over indulgence coming on

Velvet perhaps you could do something special this Christmas in rememberance of your baby? You would have had a tree, so perhaps you could do that with a twist, hang some little messages on it to your baby with some plain fairy lights and simple angel on top, watching over you all...just a thought!

Hello Ladies Can i join, i dont seem to sit on the other threads very comfortably as i had my mc 9 weeks ago where all the other ladies had had mc's fairly recently.

So my story, 32, 33 in december, got pregnant the month after my wedding, yeyyy.
At 13 weeks i started to bleed, bleeding started mon was due to have dating scan on friday (talk about fate jumoing in a saving me the heart cahe of finding out at the scan)

well back to it, had a scan on the thursday as bleeding had got worse and cramping had started, well back ache (which i wasnt aware was cramping at the time)

At scan was told baby had died at 8 weeks and the sac was broken so miscarriage shoukd happen pretty quickly, so desided to take the natural root.

Just under a week later after numerous cramping and mini contraction sessions i actually miscarried during the nyt,taking 8 hours, losing lots of blood, fainting twice and being in terrible pain... it was all over!!

had my all clear scan a week later, and my first AF 5 weeks after.

Im not on my second AF and plan to start the ttc train from next week as ive had to take a month or so out due to having my rubella (MMR) jab.

I feel phyiscally ready, mentally im ok, its been difficult and the last two weeks i found myself slowly come out the big black whole i was stuck in and see life in a different light.

i got pregnant and fingers crossed i will again, just hopefully this time it will stick!!

xx

sorry bout the typo's at work and on my phone at lunch time trying to be discreet!!