Mil guilt tripping 11 yo over not spending enough on presents

[Y7mum]

So because my mums side of the family is Austrian we celebrate and give gifts on the 24th but also the 25th because of other relatives. My 11yo dd is the only child in the close family and she usually buys everyone a small present for Christmas eve up to about 7 pounds a person for about 6 people and makes a gift, such as writing a personalised story herself or decorating a piec,which she also loves, for Christmas day. Everyone gives smaller Christmas eve presents in our family. Often she ends up having to buy 1 or 2 Christmas day presents due to time not mentioning dog present and aunt on dh's side who she buys for.

With 6 seven pound presents, about 3 10 pound Christmas day presents and a 5 pound dog present that's nearly 80 quid and we want her to buy presents with her own money. She gets 20 a month pocket monet so it's four months of pocket if she spent none between September and Christmas. Most of family are fine with this and like the homemade present but mil keeps hinting at how it is stingy and rude.

No it sodding well isn't. Take your offensive ageist attitude elsewhere.

@didntlikeanyofthesuggestions wtf has it got to do with her age? She’s a mean person, that’s it. Nothing to do with her age, or even her status as MIL come to that. Ageist rubbish from you.

Adding to the chorus of people who think it’s bizarre to expect an 11 year old to buy Christmas presents for anybody, especially with their own money

When you’re a child is the one time of your life when Christmas is just for you.
It’s when you get your first job that you buy your first presents, surely. And even then you’d expect £10, maybe £20 maximum to be spent on each person.

I'm really sorry I don't know what that means could you explain @SuePerfluous

I can't vote, as I wanted to vote 'this whole situation is ridiculous ' and there isn't an option for that.
Homemade cards/presents would be lovely, no need for an 11 year old to be buying all those presents.

I'm a boomer and I would most definitely NOT behave like that., I have always been delighted with anything my grandchildren chose or made for me. Cost doesn't come into it at any age let alone at age 11

Bloody hell what a foul old woman. My DD is almost 11 and she doesn’t spend a penny of her £20 pm pocket money on presents, that’s my cost until she’s at least 14. My DD is enjoying being a child! She’s got the rest of her life to worry about budgeting etc.
Also my mum (no MIL) would be genuinely thrilled with a 99p chocolate bar if DD bought her that for Christmas! As she would hate to think of DD spending her pocket money on her or any of us. It would break her heart.

Lol, give over

Chinny reckon 🤣🤣🤣

completely! Nobody would expect their 11 year old to do this, surely. Absolutely nuts.

Actually this is a much better reply than mine.

Its good to teach kids the value of money, but she's only 11 and using a quarter of her annual pocket money seems a bit ott. If anything it makes sense to give her the money to buy gifts and forego any pocket money in December for example.

And obviously your mil is being ridiculous too, where is an 11 year old.meant to get money to buy gifts.

we want her to buy presents with her own money.

Why?

Why not take her shopping, let her choose & you pay?

She could then still make something.

I’ve never expected presents from children.

I absolutely love a handmade card or a drawing if it’s their own idea. Dd usually makes me and DP artwork of the cats or things we’re into at the time, but some years she’s been out of ideas and that’s absolutely fine.

Your MIL is a greedy and ungrateful twat. Who the hell complains about a grandaughter's home made Christmas presents?

Just stop buying her anything and spending Christmas with her.

She's implying that you have made all this up and your post isn't real/genuine.

4 months worth of pocket money on presents is ridiculous- that’s like you spending 4 months wages on Christmas!
I think you should give her money to cover them all personally, or give her more pocket money

I’m curious about when this present buying from the child started? It seems like a well established practice/tradition?

She spends 4 months of pocket money on Christmas presents, that’s ridiculous! She should either stop or be given a larger allowance.

For us that is quite a lot of money

It means they don't believe you (the comedians Rob Newman and David Baddiel played old characters that used to say this to each other in the TV sketch show "The Mary Whitehouse Experience" back in the early 1990's).

Honestly that sounds ds quite stressful as an adult!

Good Lord. I don't disagree with children buying presents in itself. I didn't get my own DC to do that, as I did as a child, and I slightly regret it. Adult presents would say 'From DC' on the label, but were paid for by us. Aunts and uncles received better presents for sure, but I 'm not certain that was the best lesson for my kids to learn.
I used to use my own money to buy token presents for relatives, and felt real pride in doing so. But they were very much within my own budget, and there was no obligation to do it. I don't think anyone would have actually missed getting a packet of Spangles from a seven-year-old. Your MIL sounds like a horror.

Honestly I don’t see why she is buying for anyone except her parents and siblings. That’s what I’d consider normal. I’d tell her she doesn’t have to anymore and tell MIL that people were being rude so you’ve decided that present givers should be adults only.

I think you’re a weirdo making her pay for the presents too. Poor kid must dread Xmas where she has to spend 4 months pocket money on extended family she probably rarely sees.

What the heck is wrong with you?
Boomer behaviour? Grow up.

And no, am not a boomer BTW, I'm just not ageist.

Thanks. @superfluous This is not made up