What do you spend on your adult children at Christmas

[Sliverreindeer]

I have 4 DC
Two of whom have birthdays on top of Christmas
I've never managed to get Christmas under £1000
I have to save for it through out the year .
Inspired by the thread on what grandparents spend on grandchildren
I'm thinking,
do people reduce what they spend on their children,when grandchildren come ??
Currently I'm giving £200 cash to each DC and about 12 little stocking/ under the tree presents to each DC consisting of about £60/£70 each ....that £1000 does not include family presents or Christmas food .
So I probably do need to cut down ..but I've been giving this amount for years .
Can I ask if you have adult children mid twenties heading to thirty,what do you spend on them Christmas..and birthday if your happy to say .

We do SS for adults, or as we call it not so SS.

Myself & DH, DD1 and her DH, DD2 and her GF.

Budget is £30.00 and if any of us want something more then we contribute or get the gift as money. Or if we are feeling flush, the buyer can add the extra.

We usually all know who is buying for who so we all get what we request.

DGC get all the money spent on them now.

DSC who has her own children has the same budget and DSC who has no children gets a bit more as it's just her

We do something similar. Three generations extended family including partners of DT’s and their cousins.

£50 budget and there is a theme each year as a theme for the present. This years it’s travel as the theme - we have the same theme for the annual pj competition. All a big secret until Christmas Day when everyone turns in their pj’s (a very serious judging contest takes place).

As an extended family we don't exchange gifts so the only presents my adult DC get are from me and their dad. It all goes in their Christmas stockings. I probably spend about £300 each on them. This year it includes socks and pjs as well as a cashmere jumper each. We don't buy presents for their spouses.

We probably spend about £80 per person, or up to £100, and we also buy for their partners.

We spend £75 each on the DC and spouses. Grandchildren are £50.

They were always aware that Christmas was about family and good food and drink rather than presents.

£100-£200.

Don't they buy each other presents as adults? If they don't, doesn't that tell you that they don't value the present tradition the way you do? You could also have a chat with them and suggest "smaller" christmas presents this year.

It’s all relative though isn’t it! If you can afford it it’s not a problem but if you can’t it is. Personally we only have one adult DC and we like to spoil her because I want to and I can. Maybe £600-£1000, which for us is ok but in years gone by it’s been as little as £100, depends what’s going on and what I think I want to buy for her. No one should feel bad for what they spend big or little, we all have budgets and ideas of what is right and wrong, it’s for you to decide what that is!!

I have 2 kids, ages 20 & 22. I think I have spent £200 - £250 on them each. They are both working so have their own cash. Both sets of grandparents spend around £50 each on them.

nothiing. I send my daughter £100 for my grandson and £20 to buy advent calendars, I buy the daughter who lives locally a chocolate advent calender.They both have much more money than DH and me and I told them not to buy for us as well.

Judging by replies, I thinks a lot depends on circumstances. How old they are, what state their finances are in, how well paid they are and how good your finances are. Also there can be a big difference in your adult children's circumstances. One might be very well paid, no children or one could be not so well paid with a family to look after so I can't see how you can really compare.
Must say though the OP seems very generous!

For adults, a single gift from a parent is generally all that is expected, not lots of stocking fillers. . The value is dependent upon the gifters means
And number of gifts to be bought in the family, but if you are retired I don't think total cost of gifting across the whole family should exceed 5% of your annual post tax net income, and possibly less than if you have very limited means.

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@Whistler171same here, but I do find it a bit sad. The 'boys' get money put in their accounts and we do a secret santa on boxing day when lots of family get together.

We have DS26 who lives with his GF.
We probably spend about £300 on them, a mix of gifts for them as individuals, and a gift - maybe a voucher - between them. We probably get them 3 gifts each - something bigger, socks, and alcohol. We do them a shared stocking which mainly has foodie treats.

We have two adult daughters. We usually give £250 cash each for birthdays plus 3 small presents totalling about £50 to £70. Christmas is probably nearer £300 cash and £100 in wrapped gifts each.

2 of my DC earn more than I do, so cash presents would be inappropriate, but we normally get them a few books, maybe a tech or gadgety thing, often something to wear plus traditional new pants and socks in a stocking along with chocolates . So I guess that could add up to £200 plus each. The youngest, who isn’t earning, might get more because he needs it, eg more clothes than the others, who can afford to buy their own.

I'm a bit older than he age you're asking about (40s(. My ILs give me £50 and some flowers/a plant and the teen grandchildren get £100+ each. My dad gives us £350 each. When my mum was alive she'd also get us each a present as well, but that's too much for my dad. He gives the GC £50-100.

I have 3 adult DC, 1 foster teen, 2 shared life going adults, a sil, gf of ds and 2 DGC. 3 DC get budget of £200 each. They send me a link for 1 larger gift or sometimes 2 or 3 smaller things they want. Foster child 17 gets £150, 2 shared life young adults 18 and 20 get £100, dgs's get about £75 each and sil and DD gf get £50 each. They all get a stocking of 6 or 7 little things to value of about £60-75 each. I also buy dgs's a zoo or wildlife season ticket whatever DD chooses for them. I also pay for all of us to do a Xmas painting a Xmas bauble each year and lunch afterwards. Then I have to go back 2 weeks later to collect baubles and distribute after they have been fired.

Now we have lots of grandchildren we all
just buy for the children at Xmas . No gifts for adults.
This was suggested by our adult DC and works well. We are limited to one item per child too and nothing large as space for large toys is limited in our children’s homes and large toys are not welcome by the parents.

I do
buy small token gifts for a couple of
elderly neighbours who live alone.

Christmas is now less stressful
for all of us and our homes are less cluttered.