What do you spend on your adult children at Christmas

[Sliverreindeer]

I have 4 DC
Two of whom have birthdays on top of Christmas
I've never managed to get Christmas under £1000
I have to save for it through out the year .
Inspired by the thread on what grandparents spend on grandchildren
I'm thinking,
do people reduce what they spend on their children,when grandchildren come ??
Currently I'm giving £200 cash to each DC and about 12 little stocking/ under the tree presents to each DC consisting of about £60/£70 each ....that £1000 does not include family presents or Christmas food .
So I probably do need to cut down ..but I've been giving this amount for years .
Can I ask if you have adult children mid twenties heading to thirty,what do you spend on them Christmas..and birthday if your happy to say .

I've only one that's an adult so spend the same as younger dd about £500 each. I'll reduce when they have their own homes and/ or grandchildren..

Son and DIL got £50 and a bottle of fizz.

The sum of money if fine. If you can afford it.

12 little gifts, totaling £60-70, sorry I can't figure out what you are actually buying there. Beyond a book, sweets and a toiletry set I have no clue what else you are buying for about a fiver.

I'm exactly the same as you @Sliverreindeer three adult DCs, no other relatives in touch. £200 cash to buy their own and a bag full of bits, stuff they need like boxers, socks, PJs, t shirts, chocolate, drinks they like, toiletries, games.......probably £50-£70 worth each. One lives abroad and recently added a partner to the mix who also came last xmas, and will be back this year. I did her a bag full just like my sons and paid for their B & B as house too small for everyone but didn't give her the cash, wasn't quite sure of protocol there🤷‍♀️
I'm single and low pay, they all have more income than me but I still want to treat them🥰

My mum has 6 children and she spends 100 on us each, there’s one grandchild which she spends probably abit more. I think it’s excessive and think we should all pick a name out of a hat and only buy for that person

I have twins who both have a husband/partner, so this year I have decided to cut down and give each couple a hundred pounds between them plus 4 or 5 gifts to open (another £60/70 per couple)

Probably around £100 each for DS & DIL. They both earn more than me.

£250 is the budget ish even for my 40 year old and 38 year old, youngest is 28 and giving me a DGD next year every year I want to cut down! It’s very hard though

My mums answer to the protocol on partners is she'd effectively half the budget. So single child gets £100, couples £50 each.
Now and then she'll say 'I spend a bit more on sibling cause hes on his own' which seems fair enough to me.
I should add she used to find it embarrassing when her parents spent a lot more on her than DH. So sees it as couples should be kept the same.

ILs basically doubled their budget. Single £100, couples £100 each.

Tbh I don't think either of them are wrong. Just different and they operate to different budgets.

There's loads of little bits you could do for that and come in under £60.

Bubble bath/bath bomb
Nice hot chocolate
Chocolates
Book
Fluffy socks
Face mask
Nail polish
Lip balm
Mini wine/cocktails
Scratch card
Keyring or bookmark
Hand cream

Now I'm 'twitching' 😂

Normally I spend about £250 each, but this year DD is in the process of buying her first house so I’m upping it to £350 on vouchers to help kit it out. DS needed a new laptop so got him one for same amount in the Black Friday sale. It will look a bit bare under the tree this year, even though I’ll have spent more!

If you have to save , then that’s your answer….it’s too much

We spend around £200 on our own DC as they are at uni and need lots of stuff. Will be less when they are working. We do secret Santa for everyone else in family, capped at £20. All DNephews and DNeices joins SS when they start working. DH and I don’t do presents.

I've spent about £90 on my mid twenties son so far this year. I have a teenager as well and I will spend more on him because he hasn't got a job and can't buy much.
My eldest earns a lot and doesn't have anything that he really wants and I think it's pointless buying things for the sake of it. So does he. Our family are more about spending time together on the day itself now rather than anticipating gifts.
I'm in my 50s and my mum always spends £50 on us (me and sibling) plus a couple of little presents like body cream or chocolates. This is the same amount she's always spent since we were young, so the value has gone down significantly over the years.

We do around £250 per adult child but tbh I could easily spend more. I just really enjoy treating them and Christmas is now the only time I can really splurge on them. Birthdays aren’t fixed but generally around £150.
The rest of the family we do a SS, budget £50

We spend as we are fit to spend when it comes to the adult children and grandchildren

This Christmas we are buying for D (s) D, DSIL and the 3 DGC - 4, 13, and 19

The 4 year old needs clothes, hes growing fast, so he will get shoes, coat and an outfit - whatever it costs.

13 yo has hers already - she needed a new phone ( wanted more like ) so a reconditioned update was bought

19 year old - hes in work, he will get some smellies and a small cash gift - he picks his own clothes

The children , struggling as most families with children are, will get a fill of oil to get them through the winter , which leaves them with more of their income to feed the kids and pay for their out of school activities throughout the winter months

Over the years the DGC have had differing amounts spent on them - depending on needs. In the past the 19yo has been bought the phone, the tablet, the playstation , when the now 13 yo has had the coat and shoes .

We dont say to ourselves we have to spend the same on everyone. And we dont expect gifts back. We just see Christmas as a time where we can help out

Birthdays for the adult children is now cut to to £50

One thing we dont do - is spend more then we can afford. We are close to pension age ourselves and work PT, so we dont have the disposable income of our 40's and 50's where we could spend with impunity

Dd is 22 and lives on her own but we still spend about 1200-1500 but that's Aussie dollars so not pounds! She does like nice things so even a hair mask is 70-100 so a few cosmetic and hair items add up a bit then I like to give a couple of bigger items like shoes or a dress and something for the home. Cost of everything is crazy here so 1200 really doesn't get a great deal. My mum is a pensioner but still spends about 500 on me and I'm 53. We love Xmas gifting

Spent around £150 each on dc, both in twenties. Mainly on clothing and a few fun items. Added it up as I wrapped and it was slightly more than I expected. Got a bit carried away around the Black Friday week with all the discounts.

I usually try and save a hundred pounds a month for Christmas, for presents, food and Christmas socialising etc.

I've cancelled presents for Christmas.
Just more tat to get rid of...

I have a teen boy so half that stuff just wouldn't enter my radar. Boys are definitely harder than girls to buy for.

Yes tbf I did think of that as I posted!

I only have one so I spend quite a lot on him for Christmas
this year
after shave £100
laptop £400
microsoft office £60
few other bits and pieces like socks smellys boxers socks £100
big bottle of Bacardi
cash £250

I’ve also bought a joint present of a smeg kettle and toaster for him and his partner so that was almost £300

His partner I bought a ck bag and t shirt I know that they wanted and a nice bottle of grey goose and a few other small things from lush

the rest of my family I spend around 100 -150 on them but it’s not a huge family maybe 6 -7 more presents

D's is 20 and rolling in it. We have agreed this year to give £50 each but usually we give £100 each. Cutting back this year. He still lives at home and buys everything he needs as it is!

@ChrisMartinsKisskam

Sorry, but £100 on socks?!

Very similar to me actually when there were partners around ..hard to know what to do to get the balance right