What do you spend on your adult children at Christmas

[Sliverreindeer]

I have 4 DC
Two of whom have birthdays on top of Christmas
I've never managed to get Christmas under £1000
I have to save for it through out the year .
Inspired by the thread on what grandparents spend on grandchildren
I'm thinking,
do people reduce what they spend on their children,when grandchildren come ??
Currently I'm giving £200 cash to each DC and about 12 little stocking/ under the tree presents to each DC consisting of about £60/£70 each ....that £1000 does not include family presents or Christmas food .
So I probably do need to cut down ..but I've been giving this amount for years .
Can I ask if you have adult children mid twenties heading to thirty,what do you spend on them Christmas..and birthday if your happy to say .

Cheers everyone,I don't feel I'm out of step now .
That was really helpful hearing what you all do ,I appreciate the information
So I probably won't change what I do untill I get GC on the scene..which will be a few years yet I expect.
The little presents for stockings are always things I know they will use or like or eat or burn ( candles)
I'm very much in to not giving them clutter or things to find homes for

Merry Christmas Everyone,hope you all have a lovely time this year xx

I get a "movie meal deal" voucher which is worth €50 so I get free date night with hubby. I'm chuffed to bits with that. I get nothing else and I dont want anything else. Christmas is for children so I'd rather they spent their money on my children (their grandchildren).

This year we have done adults and children as usual. Probably about £100 each family. With the way things are going we will cut back next year. Gifts for the grandchildren and a bottle or tin of biscuits plus homemade Xmas Cake for the adults. Its just getting too much these days

This is our first Christmas without mum. When she was here she and dad would maybe spend £30 on each of us three girls and in my view that was more than enough. It was more than that before grandkids, of which they have four, spending about £50 on each of them as well. Now it’s only dad I’m actually not sure if he’ll buy us adults anything! He didn’t for birthdays and we told him we didn’t expect anything and we didn’t. He does loads for us anyway in terms of childcare and other things. He gave the kids money for their birthdays and I expect he’ll do the same at Christmas, maybe £20 each.
The amount you are spending is madness.

Once the grandkids came along my parents stopped buying for us and just buy for the children, which is fine by me!

I gave mine (all mid thirties) the option a couple of years back whether they still wanted a ‘stocking’. Toiletries, chocolate, socks, underwear etc. They all said no.
I also reduced down their Xmas money from £150, to £100, to £50. Partners get the same. I ask what they want, if they don’t get back to me, they get vouchers.
We’re both retired now, I’m still waiting for my pension. They’re all earning more money than we ever did 😊

Each year I make my DDs and their partners a joint present of a photobook containing the photos they accumulate over that year. This year each book has cost around £125. That's it - no other presents. It is for the DD and their partner.

I make the Christmas cake and the Christmas puddings and chip in some money to the DD who hosts towards the food for everyone over Christmas - usually about £150.

Oh honestly - all those things are so unnecessary - they are just "stuff" to fulfil the imperative to give presents. When I get stuff like this it goes to the next village raffle. None of it is frankly any use whatsoever and is full of plastic and environment wrecking wrapping. It is just pandering to the advertisers.

Scrap all that rubbish and just give one decent present.

My Mum spends about £50 each on presents for me, my two siblings and two partners. Three grandchildren get about £100 each.
Each couple then gets £300 cash.

She goes way over the top but we were pretty poor when I was young (think eating reject gristly pies free from the local factory kind of poor). Now she has the money spare I think she wants to spend it on us while she can 🤷

Us neither, instead we use the money to go for a lovely family meal together. My adult children both have partners and their own home so different scenario to OP.

I have two adult daughters that have moved out. I spend what I can afford on them for Christmas and it's nowhere near what the younger 3 kids who are all under 18 get. Probably like £30 each for the older ones I usually get them something nice like perfume or jewellery that they'd like

My parents still spend a fortune on me, I do ask them not to but I’m their only child. My stepmum (who I call mum) keeps a note of everything I mention throughout the year and I receive it all on Christmas day 😂. It’s quite sweet really. They spend a fair amount on my DC too. It’s their love language I think

My dc are 19 and 21, both still living at home, one still in education (she has SEN’s). So I still spend quite a bit and still do stockings. Dc1 I have spent around £150 because she only asked for a few things. Dc2 I have spent around £500 because I needed to replace her iPad which she uses as a communication aid as well as to make music, I pad was £399 and the rest was spent on art supplies. I can’t imagine not doing stockings for them but I guess one day I might.

I don’t really have a budget, I buy whatever they need/want and what ever I can afford. Dc1 is now working so buys things for herself and doesn’t really want/need much, where as her sister is severely autistic, will never work and always needs new clothes, shoes, art supplies etc..

I spend £100 each on my DS, DD & SIL. That's all folks 🙂

last year we moved to a secret Santa….all sibling/parents on my side (I have 5 siblings) and there’s also my DD as on GD who is now adult. We set £50, its just brilliant ad has made a big difference for everyone. I earn the most but was my idea as everyone was finding it a struggle and to be honest we can all afford to buy teh things we really want/need. I use the on-line Elster to manage who has who, and we exchange on Xmas day.

My dd is 19yo, I ask her what she wants for Christmas, this year she’s asked for trainers and a few other bits.

I think I probably spend around £500 in total on her but she is my only child.

We cannot spend those kinds of amounts as we are retired, have nine children, 20 grandchildren and four great-grandchildren. The youngest great-granddaughter is four months old and the eldest granddaughter is 26 years old so quite a range. We buy presents (toys) for the four youngest and all about the same amount and the eldest often ask for gift cards or money in the bank to spend online, again the same amount each.

I haven’t had a birthday or Xmas present off my Mum and Dad since I was 23 🤣

£30 each to adult children and £30 per grandchild. Usually a voucher. This year it's a dining out voucher for the grown ups.

About £30 per grandchild and about the same for adult DC who are in their 30’s and 40’s now.

£100 each for Christmas and a bottle of something ( JD, AU Vodka , something else ).
3 adult children
Next year probably cut it down to £50 each unless they want something specific.

£100 cash from parental type figure and £20 gift. Usually toiletries.

i’ve bought the physical gifts this year and due to cost rises most are actually £23-27.

I did decline Aesop shower gel at £35 tho’.

Im 39, my Parents still spend same if not more than when I was younger. I have 2 siblings we all get the same amount mixed of presents and Cash to value approx £500 each. ( I would be sad if this stopped) Grandkids get approx £200 mixed of toys and clothes 9 of them ranging from 0-10years. Partnersx3 get £100 gift.

To be fair, the only bits on that list that my young adult sons wouldn't want is the wine/cocktails and scratch cards. But they are very much not your typical young men!