My husband got me...

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A restaurant voucher. Email print out.

I feel really flat and deflated. Aibu to feel like this? Obviously said thank you but just seems like he couldn't be bothered.
Wouldn't even pay for a whole meal anyway.

I love a restaurant voucher

But it doesn’t mean you should. But some people aren’t good at presents so tell him what you want next year

I got a new cushion with arms....

I got mine a new x box and a headset , I got a book and some perfume! Not ungrateful, but a bit of effort wouldn't have killed him! I've been doing everything for the last 7 weeks due to him having an operation on his wrist. He can conveniently play the games but nothing else!

This just goes to show how different people are!

I’d father rather have £200 to spend on something I loved than fifty quids worth of stuff I’d buy run of the mill anytime i fancied it from the supermarket (or farmers market.)

Imo Nothing special/thoughtful about alcohol or chocolate as a gift surely?

Value aside:

Restaurant voucher for a place you really want to go but have never been - great gift

Restaurant voucher for a chain - terrible gift.

Mine needs hints but always comes up trumps.
New pyjamas
Headphones
2 x books
Crossstitch
and best of all, new DMs (although they are not exactly the ones I’d have chosen, but they are nice).

If it didnt come from amazon, I didn't get it. "It" being a "pile" of two badly wrapped books from my wish list. There were couple of things that I had asked for off amazon and sent links to. Neither were expensive and well within what we can afford.

Much later on he said he couldn't find the watch I had mentioned even though I'd sent him a direct link to the actual shop page. I'll end up buying it myself...

My XH’s excuses included

I didn’t know what you wanted

I went to get it but they’d run out

they didn’t have your size

they emailed me at the last minute to say they were out of stock

I couldn’t find anything I thought you’d like

when I said something, he asked me to tell him what I’d like, so I did. And I got a variation on the same thing every year from then om.

I am pretty good at presents and rarely miss the mark, because guess what, I give it some thought and make the effort. It doesn’t take much, and the joy you get from giving somebody something they appreciate far outweighs any effort it takes to acquire it. It’s not that they don’t know or can’t think of anything, it’s that they don’t care enough.

Sorry that your husband doesn’t know you well enough to know what kind of thing you would like.. and doesn’t value you highly enough to put some effort or thought into a present. It doesn’t matter that others would like it. You don’t. Make a resolution right now to change that by next Christmas whether that is working on your marriage or ending it.

What’s the restaurant? I can’t call if it’s a rubbish gift or not with details. If somewhere fancy I’d interpret as he’d be taking me for a v fancy meal as a treat.

Yes definitely don't take him

Tom Ford Black Orchid and 4 golf lessons! Delighted

OP said it wouldn't even cover the cost of a meal.

I'd be telling him what a shit present it is. And I'd use it for a meal out alone.

My ex H got me a 50 euro voucher for BT (clothing retail store).

I got him : jumper €90 and a slippers and smelliest gift set for about €25.

So, I definitely tried a bit harder, but he bought most of the food and is helping cooking etc.

It's grand, not to worry.... Just smile and crack on.

My mother bought me a 500 euro voucher for the same store, she is trying to pay me off/buy my favour..... As she has been quite cruel to me over the year...... Emotionally stunted woman. Again smile and nod, just thanks, no big response.... (no declarations!!! I m so thrilled... Not) . I could not care less, I m not into high end consumerism.

Nothing.
I bought him a fancy schmancy electric toothbrush at great cost.

Ah well, never mind 🙄

Also pretty sexist to assume she's cooking every meal

We are both crap at present ideas so we don’t bother, it’s so much easier.

I am far too old to care about having things to open and generally I hate surprises.

DH and I have booked a lovely January holiday instead😎

DH and I don’t usually do presents, we get each other something token or funny at most, been this way for years

In line with this I got him a new apron (his is tatty)

He got me a really nice necklace 😳 and now I feel guilty. Not complaining though!

How?!

Least you got something.

I got nothing at all, he had about 7 things to open.

His excuse ranges from "hasn't arrived yet" to "didn't know what to buy" to "I'll take you shopping and you can choose something"

CHRISTMAS IS THE SAME FUCKING DAY EVERY YEAR YOU'VE HAD 365 DAYS TO PLAN FOR THIS!

I got nothing.

but that’s ok as we said no gifts. I got him a couple of bits just so he had something to open but didn’t expect anything back. He felt awful but he’s so generous through the year it didn’t bother me and he deserves a little something to open.

my ex husband used to get me nothing. Like literally fuck all, (including on my bday!) he would sit and open all his gifts (£200) worth, say he didn’t have time in the end to shop for me and then have a go at me for not ever caring about him. Worse thing is he would absolutely spoil his mum! I would have been happy with a box of chocolates!

I got lovely presents from Dh and dc. I gave them a link to an online shop that had loads of stuff from brand I love. They could choose and order anything they like as I like all of the stuff there. I got a surprise when opening them.

Some lovely earrings I pointed out a couple of months ago.

@thedukeofbuckinghamshire the shoes were on a hanger displaying my correct shoe size- he only realised yesterday when wrapping them that they were both the wrong size and both for the left foot! I think the Next sales assistant should have noticed!! One is massive and one is small!

I got some shoes, a Fitbit, a bottle of local craft sloe gin plus glasses, a pile of books,
A few other bits. Some of the things I asked for, some he chose.