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My husband got me...

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namechangedforthisone35 · 25/12/2023 07:25

A restaurant voucher. Email print out.

I feel really flat and deflated. Aibu to feel like this? Obviously said thank you but just seems like he couldn't be bothered.
Wouldn't even pay for a whole meal anyway.

OP posts:
TootsyPants · 25/12/2023 08:39

Yeah no effort at all. I'm very disappointed.

Daisies12 · 25/12/2023 08:41

I think that’s really nice gift. A lot of places only offer online vouchers now.

wellhellohowstheweather · 25/12/2023 08:43

I got similar for my birthday, I'm really pleased with it. Can't see the problem myself

Original poster
namechangedforthisone35 · 25/12/2023 08:45

Thanks for just letting me vent everyone. Happy Christmas

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LadyLeei · 25/12/2023 08:46

I would be pleased with that though only if it covered a whole meal for 2. I often give give restaurant vouchers to people as presents and never thought it was seen as “no effort”.

Kwackerly · 25/12/2023 08:48

Fucking fabulous - perfume by Tom Ford. I am pleased but I was very heavy handed with the hints in John lewis in November, planning ahead etc...

littlebopeepp234 · 25/12/2023 08:57

WhichEllie · 25/12/2023 08:26

That’s rubbish OP, I’m sorry. I agree that you should take a friend or something.

Unfortunately it looks like your thread title is causing people to come charging in sharing what their partners got them without bothering to read the OP, so I’m also sorry about that.

So true, some of it also seems a bit braggy to be posting about what they got which is like rubbing salt in the wound when op is already feeling a bit upset about her present.

Combusting · 25/12/2023 08:59

Actually although I posted about what DH got me it’s insensitive to the OP so removing this on hindsight!

WhichEllie · 25/12/2023 09:01

Kwackerly · 25/12/2023 08:48

Fucking fabulous - perfume by Tom Ford. I am pleased but I was very heavy handed with the hints in John lewis in November, planning ahead etc...

How does this help the OP’s situation? Do you really think this post is going to do anything but make her feel more crap than she already does?

AtillaTheHon · 25/12/2023 09:02

We don't really do gifts anymore either, like @FormerlySpeckledyHen!

fridaynight1 · 25/12/2023 09:02

No one is up yet so I don’t know for sure but I’m not expecting a present from DH. I told him not to get me anything. I’d rather get nothing than rubbish.
Previous years he’s bought an electric photo frame, a boys racer bike, a toaster and the best one - some second hand trainers in the wrong size from eBay.
He’s lovely and kind in every other way.

TypicalCoach · 25/12/2023 09:03

Combusting · 25/12/2023 08:59

Actually although I posted about what DH got me it’s insensitive to the OP so removing this on hindsight!

Edited

Sure the OP will appreciate you telling her

Overthehills40 · 25/12/2023 09:04

I’m sorry to hear you’re disappointed OP.

There was a total lack of effort from my DH this year with ‘generic’ gifts and a crap card- I should have known this morning when he said ‘you didn’t want anything for Christmas did you?’
I’d spent a fair bit of time choosing bespoke gifts for him…we’ve had a tough year and it’s reinforced to me that his heart probably isn’t in it anymore.

Wetweatherandmud · 25/12/2023 09:04

I got a Dyson hairdryer. I chose it, reserved it at Argos and collected it having paid for it. I found it beautifully wrapped this morning with lots of ribbons and a really sweet and loving note. It is the thought that counts!

littlebopeepp234 · 25/12/2023 09:05

LadyLeei · 25/12/2023 08:46

I would be pleased with that though only if it covered a whole meal for 2. I often give give restaurant vouchers to people as presents and never thought it was seen as “no effort”.

It probably would have been slightly better if it was an actual card voucher that he had gone out and made the effort to buy rather than just being a download from a link online. But op doesn’t even have anything to open on Xmas day. He hasn’t put much thought or effort into it if all if I’m honest. I’d be upset too, not so much about the voucher but the complete lack of effort that has come with it.

ultraviolet4753 · 25/12/2023 09:05

Did you give him a list of stuff you want?
I got a toilet seat for one birthday 😂

Original poster
namechangedforthisone35 · 25/12/2023 09:07

I'm really happy most of you have been deservedly spoiled Xmas Wink

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Redlarge · 25/12/2023 09:07

grayhairdontcare · 25/12/2023 07:39

I would arrange to go to the restaurant with a friend so it would cover your own meal

Yes do this.

littlebopeepp234 · 25/12/2023 09:08

Wetweatherandmud · 25/12/2023 09:04

I got a Dyson hairdryer. I chose it, reserved it at Argos and collected it having paid for it. I found it beautifully wrapped this morning with lots of ribbons and a really sweet and loving note. It is the thought that counts!

The op hasn’t made the thread so everyone else could brag about what their DH got them. Op is actually quite upset because her OH doesn’t appear to have made much of an effort with her Xmas present. That’s why she made the thread, it isn’t helpful to op when people are then upsetting her more by writing about all the wonderful things they have opened this morning!

Edit. Sorry I have quoted the wrong post

Redlarge · 25/12/2023 09:08

C1N1C · 25/12/2023 08:21

Sooo... planned in advance, a day you don't have to cook, a romantic day out together with your husband???

As opposed to 'walked by a shop and bought a necklace to shut you up'...

'A day you didnt have to cook' awww cinders is being taken to the ball.

justchristmas · 25/12/2023 09:11

Honestly, I'd love that. I have enough crap and DH often doesn't get me any gift at all. It wasn't last minute and there has clearly been some thought , even if it wasn't you hoped for.

I wouldn't take him though, I would definitely go with a girlfriend

TheChosenTwo · 25/12/2023 09:11

I haven’t opened it yet but I know what it is,
it’s one of those bloody obnoxious looking Mark Jacobs Tote bags because I told my niece a few weeks ago that I liked hers 😂
my niece is 24 and can pull it off. I’m 38 and would look like a fool! I’ll be taking it back in the new year but I appreciate that he’s bought me something, I do like bags so he wasn’t totally on the wrong track!

grayhairdontcare · 25/12/2023 09:11

@C1N1C it won't even cover the cost of the meal

tescocreditcard · 25/12/2023 09:12

Xmas is more for the kids really

BetterWithPockets · 25/12/2023 09:20

0scilla · 25/12/2023 07:59

I'd love that. Stop being so grabby and just enjoy life

Just because you’d love it doesn’t mean the OP has to. And I don’t think she’s being grabby (the worst sin of all, according to MN!) — it’s the lack of thought that’s made her sad, not the gift per se. Or at least, that’s how I read it.