My husband got me...

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A restaurant voucher. Email print out.

I feel really flat and deflated. Aibu to feel like this? Obviously said thank you but just seems like he couldn't be bothered.
Wouldn't even pay for a whole meal anyway.

Did you read the part where the amount won't even cover a meal at the restaurant?

Mine got me a bar of chocolate and I couldn't be happier. There's so much angst about presents. It really doesn't matter.

For us the focus is on DC, the food and being extra nice to each other at a time when it can all get a bit overwhelming and tempers get frayed.

I expect the kids will eat the chocolate.

I'd have put it on his pillow. After using it.

I had very similar last year although my voucher was bought at 11pm on Christmas Eve so definitely a panicked purchase. He’s excellent in lots of other ways so I was surprised. I think he’d stressed himself out about buying the perfect present that he’d just ended up buying nothing. I was very clear about how disappointed I was and this year I have had lots of very thoughtful presents. I also gave him the advice of listening out for things people mention throughout the year and making a note so you’ve got lots of ideas when it comes to buying their presents which he’s obviously taken onboard so I highly recommend being clear about your expectations!

This sort of shit is why we don't do presents! Ridiculous, just buy something decent or don't bother. I'd be pissed off too. Sorry to everyone who is disappointed.

This is why me and OH now buy something between us. My birthday is in November so never need or want anything by Xmas. We usually get gig tickets or football match tickets and enjoy some time together.

I feel your disappointment OP.

In over 20 years I can easily count on one hand the number of Birthday and Christmas presents DP has bought me (combined), and probably only one was a genuine suprise where he hadn’t asked me if I fancied x,y or z.

This year he did actually put something in my stocking, but then asked me to check the item to make sure it wasn’t defective (it wasn’t wrapped or anything, he could’ve checked himself 🤦🏻‍♀️). It’s just how he is, so I try to avoid getting my hopes up these days.

I got the Hairy Bikers cook book, an Oodie and some chocolate. That’s all I wanted. Dd2 got me a Care Bear as my parents never bought me one 40 years ago 🥺

You can treat yourself to a date with you! Go on your own (don't take your H, whatever you do!), order fabulous food and cocktails - and make him give you a lift there and back!

I've got a mug from my DIL saying 'thank you for letting me borrow your son, you can have him back now...please'! She is so funny! I pointed out that she chose him, I just got what I was given when he was born!

I would love that. Did he know it wasn't what you want, or did he think you'd like it? It's perhaps not as thoughtless as some think it is.

I actually think it's quite nice. A nice meal out together.

I got some work shoes...both the same foot, both different sizes and neither of them my size- from Next. He is devastated!!

That could be thoughtful/nice if you like eating out and it's a restaurant you're likely to enjoy. But the fact that it's less than the cost of a single meal at that restaurant seems odd, unless that's all he can afford and he's contributing to a particular special meal/restaurant visit that you'd be willing to make up the difference for. Ideally, finances permitting, a restaurant voucher would be enough value for you to have what you like and treat a friend, unless you're normally happy eating out alone.

Mine will get me bubble bath (haven't opened presents yet but I know). I have a strict list of things I want for Christmas - bubble bath, chocolates, scented candles, alcohol. This is all I ever ask for from my husband and kids as it makes their lives easier and I don't end up with anything I don't like. Also shouldn't cost too much because if I want anything else I'll get it myself 😂

OP mine is the worst at gifts but the best at a lot of other really important things so I really don’t care. I hate the xmas pressure myself, buying for DD was hard enough. So if he is otherwise a good man who loves you supports you etc then I would just let this go

@Whatelsecouldibecalled @Happyme2024 did you miss the bit about the voucher not covering the cost of a meal

I would be happy with a restaurant voucher, I love eating out, January is a awful month so it would give me something to look forward too.

Be grateful?
I haven't got a single present!

Dh got me some beautiful earrings plus a cycling Rapha bits pouch thingy and some happy socks. We have a shared experience booked in the New year a murder mystery day with lunch on a train which I’m really looking forward to.

Nothing. No card, no present nothing.
Same as for the last 40 years.

I just buy myself something I want.

Birthdays are the same- he even forgot my 60'th and our 40th anniversary (even though my lovely dil gave him a card to give me).

To be fair, he isn't bothered for himself and doesn't expect or ask for anything.

Still a bit shit.

Nothing. We're away visiting family and the only things he needed to pack was my present and my stocking. Apparently he forgot both.

In your world maybe. Not in mine.

OP I am sorry. I actually wouldn't mind that gift but I can see why you feel disappointed. Let him know your feelings.

Bollocks

My DP is working and should be home by 7pm. God knows what he will have got me. He likes to give surprises. He did fault to get me anything for my stocking. I do all the shopping except my stocking. I did buy 3 bits I wanted and put it in my stocking and that's all there was this morning.

I hope your day gets better OP, feeling devalued is horrible at any time but Christmas makes the feeling worse.