Our guests are hinting that they are going to stay longer than wanted ! How to find the words?

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Guests invited until tomorrow. Been here since 23 rd with general idea to go between c mas and new year.

Heard one lot say to another , oh how long are you staying.? . they replied ..oh maybe till the new year. ..

I could not just holler .. what ..?? From a distance across kitchen.

So , said to them later , what did you say about stating longer .. ? They shrugged it off and changed the subject
I said i needed to know . Evasive .

I repeated that we needed to know for food etc and they just said oh well we could get food .

I have had this before and struggled .we live in a beautiful area of natural beauty where people go on holiday and they do relax .

anyone had this before ? If so , do I need to directly say please leave ..and if so how ! Without causing offence ?
They know
us well and I am struggling to ask them to go . If i say we have other guests due , ( a lie and dont want to lie ) I think they would just say oh no problem , we can all muck in , offer to sleep on camp bed if bo room .. I jusy want ghem to go .

It sounds as if you haven’t been clear with them. “Sometime between Xmas and New Year” allows for there to be nearly a week’s leeway as to when the departure date might be.

also asking them when they plan to leave so that you can think about food requirements indicates that there is scope to extend.

next time if you invite guests be really clear: “we’d love you to come and stay from Xmas eve until the following Tuesday”.

on this occasion you need to man up and explain that you’re sorry if there was any confusion but that you’d understood that the plan was for them to leave in x date, and that as a consequence you’ve planned how you’re spending the rest of the holiday afterwards.

You haven't been clear about timings is the new cancel the cheque.

why not try the come on guys you now how much i love you but be fair I am knackered and need some time to myself now. Its time for you to go ...

The OP is apparently not coming back - maybe she began her campaign by turning off the WiFi and will be escalating it from there!

Well ideally you just say it’s been a brilliant Christmas but you just need the house back to relax for a few days.

If the idea of relaxing is too embarrassing you could have a huge row with your significant other in another room that can be vaguely overheard. Proper door slamming etc. Then you can blame the decision to turf them out on this (unspecified) source of marital conflict “ I’m so sorry, Tom and I need a bit of time alone, hope you understand”.
This has the benefit of being a good way to address they’re CF ness later on too. When they or someone brings up the terrible argument and asks if you two are ok, you can tinkly laugh and say it was just a strain having guests for five days that showed no sign of leaving ie CF guests didn’t read the room.

You've already lied by saying if they are staying longer you'll need to get more food.

Now they think you are happy for them to stay longer.

Be honest & say that although you didn't agree a leaving date you reach an agreement today. You are allowed to have some time to yourself without anyone staying without providing any 'reason'.

"do you need a lift to the train tomorrow or would you prefer a taxi"

In my case having an argument with DH has no effect on my CF BIL and SIL, BIL just comes in and tells me I'm the problem for wanting the house in order. Arsehole. Leaving today thank fuck, I'm fed up of being confronted by his piss in the toilet every morning.

I think if my guests stayed longer I'd cry. I need my house back.
One is ok but the other is being massively lazy, untidy and unkind thinking they're being funny.

I've had enough and want a whole day on the sofa in my skankiest, comfy pjs with no-one talking to me, asking me anything, making a mess etc

Just say you're sorry, that's not possible. It's that simple.

Isn't off you pop cunty chops appropriate? Hopefully I get the opportunity to use it on 2023!!

Next time, specify/pin down dates in advance (obviously). For now, tell them you were expecting them to be gone by today, you need some time just the two of you. Don’t be embarrassed to say this. They should be embarrassed, deciding with no reference to you that they want to stay longer! CFs!

Where is the Christmas spirt?

The guests have drank it all...

As the host and home owner stop pussyfooting around and take charge! Tell them your plans and how they fit around their departure time leaving no wiggle room.

”On Thursday we’re off to do …. just need to know what time you’re leaving before I firm up arrangements.” Or similar.

And if you don’t have plans, make it up - it can just be you and partner going for a coffee - embellish, don’t outright lie.

"Well, it's been lovely having you. Do you need any help packing?"

😂😂😂😂

I personally could tell if someone were hinting at me to leave. Can they not take the hint? It's embarrassing really.

We tried to pin them down before they came . We were constantly told oh we will tell u a date , we will work it out . .. it got embarrassing asking . From now on i will say u are welcome until.. excellent answers by the way ! Thanks v much .

I am anticipating them saying .. cue sad face .. oh dont you want us for new year . ? They don't like the new year… and would want distraction . I shall learn , but I do fear hurting relatives feelings .

Oh god they all came by train .. there are strikes and the train does not go the whole way.

there are train disruptions until 9 of January so they can’t stay with you until then

Sex party planned. Need to get some tarpaulins down. Plus the cameras are a faff.

'Wonderful news! Our builders/decorators/plumber/electrician have a cancellation. We need you all gone by lunchtime, we need to clean and get organised and have a blissful evening of peace and quiet before they start first work thing tomorrow. I'll make you a packed lunch while you pack. Lovely visit, bye!'

If there's any reluctance, point out there will be no heat/power/water/space to sleep while the works are done. Possibly the roof is coming off?

Me, I'd just say I'm all peopled out and they need to leave NOW.

Never invite people on a a vague or open-ended basis if you're not also confident in asking them to leave when you've had enough.

They need to go sooner rather than later, the train strikes will knock out most of next week.