Is this a mean thing to do on Christmas Day?
AFewScrewsLucy · 10/12/2022 19:09
Imagine you are the parent here.
You have a 9 yo, who turned 9 in early October.
They still believe in father Christmas (yes, really)
They have asked for an iPad.
You've told 9yo you can't afford it, so can't have it.
9yo says "it's OK, Santa will get it for me" and then proceeds to tell everyone they know since November that they're getting an iPad for Christmas.
You are actually buying the iPad for them.
But, you have decided that to teach them to be more humble, you're going to pretend that Santa hasn't brought the iPAD when you all open presents in the morning. And you're going to "find" the iPad at the back of the tree at some point in the evening,.and give it to them then.
Full context, you also have a just turned 6yo and 7yo who will be receiving their Santa present in the morning. (Barbie Dream House and Switch)
What do you think? Mean? Or fine?
TheFormidableMrsC · 10/12/2022 19:39
Really nasty thing to do. You should be ashamed. If you couldn't afford the iPad then you should have stuck with that and told them that Santa doesn't provide things parents can't afford. Then there is no expectation. You seem angry that this small child believes in Santa. Totally fucked up.
Cas112 · 10/12/2022 19:40
I would let them open it in the morning with the rest of the presents
What the hell is 'teaching them to be humble' on Christmas for? You have plenty of time and other opportunities for that, can you not just let them have a nice Christmas Day not being taught lessons like most kids
ArticSaviour · 10/12/2022 19:40
Although when the kids wanted an XBox they got a small box with a light up letter X in it and a note from Santa saying 'Is this right?' Then on the back of the note it told them to look behind the sofa which is where the actual XBox was.
It has gone down as one of my lamest 'mum jokes'
User36363636362636372 · 10/12/2022 19:41
Firstly, imo any big gifts such as expensive gadgets should be from parents and not Santa. Not all parents can afford Santa to bring so much. Most of the gifts we buy for Dc are from us and just a few token gifts in a stocking from Santa.
and yes it's mean. Why would your other dc get all their big presents early in the day and not him? I don't get it. Presuming they've asked for dream house and switch too? So why do they get their gifts and not him?
SoShallINever · 10/12/2022 19:41
That doesn't teach them to "be more humble", it teaches them that their parents have sociopathic tendencies.
You remind me if someone I used to know who used to make her children eat stuff they hated before they could have something nice.
Controlling and nasty.
JoyfulGirl · 10/12/2022 19:46
AFewScrewsLucy · 10/12/2022 19:15
I'm not the parent. Btw.
My friend is going to do this.
I'm trying to guage if my reaction/thoughts are "right". I'm thinking it's a fucking pointless and mean thing to do and the kid will be miserable and confused the entire day and will (quite rightly) be upset by it all and end up angry/crying etc
And probably never forgive or forget the "lesson".
You’re right, it’s fucking horrible.
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