Christmas
Is this a mean thing to do on Christmas Day?
AFewScrewsLucy · 10/12/2022 19:09
Imagine you are the parent here.
You have a 9 yo, who turned 9 in early October.
They still believe in father Christmas (yes, really)
They have asked for an iPad.
You've told 9yo you can't afford it, so can't have it.
9yo says "it's OK, Santa will get it for me" and then proceeds to tell everyone they know since November that they're getting an iPad for Christmas.
You are actually buying the iPad for them.
But, you have decided that to teach them to be more humble, you're going to pretend that Santa hasn't brought the iPAD when you all open presents in the morning. And you're going to "find" the iPad at the back of the tree at some point in the evening,.and give it to them then.
Full context, you also have a just turned 6yo and 7yo who will be receiving their Santa present in the morning. (Barbie Dream House and Switch)
What do you think? Mean? Or fine?
Always4Brenner · 13/12/2022 20:09
NoNameNowAgain · 13/12/2022 11:59
Even most adults would be upset by the delay, the feeling of being unloved on Christmas Day.
EveryLittleWish · 13/12/2022 11:39
@NoNameNowAgain oh 🙊! I guess I wouldn’t mind that for myself
I’ve had it on birthday it’s not nice I cried all day on my 15th.
NoNameNowAgain · 13/12/2022 21:26
Always4Brenner · 13/12/2022 20:09
I’ve had it on birthday it’s not nice I cried all day on my 15th.
NoNameNowAgain · 13/12/2022 11:59
Even most adults would be upset by the delay, the feeling of being unloved on Christmas Day.
EveryLittleWish · 13/12/2022 11:39
@NoNameNowAgain oh 🙊! I guess I wouldn’t mind that for myself
That’s horrible.
Furries · 14/12/2022 02:29
I always try to read all of the OP posts before responding, but there are only three. I’ve only read the first few pages, which all seem to I date varying levels of mean. So, from there, I’m going blind with my post.
My “issue” is with the child’s assumption that it’s ok, Santa will be bringing it. Not the kids fault, not necessarily the parents fault either. But it’s a fairly good summary of how innocent “lies” re Santa can then present an issue as they get a bit older.
The magic of Christmas, for kids, is great. But the pressure placed on parents to deliver must be stressful.
Think it should become more mainstream that stocking presents are from a Santa and that the main present(s) is/are from mum/dad/grandparents etc.
Sugarfree23 · 14/12/2022 06:10
Think it should become more mainstream that stocking presents are from a Santa and that the main present(s) is/are from mum/dad/grandparents etc.
Children have believed in the magic of Santa for generations, hundreds of years, people who lived in slums, Children with very little, through the war years when toys were hard to come by, little children tend to ask for very simple toys, and expectations can be managed, Santa's Elves can't make tech or bring live animals and they have lots of kids to sort gifts for.
Santa bringing one gift is probably a reasonable expectation, we ask kids to talk to the man, write letters to him, stop him bringing the main gift that element of magic disappears. What Santa doesn't do is bringing mountains of gifts.
Stockings can even vary on MN from a Girls white school sock to a mammoth sack with proper gifts.
mathanxiety · 14/12/2022 06:28
Think it should become more mainstream that stocking presents are from a Santa and that the main present(s) is/are from mum/dad/grandparents etc.
Why?
I never had a stocking as a child. It wasn't a thing in Ireland, as far as I'm aware. My DCs don't have stockings apart from tiny ones that I stuff chocolates into.
Stockings are not a part of everyone's Christmas.
And also, thank goodness people are free to do Christmas whatever way they want to.
Always4Brenner · 14/12/2022 09:36
NoNameNowAgain · 13/12/2022 21:26
That’s horrible.
Always4Brenner · 13/12/2022 20:09
I’ve had it on birthday it’s not nice I cried all day on my 15th.
NoNameNowAgain · 13/12/2022 11:59
Even most adults would be upset by the delay, the feeling of being unloved on Christmas Day.
EveryLittleWish · 13/12/2022 11:39
@NoNameNowAgain oh 🙊! I guess I wouldn’t mind that for myself
My teens and early 20s were hell emotionally with this family.
Furries · 18/12/2022 01:38
mathanxiety · 14/12/2022 06:28
Think it should become more mainstream that stocking presents are from a Santa and that the main present(s) is/are from mum/dad/grandparents etc.
Why?
I never had a stocking as a child. It wasn't a thing in Ireland, as far as I'm aware. My DCs don't have stockings apart from tiny ones that I stuff chocolates into.
Stockings are not a part of everyone's Christmas.
And also, thank goodness people are free to do Christmas whatever way they want to.
I mean it more in the way of kids growing up thinking that Santa brings them a stocking/sack/bag/sock/whatever of small, fun gifts. Rather than them thinking that, as long as they want xyz, then it’s ok as “Santa will bring it”.
ScoobyBooby · 18/12/2022 02:30
Why would you even do that ? This could be the last year he believes . Seems to me he’s just super excited about the thought of getting his own IPad.
Id take the joy of seeing him open his gift on Christmas morning anyday over teaching him and kind of lesson. Do you want that to be a lasting memory of Christmas or the fact Santa got him what he really wanted
It’s for sure too mean don’t do it !
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