Christmas
Is this a mean thing to do on Christmas Day?
AFewScrewsLucy · 10/12/2022 19:09
Imagine you are the parent here.
You have a 9 yo, who turned 9 in early October.
They still believe in father Christmas (yes, really)
They have asked for an iPad.
You've told 9yo you can't afford it, so can't have it.
9yo says "it's OK, Santa will get it for me" and then proceeds to tell everyone they know since November that they're getting an iPad for Christmas.
You are actually buying the iPad for them.
But, you have decided that to teach them to be more humble, you're going to pretend that Santa hasn't brought the iPAD when you all open presents in the morning. And you're going to "find" the iPad at the back of the tree at some point in the evening,.and give it to them then.
Full context, you also have a just turned 6yo and 7yo who will be receiving their Santa present in the morning. (Barbie Dream House and Switch)
What do you think? Mean? Or fine?
FallingsHowIFeel · 10/12/2022 19:17
AFewScrewsLucy · 10/12/2022 19:15
I'm not the parent. Btw.
My friend is going to do this.
I'm trying to guage if my reaction/thoughts are "right". I'm thinking it's a fucking pointless and mean thing to do and the kid will be miserable and confused the entire day and will (quite rightly) be upset by it all and end up angry/crying etc
And probably never forgive or forget the "lesson".
You’re friends with someone that would do that to a child? Your friend is a cunt.
Marblessolveeverything · 10/12/2022 19:17
Please seriously ask yourself why you feel this is even an option for you?
Because to me it is such a d**k move that I would question your moral compass. Christ a nine year old and one that believes , start with the savings for the therapy they will need.
Andsoforth · 10/12/2022 19:18
Mean.
A simple “Santa doesn’t bring electronics/screens or Santa doesn’t bring things parents don’t approve of” would have sorted this out.
I think this parent could really do with getting some support or attending a parenting course. That’s a terrible decision.
AFewScrewsLucy · 10/12/2022 19:19
ThatshallotBaby · 10/12/2022 19:15
No you can’t do this. Hope all goes well.
Oh, it's not me.its a friend of mine. I sat in stunned silence when I heard the plan. I then doubted myself and thought I'd get some unbiased opinions before trying to "intervene" and convince her it's a fucking awful idea.
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