Forced to have the dog or go on holiday and fall out with everyone

[Ilovechoc12]

Hi,

We are large family (6 people - 4 kids under 10) and my dad owns a naughty yap dog that’s not well trained - treated better than the queen and it behaves like a cat hates going out in rain and doesn’t like going outside in bad weather/ rain. It’s a very ott precious well looked after dog. Very old and can be grumpy

They don’t trust this dog with anyone and kennels are the worst thing ever (according to them). So those two things are out the window. They are travelling 250 miles to be around their 3 children all live close to London. Only I’m the suitable candidate to have the dog as my sister has a dog (so precious can’t go there) brother is in the non friendly hotel.

The dog will want to go upstairs, sit on sofas and winge a lot. It’s not well trained as my dad just sits with it constantly. I’ve just had new carpets and is known to piss on carpets at times (but that’s because he’s old or marking his area but he won’t do it again 🤪🤪🤪 )

My boy has the stupid 11 plus at Xmas otherwise we would jump on a plane.

I do want a Christmas with my family and no dog

My mum has booked into a non dog friendly hotel and decided to dump the dog on me. Actually without her asking me only until I asked what is the dog doing she said o can u have it 😡😡😡.

However my 4 kids like the dog and like seeing everyone at Xmas (20 people) with all the cousins and aunty etc …. Over the Xmas season - so I have that to consider

So do you for 4 days over Xmas -

1. Accept the dog and have to get up at 6:30 to walk the dog and I absolutely hate picking up poo. It could piss anywhere down stairs. It’s barks like crazy if there are any birds / cats / fireworks in the night too.

1. Make someone stay in a dog friendly hotel. Which my mother is adamant she is staying in a particular hotel she’s booked which doesn’t allow dogs. So my dad would be by himself with the dog so this will cause friction

1. Piss off out of the country on holiday and have a massive bust up. Only issue my boy has 11 plus after Xmas 🤪 so not sure how much work he should be doing 😬😬😬

It’s stressing me out - we don’t have a dog as we don’t want one and get dumped with this one 😡 but now I’m guilted into we looked after your kids a lot when they were younger so can you help us 😡😡😡😡

What would you do?

Thank you xxxxx

I would tell them I’m not having the dog, and if I thought there was a chance they’d bring it round anyway, I would arrange to be out, or just flat out refuse to open the door.
They got a dog, it’s their responsibility to come to a suitable arrangement that doesn’t involve dumping it on someone who does not want it.

So basically everyone gets the Christmas they want but you, and you'd be the one in the wrong if you say no to the dog?! Arses!
Why is your bro booked into a hotel if he's close to you? Is everything around the hotel your mum wants?
If your parents aren't going to be together anyway why can't your dad just find dog friendly hotel or ait b n b?

Can't believe people think you should have the dog. It's there responsibility to make arrangements for their dog. It's not yours. Tell them you're not having it. Then they have to make arrangements. Just say no and then stop stressing. They can deal with the logistics.

Go on holiday or tell your parents no to the dog (due to new carpet).

Tell your parents that you will not be having the dog. How rude of them. I wouldn’t care that it caused problems it’s their problem to sort out, not yours.

I'm a dog lover and dog owner but I don't blame you for not wanting the dog. My family descend on us at Christmas with their dogs and it drives me mental as their dogs are not trained. There are always "accidents" on the carpet and toys that they've destroyed. We always walk their dogs as they seem to think walks are optional.

There's no reason your parents can't stay in a dog friendly hotel, so that's your answer.

Have they never used sitters? You can get house/dog sitters for free - dog is at home and sitters will comply with all dog's eccentricities and house is taken care of. If the house is nice and in a nice area an xmas sit will be snapped up.
I sit but not dogs only cats. Got a lovely sit lined up for my Christmas break!

Tell 'em to look into it ASAP!

www.housesittersuk.co.uk/

1. Tell them the dog can’t stay at yours and THEY’LL have to find another solution. Once you agree once, you’ll become their doggy daycare every Christmas forevermore.

If you arrange to go away-they’ll only ask to use your house!

Say no and remember it’s not your responsibility. Have Christmas at home and enjoy it. Invite someone else or no one if they don’t want to come.

I wouldn’t have the dog if it will pee on your new carpets, that is almost impossible to get out of carpet and stinks. Plus dog sounds annoying and isn’t your responsibility. Just say you’re not having the dog, you’ve enough to do with four kids and hosting Christmas and you can’t possibly manage a dog as well. They needed to train the dog properly. My dog wouldn’t dream of peeing inside our house (although he is ‘naughty’ in other ways, but then again I wouldn’t expect anyone else to look after him for me).

Can you shut it in the kitchen at night (so a dog bed/blankets etc, so it doesn’t pee on carpets? Or would it bark the place down?

I think the fact you have new carpets is enough to say no , who wants to spend hundreds on carpets and then risk them being ruined . Lots of Airbnb's will be dog friendly

No way should they be leaving a dog who pisses at someone’s house. They can hire a dog friendly Airbnb or hotel, preferably with tiled floors!

You don’t have to look after a dog that isn’t yours, that’s simple. Tell them that.

To be honest though, you sound horrible about the dog so I don’t know why they would trust you with their dog anyway.

But the bottom line is, please yourself not others.

Why are you worried about upsetting anyone, your mum has made this your problem hand it back to your parents

If your parents don't want to stay in a dog friendly hotel or book the dog into kennels, they'll have to stay at home for Christmas. It's their choice to have a dog, not yours.

I wouldn't put our dog in kennels, but he does stay at the dog walkers or we have a dog sitter through borrowmydoggy.
No is an answer, but another one is check with neighbours etc. if they can recommend any local dog care and say dog could go there.

Get a cat. Ideally a tiger.

It’s not your dog. No is a full sentence.

I would say no - end of.

It's their dog, their responsibility and their problem. Seriously, people will treat you how you let them.

I have my own dog but no way would I have someone tell me that I had to have theirs. If you say no and mean it, they might think twice about doing it in the future.

I live in Perth and take my dog on holiday where possible but if we are going interstate or overseas, then we put him in a kennels - they have known him for years and are very good, my dog loves teh guy that runs the kennels and I have no issue with him going there.

Say no, mean no and dont let anyone bully you into doing it. Their reaction and tantrums regardng your decisionis their problem .

Tell them you don't want the dog, you won't take the dog and if they bring it you will put it in over night dog care.

Tell them if the dog comes to you it will have to be crated and will only be allowed in the areas of the house with hard floors.

I would not have the dog in my house at all
They’ll have to either -
Stay somewhere that accepts dogs ( though most dog friendly Airbnb’s won’t allow dogs to stay in the house when it’s owners are out , so still difficult )
Or it needs to be in kennels or they need a dog sitter
Not your dog , not your problem , not going in the house

Our cats get upset if a dog is in our garden, never mind the house. Is it too late to adopt a cat?

Go on holiday. Your ds can revise then if he really must.