Forced to have the dog or go on holiday and fall out with everyone

[Ilovechoc12]

Hi,

We are large family (6 people - 4 kids under 10) and my dad owns a naughty yap dog that’s not well trained - treated better than the queen and it behaves like a cat hates going out in rain and doesn’t like going outside in bad weather/ rain. It’s a very ott precious well looked after dog. Very old and can be grumpy

They don’t trust this dog with anyone and kennels are the worst thing ever (according to them). So those two things are out the window. They are travelling 250 miles to be around their 3 children all live close to London. Only I’m the suitable candidate to have the dog as my sister has a dog (so precious can’t go there) brother is in the non friendly hotel.

The dog will want to go upstairs, sit on sofas and winge a lot. It’s not well trained as my dad just sits with it constantly. I’ve just had new carpets and is known to piss on carpets at times (but that’s because he’s old or marking his area but he won’t do it again 🤪🤪🤪 )

My boy has the stupid 11 plus at Xmas otherwise we would jump on a plane.

I do want a Christmas with my family and no dog

My mum has booked into a non dog friendly hotel and decided to dump the dog on me. Actually without her asking me only until I asked what is the dog doing she said o can u have it 😡😡😡.

However my 4 kids like the dog and like seeing everyone at Xmas (20 people) with all the cousins and aunty etc …. Over the Xmas season - so I have that to consider

So do you for 4 days over Xmas -

1. Accept the dog and have to get up at 6:30 to walk the dog and I absolutely hate picking up poo. It could piss anywhere down stairs. It’s barks like crazy if there are any birds / cats / fireworks in the night too.

1. Make someone stay in a dog friendly hotel. Which my mother is adamant she is staying in a particular hotel she’s booked which doesn’t allow dogs. So my dad would be by himself with the dog so this will cause friction

1. Piss off out of the country on holiday and have a massive bust up. Only issue my boy has 11 plus after Xmas 🤪 so not sure how much work he should be doing 😬😬😬

It’s stressing me out - we don’t have a dog as we don’t want one and get dumped with this one 😡 but now I’m guilted into we looked after your kids a lot when they were younger so can you help us 😡😡😡😡

What would you do?

Thank you xxxxx

Mhussive piss take absolutely no you can't have the dog they can stay somewhere that takes dog or go home can't believe people are saying have the dog I love dogs would gladly look after one but no no no to this tell them to fuck right off.

Go on holiday, take some revision with you. Or stand up to your parents and tell them you're not watching their knobby dog and they should have at least asked first.

The fact that you are cooking for 21 is reason enough not to entertain having a dog guest.
And, a small dog will easily be overwhelmed and anxious, (more accidents) when it’s in such a busy environment.
Really, it would not be kind at all to have the dog in these circumstances, not in its best interests at all, and you want the best for the precious little shitting beast.
And with all those people going in and out, precious beast could easily run out and get lost; you’d never forgive yourself. Best not leave it with you, you can’t keep track of 21 people and a dog fgs!

What I would do is not have the dog.

You could say fine, you'll buy a crate for it to stay in. It'll be clutching of pearls then and a sign of the cross.

I would categorically refuse to house the dog. If your parents want to bring it they can look after it.

I'd also secretly hope it pops it's clogs in the next few weeks

Sounds like it would be a shame to miss Christmas with all the family. And your oldest needs some routine to help with those exams.

What you need is this:
Glenndarcy Dog Belly Band

www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B01M1MMPP5/ref=cm_sw_r_oth_api_glt_fabc_6CMMYFP53BQ67631WFZX?tag=mumsnetforu03-21

Tell your Mum and Dad to get a couple belly bands, and some adult incontinence pads to fit. You at least won’t have the stress of the dog destroying your beautiful carpets. Just remember to keep the band on at ALL times.

My dog is ancient, and is supposed to wear his 24/7 but apparently my mind is going as well… hoping I outlast him.

Cant help you with the walks. But you could keep him in the band and put him somewhere he can’t make a bad mess, and then maybe you don’t have to take him out too early? 😬

Not your dog, not your problem. Why are you stressing over this?

Christ almighty - you will still be saddled with the dog all day which by the sounds of it will need constant monitoring.

Go on holiday - your DC can do some revision while away if needs be!

Tell your parents to put the dog in kennels - it's not for long and it may just come out better behaved.

No I wouldn’t be dog sitting for anyone.

Pets are a tie and as a dog owner it is the owners responsibility to sort out dog daycare.

I wouldn’t have someone else’s dog peeing in my house, no way.

I have 2 dogs but would never expect anyone to look after them if they didn’t want to and I certainly wouldn’t book into a non dog friendly hotel if I was travelling. That’s just bizarre to me

Your update is pitiful! They're steamrolling over you and being emotionally abusive to boot! Css as ll them back and say you've thought about it and the answer is NO.

My phone playing up-"Call them back"

OP I have a dog. I would never make her anyone else’s problem. Your mum is being completely unreasonable

And get your parents to house train the dog. That’s not on. It’s just a bit of effort

You've not really solved the problem. Dog will be in your house 15 or 16hrs a day. It's Christmas people will be doing their own thing. Nobody will end up watching the dog and it'll piss on the carpets.

Also why o earth did you phone about dogs in eating areas? Your parents should have done that you're not their secretary. Massively entitled cheeky fuckers

That'd would ruin the Xmas holidays for me. Ridiculous. I like dogs but Im not OTT. we have one but I prefer my human family most of the time. Recently my sis brought her uninvited dog to my daughters party at our house where it ran amok, there were a couple of toddler guests who had had a bad experience with a dog there - they were terrified. He's a big energetic dog, he ran through the house being a nuisance. we had rented an inflatable course I had to be on high alert in case he chewed it. My sister was totally oblivious. Its so rude to bring pets to someone else's house.

Really ofc you should say no to the dog but families being what they are it will cause ructions. This is a power struggle OP. Hard hat and fare thee well.

I am that dog person, adore the dog, he is welded to my side etc but NO WAY should the dog be dumped on you. Your dad in the Travelodge then supervising it constantly when at yours is the only viable option here. Hope it goes well, you're a star to host everyone. (Some of the suggestions e.g. put it in the shed are 🙄)

Stair gates are you friend lock him in a tiled area at night.

So you found a dog hotel
Your mum made you call them back for more details…about her dog
Then rejected it.

Then you ended up agreeing to take the dog all day anyway, and verbally agreed it would and could piss on your carpets

And your mum successfully made you feel guilty and bad
Because you’re the one being selfish

There’s a lot to unpack there op..

I suppose you could add to the challenge and borrow a friend's dog at the same time and say ''I thought it might be fun if mutt could have a friend to play with'' and watch their faces drop when the friend's dog gets overexcited or rough with theirs.

I wouldn't mind betting then you will be asked next time if the friend's mutt is going to be there.

What will your parents do, if you don't take the dog. are there no more relations to help out instead..?

I like some dogs, but can't have them here, very small cottage and three cats, My Mother cat who is very calm and friendly,but only to people, would attack any dog that invades her house space !