Forced to have the dog or go on holiday and fall out with everyone

[Ilovechoc12]

Hi,

We are large family (6 people - 4 kids under 10) and my dad owns a naughty yap dog that’s not well trained - treated better than the queen and it behaves like a cat hates going out in rain and doesn’t like going outside in bad weather/ rain. It’s a very ott precious well looked after dog. Very old and can be grumpy

They don’t trust this dog with anyone and kennels are the worst thing ever (according to them). So those two things are out the window. They are travelling 250 miles to be around their 3 children all live close to London. Only I’m the suitable candidate to have the dog as my sister has a dog (so precious can’t go there) brother is in the non friendly hotel.

The dog will want to go upstairs, sit on sofas and winge a lot. It’s not well trained as my dad just sits with it constantly. I’ve just had new carpets and is known to piss on carpets at times (but that’s because he’s old or marking his area but he won’t do it again 🤪🤪🤪 )

My boy has the stupid 11 plus at Xmas otherwise we would jump on a plane.

I do want a Christmas with my family and no dog

My mum has booked into a non dog friendly hotel and decided to dump the dog on me. Actually without her asking me only until I asked what is the dog doing she said o can u have it 😡😡😡.

However my 4 kids like the dog and like seeing everyone at Xmas (20 people) with all the cousins and aunty etc …. Over the Xmas season - so I have that to consider

So do you for 4 days over Xmas -

1. Accept the dog and have to get up at 6:30 to walk the dog and I absolutely hate picking up poo. It could piss anywhere down stairs. It’s barks like crazy if there are any birds / cats / fireworks in the night too.

1. Make someone stay in a dog friendly hotel. Which my mother is adamant she is staying in a particular hotel she’s booked which doesn’t allow dogs. So my dad would be by himself with the dog so this will cause friction

1. Piss off out of the country on holiday and have a massive bust up. Only issue my boy has 11 plus after Xmas 🤪 so not sure how much work he should be doing 😬😬😬

It’s stressing me out - we don’t have a dog as we don’t want one and get dumped with this one 😡 but now I’m guilted into we looked after your kids a lot when they were younger so can you help us 😡😡😡😡

What would you do?

Thank you xxxxx

If he does stay, ask your parents to bring some blankets he has slept on so that your house will smell familiar and he'll be less likely to pee on things.

FFS. You're a grown up. Tell them no, you're not having their troublesome dog. They can stay home themselves, board it or find another sucker, but the dog won't be welcome in your home. Use those words.

I don’t like dogs, wouldn’t want a dog and certainly wouldn’t want to look after one . BUT this is your mum and dad. They won’t always be around. It’s only 4 days and the kids will enjoy it - or it will put them off for life ! I’d say yes, and take solace in being a saint 😆. However, l would make it really clear that next year other arrangements will have to be made. Good luck.

Just say sorry but no. They will have to book a dog friendly hotel.

DM had a dog like this.
Thankfully, it’s now passed.
It wasn’t grumpy or barky- it just slobbered literally everywhere yuck.
And I hated the fur everywhere
So she just never came to visit. For years !
So it’s up to you ha ha for me, this was a win

I have a dog and wouldn’t expect anyone to have her if they didn’t want to or if they didn’t have a dog themselves. Even for a short amount of time dogs are hard work - you’re entitled to enjoy Christmas without the pisser doing it’s business on your carpet.

Not your dog = not your responsibility! Let mum and dad work it out.

Shut it in the kitchen overnight if it makes a mess call them hand them the stuff to clean up after there animal everytime? Do not allow it upstairs

I'd put some rules in place if the dog comes, if your parents don't agree, the dog doesn't come.

1. They crate the dog overnight
2. They walk it
3. They clean up after it

Suppose if we go on holiday it will be for 9/10 days so quite a long time so would need to revise at some point ….

1. You can go on holidays shorter than 9/10 days

1. Your ds could revise on holiday

Its great you found the dog friendly hotel for your mum, but now stop. Tell them you don't want the dog at yours except for during the day when they are there to supervise it. Its now their job to find a solution, not you. You've said no, and now they need to sort something that isn't you looking after the dog. (BTW- you can get home boarding for dogs, essentially your dog goes to stay with another family, if they are happy for you - who doesn't like dogs and will do the bare minimum to have the dog stay, why not someone who wants to have the dog and is experienced looking after dogs?)

Stairgate for the utility room and the dog goes in there.

2 or 3. Their (difficult) dog, their problem. Your mother is exceptionally cheeky to plan dumping it on you.

go away abroad for xmas

ds will pass or not regardless, its to late to be cramming at xmas

I would simply say I’m not having the dog. It’s your dog you sort it out. If it’s such a uncontrollable and miserable dog then I’m not sure I’d want it in my house with my kids anyway. Did you not read about Jack Lis this week 😞 😡? They’ll probably moan, but they’re your parents I don’t think they’ll fall out with you or disinherit you over it 😂!

Go for a pot noodle holiday to Centre Parcs for the 4 days. Lie in the outdoor pool after dark and watch for ISS to go over.

Kennels are thé worst thing ever?;usually said by cheap feckers not wanting to fork the £15-20 plus per day for a decent kennel place.

It's not your dog therefore not your problem;if their so precious they can actually hire a professional pet sitter who'll look after rover at home.

Did you ever book your self and your partner into an adults only hotel and dump the kids on your mum? If not then tell her to change her hotel booking.

In fairness kennels are shit for pampered pooches.

Not complicated.

It’s your dads problem.

I have told MIL numerous times, whilst she is welcome on certain occasions, her (stinking, yapping) mutt is not.

I would never subject my extended family to cleaning out my fat, dumb, giant cat’s litter tray at Christmas, ever. Or even call up to feed them.

My animal, my problem. Their animal, their problem.

I would put the dog in your local kennels for the duration of its stay. When they come back from holidays see if your father is happy enough with how the dog seems to have been looked after - and then a few months later (or never) tell them about the kennels!

Holiday. We once had a great snowy winter holiday dividing our time between hiking and revision, and I really recommend it. Much better than cleaning piss off carpets.

For me, the thing that would make me say the dog can't stay is that you have recently had new carpets laid.

@JML001

I would put the dog in your local kennels for the duration of its stay. When they come back from holidays see if your father is happy enough with how the dog seems to have been looked after - and then a few months later (or never) tell them about the kennels!

and what if it all goes wrong?