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Christmas

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Need to get it all off my chest before i break down dont have to reply...

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TheWiltedRose · 10/12/2007 13:32

OK, i feel like im about to burst and its getting worse every day so i think i need to write it all down..

Im 20 and have 2 ds's and this is my first xmas on my own, Im not spending it with my mum because she moved away a while ago and cant get down there, Im not spending it with my dps family as they do not like me or anyone there ds goes out with and have sworn not to invite me this year even though ive been seeing him a year now.

I was supposed to be spending it with my brothers who live in the midlands like me but they were in a little car crash and the car was written off luckily no one was hurt but now i have no way off getting to theres on xmas so that has been cancelled.

Yes its bothering me that i am spending xmas with so few ppl this year but it would be bearable if i had even a little money to do it with.

See income support have cut my money off because i refuse to claim child maintanence as it would cause stress and possibly harm to me and my boys leaving me in a bad state with money, add that onto the fact that i already have a 3 1/2 grand debt that i cant pay off and the council are threatening to kick me out and its just dire, This week i cant even afford to buy milk for ds2 and next week ill be lucky if i can buy nappies...

I have barely any food in the house and no drink other than water so i cant make an xmas dinner other than cheap chips and beans, I havnt even brought many presents for the boys because moneys tight but i have run up a debt now with littlewoods on creditto buy them what i have.

Add to this the fact that my ds1 is 3 on the 29th and then theres news years eve which will be spent in the same was as xmas then u might grasp how im feeling at the moment..

I just dont know how to cope this year or even if ill have a house the next one if things carry on the way they are..

If you got this far then thanks for listening to me...

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TheWiltedRose · 15/12/2007 00:38

God i was confuzzeled for a second then!

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Quattrocento · 15/12/2007 00:42

The Wilted - I am really sorry you are going through this.

Please email me on [email protected] and I'll send somethings. What would your dcs like? Have lots of softtoys and books, also games etc.

Lots of love from 400

AlwaysTheMummy · 15/12/2007 07:37

WR - I'm so glad you are feeling better and thank you to all the wonderful MNmembers who have helped you out.

Christmas is such a tough time of year, I'm constantly wracked with guilt that I can't spoil my son but at the end of the day, he gets to spend the day with his mum and dad, we have a roof over our heads and food in the cupboards - we may not have a lot of money but we have a lot of love to give and we prefer to do things that don't really involve spending money. We bake cakes, make jelly moulds, draw pictures, watch films and play with toys and my son's favourite past-time is having a huge bubble bath of all things

I really hope this post doesn't come across as condescending, it's not meant to be, what I'm trying to say is I completely understand where you are coming from, everyday we have adverts on the telly and in the shops that we need such and such for our kids, we need to keep up with the jones's if you will.

Your boys will thank you for years to come for how much love and effort you put into making their birthdays and christmas's special. You are a strong woman and your boys are very lucky to have a mummy who cares so much for them.

God bless you and your children - my family and I will raise a toast for you on the day.

santaslittlepeatbogelf · 15/12/2007 11:08

small parcel on its way for you this morning

Scootergrrrl · 15/12/2007 12:23

And another Happy Christmas xx

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TheWiltedRose · 15/12/2007 12:29

Thank you very much always glad to know im not the only one feeling like it sometimes, and santas thanks so much its like xmas for ME when ppl say that lol You to scotergrrl

You know what i dont mind that im not getting any prezzies this year off family because everytime a letter or a parcel comes through the door from here im all exited for the boys lol So imagine what im going to be like xmas waiting for ds1 to open them when he hasnt done it before!

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ADDICTEDtosayingHAAAAAAAPYxmas · 15/12/2007 20:36

wiltedrose - please add me on msn. i live near you and i might be able to help. pink__diamonds at hotmail dot com

SleepInHeavenlyPlease · 15/12/2007 21:00

Hi WR,
I am not in a position to help you but just wanted to say how blown away I am by everyone's kindness, it seems you will have a good Christmas after all!

ADDICTEDtosayingHAAAAAAAPYxmas · 15/12/2007 21:05

is that you sleepycat?

SleepInHeavenlyPlease · 15/12/2007 21:07

No, I am normally SleepIsForTheWeak!
These Christmas names are confusing!

ADDICTEDtosayingHAAAAAAAPYxmas · 15/12/2007 21:10

i know!

Sandies · 15/12/2007 21:24

I was in your position many years ago, no help from family or 'friends'. A little piece of experience and hope for you is that I had 3 Christmas's with no money at all. I had to buy cheap gifts and have chips and egg for tea with dc. They are 20 and 18 now and have no recollection of it, they always felt loved, safe and happy. Just like your kids do. Have faith in yourself, you're young and strong, you will get through this. Love sent

ChristmasPresence · 15/12/2007 21:25

Wilted Rose - how old are your children? Haven't read the whole thread, but can't bear to think that you'll be having such a miserable time. I have a DS of 5 and DD of 11 who have stuff that they no longer play with - if it would be of any use I could send you some things (books/toys etc). If you want to get in touch I'd like to help if I could. detta underscore norfolk at yahoo dot co dot uk.

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TheWiltedRose · 15/12/2007 21:32

hi christmas, there 3 and 1
thanks everyone for your messeges!

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Santasmissyontheside · 15/12/2007 21:38

have not read full thread but we have also being having it really tough recently. luckily () we were made bank rupt so have no debt now. but we also have problem of buying food and nappies. my secret santa sent me reusables which have been god send.

howold is youngest son? where abouts are you?

ChristmasPresence · 15/12/2007 21:41

Don't forget to email then Wilted and I'll get the stuff posted off to you on Monday. Anything they'd particularly like?

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TheWiltedRose · 15/12/2007 21:45

santa my youngest is 1 and i live in wolverhampton, west mids

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Santasmissyontheside · 15/12/2007 21:51

oh to far from me. and i cant even pass on the nappies as dd is pretty much out of them. my dss is 4 so his clothes will be too big. is there anything alse i can do to help?

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TheWiltedRose · 16/12/2007 11:43

thank you santa but its fine MN have given me a lot of help on the clothes front and i have plenty of nappies too so i can manage, thanks again for the offer though!

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ADDICTEDtosayingHAAAAAAAPYxmas · 16/12/2007 13:01

i'm not sure if you use sposies or reusables but if sposies wilko and aldi nappies are really good and cheap too.

nosnikrap · 16/12/2007 19:53

Being skint is so hard. I have a cleaning job in local church, so I know they have a 'larder' which they use to supply food packages to families who need it, its worth a try! they might have nice christmassy food! look in yellow pages for your local church.

Sandies post is great and she is right, you will come through it xx merry christmas

Pk616 · 17/12/2007 10:14

How are you doing wilted?

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TheWiltedRose · 17/12/2007 11:13

Hi pk! not to bad thanks been trying really hard to get the house in shape for xmas because mainly im a crap cleaner hehe

Decided im putting the boys in the same room together so i have room to put things so come weekened ill either suffer from sleep deprevation or find out if they help eachother

Well its monday again and i have the same familier dread that its goign to be sunday any minute with me standing there saying, "well where did the time go? I havnt finished everything!!!"

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Pk616 · 17/12/2007 11:33

I'm a crap cleaner too, Don't worry about it!
Write yourself a list lass!
Compile it in order of priority and cross things off as you go. Break all the big tasks down into smaller ones and that way you can cross more stuff off and get a bigger sensation of achievement and satisfaction (it also stops you forgetting stuff!!)
I know it sounds a bit daft but seeing those tasks get big fat lines through them really gives me a boost and it means that if Sunday does come around and there's still stuff on that list you can at least be happy that the most important stuff has already been tackled!
I'm just off to do some long awaited cleaning, sorting and tidying myself so I'll be thinking of you

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TheWiltedRose · 17/12/2007 12:14

lol ok ill meet you back here this evening and we can cap up what weve done today

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