Guests (family) came to spend 2 days, they are supposed to provide drinks but didnt bring enough...

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My Christmas is nearly ruined. They guaranteed to us they would bring all the drinks we needed and even asked what we wanted but they didn't bring enough. They arrived this evening to eat an amazing buffet and they will have the most lovely dinner tomorrow with loads of nice nibbles during the day but they couldn't be arsed to bring enough drinks. Probably there is enough wine but 4 bottles of J2O between 7 people clearly is not enough. And Dh drinks only beer, they know it and brought only 12 small bottles of corona which they are drinking too. No soft drinks for Dd at all. And the icing on the cake was when I asked MIL if I could have some coke from the half bottle they left in the kitchen and as I am pouring it BIL jokes that I am drinking HIS coke so I apologise and tell him I asked MIL to which he replies that it is not MIL's coke but his....then I realise that the only coke they brought. And no, they aren't strapped for cash. In the last few days they went to a posh restaurant, went to see a show on the West End and to the cinema. Also MIL cant stop bragging about her pay rise. I am annoyed.

OP. Seriously. Hide the thread.

Don't let sad.folk with nothing better to do on Christmas Day than flame strangers online get to you.

Their ILs are probably getting on their tits so they are taking it out on you

And if you think I came back to update the thread to moan a bit more about BiL buying coke for him and not me, you clearly have some problems with English comprehension.

If the MIL is trying to make a point to her child, she is the one in the wrong here.

Upcycled whether you were right or wrong to come on here and have a moan and a rant - BTW I would have been pissed off too.

You said you were annoyed -(fair enough).
You said Christmas was nearly ruined (OK a bit melodramatic but, hey, I can be a bit like that too sometimes)

Then you have been totally, and sometimes viciously flamed.

I can understand why you have found yourself back on here, churning over the issue. Not because you are that het up about the coke. But because some utters horrors on here have taken you understandable annoyance and whipped you with it.

Do not give the nasty people on here anymore fuel. They have decided to tear the meat from your bones. By coming back you are offering more limbs for them to attack.

You were not unreasonable to be disappointed and annoyed. Your IL have not met the normal expectations. Yep, you could have (possibly) handled it differently earlier by sending someone out but hey.
Some may think you just need to have got a grip and not let it worry you - fine but they could have had a bit more seasonal good will in how they told you.

Please ignore the nastiness. Get someone to get you a drink (of any kind) and chalk this one up to experience.

I wish you and your family a very Merry Christmas.

I love this thread

If you just wanted to understand why they didnt bring sodding coke then why the hell didnt you just ask? you have spent the entire day sulking and moaning on here about how ungrateful they are i dont think whingeing on MN is going to help you understand their motives and you certainly arent afraid to ask them because you were assertive enough when it came to putting them straight about hanging around tomorrow. If you wanted to know you would have asked when it became clear there wasnt enough drink.

Christ on a bike, what an over-reaction!

WTF were you going to drink after 10:00am tomorrow if you had no drinks in house, and you expected the ILs to provide all the drinks for the time they were there?

Loling at Fanjo acting like a school teacher telling people off while loving every second

Pointless posting anything cos OP is on transmit, not receive.

Nobody has said they didn't understand OP being pissed off about the drinks not being brought in sufficient quantity.
What people are a bit at is the fact she wrote off her day as being ruined by non sufficient booze when there is a corner shop open nearby that she actually went to and STILL didn't buy her precious coke!
And the fact that in the course of this all day thread she didn't bother to ask her IL about it once.
I haven't seen any nasty posters, just people pointing out that maybe a bit of perspective is needed or a little communication.
This is only coke we are talking about FFS not life and death.
If you don't want a variety of replies, don't post on Mumsnet!
OP have you spoken to your MIL about whatever is going on with BIL and them?

I couldnt imagine having people to stay and not at the eru least having enough soft drinks (or whatever my family drank) for my own family. Tbh even if the agreement was that they brought drinks i'd still (as the host)buy more than i expected would be used but if i wasnt doing that i would at very least have enough soft drinks for everyone. I wouldnt depend on someone else to bring something like that for my own family. Regardless of what the arrangement was. I mean what if there had been heavy snow and they couldnt make it- you would be left with NO drinks at all.

Hardly a schoolteacher. Someone's got to stick up to for the OP and tell her to ignore people acting like sad wankers and flaming her at Christmas.

Loving it..no. cringing for you. .yes.

Stick up for her?

She could have bought her own fucking coke!!!

That's what people don't understand!

I find it possible to not understand stuff without telling people to get a fucking grip

OP YADNBU. As soon as they leave, text your DH and tell him that next year his family are not invited and you will have the Christmas that you want, be that just the three of you or going to your family.

This arrangement is no longer making you happy and there are too few Christmasses in life to have another like this one.

Hope your New Year is better.

I can bring you some coca cola

I don't think anyone has even said that have they Fanjo?

However you're obviously right.

Yes, she could have bought her own coke. I would have bought my own coke and I think she was silly not to buy herself some to 'make a point ....... ' however I still don't think that is a reason to be so snotty and unpleasant to the OP.

I think OP has a point and if this happened to me i would be fuming. I told my guests to bring the drink they wanted and i also provided a selection of drinks. It's Christmas; no-one wants to run out of drink whether soft or alcoholic. If they were to bring all the drinks need then they should have brought more. Simple.

Wow...... This is unbelievable. I've just read this whole thread and can't believe how bitter people can be over such trivial things. And the bit about them not being your family but OH's. Surely you also see them as your family???? You don't sound very Christian to me, telling people to F off?????? Very bitter, very sad. Grow up OP, how old are you, 13?

Glad you agree SirRaymond

This is what I don't understand:

SIL's white wine
BIL's spirits
The OP's coke
The OP's DH's beer
The kids J20s

Extraordinary really. Why don't you just have a lot of drinks in? Teas, coffee, milk, water, juices, beer, wine, spirits. And champagne. And then you all muck in. Some people drink teas and juices with a small glass of fizz. Some people plough their way through several bottles of wine. Some people drink a glass of wine with their lunch with a couple of spirits afterwards.

When did drink get proprietorial? Just think about this. Would you say, 'Oh no BIL, you have had three roasties already. You have exceeded your ration of roasties. Have another brussels sprout?' Is this how it goes with food as well?

Christmas is stressful for many at the end of day - think drinks are just indicative of underlying annoyance... Hope OP had a good Christmas Day in the end

I think it's probably easy from the outside to comment but sometimes when you're in a situation little things can annoy you like mad. It seems a bigger reflection on op's relationship with her guests IMO and I think in your shoes OP I'd try to help this by being open but positive eg say it is so important to me that we can have special time together (list reason eg family is important to you and DH ) and that if noone helps or thinks of what is needed to do this it can make you feel (fill in whatever appropriate eg resentful even though you don't want to be ). All said warmly and with kindness.

And I know outside perspectives can be insensitive as people aren't in your exact position where you're feeling irritated but hopefully some advice can help ease things for another time. I've never asked guests to bring anything and however stretched we are just make it work with what we have to make it welcoming and we love having people but I think you're under far more pressure with guests staying longer and not responding to your hints for help. So I do really feel your sense of strain

I sort of understand. My sister came to stay and gave DH a case of wine. Very generous. It was all Pinot Grigo. DH only drinks red and I don't really drink much, but prefer lighter wine. Guess what is the ONLY thing she drinks?