Guests (family) came to spend 2 days, they are supposed to provide drinks but didnt bring enough...

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My Christmas is nearly ruined. They guaranteed to us they would bring all the drinks we needed and even asked what we wanted but they didn't bring enough. They arrived this evening to eat an amazing buffet and they will have the most lovely dinner tomorrow with loads of nice nibbles during the day but they couldn't be arsed to bring enough drinks. Probably there is enough wine but 4 bottles of J2O between 7 people clearly is not enough. And Dh drinks only beer, they know it and brought only 12 small bottles of corona which they are drinking too. No soft drinks for Dd at all. And the icing on the cake was when I asked MIL if I could have some coke from the half bottle they left in the kitchen and as I am pouring it BIL jokes that I am drinking HIS coke so I apologise and tell him I asked MIL to which he replies that it is not MIL's coke but his....then I realise that the only coke they brought. And no, they aren't strapped for cash. In the last few days they went to a posh restaurant, went to see a show on the West End and to the cinema. Also MIL cant stop bragging about her pay rise. I am annoyed.

Also Dh usually works on boxing day morning, we don't drive and they live far from civilisation.

Moan - yes but come out with ridiculous dramatic statements like ' Christmas is ruined' because she can't guzzle litre after litre of fucking coke - NO!
Get some perspective!
If she is that desperate for coke, why didn't she buy herself some earlier?!
And why don't you speak to your IL rather than just bitching pointlessly about it? It isn't an insurmountable problem is it?

So dont have them at yours or if you do then dh can cook.

Dh is cooking today.
But he can't cook tomorrow and be at work at the same time.
They were not supposed to stay tomorrow they know they had to leave in the morning.
I am glad that MIL let it slip they were planning to stay until evening so I could remind them that this wasn't the fucking plan and we have other things to do.

I can't believe this is still going on. It's simple. Every year OP does all the food for everyone and they bring all the drinks for everyone. This year they didn't cater for everyone and the OP is pissed off as they haven't kept their side of the deal. Yes she could buy more, no, no one is dying. But she's pissed off and so would I be. I can't see what's so hard to understand. It's not a bring a bottle party. They were providing all drink for everyone.

Thanks gwendoline but I am over the drink issue now.
I am seething at MILs cheeky sneaky ruddiness way of trying and push one more day when it was AGREED that this couldn't happen.

They went to 3 big events before Xmas and didn't invite us, but now they got nothing else to do, they want to stay here in front of the TV all day, another being served like in a 5 star hotel.

I am off now.
Cheers

Gwendoline I think I speak for MN when I say everyone gets that!

So why can't she speak to her guests and point out there isn't enough booze so they can come up with a resolution rather than bitching about it on here, sulking and drinking water when she wants coke, or just going and buying some more herself?

The reason you did not buy the coke yourself whdn presented with the choice...

... Is that you revell in the feeling of being wronged by people you don't like.

See how mean they are! Me, with only water to drink, DD with only a limited amount of smoothies.

To be fair, they brought a generous amount if drink. It was odd you had no drinks at all in the house, and lastly You really dislike them, so even though they brought LOADS of drink, you were pleased to find fault with those meanies.

And that is why you did not buy the coke. As in a way, you love it that they are in the wrong.

You can go and sulk in a corner with a tepid glass of water and wait for people to notice. Maybe sigh a bit too

I get you Upcycled my mother always provided drinks for Christmas, if they agreed to provided drinks they should have provided enough for the who;e period, they are rude, send them to the shops tomorrow to buy more.

Yes fiscal I can agree with you, no problems.

No I am not sending them to the shops tomorrow, I am sending they back to their own place.
Tomorrow, wasn't on the plans.

Maybe next time I will tell them: 'yes, we can provide the food but bring your own fave veg".
Because this is pretty much what they did to us.

YANBU to have been pissed off with them and you are not BU to moan about it on Mumsnet. even though some posters ALWAYS bring up the fact that you shouldn't complain as there is ALWAYS someone much worse off than you and that you should be grateful, blah, blah, yawn

However, I think you are a bit unreasonable in how you handled it. I think you should have said something straightaway and you should have just asked them to get some more drink or bought some when you had a chance. It sounds like there is too much game playing going on by everyone.

Hope the rest of the day is ok.

Ps, ignore the nasty posters. I don't know why some people post to be so unpleasant. It's ok to tell OPs they are unreasonable but I don't understand why some posters have to be so snide about it.

Hang on a minute, I think I understand now.

SiL and BiL (Dh's siblings) came from far and are staying with PILs for a few days already.

We have been together to se a pantomine and after that they have been to a show in the West End (we are in London), to the Cinema and to somewhere else (all followed by meals out in restaurants).

I think PIL wanted to prove a point to BIL and SIL. Maybe they are being 'forced' to pay for everything or most of the things and they told them to get their own drinks.

So SIL brought the white wine, that is what she drinks
BIL brought his spirit, 1 litre of coke (half a 2 litres bottle already opened) and now I found out he also brought 1 bottle of cider all for himself.

PIL brought the red wine (cheaper then the ones they usually drink BTW), bucks fizz and baileys. I drink the three of those if I have to, but they are not my favourite. They bought the 12 corona for Dh.

Maybe they didn't buy me any coke to prove a point to BIL? His coke is now gone.

No one never drank the J2O yet so maybe this is meant to DD? Maybe they thought I would have some anyway, but they always bring her smoothie and tropicana...

sorry i dont want to post to be nasty but you are describing a scenario of family spending time with you yet all you are doing is complaining about 'not enough smoothie' or something and you are counting the cost of the drinks yet in another thread i think you were going on about being a Christian or something?
some of us have no extra family around at Christmas, for example here it is just another day of me and the children trying to stab each other and strangle each other.

AND you live in London where there will be a shop open around the next corner if you run out of smoothie or whatever.

It was 6pm when BiL asked me what time the corner shop would be closed...so he decided to go there. Then MiL asked Dh if he needed anything and Dh said he needed something for his sore throat. BiL didn't have enough money to buy what he wanted and the medicine even though the place takes card. MiL gave him some cash, he apologised to her and she said that it would have to get even at some point.

I am actually , but I don't what is going on between BiL and PiL so I don't want to judge.

he came back with Dh's medicine and a bottle of 2litre coke.

Yes, I am Christian. But I am still human. Didn't claim to be perfect. very far from it.

But by penalising BiL and not bringing coke for him she penalised me too.

Penalised you by not bringing coke?dear oh dear.

Do you not feel rather awful that you have family visiting you for christmas and yet you have spent all day bitching about them online?

Fuck off triptrap

Can people not take a break from acting like dicks on Christmas Day?

The reason she didn't buy the drinks is because they said they were.

It's not rocket science.

It's not even legitimate flaming of OP.

Go and drink some Christmas brandy or something

The sad thing about this whole situation is that you appear to have spent the whole day being eaten up by this. I can't believe that your Christmas has nearly been ruined by the lack of a bottle of coke and some smoothies (which you could have got at your local shop today). I'd try and get a sense of perspective, there are thousands of families out there whose celebrations have really been ruined by being flooded out of their homes.

LoLing AT Sir Raymond posting like an obnoxious immature child while calling OP childish and petulant.

Good God, you appear to have spent most of Christmas day (and xmas eve) on here moaning about a situation which, whilst it would annoy me a bit, really isn't worth going on and on about. Seriously, it is Christmas. Go and have a mince pie and spend some time with your dd instead of festering over this ridiculous, easily solvable situation. Also, today we had 7 adults and nobody even had any alcohol. There was some coke and juice/ water. Nobody died.

oh my, this is STILL going.

op - i agree with triptrap, you have spent xmas day 2013 bitching and listing what drinks haven't been bought to your house - it is so sad and you sound so very bitter and petty.

i thought this thread was a pisstake cos I cldn't believe someone wld be so anal about half a litre of coke and juice - it's hilarious.

you should have made it clear what you wanted them to bring, although why someone wld place more value on guests bringing coke and juice over wine and spirits is beyond me. they bought beer, wine, baileys and spirits and you are pissed off they didn't bring coke and dd's juice (whatever the fuck that is!)

if they then turned up without the coke and juice you should be assertive enough (becauae you've devoted a whole bloody thread to it) to say can you pop out and get some coke and juice? personally I wld never be so petty to ask a guest to walk to the corner shop amd buy a £2 bottle of coke, but that's just me.

you didn't have the balls to do this, so spent all of xmas eve and xmas day on mn bitching about being deprived of..wait for it...a bottle of coke!

you then went to the shop and DECIDED not to buy it (this is the coke you are so desperate for and wait all year for right?) announcing you will drink tap water instead to make a point.

you then bitch about the whole family all day online andnow again are pissed off because someone went to the shop and bought coke for themselves and not you.

you could write a sitcom based on this thread - it's so so funny but so so sad at the same time.

I didn't spend the day sulking about this. I didn't treat them badly. It did not ruin my Christmas.

I just needed to understand because previous years we didn't have any issues and this arrangement was worked well for us.

I spend a lot of time online during Christmas because my family is on the other side of the planet.

Also Dh cooks and I clean, the others watch TV, I hate sitting down and watching TV with people for any length of time, so I go and interact with them for a bit, come back to my computer in my room, then interact a bit more...

I know other people are having a truly shitty time but I didn't know I wasn't allowed to have no feelings regarding my own issues and also to post here about it.