Guests (family) came to spend 2 days, they are supposed to provide drinks but didnt bring enough...

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My Christmas is nearly ruined. They guaranteed to us they would bring all the drinks we needed and even asked what we wanted but they didn't bring enough. They arrived this evening to eat an amazing buffet and they will have the most lovely dinner tomorrow with loads of nice nibbles during the day but they couldn't be arsed to bring enough drinks. Probably there is enough wine but 4 bottles of J2O between 7 people clearly is not enough. And Dh drinks only beer, they know it and brought only 12 small bottles of corona which they are drinking too. No soft drinks for Dd at all. And the icing on the cake was when I asked MIL if I could have some coke from the half bottle they left in the kitchen and as I am pouring it BIL jokes that I am drinking HIS coke so I apologise and tell him I asked MIL to which he replies that it is not MIL's coke but his....then I realise that the only coke they brought. And no, they aren't strapped for cash. In the last few days they went to a posh restaurant, went to see a show on the West End and to the cinema. Also MIL cant stop bragging about her pay rise. I am annoyed.

Gosh you lot are horrible, I think that your family are very thoughtless OP and yes maybe you should just give them potatoes and send 'em out to buy the rest of their Xmas meal, or tell them that bread is fine.

I hope that your Christmas celebration improves

Or you could tell your BIL, when he reaches for the potatoes, 'they're mine!'

Update whilst Dh is getting on with the cooking:

Came from the church and popped in the off license, bought Dd's rubicon mango juice, one of her favourites and bought Dh's medicine as he woke up with a cold.

I announced loudly and clear that the shop would shut at 7 pm should anyone need anything. Silence.

Then Dh asked if I remembered his cigarettes and I genuinely had forgotten so I apologised and said again: maybe if someone needs anything from the off license they can get cigarettes for you. They pretended they didn't listen. No one offered to go there to get Dh's cigarettes, and he is cooking while people are watching TV.

I wanted to get a bottle of coke for me but I didn't. Maybe I am a very bad person but I am insulted that they brought half a bottle already opened to BIL and I was told of because I drank some.
MIL knows I like coke and restrain myself during the year but drink as much as I want on Christmas.

As for whoever didn't read the thread properly. They know very well that DH drinks only beer.

I didn't count the bottles of wine, there are some rd and some white, and also some Bailey's and some other spirit that BIL brought.
It does not matter. They made a point not to get Dd's favourite drink nor my favourite drink...they got Dh's favourite but even if it was enough they are drinking it too.

Maybe they are trying to prove a point, not sure which one, but it is very immature and horrible.

We met on Saturday the 21st and MIL said for the umpteenth time for us not to worry about drinks at all and concentrate on the food.

Oh and I know people have bigger problems but I am shocked with their behaviour. Feeling bad with myself for pouring a bit of coke after I have asked ffs. I shouldn't even need to ask.

TBH, I am not annoyed anymore, I feel sorry for them being so mean.
I feel sorry for them.

Definitely will change the arrangements next time.

Will not even invite them to sleep over anymore.
They usually come on the 24th and go on the 26th.

Next year they will have to come on the 25th and leave on the same day.

Oh, and for the suggestion of drink coffee, tea or water: it is my coffee, my tea, my water and my milk.

So if i was playing by their game I shouldn't have to provide that either.

Luckily Dh is a better person than I and very generous so I am slowly learning from him.

Poor you. I think they are being mean & selfish too & would be irritated in your position. I hope they'll help peel the potatoes and wash up etc so you don't have to all the cooking this year.

I honestly think they have tonight a lot. Beer, few diff wines, baileys, spirits etc by the sounds of it. I'm sure they weren't expecting to cater for every drop.

In future buy enough soft drinks ie coke/ sprit/ cordial/ sparkling water/ fresh juice and beer your dh likes. Anything else they bring is then a bonus. If you have any left over drink throughout 2014.

There are always loads of shops open today... go stock up.

oh for heavens sake,that sounds like plenty of drink to bring to me.Maybe not everyone wants to waste time and money getting sloshed at Christmas?

It's not as if you'll have zero other forms of drink in your house is it

But the point is them using and abusing our hospitality.

Helping with the cooking and washing up???

hahahahahaha, listen to my hollow laugh...

What is the point if they offer to bring ALL the drinks for EVERYBODY but bring their FAVOURITES one only and virtually nothing for the hosts?

Yes. THEY do have enough to drink. Lucky them!!!!

Of course I can pop down to the shop and get more.
Of course I could have got more along with my food shopping.

But this isn't the point.

Can't believe it is so hard to understand.

No,you are being ridiculous in my opinion.

They brought 12 bottle of beer.
They brought red wine.
They brought white wine.
They brought Baileys.
They brought another spirit.

what is there to complain about?Of course they are going to drink it too!

Get over it.

You forgot the half bottle of coke that belongs to BiL only triptrap

Oh and not forgetting 4 bottles of J20.

Seriously,that sounds like a lot of drink to me...

Maybe next year I will fight DH and will be in charge of the dinner and give them half potato, half carrot, half brussels sprout and so on...

'I wanted to get a bottle of coke for me but I didn't.'

So you went to the shop, saw coke that you are desperate for, and decided not to buy it? Why not?

Just buy yourself the coke.

It would honestly never occur to me to bring every item of drink if I said I would some. We are staying with pil's this Xmas. We said we would bring some bits. we have brought 6 bottles of white wine, 6 bottles of change, x2 bottles of Chase vodka and some nice scotch for fil. I wouldn't have thought to bring the mixers or juice. The vodka alone is £35 a bottle. I'm sure pil don't mind buying some £1 cola to go with it. We did also buy and get a turkey and duck and get delivered.
If mil started moaning that the children were drinking apple juice and we didn't bring any I would think she was Barmy!

Sounds like a lot of drink triptrap IF you drink that.
What if you DON"T?

Think about someone telling you: "Don't you worry, I will buy your favourite drinks" Concentrate on my the food...and then they DON'T buy it.

That is the POINT.

Chill out old thing. So what? You give a little, you take a little. On this occasion you have given more than you've received. Not a biggy. Relax and enjoy. Happy Christmas!

artdanco but they do it every year. They buy everyone's favourite and juice too. They don't contribute to any food. Oh and they brought less drinks then you did. For EVERYONE apparently.

Thanks argument
That is what I will keep in mind.

Upcycled, are you very stressed? you are being incredibly melodramatic and should have just spent a couple of quid on a bottle of coke at the shop this morning if you want it so badly!

Come on cheer up, you're going to spoil Christmas for everyone including yourself and your DD if you don't rein back and calm down.

Merry Christmas

SO? Jesus,seriously,get over it,it's pathetic!

It's christmas ffs and all you are interested in is the drink and who can have what.That is sad.Very very sad.

You could've bought yourself some coke earlier but didn't.

Actually,you forgot to buy your own husbands cigerettes.If that is acceptable and acceptable for for you to hint that somebody else could pick some up for him if they need to go out it is perfectly acceptable for them to 'forget' every bloomin ounce of drink you needlessly want when buying the rest,is it not?

No I am not stressed nor angry.

Just disappointed.

Why they did it?

Nevermind. I know I can be better than this.

Oh bother, now I know what a ruined Christmas looks like.

lack of beer and coke.

I knew I should have thought Christmas was a disaster the moment I had to wipe my mothers bum just after dinner.

But oddly enough, I didn't.

Listen I don't smoke.
If a smoker forgot to buy their own cigarets why should I remember?
I remembered his medicine.
Cigarette is never on my mind.
This is different isn't it?

Cigarets was not on my Christmas list and NOT what I supposed to bring to the party.