I received this txt from my dd on Friday - is she the most self-contained 11 year old around?

[growingdd]

I was in work, she was at home with her dad.

"I've started my p**d [her asterisks].yes I'm sure.No I haven't told Dad and I don't intend to.Yes I've put a pad on.No I don't feel scared or worried.Yes everything is under control, so there is no need to ask any questions!!Please carry on with your work and don't worry about me!!No I don't really want to talk about it when you get home, so just tell me which pads to use and you keep on buying them for me and everything will be fine!!OK!!"

I texted her back saying we would have a chat when I got home, she said "I'll pass on the chat thanks".

I haven't actually seen her for more then 5 minutes since she texted, as she has been out, I've been out etc.

She is just so grown up - I can't believe it!

We will be chatting about it, though...

(changed my name as she reads mn sometimes and would be mortified to see this here)

this may sound strange, but I actually like the fact that dd texts me - when she is away (eg staying with grandparents, at a sleepover), it's a way she can contact me without having to let anyone else know.

For example, one time her friend's mum was serving something for tea she really didn't like, she txtd me to ask for guidance on how to deal with the situation politely. There's no way she could have asked to use her friend's home phone to do that...

LOL at the pig brooch! Did you really like pigs? If not what was she thinking?

lol @ "badge of periodness"

Oh good lord, growingdd, you realise you've now left yourself open to a raft of criticism on how ill-brought up your daughter is that there are foods she doesn't like. It must be because you weaned her wrong.

I think you should be proud of her - and of yourself for having prepared her so well.

I think she and you have handled it brilliantly.

Good luck for if/when you have your chat.

I think that your experience is what some DDs want to avoid at all costs Boco, the womanly chat and gift would have have made me cringe! I can't stand the though of it even now that I am old enough to handle it!

lol rosemary

growingdd, I'm very sorry
I was out of line

Your last post about her texting you for advise on how to be polite about food she doesn't like
That is totally cool

Bless her

Oh dear, I have opened myself wide up for more criticism now, haven't I?

Will it help if I tell you it was Corned Beef Hash???

sounds like a perfectly normal text from a young girl to me (barring the subject) they're always using hundreds of exclamation marks!!!!!!!!

disagree with those who say she was being rude or sarcastic.

Agree with those who say you can't convey emotion on a text, has tripped me up many a time and I'm in my late 30s, so I wouldn't expect an 11 year old to understand the vagaries of the textual world.

LOL at the becoming a woman song!

Thank God I was a younger sister, so hard to do it all first. By the time I started my periods I just got on with it, my mum just bought more tampons and pads for me. No embarrassment, no talks necessary, seen it all before. Mind you, it was New Years day and everyone was hungover (not me I hasten to add, I was only 13!)

I really didn't read it as rude at all - she's trying to think of all the things her mum might say - sounds like she knows her mum quite well.
I don't see exclamation marks as rude either -I moderate the school website forum the year sixes use -they use exclamation marks a lot, doesn't mean she's being sarcastic, it's just what they do.

And texting instead of talking face to face doesn't mean she's immature, it just means that texting is a natural form of communication to her.

It's obvious that her mum propared her properly for starting her periods, she knew what to do & has done it and is proud enough of herself to tell her mum so.

I didn't have a 'big chat' with DD aftershe started her periods - what would be the point? I just said - Let me know if you have any questions & she did - we did have a discussion when she wanted to move on to tampons & a while ago we had one about mooncups.

btw I actually still have the text DD sent me the first time she had a sleepover with someone I didn't actually know (can't remember how old she was now, but I may have been a tad overprotective about it)
It said: "Hey.still alive! xXx"
I think it was funny, but maybe I was wrong & it was just rude....

Trinity, thanks.

rusty that isn;t rude. thats funny and sweet

The badge of periodness is very common-the thread on it ran for pages last year! There was a clear split between those who wanted to mark it as a mother/daughter bonding session and those of us who cringed at the thought-there wasn't much middle ground.

phew glad i dont have to press hide button on this thread now

growingdd, I'm another one who didn't read that as rude or anything. I think you dd is brilliant. Be proud. She'll discuss it with you when she's ready.

Haven't read all the thread. I think she sounds Fantastic! Love her.

Yay! Happy ending

Group hug?

crikey - what reactions ! she sounds pretty grown up to me and I didn't think it rude, or that she was cross because her mum wasn't around..just that she doesn't want to have the talk about it,I wouldn't have either - I was deeply embarrassed by all this at 13 !! some people might get off their high horses..

not text by my friend's dd, teenager, phoned from her mobile during her cookery lesson (or whatever they call it) to ask advice on gravy!! friend was whispering down tthe phone to her

Can't say if text was rude - you have to know someone to infer that from the written word. I didn't think it was, though.

lol at Boco's bleedin' pig of periodness brooch. Who was the mn who knitted her a period jumper and made a huge hoo har out of it?

I agree about people being nasty, this is a little girl who like a lot of little girls is trying to grow up maybe a little too fast? But that's how most are nowadays. I can almost see her rolling her eyes my neice's dd is the same age and would probably go on like this but she's a sweetheart.

I'm sure you spend as much time as you can with your dd and you should be proud she hasn't broken down in a heap at something so natural. And that you've prepared her.

I'd like to see how these nasty people would react were you face to face. some are so brave within the veil of mumsnet.

I think she sounds great, actually. A bit sparky and sarky and probably embarrassed about the period but covering it up.