Impact of death on daughter constipated sick and accidents

[WinterRach]

Long story short my father in law died last weekend in an accident. DD and him were best of buddies doing everything together so she’s devastated we all are. Since Wednesday she’s been feeling sick not had a poo since Tuesday. I thought perhaps stress might slow her poo down she is eating less. Being sick and wetting at night which again putting down to stress. She has been sick tonight with the pain

My neighbours daughter is a pharmacist she told us to try dulcolax suppositories which I gave her around 6. She’s managed to poo about 10 hard rocks of poo some in the loo some not I’ve had her in the bath to try and help go she’s been on in and out of the bath on the floor and back on the loo. Im pretty sure its just her constipated but I guess you never know what grief can do to them.

Her hands and feet are ice cold too. Ive popped winter fluffy pjs and fluffy socks on now popped towels on the bathroom floor and giver her a hot water bop for her belly.

Ask for the pain team to see her, they should be able to make her more comfortable if she's still in so much pain.

My son ended up needing morphine.

Sending you both a handhold ❤️

There was some issue with them giving her morphine she was distressed crying and being so sick. Her vomit is just yellow. The don’t know if the hole and the vomit will leak into her chest. They’ve given her tramadol and she’s settled right down. We are in a bay of 2 I feel so sorry for the other family listing to her when they are so quiet. I’m staying tonight and husband will be up tomorrow and my sister in law. She will stay for the morning with her. She’s had more antibiotics and has 12 hours of fluids overnight

My son ended up with various ones over his hospital stay - morphine, fentanyl, oxycodone were the main big ones.

Have they not made any decisions about surgery or hospital transfer yet?

This is awful. Your poor DD. And you’re grieving as well. What a nightmare.

Thinking of you all and really hoping your little girl gets better soon.

Your poor little girl. You and her Dad must be about done in with it all and you're in the midst of grieving a sudden death too. There's no rhyme or reason to the timing of these things; sometimes the cosmos wants to slap us in the face and that's that.

Try not to worry too much about the other family; people can be very kind and sympathetic, even when they are in the middle of their own stuff. I was once in a hospital bay with a teenager who had an abscess on her coccyx of all the horrible places. She'd be given painkillers, they'd last an hour tops, then the pain would kick back in again and she'd be crying. Obviously, I wasn't feeling too hot myself, but I wasn't in the miserable state she was and wouldn't have dreamt of making a fuss! I certainly got more sleep than she did that night.

I hope your DD's treatment starts soon and you can all get some rest. And many condolences on the loss of your FiL. 🌻

We are not being moved tonight unless she becomes unstable but she is currently stable. They said her numbers are okay her heart rate is up but they said that’s okay. She’s started to itchy her belly down to her knees but no rash we looked and they looked. We really are broken

Thinking of you xx

I'm so sorry! Wishing you and your daughter a fast recovery!! ❤️‍🩹

Don't forget Martha's rule. You are entitled to an urgent second opinion if you think she is deteriorating. Please don't hesitate to use it.

Hope you can get a plan for tomorrow, I think that will help knowing what's ahead. Feels all a bit unknown right now, I remember the feeling.

With her high heart rate, keep an eye out for sepsis. I know they said she didn't have it when she was admitted but it can develop so fast. Any confusion or rapid breathing or rashes then alert them straight away.

God that was terribly unfortunate. Your poor DD - as if she wasn't already feeling bad enough. I hope they can sort the tear issues quickly and get back to resolving her original problem.

I hope you all manage to get some rest xx

All the very best to her and you all.

I’m thinking of you, your daughter and all the family tonight. X

I have been following your thread OP and keep checking in hoping to see if your daughter is improving, I’m so sorry she’s still so unwell - I hope they keep her comfortable and get the tear issue sorted ASAP. Will be thinking of you all 💐

Also thinking of you OP, your poor girl, wishing her a speedy recovery.

she is in the best place

thank you for all the comments. She’s in terrible pain in her private area and lower belly and shoulder. They are just getting the doctors to see her. Her temperature is just about normal at 37.7 but she feels hot and her head rages js back to normal it’s 97 now.
I honestly think they are doing their best I have no concerns about the care it’s been absolutely amazing.

she’s so exhausted she’s not had much sleep they are just going to change her bedding

thank you for all the comments. She’s in terrible pain in her private area and lower belly and shoulder. They are just getting the doctors to see her. Her temperature is just about normal at 37.7 but she feels hot and her head rages js back to normal it’s 97 now.
I honestly think they are doing their best I have no concerns about the care it’s been absolutely amazing.

she’s so exhausted she’s not had much sleep they are just going to change her bedding

I’m so sorry, I hope she’s feeling better soon.

Crikey - prayers and thoughts with you @WinterRach

I really hope today is a bit better for your daughter x

It’s never ending. I took a blurry picture of her vitals. She’s not able to wee they scanned her bladder and said it needs to be at 390ml before they’d put in a catheter she’s currently got 280ml and so uncomfortable. She’s very drowsy and can feel her heart beating. It’s been a very difficult night

I hope you see some improvement today. You must feel so worried. Thinking of you.

You must be so worried, but she is being treated and hopefully will start to improve.

Oh OP my heart goes out to you. You must be so worried, your poor little girl. I hope today brings some answers and she feels a little better.